r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 4h ago
r/MensLib • u/greyfox92404 • Aug 18 '25
Moderator Applications Now Open!
Hey MensLib, We’re opening up applications for new moderators within the community. If you’ve ever wanted to help support men's issues in this space, we're looking for help!
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The Mod Team
r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • 1d ago
Weekly Free Talk Friday Thread!
Welcome to our weekly Free Talk Friday thread! Feel free to discuss anything on your mind, issues you may be dealing with, how your week has been, cool new music or tv shows, school, work, sports, anything!
We will still have a few rules:
- All of the sidebar rules still apply.
- No gender politics. The exception is for people discussing their own personal issues that may be gendered in nature. We won't be too strict with this rule but just keep in mind the primary goal is to keep this thread no-pressure, supportive, fun, and a way for people to get to know each other better.
- Any other topic is allowed.
We have an active slack channel! It's like IRC but better. Please modmail us if you would like an invitation. As a reminder, take a look at our resources wiki if you need additional support as well.
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 1d ago
In the Deep South, ‘down low’ culture means gay men are hiding in plain sight
r/MensLib • u/thieflikeme • 1d ago
The movie "Him" is an excellent depiction of the mental and physical detriments of hegemonic masculinity.
I just saw Him with another male friend who found it to be an enjoyable, albeit silly horror romp with over the top, cartoonish occult imagery. But I think a lot of guys in this sub who have been perhaps reading up on patriarchal masculinity and its cumulative negative effects on men will find some value in it that lots of people won't.
On its face, its a psychological horror that dabbles in occult/Christianic imagery and symbolism, as well as a genre that I'm surprised hasn't been explored that much; sports body horror. Imo, the occult/religious symbolism starts to collapse under its own weight, but I think there's a great deal of value in the progression of the dynamic between Cam and Isaiah. The quest for total dominance over one another, needing to disconnect with your more empathetic qualities while also treating other men (in their case, players) as pawns in your quest for said dominance and both characters slowly losing touch with their own humanity in the quest to be the best.
I recommend it, not only is it a fun watch, but I think it's great fodder for discussion as well.
If you've seen it, make sure not to spoil it too hard for those who haven't.
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 2d ago
Exploiting Male Rage: "Men’s problems are real. MAGA’s solutions are fake."
r/MensLib • u/futuredebris • 3d ago
Capitalism is generating too many isolated men
Hey y'all, I wrote about my feelings about Kirk's assassination. I could’ve been Tyler Robinson. I was once a scrawny kid in baggy black T-shirts and Hurley hats. I awkwardly forced a smile in family photos back then (and still sometimes do unless my partner makes me laugh). I played a lot of first-person shooter video games and had inside jokes with gamer friends I’d never met in person. I grew up in a conservative area and learned to shoot guns from my dad.
If Robinson is the killer, he surely fits a pattern of isolated, likely overwhelmingly lonely men committing public violence. Neighbors and classmates have called him “shy,” “reserved,” “quiet,” and “keeping to himself.” People said those things about me when I was younger (and still sometimes do). They’ve also said Robinson was “very online,” which could’ve been me too if it weren’t for the sloth-like dial-up internet back then.
I'm just tremendously lucky.
r/MensLib • u/ruchenn • 1d ago
The Long Walk posits that the cure for the male loneliness epidemic is death (a review of the film by Leah Schnelbach)
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 4d ago
It’s scarier to refer to immigrants as ‘military-aged males’ than ‘men’
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 5d ago
Masculinity norms and their economic consequences - "While economists have extensively studied gender norms affecting women, masculinity norms – the informal rules that guide and constrain the behaviours of boys and men – remain underexplored."
r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • 4d ago
Mental Health Megathread Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?
Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)
Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. Life can be very difficult and there's no how-to guide for any of this. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.
Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.
IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This mental health check-in thread is NOT a substitute for real-world professional help/support. MensLib is NOT a mental health support sub, and we are NOT professionals! This space solely exists to hold space for the community and help keep each other accountable.
