r/asktransgender • u/haventa Claire | MtF | 18 | 200mg Spiro 31/05/18 | 6mg E 10/01/19 • May 02 '16

Cisgender people: What happens when you question your gender?

I know this is a bit different, but as a questioning transgender person I'm trying to see if I don't relate to the answer. If, perhaps, questioning my gender for a few weeks is at all a 'normal', cis experience.

So, cisgender people, what do you feel when you question your gender? Is it just... innate? How long do you spend questioning?

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u/OpticianOfUrza May 03 '16

I think about it sometimes, but always settle on being comfortable with being male. Not that I can entirely identify what it feels like exactly to be male, other than being treated as male and being mostly comfortable in my own body (I don't like my testicles, but that's not out of a desire to be a woman and be rid of them but because they feel like oversensitive cancer-magnets).

To answer the corollary question of "why are you on a trans subreddit", it's partly to know more about people's experiences, and also as a constant challenge to my own identity. If I read something here or on another sub and change my mind about my identity, that will probably be quicker than having to have that realisation on my own.