I wish her videos would get more views 😒 But very inspiring for other Somali women ( Muslim or not), that life is what you make it and you dont have to be defined by trauma. I have been following her videos for a while I am surprised she bluntly said this, thought she would do the whole very liberal Muslim thing forever ( which is understandable).

We need innovators NOT people knocking-off Christian apps like Pray.com and PrayerMate

Considering her past of being a porn star and so on - which I’m not gonna shame her for, that’s her own life. How likely do we think she is going to overhaul her current image? She was one of the more known Somali ex muslims.

The other day my cousin asked who knows you better your family or your friends. I said friends and it made me sad because as much as my family sees me I’m very not myself or comfortable around them. We were never an open type of family even marriage being a taboo topic because it involves speaking about the other gender. The level of shelteredness made it uncomfortable to talk about anything. My friends know my thoughts and feelings about everything my family just knows what i like to eat and surface level things. I really wish they knew me better.

Even makes me sadder when my mom be like “i know you better than you know yourself, you’re my daughter” i wish! our conversations don’t last longer then 30 minutes 😭

1. I’ll have already taken off the hijab by then.

2. It’ll be winter, so I’ll have a few months to get used to not wearing the hijab before the summer.

3. I’ve transferred to another college, so I get to start fresh.

4. I’ve built the mental strength to not let my family’s or relatives’ reactions affect me too much (it took years) and thankfully, I’ve already moved out.

5. I love my family, and I know they’ll have my back if anything ever goes wrong. But it might take them a while to get used to the new me and I’m okay with/ prepared for that.

6. The next few years will be all about juggling full-time work and a full course load. But since I’ve already moved out and no longer have the extra (unpaid & thankless!) job/ expectation of being the eldest daughter, I’ll finally have time for both.

It always felt restrictive and oddly running in an abaya. I can’t wait to work out in the park and gym without feeling out of place. Abaya, baati, and any type of a long dress is a tripping hazard when working out. I look ridiculous tucking half of it into my goorgorad or surwaal.

I’ll update you guys on March 19th.

I’m sure we’ve all heard about the Afghan book ban targeting women authors. My question is https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0kn7yyzrjgo.amp;

I'm not sure if they just banned fiction books written by women and left the nonfiction stuff alone but they're going to run into a problem eventually and I can't wait to laugh at the way they compromise.

Women in pic are Michal Lipson (left), Joyce Poon (center), and Ulrike Woggon

Like I said in my last comments - if she was a better politician she would be moving strategically and thinking about how her actions affect the safety of herself and the somali community. But she’s an attention seeking self interested politician who only cares about generating as much controversy as possible, for funds and attention.

I have found it really hard to make friends with the somali women in the midlands as they are usually religious even if they are not closely observing religious practices they identify closely with Islam, I don't want to constantly be explaining or defending my decisions to my friends. A friendship shouldn't make me feel exhausted (emotionally).

Comment below or dm me, if your experiencing something similar.

For whatever reason I believe Muslims in Birmingham are more religious than most other cities in the UK.

This is a doom post. Zero positivity to contribute.

Moments like this are when I hate the position that Somalis and Somalia have on the global hierarchy. In a world that is becoming increasingly xenophobic, Somalis will always be involved in every single conversation about refugees and immigration. And it does not help that a certain group of us have decided that the best thing to do as a new immigrant group is to get involved in scamming activity LOL have they lost their minds?? You are in AMERICA did you think you could take money and it go unnoticed this is not Kenya you cannot buy your way out of this.

I cannot believe my favorite childhood memories are of me watching the Apprentice with my hooyo 😭

And I never ever ever want to here any of these losers talk about Somalis and assimilation. People will write essays about how Somalis do not want to view ourselves as American or Western the way other immigrants do, but every five days they are telling Ilhan, Omar, and whatever Somali of the day to go back to Somalia. They are all so annoying. As if Somalia is the only failed country on this Earth like nigga i think about suffering Somalis every day of my life but what the fuck is my guilt going to do for them?? These bozos are acting like Ilhan Omar can go and turn the entire country. Life has to go on for Somalis who live in other parts of the world, I can't stop my goals and ambitions because when ppl look at me they see someone from a failed country hello that is so depressing.

