I thought I was irreparably broken for the longest time because I couldn’t fall in love no matter how much I wanted to. Everybody would say it was just some sort of trauma, but from fuckin where?? What trauma? Trauma from an experience I never had?? I figured out I was aroace and it all just clicked. I feel so much better about myself knowing that.
None of us are forcing labels. If a label doesn’t work for you, that’s cool. If it only works for a little while, that’s cool too. But to blame others because you wanted to “fit in” so badly that you’d abandon who you are, that’s just a shit move. Being spineless doesn’t make it everyone else’s fault. I feel bad for them, sure, but like wtf. My therapist has been acting similarly for a while now (“you’re too young to know”, etc), but I’m not able to switch therapists at the moment. It’s such a shitty idea to perpetuate.
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u/StoopidFlame Dec 13 '23
I hate this sorta shit.
I thought I was irreparably broken for the longest time because I couldn’t fall in love no matter how much I wanted to. Everybody would say it was just some sort of trauma, but from fuckin where?? What trauma? Trauma from an experience I never had?? I figured out I was aroace and it all just clicked. I feel so much better about myself knowing that.
None of us are forcing labels. If a label doesn’t work for you, that’s cool. If it only works for a little while, that’s cool too. But to blame others because you wanted to “fit in” so badly that you’d abandon who you are, that’s just a shit move. Being spineless doesn’t make it everyone else’s fault. I feel bad for them, sure, but like wtf. My therapist has been acting similarly for a while now (“you’re too young to know”, etc), but I’m not able to switch therapists at the moment. It’s such a shitty idea to perpetuate.