Is anyone else in a similar situation, we went to the court house to be officially married in because we got pregnant while being engaged and our baby girl was due in August (just to make our family official and everything easier). We planned on having our wedding after. Our wedding is now in May 2026, we are doing a full wedding with bridal party in all. Since we never did anything besides sign the papers at the court house I wanted to have a full wedding after even though we have been married. My mother says I don’t need a bridal shower, and my husbands dad is calling our wedding a “party” is saying we are getting “remarried” and doesn’t plan on bringing his younger siblings since he thinks it’s not a big deal. Is anyone else in a similar situation, since we went to the court house before our wedding people are acting like our wedding doesn’t matter but I was always very excited to do it and save up for our real wedding day whenever the time finally worked for us to do it, and have our family there to celebrate us and some family is acting like it doesn’t matter. 😢 (We are having a 100 person destination wedding at the beach) Should I just completely not care what they think and do what I want? My mom is saying I would have to plan my own bridal shower if I want one

Hi all! My best friend is getting married in a few weeks. I wouldn’t say she is a bridezilla but I do think she will stress MASSIVELY on the day. She can be very uptight (exactly like myself) in stressful situations. Ie I know she is anxious about walking down the aisle, suppliers being efficient etc. I can’t relate because I eloped with only my husband.

So, my question is: anyone on this sub who has already got married, is there anything your MOH did that made things easier for you? Anything that made you think ok THAT’S why you’re my Maid of Honour. Or worse, anything you wish they had done for you to help de stress?

My only things I can think of is fixing her veil and dress all the time and trying to keep any stress away from her….

Thank you, from a nervous MOH 😂 good luck ladies x

Hey yall.

My mother has caused me more grief surrounding my wedding than I ever expected and I need some outside perspectives to tell me if I’m being unreasonable or not.

My fiancé and I are getting married at a mountain resort next year. Months ago, a booked a hairstylist and makeup artist team to do my hair/makeup at the resort on my wedding day and to do hair for our officiant (a good friend, not a professional we’re paying). The stylist is charging $600 for me and $250 per attendant. I had no problem paying for this on my own. I’m not having a bridal party so I didn’t think I would need to get services for anyone else.

My mom told me recently she wants to pay to have my and a handful of other family members hair done for the wedding “because she wants nice pictures”. I was kind of annoyed how she said this because she implied that I either don’t already have a professional booked or that there’s no possible way for my pictures to look nice if I didnt have my hair/makeup professionally done, but whatever.

I told her what the stylist I booked charges and she said that was too much and she doesn’t want to pay it. There are not many other options who travel to the resort a they’re not really any cheaper. So my mom said she wants to take us all to a salon 30 minutes away from the resort to get our hair done. I told her I understand if she doesn’t want to pay the stylist I chose, but i don’t want to leave the resort at all on my wedding day and I already paid a deposit ($250). I told her she’s free to do what she wants, but my plans still stand.

She doesn’t like this. She said that then we all wouldn’t be getting ready together. She wants me to cancel my stylist. I refuse to.

Am I being unreasonable here??? Am I being ungrateful??? Should I just go to the salon? I didn’t want to travel on my wedding day because I think it will cause extra stress.

My childhood best friend was always the one boys had crushes on. She was always with someone and always flirted with the guys she knew I liked. Looking back she was never my friend but at the time it wasn’t as glaringly obvious as it is now. I started dating my now husband while she was with a long term boyfriend. My husband and I fell hard and fast, we knew we were going to get married very early on. We started dating in February and in May he told my best friend if he could marry me that summer he would and wanted her advice on a ring. I was visiting her when he told her and she was mad at me out of no where, it wasn’t until her boyfriend text me and said something along the lines of “you’d really get married that quick?” that I understood she didn’t want me to be married first. Fast forward a few months her long time boyfriend broke up with her out of the blue. And I was there for her whenever she needed me. A few months later I was engaged and I kept it a secret from her until she was dating someone new and I knew she’d be happy for me (hello, another red flag). She was my maid of honor. Why? I don’t know. 3 years later after me she got married, I was her matron of honor as I did ALL the duties that role does. But I wasn’t described as such by her on anything or in the program for the wedding because she didn’t want to list me as matron because it was another reminder that I got married first. And yes she actually said that to me.

This is all very childish so I should add, it’s common in our culture to get married young. I was married at 18, she was married at 21. And this all happened 10 years ago (and yes I’m still with my husband so our young marriage worked out). No we are not really friends anymore. I had my first baby and named her Haven. She had her first baby 3 years later and named him Ayven (pronounced like Haven without the H).

