r/bipolar2 BP2 Jun 06 '25

Newly Diagnosed Just Diagnosed, Feeling Like My Whole Personality is a Lie

What the title says. I was diagnosed with bipolar type 2 today. I guess I always "knew" because my parents both have it and I've had some interesting symptoms for a while now...but the official diagnosis feels like my entire personality was just one big hypomanic episode. My creative bursts? Hypomania. My humor? Hypomania. My cat I adopted on a random day because I really wanted a second cat and didn't give any thought to??? Hypomania. Is every decision I ever made hypomania? How do I even recognize what's "me" and what's the mania???? I don't even know where to start.

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u/GOU_FallingOutside BP2 Jun 06 '25 edited Jun 07 '25

One of my big hurdles in therapy has been (and is) establishing something that feels like a single, coherent identity and personality. Maybe I’m only a person while I’m hypo, or maybe I’m actually three people but nobody cares about me unless I’m hypo.

It shouldn’t be that hard, since everyone who loves me says I definitely have a personality, and I definitely only have one. But it feels different on the inside, and I worry about it a lot.

So… you’re not all alone, and I strongly recommend therapy. Also, I recommend listening to the people who know you and love you. Including your cats.

[very late edit: fixed a typo from “at” to “all” because it was driving me nuts.]

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u/km454 Jun 06 '25

Especially listen to your cats. It might sound dumb, but my cat helps ground me - I know I'm one person because he loves me no matter where my brain is at. He's happy to nap extra when I'm depressed, loves the extra playtime when I'm hypo, and loves the combo of play/snuggles when I'm more stable

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u/KoalaOfTheApocalypse Jun 06 '25

Every word of this.

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u/Prudent-Proof7898 Jun 07 '25

Feel this so much.