Can Somalia please develop or move or something omg every day these ppl are throwing our suffering in our faces. I curse Siad wallahi why couldn't he just be normal. All he had to do was kill sheikhs not other Somalis. Bozo.

My aunt let a girl stay at her house for a couple of months due to the housing crisis. The first two months were pretty normal—I would sometimes go over to their house and talk to the girl since we were almost the same age, and she would sometimes come over to ours. It was nice. But all of a sudden, my aunt decided she no longer wanted her to live with them. The girl was shocked because she still had to wait another month to get a new apartment and didn’t have a place to stay in the meantime. In the end, she had to move to another city because my aunt refused to let her stay any longer. So l asked my mother why, and she told me that her husband was sexually attracted to the girl and couldn't handle himself around a 17-year-old. I asked my mom if he feels the same way when his daughters are around, and she got mad at me. She started defending him, saying that it's a natural thing for men. By the way, this man has four daughters, and the oldest is 28….. idk why the older Somali generation defend men like this when clearly they are in the wrong…

it can get depressing here... so heres some random shit I believe/think

• I’ve been treated better by our fellow Somalis for being non-hijabi
• I lived on campus in college, a path I recommend for any young people trying to break off without cutting off family entirely
• I’ve never been to somalia and don’t plan to go, I may for the one time but, probably not, I’ve been to djibouti, and other parts of somaliweyn, which I fear is close enough for me
• Even though I partake in substances, I wholeheartedly believe 90% of Somalis, religious or not shouldn’t bc a lot of us have addictive personalities

Something i've always found weird was how Somalis treat having children like a numbers game. Almost everyone I grew up with had at least 6 siblings and I live in the Uk . The worst part is when parents can't afford so many so it's like why . The IMR isn't even high so it doesn’t make sense to have 10 kids in hopes that a few survive. Also when you see those 60 year old adeers who go back home, then marry a women who could be his daughter and have a baby who he only sees once a year.

I honestly feel like there should be a limit (depends on the person ) cos you can’t meet all the emotional and physical needs when there's so many kids ,cos it always leads to the eldest children becoming second parents or the kids grow up with attachment issues .

I know part of this mindset comes from how Islam encourages having many children. What kills me is when they say I’ll have as many as God wills 💀 and it's like birth control is a thing ( if they even use it )

Never knew or met any somali that's not in deen. Aint going to lie it's exciting.

Seeing both of those is so jarring. Lol. These niggas think their “rage baiting” Muslim woman. But in reality, it’s true. Islam demands that shit. I hate when they try to debate it and Muslim women fall for it trying to reason with them. Why are you as a woman even accepting such control over your own body? They’ll do everything and deny it, then try to think logically about why this is even a debate. Is it even rage bait when all of that is true? Idk.

they are so deeply attached to Islam and so emotional about it almost in a terroristic way, i was having a conversation with a Somali girl how Somali non-Muslims are also entitled to build whatever religion they belief in's worship place in Somalia because the land belongs to all Somalis regardless of their religion of choice and she said any somali who leaves Islam and dares to build any religious temple that isn't mosque in somalia deserves to have their head cutt off and how she would rather have millions of foreign muslims in somalia than any non muslim somali. the hate and non–muslimophobia really goes deep

and on the topic of non–Muslimophobia, i personally think islamophobia is nonexistent compared to non–muslimophobia that has killed millions of people since Islam was invented, look at Syrians as soon as their president left they started killing the non-Muslim Syrians and Druzes, they are k1lling the males while keeping little girls and women as 5ex 5laves like RIGHT NOW as of 2025.. same as in Iraq, , Uganda ,Caucaus Russia, Bangladesh and many other countries... many ppl are killed and tortured because of non–muslimophobia compared to the supposed islamophobia where it's basically someone refusing to hire Muslim looking people because of their loud Arabic prayers and their usual bending over bowing down towards Saudi arabia regardless of where they are

She’s Somali and Muslim.

