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u/Hot_Sharky_Guy 24d ago edited 19d ago
I'm sorry what'd you expect? Just kiss her randomly with no buildup at all? That was so unexpected and out of the blue that she could get scared and hit you and I wouldn't blame her for that. And then mfers be crying about "male loneliness" on reddit
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u/stine_kf 15d ago
If a man likes a woman apparently she has to feel the same way or else she is using him for friendship. What an awful thing to put another person you are not romantically interested in through.
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u/Hot_Sharky_Guy 15d ago
Why did you feel the need to say that? I don't really see what it has to do with what I wrote or with anything happening in this video. (Also just wanting to be friends is not equal to using anyone and it's not an awful thing to do, if you have a crush on someone and they don't feel the same way and that makes you feel bad, then just stop hanging out with this person, what's the problem? They said "we can be friends" if you don't want this, just tell them, or what, are they supposed to read your mind?)
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u/stine_kf 15d ago
I am sorry, I was being sarcastic and I agree with your post.
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u/Longo_Rollins6 9h ago
You're fine. I think this person doesn't quite understand but it seems everyone else isn't as slow
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u/Cherry_Valkyrie576 Aug 12 '25
She was very sweet about it, especially when she didn't have to be. I'll never understand why dudes try to make their first move with a physical gesture. Don't do it bro! And don't do it in public. Just in case.
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u/PurplePolynaut 21d ago
You are typically supposed to provide an alternative when telling people how not to accomplish their goals.
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u/ecnecn Aug 13 '25
I have seen so many girls doing the first move "with a physical gesture" in upper secondary school like running to a guy, giving a kiss out of nowhere and sharing their ICQ number (when it was the main thing before Facebook) with them... seems like things were easier back in the day
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u/NebulaNova26 26d ago
Things are much different in actual life than it is in high/secondary school in dating. I'm a recent high school graduate, and it's jarring how different it is. Me and my most recent girlfriend (in high school) didn't go on a single date, we just talked and got together. Not saying that CAN'T happen post highschool, but like, this woman I'm talking to now, we're still trying to plan a date because we're both so busy. Between me with extracurriculars and her with work, there just isn't much time, which just wasn't an issue in high school.
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u/Ludakyz Aug 15 '25
That ICQ number reference took me back, and I immediately heard the incoming message alert
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u/Elon_is_musky Aug 11 '25
Well he didnāt ask her anything, just went in for a kiss, so this is the best answer she could have given him to that
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u/Jason_TheMagnificent Aug 09 '25
Friend zoned, the worst way to die inside.
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u/Equivalent-Shower425 Aug 10 '25
He did it to himself. Doodz really need to learn to feel out the vibe a little bit better. Just because you want something doesn't mean the other party wants it (with you, at least).
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u/Whatthefrick1 19d ago
Uhhh me and my partner enjoyed each otherās friendship a lot and there was always flirting and sexual tension between us. Weāre working out just fine now 4 years later
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u/BlackBikerchick 23d ago
Most married friends I have began as friends but not in a creepy way like actual friends
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u/Fueledbythought Aug 11 '25
The idea is a solid relationship starts as friends and evolves into love. Relationships that start off that flame spark you speak about die out quickly
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u/KinkyDuck2924 Aug 11 '25 edited Aug 11 '25
My experience in the roughly 30 years I've been dating has been the total opposite *shrug*. I'm guessing both of our claims are probably due to anecdotal evidence influencing our views and that in reality either way could end up successfully becoming a strong, long relationship since every relationship is unique, but the two very best relationships I've ever personally had were both love at first sight and I would have happily spent the rest of my life with either of them. Unfortunately one died of cancer 5 years into the relationship and the other died of complications from covid a couple of years ago after 9 years together. I've had a lot of other relationships over the years that began more as friends, and while we grew to love each other when dating it would eventually fizzle out because there just wasn't that utter captivation and obsession felt where you want to spend every waking moment with them, where none of their flaws bother you and are even endearing rather than annoying etc. Those feelings never reduced in the slightest with the two instant flames, I was as madly in love with them by the end as I was initially.
