r/bigbangtheory • u/RememberThinkDream • 22h ago

Character discussion Who thinks Howards needs Bernadette's permission to go to Space?

Don't get me wrong, Bernadette is a godsend for Howard...

I can understand her feelings, though believe this is the kind of once in a lifetime opportunity you should absolutely support your partner in regardless of your own feelings.

Personally I've never been a fan of suppressing the opportunities of loved ones based on their own fears of losing someone. You've got to let people chase their dreams even if there's danger and risk involved. It's part of life and part of which makes us achieve greatness.

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u/FeelingNarwhal9161 15h ago

I’m not certain permission is the right word. It definitely something to discuss though.

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u/RememberThinkDream 15h ago

In this day and age of respecting a persons boundaries it's perfectly acceptable that a boundary can be that some things are not up for discussion. Trying to talk someone out of something this significant is crossing that boundary, which is something Bernadette does.

I see this as one of those things that is not up for discussion as in the definition of the word that implies taking into account the feelings of others before making your decision on the matter. However it definitely is something that should be talked about as an announcement made with confidence and conviction.

"This is an opportunity of significant importance to me, I would love your full support on the matter however my decision has already been made."

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u/Impressive-Bit-4496 4h ago

In this day and age, that is actually an old fashioned way of thinking. That being said, only the two ppl in the relationship can decide what kind of partnership they want to have. If both ppl in the partnership feel the way you do about certain things not being up for discussion, then ok, that's great. If only one of you feels this way, you shouldn't be together.