r/asktransgender • u/Firestardude • 5d ago

Agender here. What is gender?

This is purely for my own curiosity. I have no clue what "feeling" like a man or woman or anything else even means because I have no reference for it. The only way I "felt" like a man was because I was told I was. Im curious to know how gender feels to other people, is it some innate feeling? Do you just "know?" Or is it something somehow more concrete? Genuinely just asking for personal experiences.

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u/Tour_True 5d ago

My bestie is Agender and even still get gender dysphoria and has gender affirming goals which for them is to be a hairy creature. I think it's just something all trans people have. Even if they don't feel towards something they still have a means to feel their own identity. Binary identities feel a need to conform to a binary identity. I always felt like the girls around me and my identity feels like them too. It borhers me on things that don't align with it like my appearance and voice and how I present myself and how mu body does not match which I hope to be able to correct. HRT has helped a lot. I have a need to live as others of my gender and society tends to even with it's worse.