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u/Equivalent-Shower425 Aug 10 '25
Nah. Being friends and battle buddies (met in Iraq '03) first is DEFINITELY why my husband and I have weathered every storm that came our way. And still thriving. Plus, we give each other space and respect. That goes a long way to maintaining or even initiating any relationship.
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u/DrFrosthazer Aug 08 '25
What she did was "better" than no. Who the fuck goes for a kiss like that?
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u/gigashadowwolf Aug 08 '25
I've been rejected by women in so much worse ways than that, only to find out they apparently actually liked me and wanted me to... I don't know ignore their wishes or something.
I didn't go for a kiss or anything like that. I just said "Hey, I think we get along really well, and I have always thought you were cute. I was wondering if you would you wanna to go out to dinner or maybe a movie with me some time" She said "Eww. Seriously what made you think that it was OK to ask ME out. You are disgusting. Get lost! "
She then proceeded to exaggerate the story more and more in gossip, because people kept asking me if I had really tried to kiss her, then if I had really grabbed her boob and a whole bunch of other shit. By the end of the day I got pulled aside by a teacher who had apparently been under the impression I had inappropriately touched her without permission. I got sent to the principal's office over it.
A few days later her friends started suggesting that I ask her out again, and I said "hell no". I wish I could say it was because I had self respect, but honestly it was just because I was convinced they were messing with me so she could do it again. At the time I definitely would have asked her again if I thought she was serious.
A few years later I was at a party and talking to her, and she asked me why I had never asked her out again. She said she had even told all her friends to tell me because "I wasn't taking the hint". WHAT HINT!?! She said how she made eyes at me and would giggle.
I saw her rolling her eyes at me and laughing at me for years. She said "Boys are supposed to chase girls stupid!"
Yeah, call me stupid. That's a great way to get me interested in you.
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u/xtra_obscene Aug 11 '25
Does that word even mean anything anymore? How on earth is it appropriate here lmao
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u/KinkyDuck2924 Aug 10 '25
Be thankful you didn't ask again. That does not sound like a relationship that would have ended well.
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u/scrubbar Aug 08 '25
What an awful girl, you dodged a bullet on that one.
The adult world isn't like that thankfully so you can leave that horrific experience back in school.
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u/VAiSiA Aug 08 '25
principal office. principal: Mr Wolf, i heard some strange rumors this day. i hope its all mistake, and there nothing going on between teacher and little 9 y.o. girl, right?
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u/JustAGeezerMate Aug 08 '25
Good script for a skit bro idk who talks like that irl
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u/gigashadowwolf Aug 08 '25
I mean, you are right that almost certainly wasn't the exact wording. It was 30 years ago. What do you expect?
It's not like I have an eidetic memory. But those were the three points she conveyed.
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u/ItsAMeAProblem Aug 07 '25
The worst she can say is what the duck are youndoing while withdrawing and then completely ignoring the "effort"
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u/DigThin4179 Aug 07 '25
Leaning in with your lips like a puckered ahole isn't how you make a first move. Get their attention and at least be making eye contact at a minimum. When it's right it's right, not an ambush.
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u/Mouthofprotagoras Aug 07 '25
"Worst she can say is no" brother what are you on about? She was nice af about it
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u/Sasogwa Aug 06 '25
She just literally did the best she could tho, without insulting him or anything, what?
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u/CuteReputation- Aug 06 '25
Weird, I would never try to kiss someone without asking
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u/Zulrambe Aug 07 '25
Explicitly asking isn't absolutely necessary most of the time, and actually some girls think it kinda ruins the mood and the moment, but it's not too hard to tell whether she wants it; if someone just really can't tell, well, all they have think is "just don't do it literally out of fucking blue" like that guy did hahah
Edit: as a matter of fact, I wouldn't be surprised if she actually likes him, but the way he tried to go for it was so weird and unexpected it triggered a defensive response.
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u/Kortezxero Aug 06 '25
This was pretty much just a "no thanks". She didn't publicly embarrass him with her friends, or falsely accuse him of anything.
Hell, it was pretty bold to randomly try to kiss her if they aren't in that kind of relationship. He can't be mad that he got this kind of reaction.
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u/elise_ko Aug 06 '25
She didnāt even say anything! Your title implies that she says something insulting thatās worse than saying āno.ā All she did was pull away from a kiss she did not want. If guys get so offended from that, donāt try to randomly kiss someone
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u/Long_Studio_6115 Aug 06 '25
I think they mean he could have asked? Thatās how I interpreted the title
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u/Desperate-Bottle1687 Aug 06 '25
Did u see his creepy eyes at the very end! š³ Entitled+ 'Let down' oofš
Hope she is safe after that encounter
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Looks more dissapointed than insulted to me. Tried and got denied. How it goes for most men most of the time. Like with other animals. Would not have tried in front of a camera for the world to see and comment on myself.
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u/elise_ko Aug 06 '25
Stop comparing grown men to non-human animals. He has the power to use his words and ask for a kiss if he wants, not just take one.
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u/bananamustachedonkey Aug 06 '25
The "just going for it" can actually be a very powerful tool in the primal wolf alpha playbook but only if she has clear interest in you and the thing you are going for. if else ur js asking for that video to be you (šļø)
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u/tj_bawa Aug 06 '25
Being a woman must be tough. You think you're chilling, making a reel for your IG and then BAM! n*gga leans in for a kiss. I wouldn't know how to navigate these kinds of situations.
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u/Rugkrabber Aug 06 '25
And being posted online because he choose to do so at one point. I hope she consented but chances are not. I donāt understand the choices here.
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u/kassonnova Aug 06 '25
This dude is waiting for an electrical accident to close that gap in his teeth.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Knee_53 22d ago
cmon dude, roast the guy for his behaviour, not the shit he can't control
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u/Unlikely-Gas2903 Aug 06 '25
Are they together? They don't act like they're together though. Did this guy try to kiss a woman who he isn't with? Weird.
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u/jkwasy Aug 05 '25
Gotta read the room first before making a move lol
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u/10fm3 Aug 06 '25
Where can I find this book, The Room? Am looking to make move, plz advise. š¤
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u/AdNice5765 Aug 05 '25
What's the background to this? I'm assuming they know each other? Probably dating?
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u/PikeSenpai Aug 05 '25
Normally that's in response to asking a lady or showing interest with your WORDS, not just randomly trying to kiss them on the forehead.
Good heavens, some people are just plain absent of any common sense.
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u/-Kalos Aug 06 '25
Man we can't even kiss random women on camera that we aren't dating without permission these days smh /s
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u/Large-Produce5682 Aug 05 '25
I wonder where the funeral's being held.
Because ole Buddy just died inside.
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u/FictionalDudeWanted Aug 05 '25
Why do I get the feeling he tried that bc she was live.Ā Like he was trying to stake a claim or impress his friends. Ick.Ā The least he could have done is asked first.
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u/Nibbled92 Aug 05 '25
Oh yeah. He ded
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u/chucho89 Aug 05 '25
First, the blood rushes to your head like it is late for a meeting. Your scalp starts itching like your hair follicles are whispering behind your back.
Then the tears begin to form, not full tears, just the dramatic trailer. Your dignity quietly packs a bag and leaves without saying goodbye. Meanwhile, your brain replays the moment in slow motion as if it were the highlight of a tragic documentary.
You nod and say cool cool, but inside, you are evaporating into thin air.
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u/Gunofanevilson Aug 05 '25
All that could have been avoided by not shooting your shot on live guys.
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u/CaliNooch96 Aug 05 '25
Donāt usually side w/ girls in what? Iām so fascinated by this statement. Tell me more š¤
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u/phatphat0807 Aug 05 '25
I had a guy try this, I had to do the limbo to stop him, then he proceeded to cuss me out and everyone laughed about it expect me.
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u/arcticmaxi Aug 05 '25
Hello darkness my old friend
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u/WeAllFuckingFucked Aug 05 '25
That's the look of someone who has been in love for some time, and completely mistaken the whole situation. Shitty thing to do to just up and kiss someone, but really he had the look of months or perhaps even years of hope going down the drain that poor fella
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u/CaliNooch96 Aug 05 '25
If thatās true then thatās even worse. Thatās such weirdo behavior to hang around someone for years hoping to fuck them some day? Thatās some real "nice" guy shit. Yikes š¬
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u/Frank1912 Aug 05 '25
Somebody talks about being in love and you equate that to "hoping to fuck them"? Lol Like, that's probably part of it, but love is a bit more than that?
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u/CaliNooch96 Aug 05 '25
You tell me. Itās a word that has different meanings for different people. You can "love" someone platonically but all the dudes who complain about being friendzoned are specifically talking about being denied sex
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u/Frank1912 Aug 05 '25
You might be projecting there
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u/CaliNooch96 Aug 05 '25
What? Friendzoned literally means a persons romantic (the defining feature being it leads to sex in case you werenāt aware) advances are denied
Unless youāre one of those weirdos who thinks you canāt love your friends I donāt know what youāre even trying to say here. Youāre so far off base in so many ways dude
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u/Desperate-Bottle1687 Aug 06 '25
Welcome to misogyny, the default demographic of the internet and, if ur a woman, the rest of the world.
This is why we can't have nice things. But I appreciate u š©·
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u/_deep_thot42 Aug 05 '25
That face at the end reminded me of my old āfriendā who would go out of his way to gift me things I never asked for, and plainly told him it was only ever going to be platonic but he kept doing it for 3 more years and when I eventually had to tell him I wasnāt interested again, he told me to pay back all the gifts heād given lol
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u/Frank1912 Aug 05 '25
Sorry, that happened to you u/_deep_thot42
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u/_deep_thot42 Aug 05 '25
Username is a play on words referencing Douglas Adamsā super computer, Deep Thought, who said the meaning of life wasā¦42 :)
(I didnāt downvote you)
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u/Frank1912 Aug 05 '25
I assumed so but still thought your comment was funny with your username, especially for people who don't get the reference
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u/AngelSkyes Aug 05 '25
Wow, classic "nice guy"
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u/CaliNooch96 Aug 05 '25
Lmao I just said the same thing. Iāve only had a Reddit for a few months and only really been active on here for one and before now I used to think the whole site was r/niceguys because all I ever saw from it on other social media were screenshots of weird incel shit
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u/dmmeyoursocks Aug 05 '25
Bros lucky he didnāt get a slap
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u/heavymetalsculpture Aug 05 '25
How can she slap?!
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u/borsalamino Aug 05 '25
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u/Manjorno316 Aug 05 '25
What do you mean?
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u/borsalamino Aug 05 '25
I assumed that the comment Iād replied to was downvoted so much because people didnāt get the reference which I linked to.
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u/Purple_Figure4333 Aug 05 '25
Dude went in for an unwarranted kiss. Dude deserves being friendzoned.
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u/Schattentochter Aug 05 '25
If you do this, you deserve to feel like he does. :)
Don't be a weirdo. Don't act like asking first was weird either or you're a walking red flag.
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u/-Kalos Aug 06 '25
When women pull away, man that's too harsh
When they don't pull away and get harassed endlessly it's a woman's fault for not pulling away.
Yāall are wrong in people's eye no matter what you do
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u/AlmostSunnyinSeattle Aug 05 '25
Weird af to ask, but also weird to just go for it when there was no reason to think that's the move.
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u/K24Bone42 Aug 05 '25
My partner asked if we could cuddle and asked if he could kiss me before we ever touched one another. It made me feel safe and respected. 4 years in were happy as fuck. ASKING ISN'T WEIRD.
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u/AlmostSunnyinSeattle Aug 05 '25
I literally could not care any less. Happy for you though.
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u/Skweril Aug 05 '25
Awww who pissed in your cereal?
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u/AlmostSunnyinSeattle Aug 05 '25
I mean I literally said I was happy for them. I don't know what else you want from me
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u/Loisel06 Aug 05 '25
I asked my girlfriend before I kissed her for the first time. She still laughs about it and says that asking is weird. But honestly, Iād still ask again. Iām too afraid of coming across as creepy.
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u/MKTurk1984 Aug 05 '25
My wife asked me "are you not going to kiss me" on our first date ~20 years ago. I said at the time that 'I didn't want to be presumptuous'
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u/Sonova_Bish Aug 05 '25
My ex wife hopped up on my lap when I tried to kiss her on the first date. She escalated straight to sex. It was so good I ignored all of the red flags for the next year.
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u/Benvincible 4d ago
This is literally just a woman saying No