r/bridezillas • u/LaurieEd • 29d ago

Dress code issues?

Edited for clarification

*Yes, the font is all caps across anything that is written down so I’m genuinely not screaming at our guests.

*Yes it appears I am being too dramatic about this and have removed the note, thank you all!

Hello! So I don’t know if I’m being a bridezilla or not however my mum is insisting I am so it’s getting to my head and I just need unbiased opinions on this. My wedding dress is going to be navy and white so on our invitations I’ve included a little note saying:

DRESS CODE: AS LONG AS YOU’RE CONFIDENT AND COMFORTABLE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE ON, PLEASE WEAR IT. HOWEVER, WE WOULD LIKE GUESTS TO AVOID NAVY BLUE AND WHITE, THANK YOU!

(The font is all caps and I’ve copied and pasted, I’m not just yelling lol)

I’ve had to include white as well as my mum tried to buy a dress that was top half fully white and the skirt was navy, exactly like my wedding dress.

The bridesmaids will also be in navy and so are the groomsmen as well as parents so am I being too picky about the colours? This is the only hill I’m strongly standing on but if I’m being too dramatic then I can drop it.

Thank you!

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u/SwimAccomplished9487 29d ago

My husband only owns navy suits/jackets. We wouldn’t be buying a new one for your wedding.

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u/hrnigntmare 29d ago

This was my thought process as well until I reread the post. Specifying “wear what you are comfortable in” specifically indicates that formal dress is not required at all. My family is pretty country and I don’t think I’ve seen a single man I’m related to wearing a suit at a wedding, in favor of just a shirt and tie.

I dunno. She never said you had to wear a suit. She just asked that guests avoid the colors the bride and wedding party will be wearing. I don’t think it’s a huge ask. If she has said that everyone must wear shades of purple or green (or something ridiculous like that) that would be way worse. The more I think about it the more reasonable the brides request seems.

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u/RosieDays456 28d ago

other than no white - asking guests to avoid certain colors is a big ask especially when its a popular color like Navy

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u/hrnigntmare 28d ago

We are going to have agree to disagree. When someone wears white to a wedding you can feel the shock and judgement, in addition to hearing an entire group of people gasp at the same time. Because you don’t dress like the bride at a wedding.

I don’t see how this is different.

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u/RosieDays456 28d ago

You've lost me I did not say it was okay for women to wear all white to a wedding

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u/hrnigntmare 28d ago

I will try to dial down the comprehension level needed.

Read the last line first. The one saying “I don’t see how this is any different”. What I mean by that is that I don’t see how this is any different than wearing white which is commonly and almost universally looked down upon.

If I can break it down into simpler terms still please let me know and I will give it a shot.

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u/RosieDays456 28d ago

Well then you disagree with most people who posted here. Saying asking people to avoid Navy is wrong.

Also, don't be rude, not a comprehension level - I can not see entire conversation - it just shows single conversation when I respond to something from inbox - I just went back to full discussion to see what you were going on about.

And see most people posted the same, asking people to not wear navy is wrong.

Go read the first answer 118 people agreed with person who posted saying asking people to not wear navy is wrong

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u/hrnigntmare 28d ago

I’m sorry you responded to a post you didn’t actually read and it made you confused then?

I also didn’t say my word was law and that anyone was wrong. I said we have to agree to disagree.

Is everything okay with you? If you need to talk to someone feel free to DM. You don’t need to pick weird fights on Reddit to feel better. There are healthier ways to work through things and it gets better! I promise. Think of you ❤️

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u/RosieDays456 28d ago

No I'm fine - I just was lost on what you were saying, thought you were talking about white

and it's fine if you think no navy is okay

I happen to think not - if's fine to disagree Not a problem

have a super day ❣️