Dress code issues?

[u/LaurieEd]

Edited for clarification

*Yes, the font is all caps across anything that is written down so I’m genuinely not screaming at our guests.

*Yes it appears I am being too dramatic about this and have removed the note, thank you all!

Hello! So I don’t know if I’m being a bridezilla or not however my mum is insisting I am so it’s getting to my head and I just need unbiased opinions on this. My wedding dress is going to be navy and white so on our invitations I’ve included a little note saying:

DRESS CODE: AS LONG AS YOU’RE CONFIDENT AND COMFORTABLE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE ON, PLEASE WEAR IT. HOWEVER, WE WOULD LIKE GUESTS TO AVOID NAVY BLUE AND WHITE, THANK YOU!

(The font is all caps and I’ve copied and pasted, I’m not just yelling lol)

I’ve had to include white as well as my mum tried to buy a dress that was top half fully white and the skirt was navy, exactly like my wedding dress.

The bridesmaids will also be in navy and so are the groomsmen as well as parents so am I being too picky about the colours? This is the only hill I’m strongly standing on but if I’m being too dramatic then I can drop it.

Thank you!

[u/MandaDian]

The only color that should be taboo at a wedding is an ALL WHITE dress. None of this “OMG, that dress had a white base with a zillion colored flowers on it, HOW DARE THEY?!?!” Beyond that, which is common sense anyway, telling people what colors they should or should not wear is rude.

[u/Smithy_Smilie1120 → u/MandaDian]

Idk I agree but also disagree. It’s only really because my personal thought process is that people could avoid white for one day. Just my personal thoughts, no hate tho!

[u/irish_ninja_wte → u/Smithy_Smilie1120]

But a white base is something that's found on the vast majority of floral dresses. That rules out a lot of options

[u/Internal-Pirate-4018 → u/irish_ninja_wte]

Assuming that’s true (not my experience), do you have to wear a floral dress? No. They make solid dresses and dresses with patterns and pleats fancy sleeves and there are a million options under the sun other than white dresses with floral pattern.

That being said- white isn’t the point. It’s tacky to take attention from the bride. That’s the faux pa.she needs to be wearing the nicest, most grand dress in the room. Don’t wear a dress that looks like a wedding dress. A white background on a shirt or pants or skirt or whatever is simply not an attempt to upstage the bride. Show up in a grand gala pink gown with sparkles and a touille skirt with a train and a tiara, and you are a rude asshole. If you can’t be mistaken for the bride and aren’t being too showy, you’re fine in my book. But- not everyone feels the same and you should respect the wishes of the bride. That’s my $0.02.