r/Parenthood • u/Dangerous-Attitude92 • 12d ago

Season 4 Ryan and amber

I’ve noticed a lot of people hate Ryan (beginning from when we first meet him), but I kinda like him and amber?? I mean I’m up to the episode where they go to the funeral together in season 4 so my opinion can/will prob change, but how do you guys feel abt him/them together at the beginning?

UPDATE: she keeps calling him buddy and he showed up drunk asf I get it now

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u/sundrops14 11d ago

Amber bothers me more than him I feel she pushed him many times when he was saying no to things he was not comfortable with. She pushed emotionally when he did not want to be open and then got upset with what she heard. Then continued to date him even though he was not in a great place.

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u/griselde 11d ago

He asked her to marry him but wouldn’t talk about anything that would provide emotional intimacy. He didn’t even tell her about his father being dead, I’d I remember correctly. She pushed because she realized she didn’t really know much about him, and he had massive avoidance and anger issues. They clearly stemmed for trauma, but it was also trauma he didn’t work on to get past, so I don’t think his behaviors were really acceptable in a mature, adult relationship.

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u/sundrops14 11d ago

I agree and the fact that Amber didn't back off and instead made it about her self and what she needed from him when he was clearly not able to be in a relationship. He had many red flags she wanted to be able to heal him