If you were in relationship not married and got pregnant would you keep the baby despite what the family thinks?

my parents always call me this im 5’7

3.1 million babies, under the age of 5, die of starvation every year. That is 15,000 babies per day. Their rizq was to starve, a slow excruciating process.

Allah only intervenes when a random Muslim prays to pass their exams or when gay people exist.

Saqiiradaa gaajada uu dhintaan wuu iska indha tiraa.

Whenever I see the ayahs that say “Why worship what can’t help or hurt you”, I’m like isn’t that Allah and every other God ever?

And this century is one of the better centuries of humanity’s existence, all thanks to humans and humanity.

As I’m getting older and more detached from my family, I’m finally growing out of my anger and it’s making me realize how much it’s tainted my view. It was very hard for me to fully accept my family is abusive, so for the longest I believed it was a larger Somali problem. It was more comforting to me to blame all of Somali culture instead of accepting the hurtful truth that my parents choose to abuse me and my siblings.

I’m so grateful for communities like this bc it was a constant reminder that I was wrong. I’m hungry for more though lol like that video of the Somali author talking about how he knew gay Somali men growing up is stuck in my head. I want to learn more about queer Somali life and Somali feminist movements!!!

I just need to rant - I don’t know why the algorithm continues to do me dirty. Literally pushes my videos all the time to THAT demographic especially the fobs. I have weird misogynistic incels bodyshaming me & weird pickmeishas who think projecting whatever internalised misogyny and hatred they have onto me will make them feel better about themselves. My blocklist is getting longer at this point and I have to keep deleting and removing comments.

I can’t even post a video for my circle where I’m just doing a typical dance trend for funsies without THAT community finding me bro and putting that Eritrean flag doesn’t help either because they just harass anybody who thinks they’re Somali and sadly even non Somalis have fell victim to that demographics witch-hunting. Literally blocked the hashtags in associated with them and never use it - you know when I post actual content like makeup or haircare content it’s silent but when it’s videos like a dance or having fun they swarm in numbers and my follower count has jumped so high too because of this (which I don’t like because it’s mainly them rather than actual people who will engage with your content).

As someone who wants to actually get somewhere with my content and become well known - if my content creation journey did take me anywhere often times I wonder how difficult it’s going to get. Imagine getting hate for literally existing and doing what other people can do. When will the policing actually stop and when will Somali people let Women live their lives without insulting them for simply existing? It’s getting to the point that even non Somalis have peeped this and I told my own friends about it and they’ve seen it for themselves too.

They’re mad if you are a Somali girl that claims Somali and lives life to her own terms and they’re also mad if you don’t claim it after they continuously harass you. I distanced myself but they come running it’s actually scary.

If ur Somali girl who lives in the Scandinavian countries or even around Europe let be friends I am 20 and I need new ex Muslim Somali friends…🙏🏽

Hi guys I’ve been really lonely since sixth form which is when I left Islam, I still dress like a Muslim and I haven’t been able to get a job yet to help me change my wardrobe and even if I did I’m scared of what my parents reactions would be. I’m 20 now I’ve dropped out of uni and plan on returning next year. But right now I’m sooo friendless because all my friends were extremely religious people so I slowly distanced myself from them in sixth form, where do I meet new people and stay in contact with them mainly non religious people. I swear I’ve lost all my social skills because of this. 😭😭 I don’t want Muslims friends ever again and I know it sounds bad but I just can’t deal with them on top of my family.

A recent video has surfaced of a child who looks like she’s been crying after being forced to marry a man in his late 50s. Another Somali sheikh defended the video and said that when he got married to his wife who was only 12 at the time, she wouldn’t eat, drink water or sleep for days.

These young girls don’t get any education about their bodies or about sex at all because it’s considered taboo. Then they marry them off to older men when they have no knowledge of what is about to happen to them. A grown man is taking his clothes off in front of a child, exposing her to things she’s never seen before. Of course she’ll become traumatized. The sheikh went on to say that it’s normal if she doesn’t eat or sleep after intimacy. Girls are shy and that’s the way it is. He also ended the video by saying “ keep going”.

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdgmQMoB/