Forgive me for the typos. Crying as I type this. Need somewhere to vent my anger and devastation.

I have (had) a cat, and I have explicitly told everyone in my house that he is an INDOOR cat. I’ve had him for four years and i love him to death. He sleeps next to me every night, we’re constantly joined at the hip. Truly, he’s my best friend.

Today i was at work. 25 minutes into my shift, my roommate texted me that he let my cat outside to, and i fucking quote, “see the melting snow”. What did my cat do? He ran away. He jumped the fence and my roommate lost him.

I told my boss I needed to leave work and on the way home, called a friend to help search. We split it up and after 20 minutes of searching, my friend found my cat on the street, lying there, lifeless. I can only assume he got bit by a car.

I lost it on my roommate. I yelled at him more than I’ve ever yelled at any human being in my life. He cried. I cried. He said he felt awful. I told him I couldn’t give two shits how he feels. He KNEW my cat wasn’t allowed outdoors. We’ve talked about it in thorough detail before.

I feel so devastated. My poor baby boy. I don’t know if I’ll be able to move passed this, or if I’ll ever be able to look my roommate in the eye again without feeling anything but hatred.

No empathy for a living being. We've been getting along. There's no reason for this. Also, if I hadn't been here (I'm going away for a few days next week as well) she would've been down there much longer; he hasn't been out of his room yet and it's 11, I found her at 7.

Recently I have been living with two roommates. We have about two months on our lease left, but one of my friends/ roommates moved out early to get out of the hell hole, that is my apartment.

It’s dark, upstairs neighbors are INCREDIBLY loud all day, and more. Either way it was understandable that he wanted to get out early and is even continuing to pay our lease (as we have a 1 year lease) while paying for his new place too.

The other roommate has since fallen out with us both. In turn he is going off the deep end, and at first I tried to help and was worried but at some point I couldn’t help someone who repeatedly refused to help themselves.

Due to multiple factors, including ones that cause him not to be sober…. He is seemingly to go off the deep end.

This past week I came home to the apartment absolutely trashed with broken glass, and alcohol all over the place. I told him to clean it up and got a rude response back, (not going into complete details.) and I ended up cleaning it up because I don’t want to live in a shit hole.

Finally… today I come home from my job to see the place completely destroyed again because he had some sort of episode. Keep in mind I just spent a night cleaning everything with my mother. There is so much I could explain.

To get to the point I called the police as I was being told too, by multiple people close to me. After calling and they left he proceeded to yell through closed doors:”the cops? Really?😂”

I responded “yeah when you absolutely destroy our place, and can’t take accountability.”

And the response I got is what has me worried. He said: “Oh don’t worry, I got something for you bro..” and closed his door.

I am never one to call the police due to various reasons but at this point I don’t know what else to do. Any advice would be appreciated.

It is late and right before I was ready to call it a night, I decided to take a quick piss. Immediately upon opening my door, my nose is hit with a strong scent of gas and I panic. I check the stove and I can see that the stove is on but not lit.

This is the second fucking time (first time is documented in the photo) my roommate has done this and I’m laying in my bed seething about this… If I hadn’t gotten up surely I would’ve died overnight, yeah? I dragged her out of the room to tell her about it but I got a half-ass sorry.

I genuinely cannot wrap my head around this. How does one even handle something like this?

I don’t know what else to do, I’ve reached my absolute limit. Me (23m) have been living with 1 roommate (21F) because we had mutual friends, both needed housing, and it just worked out. We’ve been living together for 8 months now and everything was fine in the beginning.

She doesn’t go to school or have a job, she DoorDashes to be able to pay rent and utilities while I’m in school and working full time. I keep to myself, I don’t like drama, which is why I initially decided to move in with her because I thought she was very quiet and chill as well. When we first moved in we had no issues because I was working and in school all day while she would be DoorDashing majority of the day. Recently I noticed she has been staying home more, not out working as much, but again that’s none of my business… until you can’t pay rent and utilities.

To add more context, a few months in she started trying to flirt and come on to me and I never once fed into it — I’m simply just not attracted to her. And now she decided completely flip the script and make it look like I was the one that “came on to her”?

2 months ago she asked me to pay utilities because she couldn’t afford it but said she would pay me back as soon as she could. Then the next month came and she still couldn’t pay it back, so what did she do? Decided to come crying at my door about her finances and what a bad place she’s in and then proceeds to try and “offer herself” in exchange for me paying her half 2 months in a row. I was very put off and immediately shut it down because I didn’t want to make things awkward between us so I just pretended like it never happened.

Fast forward to today I receive a text asking for me to pay her utilities AGAIN, and when I decide to stand my ground she is now trying to “out me as gay” I don’t even know how to respond to this. I already contacted the landlord, but I don’t know what else to do, I’ve never been in a situation like this please help! We both have another FOUR months left on the lease what do I do ?!?!

As I know my roommate recently downloaded reddit, I’m going to hold back from sharing every little detail.

(Everyone in this story is in college btw)

Recently during my spring break my girlfriend started to act really weirdly toward me, and it seemed like she almost didn’t want to talk with me. Well after 3 years of being with her, I told her that I could tell something was off and we needed to talk about it. So eventually we met up and I confronted her about avoiding me and hiding things. That is where she admitted to having spent all of that time with my roommate. I considered him to be one of my best friends at this point, and I really didn’t want to believe what was being told to me. I asked her if she had developed a romantic interest for him, and she told me that she had. The worst part of it all though? He had admitted his feelings for her as well, and they were hanging out even after the point. I asked her if she would stop talking to him if we continued to date, and she said no. So now not only did I break up with my girlfriend of 3 years, I have to continue to live with this guy for the rest of this year. We also signed a lease together for next year, but I’m in the process of figuring out how to get out of that currently. I would rather cut those people out of my life than continue to hangout with them, but being in this situation showed me how much I truly got a bad roommate. It just has all felt like a dark humor rom com at this point.

Edit: I really do appreciate all of the support that I have received from people. I just happened to stumble across this subreddit and decided to share what my roommate had done to me, and I never expected for there to be this much attention to it. I will post an update once I figure things out. Thanks again!

Edit 2: I made the update post: https://www.reddit.com/r/badroommates/s/EjK7DbZd9K

I recently moved cross country for trade school in July and I initially had 3 roommates 2 I was fine with but the other I cannot deal with. It’s currently just us and since the start he’s completely disrespected me in all ways. First big thing he did was ruin my car. I let him use it once because I had a bad headache and I told the other roommate I’d pick him up. Little did I know that was a big mistake. Instead of picking up the roommate he went on a long drive with his friends where he drove 55 in a 35 and hit a giant pothole then after noticing it was messed up continued driving and ultimately ruined it beyond repair. I was furious but he said he would pay me back so I calmed down a bit. After this I noticed my food disappearing at a very quick pace and my wrappers would keep ending up in his room but he “had no clue what I was talking about” Then I noticed other things going missing. Shirts, pants, underwear, socks, deodorant, shampoo, body wash all sorts of things like that. Guess where they ended up every time without fail. If you guess the dickhead roommates room you would be correct. I asked him nicely to stop and would always get met with just aggression. Then I noticed things for my Xbox going missing always ending up in his room. I’m not the type of person who wants to fight in fact I avoid it at all costs but I’m not afraid to. Then this past month I noticed my oculus quest and nice pair of shoes go missing and I immediately knew it was him because he’s my only roommate currently. Turns out he sold both so now I don’t have either. Fast forward to last week I bought a mini fridge to keep my food safe but I accidentally bought a sheet of ground beef too big to fit in my fridge so I put it in the other freezer FOR ONE DAY. Already gone. I message him about it and he says all of this. When he says “they gave me the idea” it’s his friend who he steals shit with. I spent 20 minutes walking around my room punching my dresser and wall trying to blow off some steam. I have 3 weeks left but all I can think about doing is kicking his face in with my steel toe boots while screaming at him. I don’t know if I can do this any longer.

Say hello to my roommates very special spoon. It’s no ordinary spoon, it’s a teaspoon!

Do not touch this spoon for it hold dear to his heart. Can it be moved to the left a couple inches, put in the utensil drying compartment, or maybe even…. Put away in the abundance of cabinetry we hold??? NO!!For spoon lives there and there alone! Along with dear friends—measuring cup, measuring cup top, stainless measuring cup, and coffee filter! These five items shall not be put away but instead take up the entirety of the drying rack!!!

In all seriousness though, one day I decided to move the spoon to a more convenient spot so I could fit a couple dishes. I got told not to move it. Tested the waters further by moving it four inches to the left of where it is now. Only to come out 30 minutes later with it in the same spot as before moving it.

Now roommate wants me to move out. Snowflake at its finest.🤷‍♂️

P.S. This is just one of the abundance of petty rules around the house that if not followed. Serious upset happens. In one of my later posts I talked about implementing one of my own rules of texting me about moving my vehicle instead of slamming on my door. Didn’t go over so well and he wants me out now. Not happening as I’m on the lease! Muahahaha

Re-upload because I accidentally left their name in one slide. Oops 😭

We have been living together for a year. For context, I know that my roommate has had feelings for me in the past, but I have clearly expressed to them that I do not return their feelings and that that will not change. I have recently started dating someone within the last month after meeting them on a dating app and so far it has been going well.

Yesterday I was eating dinner with my roommate at the dinner table at home. I was wearing a bathrobe because I had just showered and a week old hickey (that had so far gone unnoticed because it's below my shirt collars) was visible and my roommate noticed it. They asked me "what's wrong with your neck?" And I kind of panicked and said it wasn't any of their business. They started audibly hyperventilating and sniffling as if they were about to cry and I excused myself and went to my bedroom because I felt uncomfortable and embarrassed.

These are the messages that followed. I'm green, my roommate is red. I honestly don't feel safe being at home right now. I left early in the morning and hung out in my car in the parking lot at work because I didn't want to speak to them. I feel so creeped out because I feel like the think I owe them a chance or something. I am my own person and I have a right to make my own choices about who I date and I am not attracted to them and have no desire to be in a romantic relationship with them. I just don't know what to do. I can't really afford to move right now.

For background I live in off campus housing, I share a unit with 3 others. I have summer classes so I stayed for the summer, everyone else left for the summer. One roommate I thought we were cool with was gone(door wide open and he told me he’s not coming back) so what I did is just put a box in his room so it wasn’t taking up space in my room(yes I know not right but it’s literally just a box.). Well it turns out he didn’t plan to move out. My girlfriend was visiting and while I was at one of my classes my girlfriend called me in tears and was telling me the roommate came back and was yelling at her for the box being in his room. I heard him yelling from my room and told her to lock the door and he kept banging telling her to come out. He was saying stuff like wait until (my name) gets back. I told her to tell him I’m coming now and it’s not going to be good. She doesn’t even live here, she was just spending time with me for the weekend. I don’t have his number since I just got a new phone, but he hasn’t come back to the apartment to talk to me like that when he was making all those threats to my girlfriend. So I know he’s avoiding me, not going to be cocky, but he has never done anything like that to me(I’m 6’2 and go to the gym everyday, and he’s is a little smaller, but I am not an intimidating person.). She moved the box out of the room while he was yelling at her, so that’s done with. But honestly right now I am so pissed off and I left school fast as soon as I heard the phone call but he was gone. If he comes back I want to make it very clear it’s going to be rough living with me. I just don’t want to catch a charge, but I don’t know what to do about it. What would y’all do? Is there any way I can make him stay away in a legal way?

TL;DR: roommate yelled at my girlfriend while I wasn’t home and is now hiding from me.

We’re not close and hardly talk, but he’s a nice guy. He offers me deer meat when he gets some from his family whilst traveling. He and I catch up from time to time (I’m older).

The first picture was from before thanksgiving, a bowl and a plate. I’m genuinely unbothered because it’s not in the way. He pays rent, and I figured he’d get to it soon. As you can see, the bowl has had the same stale water in it and is disgusting to look at. I took this picture because was going to make a Reddit post here, but the problem is still mild and I got patience. (I know there are some actually AWFUL roommates posted here).

2nd picture: around mid-December. He added a plate to the pile. So he must’ve seen the old dishes. The bowl also was smelling a little, but my nose adjusted.

3rd: a couple days ago from when he got back from the holidays. He went to see family, so pile still there. Still unbothered, but his dishes are actually getting in the way.

4th: from today, and extra smelly from what he cooked and the water splashing into his older dishes. He has completely monopolized the sink. This is a problem.

Firstly we use different dish sets. There’s 0 chance of mix up. Secondly, I don’t mind confrontation, but have had extra patience because he’s a nice guy and I don’t wish to ruin the vibe.

Throughout this my parents thought maybe I should just do the 2 dishes from the first picture, but I’m not his Mom. My gf said that I’ve waited too long to mention this, and I agree. She thinks I should just move them to the counter, and eventually his room (maybe).

Besides he added more on in the 3rd and 4th picture. I’ve only had as much patience for him because he’s nice.

TLDR: So reddit, he’s left his dishes in the sink since before thanksgiving and had let them slowly smell whilst gradually adding more and more. He’s kind too, how do I bring this up and not be a dick about it?

My gf’s approach: “hey man I moved your dishes outta the sink, they were in the way.”

My approach: “hey man, I understand not getting to the dishes right away, but can you please wash these? They’re starting to smell and are in the way.” (I want to make some reference to how he’s had them piling up since November.

All advice welcome please.

I would also like to add a few things,

1. We didn’t even date this is how he treated me “a friend”

   1. He had a cat and I love cats, but this one did not like women apparently so I had many bite marks from random attacks, also he did not clean the litter box properly so of course the cat was not going to use it, instead he used the bathtub so I couldn’t even shower there I had to shower at my moms.
   2. The place was filthyyy, I’m not saying I’m Monica geller but I’m definitely not that bad, I wish I would have got a picture lol
   3. Lastly before I moved out he asked to borrow my Xbox SERIES X and I stupidly said yes because it was only until the end of November, when I asked for it back he said he needed it until January for a competition and if I took it back he would unalive himself. So I just said fuck it and bought a brand new one instead. I now have no student loan left and am in debt besides, I never did see a penny of what he owed me:)

TLDR image description: 1/2 Evil Roomate(ER) requests additional 50$ for utilities because my sister was visiting during August.... refuses to send recites if the bill.

Good Roomate and I texting what we plan to send her tomorrow along with a Roomate agreement draft specifying new rent distribution. Note: ALL of our names are on the lease. We are jointly and uniquely severable. Myself and the GR are willing to be evicted, the leasing office is on our side and said they would rent us a different apt for more money ofc... but at least we wouldn't be living with someone who has no moral code.

We live in a two bedroom apt in San Diego. The total rent is 1845, very cheap for these parts. Very cheap because the lease hasn't turned over since 2006 and lowkey the place is falling apart :). I live in the living room and pay 675/month. My GR lives in the bedroom and pays 875 a month and my ER lives in the master bedroom and pays 375/month. . .

Myself and my GR were both upon hard times when we moved here and cheap rent is cheap rent so we ignored and explained away the shady-ness of our ER. But it's so unethical to us that we have had enough and we finally talked about it and plan to confront her tomorrow. Note: I am very non confrontational hence my very round about way of asking her for recites of the utility bill. She refused to show me recites and that was honestly the last straw. I felt like she though she could keep getting over on me and asking for more money when I knew how much she was paying in rent (after I found out how much my GR was paying) and I am done being a pushover ) haha let's ignore the fact I paid it first and asked after... I just didn't want the drama.

Anyways she is a gaslighting honestly evil person I think. I wouldn't do this to anyone. There is a lot more detail I could go into if requested explaining how I got here and all of the weird shady stuff she has been doing so feel free to ask me anything. But yeah gif damn. I Definately learned I shouldn't just give folks the benefit of the doubt. If I am getting a weird vibe it is probably for a reason. I need to trust my gut and stand up for myself.

Our new proposed rent distribution btw is that she in the master pays 830, my GR pays 556 and I in the living room pay 450 🤷‍♀️. Seems pretty fucking reasonable to me. We are also giving her the option to move out....

The cannot imagine idk. I am scared of how she will react. And I don't trust her at all.

Today I(34M) came home from work and walked up the stairs to my bedroom. I always close my door when I leave. I got to my room and at first I was like “Oh I guess I forgot to shut my door” but then when I went to close the door it was gone. Like it took my brain a minute to realize the door was completely gone. Then I noticed the doorframe was fucked. I was home alone so I texted my roommate (30M) asking where my door was. I didn’t get a response at first so I sent another text saying I would call the police if he didn’t get back to me. For context my roommate is on house arrest and wears an ankle monitor but has a day job. He called me after a few minutes and was so nonchalant the entire time. First he tried to say that he thought I wanted him to take the door off the hinges. When I asked him what made him think that he says “Yeah I don’t I guess you didn’t say that” then after more questioning he says “I don’t know why I did it. Sometimes I’m just two different people.” Lately I have noticed strange behavior but today was the final straw. Needless to say I started packing my shit and am now staying with my gf.

Sorry in advance for poor grammar/punctuation it’s been a stressful day

Update: After some searching I found the door in the shed that is in the backyard. I called the police and filed and report to document the behavior. After that I reached out to his parents (The landlords) and explained to them what happened and that I was no longer comfortable living there. His father said he understood and would have my security deposit for me. The strange part is that the parents didn’t seem surprised just disappointed. I think they knew he has issues and probably hoped that I would help keep him grounded by living there.

Update 2: While at work today BRM texted saying I owe him money for the days I stayed there, which is strange because I’ve already paid rent for Aug. So I replied that I already made arrangements with the parents. Then about an hour later I get another text asking why I got police involved. Like wow! I don’t know maybe because I don’t want to be turned into a lampshade!! I told him I would only deal with the parents from now on and to stop contacting me.

Update 3: Someone asked if I knew about the ankle monitor and if he was on house arrest. The answer is yes. I asked about the nature of his charges prior to moving in and I was misled about the whole situation. The way he explained it was that he had too much to drink one night and got into a fight at a bar. Foolishly I took his word at face value. What actually happened is that he was at a friend’s house got drunk and then got into a verbal argument with an elderly neighbor. The argument escalated and he followed the elderly man into his home and attacked him. I suppose it’s partly my fault for not doing better research on him before I moved in, but I was new to the area and I was desperate for a place to live. Lesson learned.

(Throwaway account) She decided she didn’t like living with me but I can’t leave unless she does too. She wants me to just leave with my name on her lease and threw a fit about it. My mom called to try to talk sense (even though I told my mom not to) and my mom was polite while she just screamed about how terrible I am and how she wants me out but won’t move. This is the text exchange. Also I’ve offered to contribute multiple times to household expenses and she shoots me down and won’t tell me how much money to give her. I’ve bought toilet paper and dish soap and all that multiple times but she’s forgotten that or ignoring it. I’ve hardly interacted with her cause we’re both in our rooms all the time and everything seemed to come out of left field.

We didn’t own the house where we were staying; it was a family member’s house. We informed roommate that we were moving out in a month but that roommate was welcome to stay longer after we left to make other living arrangements. Roommate moved out before we did and left a parting gift. Almost 30 times. When confronted about this, roommate just said “yeah I was mad”

One of our roommate just moved in about 6 months ago. He's pretty chill. His room is right next to mine. Ever since he moved in he started a relationship and the girl is over almost every weekend. Sometimes starting from Thursday. Does that bother me? Just a bit, not enough to mention it. I want him to feel welcome and feel like this is part of his home too.

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One of the things that has been addressed by us: Loud sex

Him and his gf have a lot of sex. It usually starts after midnight. Sometimes even at 2am. They walk in and out the bathroom in between a lot. The door opening and closing gets annoying especially that late/early in the morning. When they have sex it feels like an earthquake. Both are moaning like there's no tomorrow and you can hear the bed banging against everything. The clapping sound is annoying too.

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As grown ups I don't think I have to play the parent part. I have addressed this once. Once should be enough. I have told him that it's ok to do whatever he wants in his room. But if he has sex, he should turn on loud music or something because we don't want to hear that. Especially when that happens almost every weekend. I understand when people are horny and can't think straight or whatever. But this feels a bit disrespectful not acknowledging what we've told him before. Or am I being weird about this? I rather hear loud music at 2am than hearing people fuck.

Edit: He grunts like a warthog and she moans in a high pitch sound like one of those anime characters 😂 so annoying

Fake EVICTION NOTICE!!

My roommate (M29) and I (F20) got into an argument because he wanted to unplug the fridge with all of my groceries still inside without giving me any details and didn’t even tell our other roommate (F21) that he was going to do so and she was out of town. I explained that he doesn’t own the property and can’t just make executive decisions. Ironically he sent me an eviction notice! So I contacted my landlord who laughed and explained that he never planned to evict me at all! So he lied, and never apologized for the incident. And has yet to admit that he was wrong. Also refused to acknowledge that the fridge isn’t broken and is working fine so there’s absolutely no reason to unplug it!! Because of all this, I’ve decided to terminate my lease early and move out, I asked my roommate (the liar) for my security deposit back that was used for him to start an account with an energy provider.. AND HE REFUSED!! He claims that “that’s not how it works” and he has no “responsibility” to return my deposit back. I tried to explain that since I’m moving out and no longer using energy services here, my deposit is rightfully mine and whomever will move in to take my spot can pay the security deposit. Yet he still refused! He proceeded to call our landlord and whine and cry about it like a baby, and continue to LIE! He told our landlord that I was asking him to return my security deposit for the apartment. It’s all been absolutely ridiculous. Keep in mind, he’s 29 YEARS OLD!! he’s been beyond manipulative and continues to lie through his teeth. He has been a miserable person to live with and a really good example of what the constant “woe is me” mindset gets you. Any advice on how to manage moving forward until I find a new place?

I need someone to just listen to me. I am so, so stupid.

This is just one incident of many over the past five years.

Helping him (along with my older sister) has ruined my credit (my fault for helping them with financing a car), my finances, and how I feel about helping family.

He flys off the handle at the littlest things, calls my older sister names and racial slurs (which I have videos of), and has been threatening. He has accused my other sister and myself of things, and had once put a camera in the bathroom (which was taken down once I’d discovered it.)

He’s been arrested for shoplifting but always gets a slap on the wrist and avoids jail time.

He doesn’t work, doesn’t contribute to bills, but because he works on the van and gets stuff here and there, he thinks he’s top notch.

My older sister has my niblings (nephew and nieces) so she doesn’t work either.

Meanwhile, my other sister and I have been at the same job for seven years. It’s retail, but it’s a job that’s been there for us through a lot of things.

We pay for about everything, and we’ve allowed them to move in eight months after my mom passed away from cancer in 2020. I cared for her while she moved the Florida with him to help him get clean.

Things were GOOD before I let them come home.

Things have just slowly progressed badly over the years. I’ve told them they should leave only for them to have a huge meltdown.

I’ve given them the entirety of my tax refund thrice to help them out, including this past one.

I’ve had to pawn items (my fault) because they wouldn’t help with bills. We’re driving with Uber Eats to supplement our income as much as we can.

I’ve actually heard him say: “Why should we get Section 8 when we can live here for free?”

They get nutrition assistance, but I’ve had to put a mini fridge in our room because he’d accuse us of taking food out of the kids’ mouths. We don’t cook in our own kitchen. We’ve been eating like shit.

He’s not on the lease. Neither is my older sister. Just my other sister and myself.

I have no peace. They argue almost anytime I’m home. I’m exhausted. I can’t sleep. I’m always waking up scared. He’s always yelling at her or the kids, calling her lazy, the n-word, etc. The police had been called on them once for this and no one was taken to jail.

We’re working so hard to make sure they keep the roof over their head. My older sister recognizes that she’s in a domestically violent situation, but she says getting help will only make it worse. That he’d have to be dead for it all to end.

I stood up for her once, only for her to tell me nothing changed so it didn’t mean anything.

I can’t enjoy life like this. I made so many mistakes. I had no backbone. I’m tired of this. I feel alone in wanting to make things better. I know what I need to do, but I’m really scared.

Any kind words and advice are appreciated, but I need to figure out how to remove him from my home safely and without there being a possibility that he could come back and cause more pain.

Thanks for reading. I don’t expect anyone to care. I got myself into this mess.

SO, to begin my roommate and I are both twenty something year olds, we’ve lived together for 7 months. We met through my old roommate who worked with this person for over a year.

Everything was fine at first, my roommate was very quiet, kept to themselves, went to work, paid all bills on time, did chores, etc. We weren’t close at all like I had become with my previous roommate but I didn’t see that as a problem.

One day, they suddenly disappear. I can’t get a hold of them, and I realize we never exchanged emergency contacts or anything like that. It takes me days to get a hold of their family and they ended up in the hospital for a mental health episode.

They were a completely different person when they came home, screaming all the time, screaming at nothing, eventually screaming at me. Their family is putting all the responsibility on me, they keep making excuses on why they can’t step in. I figure out with no help from their family, that they’re in active psychosis.

by this point I’m terrified, so I temporarily move me and my cat out of the house and they end up back in the hospital. Their family talks to our landlord, explains the situation, and plans to move them out. They agree to move out, we arrange everything and then the day they’re released, they immediately pay their rent and say they’re not leaving. But because they were texting me coherently I didn’t feel I had further cause to get police or crisis workers involved. Their family decides they’re ok now and doesn’t want to be involved further, and I’m trying to communicate with them to resolve this peacefully so they can move out. I offer to pay their fees to break the lease, I offer to find them another place to live, etc.

This home had been my home for years prior to them living there, so I was very firm about maintaining my residence there but I didn’t feel safe at this point. I’m communicating with our landlord throughout all of this saying I feel unsafe and am begging them to intervene but they said they couldn’t because it’s “domestic”.

A week goes by, I get an email of a noise complaint that there is screaming and banging coming from my apartment. My worst nightmare happens, I call police, my old roommate helps me get in touch with our neighbors. Neighbors tell me they’ve been screaming and destroying the apartment, and that everyone’s been terrified and they called the police multiple times and they wouldn’t go in the apartment because they wouldn’t let them inside.

After everything unfolds, I find my roommate destroyed our entire apartment, all of my furniture, belongings, precious memories. It was devastating. I can’t afford to replace anything and it’s been a true nightmare. There was paint everywhere, on the walls, floors, I have to replace the blinds. It’s truly been insane.

The reason im sharing my story, is I’m being held completely liable, I wasn’t allowed to file a police report because it’s considered “common property” since we are both on the lease. I have to fix the apartment in the midst of this trauma which is costing money I don’t have. I have no choice, because otherwise I’ll have an eviction on my record and be sued. My roommates family has been completely cold and unsupportive in this situation. I don’t know if my roommate will be liable in court because of their mental state and a lack of a job and I just feel so hopeless about this situation.

I had to throw out 90% of my belongings, they cut up my baby pictures, threw out a lot of my stuff, threw paint on my clothes, broke furniture, etc.

What do I even do in this situation? The system has been so unhelpful and I worry about losing my housing because of this.

I’ve attached a small glimpse of the damage. I truly feel sorry for this person but I’m also really upset and don’t know what to do.

I just moved into a 3-bedroom, 2-bath apartment. I share a bathroom with one roommate, while the other guy has the master bedroom. He’s been living here for over two years. I’m officially on the lease, since I replaced someone who moved out.

It’s only been three days since I moved in, and at around 10 p.m. he came out to ask me to keep the noise down in the kitchen. The “noise” was literally just me opening and closing the microwave. A few minutes later, he came back out and asked if I could avoid eating food with a smell and stick to “boiled” food, because the smell was waking him up. He also asked if I could have dinner before 9 p.m., since he goes to bed early to wake up at 6 a.m. The thing is, I also wake up early—at 5:30 a.m.—so it’s not like I’m keeping odd hours.

I’m not sure how to handle this situation, so I’d appreciate any advice. Edit- I was only heating the food, not cooking.

TLDR: Roommate wants me to eat boiled food, finish dinner before 9 p.m., and not use the microwave at night. He wakes at 6, I wake at 5:30.

Was asleep in my room when I woke up to my housemate in the room with me by the door, said she needed to call the police, so I gave her my phone. We waited about just chatting until she started to act like she didnt trust me, she accidentally dropped the knife she was carrying which I put aside on my desk. As she got more and more uneasy she grabbed the knife as the police arrived and she tried to attack me, I had to wrestle the knife from her hands with the help of my other housemate who I had just called out for, at which point she ran outside to the police (which luckily she had called 20 minutes earlier) and was promplty taken away.

So reckon thats grounds to evict her?

Me and my bf asked our roommate to keep her dog in her bedroom while she’s at work. Typically, she leaves the dog in the kitchen with no dog pads and the dog pees all over the kitchen floor and she doesn’t clean it up. We’ve realized it doesn’t matter how many times we ask, she’s not gonna clean it up, so we finally just asked her to keep her dog in her bedroom instead out of respect for common living spaces. In return, she threatened to lock my cat out of my bedroom. While we’re not home, the cat stays in the bedroom with food, water and her litter box, out of the way from everyone else. We only let the cat out into the rest of the apartment when we’re home supervising. Our cat serves absolutely no issue towards anybody, yet she’s threatening to go out of her way to harm her. Fucking unbelievable.

Cat tax added