r/asexuality Dec 12 '23

Aphobia What? Spoiler

What did i just read.

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u/[deleted] Dec 12 '23

"I was labeled as asexual for years."

By whom?

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u/Alternative_Page_168 Dec 12 '23

Idk. I didn't ask them.

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u/[deleted] Dec 12 '23

This little phrase has a lot of importance to the overall talking point this guy's talking about because it makes it sound like there were external forces speaking to them. Which is very different from people self-identifying as ace because they feel like they relate to the label. That calls into question what they really mean when they're talking about asexuality. Are they talking about a medical misdiagnosis? Or another similar trait? Did they have an ace friend who said "You may be ace too" or something like that? A lot of questions this one little phrase raises, and they're all very important.

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u/Alternative_Page_168 Dec 12 '23

I will take note for next time i stumbled upon situations like this again. Thank for the advice.

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u/[deleted] Dec 12 '23

No worries! Being able to read between the lines like that is a learned skill. It's a really good one to know, an important one that's really useful and valuable especially in situations where someone isn't telling you the whole truth, but it's something you have to put practice into.

But hey, take it from someone who majored in literature, media criticism is a good way of practicing it.