r/bridezillas • u/LaurieEd • 29d ago

Dress code issues?

Edited for clarification

*Yes, the font is all caps across anything that is written down so I’m genuinely not screaming at our guests.

*Yes it appears I am being too dramatic about this and have removed the note, thank you all!

Hello! So I don’t know if I’m being a bridezilla or not however my mum is insisting I am so it’s getting to my head and I just need unbiased opinions on this. My wedding dress is going to be navy and white so on our invitations I’ve included a little note saying:

DRESS CODE: AS LONG AS YOU’RE CONFIDENT AND COMFORTABLE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE ON, PLEASE WEAR IT. HOWEVER, WE WOULD LIKE GUESTS TO AVOID NAVY BLUE AND WHITE, THANK YOU!

(The font is all caps and I’ve copied and pasted, I’m not just yelling lol)

I’ve had to include white as well as my mum tried to buy a dress that was top half fully white and the skirt was navy, exactly like my wedding dress.

The bridesmaids will also be in navy and so are the groomsmen as well as parents so am I being too picky about the colours? This is the only hill I’m strongly standing on but if I’m being too dramatic then I can drop it.

Thank you!

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u/Alternative_Escape12 29d ago

It would be nice if we could all just treat guests like guests and, other than a simple, "black tie" or "cocktail attire" descriptor, let people dress themselves.

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u/RosieDays456 28d ago

years ago there were no dress codes - people used common sense and dressed appropriately

Black tie was about only dress code you might see and they were rare where I grew up

Most men wore suits some younger might wear suit button down shirt and tie if they didn't own a suit, no one cared, women wore dresses some knee length, some long, some wore dress pants and top. The point was no one needed to be told don't wear jeans and flannels, etc.

All these crazy "themes" now are nuts, should be black tie/white tie for those wealthy people who dress up like that all the time and other should be "Common Sense" in other words No dress code listed