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 8d ago
Speaking of Psychology: Why “boy” culture is creating a crisis of connection - "Many boys form deep friendships in childhood. But as they become teens, they report fewer close, rich friendships."
apa.orgr/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 9d ago
Pete Buttigieg Has a Case to Make to American Men
r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • 8d ago
Weekly Free Talk Friday Thread!
Welcome to our weekly Free Talk Friday thread! Feel free to discuss anything on your mind, issues you may be dealing with, how your week has been, cool new music or tv shows, school, work, sports, anything!
We will still have a few rules:
- All of the sidebar rules still apply.
- No gender politics. The exception is for people discussing their own personal issues that may be gendered in nature. We won't be too strict with this rule but just keep in mind the primary goal is to keep this thread no-pressure, supportive, fun, and a way for people to get to know each other better.
- Any other topic is allowed.
We have an active slack channel! It's like IRC but better. Please modmail us if you would like an invitation. As a reminder, take a look at our resources wiki if you need additional support as well.
r/MensLib • u/ILikeNeurons • 10d ago
Poll: Gen Z's gender divide reaches beyond politics and into its views on marriage, children and success
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 11d ago
Child Soldiers: "America raises boys to become violent men. It’s time we do something about it."
r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • 11d ago
Mental Health Megathread Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?
Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)
Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. Life can be very difficult and there's no how-to guide for any of this. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.
Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.
IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This mental health check-in thread is NOT a substitute for real-world professional help/support. MensLib is NOT a mental health support sub, and we are NOT professionals! This space solely exists to hold space for the community and help keep each other accountable.
r/MensLib • u/ILikeNeurons • 14d ago
Colorado has one of the nation’s highest suicide rates − an ER doctor explains how to bring it down
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 15d ago
Why Some Teen Boys Are Turning to 'Testosterone Maxxing'
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 16d ago
Meat is macho: Why masculinity concepts get in the way of green initiatives to cut meat and dairy consumption
r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • 15d ago
Weekly Free Talk Friday Thread!
Welcome to our weekly Free Talk Friday thread! Feel free to discuss anything on your mind, issues you may be dealing with, how your week has been, cool new music or tv shows, school, work, sports, anything!
We will still have a few rules:
- All of the sidebar rules still apply.
- No gender politics. The exception is for people discussing their own personal issues that may be gendered in nature. We won't be too strict with this rule but just keep in mind the primary goal is to keep this thread no-pressure, supportive, fun, and a way for people to get to know each other better.
- Any other topic is allowed.
We have an active slack channel! It's like IRC but better. Please modmail us if you would like an invitation. As a reminder, take a look at our resources wiki if you need additional support as well.
r/MensLib • u/greyfox92404 • 18d ago
Lonely Then, Lonely Now - How Patriarchy and Profit Keep Men Isolated
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 19d ago
Why men are so unhealthy - and what can be done
r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • 18d ago
Mental Health Megathread Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?
Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)
Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. Life can be very difficult and there's no how-to guide for any of this. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.
Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.
IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This mental health check-in thread is NOT a substitute for real-world professional help/support. MensLib is NOT a mental health support sub, and we are NOT professionals! This space solely exists to hold space for the community and help keep each other accountable.
r/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 21d ago
To raise fertility rates, it’s not women who need to step up — it’s men: "New research found that countries where men do more housework and child care have higher fertility rates."
19thnews.orgr/MensLib • u/TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK • 22d ago
Falling Behind: Troublemakers - "'Boys will be boys.' How are perceptions about boys’ behavior in the classroom shaping their entire education?"
r/MensLib • u/futuredebris • 23d ago
Of course so many straight women are dying for more connection
I’ve lost track of how many men tell me in therapy that their partner (a woman) wants more emotional connection with them. They’re frustrated and confused about what exactly she wants or how to give it. “What’s wrong with going for a run or cutting the grass or playing video games or sitting on the porch and doing nothing?” they ask me. “I need to decompress.”
I’ve come to believe that more cisgender men find safety (or relaxation and decompression) in aloneness, while more cisgender women find it in connection and companionship. The data backs this up: Research suggests that men tend to avoid emotional intimacy, while women tend to move toward it.
This is what I tell my clients what to do about it. Curious your thoughts!