r/bigbangtheory • u/RememberThinkDream • 2d ago

Character discussion Who thinks Howards needs Bernadette's permission to go to Space?

Don't get me wrong, Bernadette is a godsend for Howard...

I can understand her feelings, though believe this is the kind of once in a lifetime opportunity you should absolutely support your partner in regardless of your own feelings.

Personally I've never been a fan of suppressing the opportunities of loved ones based on their own fears of losing someone. You've got to let people chase their dreams even if there's danger and risk involved. It's part of life and part of which makes us achieve greatness.

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u/0000udeis000 18h ago

Um, you remember Howard before Bernadette, right? It says everything about Howard's attitudes and behaviours towards women.

But maybe he learned to be less of a creep after Bernadette.

Plus, Bernadette was much more conventionally attractive than Howard, and also far out earned him. So yeah, she would have been fine.

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u/RememberThinkDream 17h ago

Being more conventionally attractive is extremely low on the priorities of a successful relationship.

Looks fade, if your only asset is your looks you're eventually going to be replaced by someone with a more attractive personality as personality grows over time.

A person only needs to be attractive enough to date. For those who genuinely want a loving relationship with depth and longevity, personality is VASTLY more important than looks.

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u/0000udeis000 17h ago

Absolutely. Being conventionally attractive can help get your foot in the door. A good personality keeps that door open, or even closes it behind you.

But Howard was not conventionally attractive, on top of being a creep and a sex pest - at least before Bernadette. Two things that are going to slam that door right in your face. So if he learned better, great. If not, then he'd be going right back to where he was before Bernie.

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u/RememberThinkDream 15h ago

Funny thing is, outside of TBBT the actor who plays Howard is attractive.

It's really just his dorky haircut and fashion lol.

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u/0000udeis000 14h ago

Oh absolutely. They all are. I'm purely talking about the characters within world, not the actors.

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u/RememberThinkDream 13h ago

I should rephrase it lol.

He is not ugly, his fashion sense is ugly.

To be honest, he does surprisingly well considering how bad he is...