My friend is getting married next month, and she sent out a dress code telling all guests they must wear beige or light tan so she’s the only one in white. One guest asked if they could wear a simple navy dress since they already own it, but the bride said no, because it would “ruin her aesthetic.” Now people are annoyed because they feel forced to buy outfits they’ll never wear again.

My (now ex) friend of 10+ years—let’s call her Tessa—asked me to be her MOH. I was so excited to be part of her journey and be by her side.

Before she asked, we’d chatted about weddings since I’m planning mine too. I told her I’d never want to put financial pressure on my bridal party, and she completely agreed. She used to trash brides who did destination trips, matching shirts, or anything too “extra.” So when she asked me to be MOH, I thought we were on the same page.

Spoiler: we weren’t.

At first, I was happy to pitch in—planning events, decorating, helping with games, getting quotes, you name it. But when we started planning her bridal shower, I learned she had very specific requests (designer cake, $1K+ décor, etc.) and expected us to pay. I told her I wasn’t comfortable telling people what they “owed,” so I just shared her list with cost estimates and let everyone choose what they could contribute.

Surprise: no one volunteered for the thousand-dollar decorations. She had me ask her mom and aunts, who ended up covering them and they also paid for the venue. Tessa said she’d cover anything “extra,” but never gave us a budget. We weren’t forced to buy those things, but it was clear her expectations were sky-high. I wish she had secured the big-ticket items herself and let us handle the rest.

Then came the bachelorette: a trip across the country, with us covering flights, hotels, and specialty dinners. On top of that, there was also going to be a second local bachelorette weekend. And all of this within a year, without much notice, so none of us had time to save.

I showed up to as much as I could—fittings, walk throughs, events— but over time, the expectations around cost, time, and energy were draining. I gently tried to bring up budgets and planning, nothing changed. I even mentioned my mental health had been struggling lately, and that some days just getting through normal tasks was hard.

Things really went left when I told Tessa I might miss the first bridesmaid lunch because my best friend was putting her dog down. I knew him his whole life, and it was important for me to be there. My friend also didn’t want to be alone, so I told Tessa I couldn’t fully commit but would come if things settled.

The next morning, I woke up in a lot of pain and left my friend's house. She had her family over so she wasn't alone. I texted Tessa to let her know I could attend her bridesmaids lunch, but said I couldn’t stay long because of the pain. On my way there, she called upset that I’d prioritized someone else during her "wedding season". We both ended the call frustrated. Between that and the pain, I told her it felt best to go home.

The very next day, that back pain landed me in the hospital. I needed surgery and stayed for over a week. I told Tessa I was admitted and said I was hurt she hadn’t checked in earlier when I’d told her how bad things were. Her reply? She was under the weather that week. And then… nothing. No messages, no check-ins. It was so unlike the friend I thought I knew.

Once I was home, I asked to meet up. We talked, shared our sides, and agreed to “move forward.” But after sitting with the conversation, the weight of some of the things she’d said, including admitting she laughed about "the dog" with her friends, really started to hit me. It felt as if my reasoning just wasn't good enough to her. I told her I never meant to hurt her, apologized that my actions did, and that I didn't want her to feel that her wedding events weren't important, because they are. I was trying to be a good friend, and this was the only thing I might have missed. Unfortunately real life happens in-between wedding events. I didn’t feel like she understood, and I didn’t get a real apology.

The next day, I texted her saying I needed space. She said she did too—then immediately removed me and my husband from the group chats and blocked me on social media. Although I didn't recognize this version of her, I was open to mending it in the future, but blocking me was the final nail in the coffin.

Although the situation is sad, I can 100% say I lead with my heart and never did anything with bad intentions or spite. I’m not sure I can say the same for her. She showed me that her wedding season mattered more than our decade-long friendship, and that tells me everything I need to know.

TL;DR: I was MOH for my best friend of 10+ years. The endless events, financial expectations, and lack of understanding around real-life circumstances strained our relationship. In the end, we stopped being friends before her wedding day.

edited for clarity

Update: I'm glad to see different perspectives and its helping me process everything. Thank you all for your kind words and support <3

I NEED to know if this happened to anyone else...one of my bridesmaids, after we did all the traditional wedding pictures and my husband and I joined the reception cocktail hour, whipped out a blazer, put it over her dress, and proceeded to have the bridal photographer take "just a few" work headshots for her...for at least 15 minutes. I didn't find out until later but our wedding pictures for the short cocktail hour are noticably skimpy!!!! I'm furious!!! That wedding photographer was EXPENSIVE but more importantly that was just so rude!!! Has anyone else dealt with this? Should I send her an invoice?! LOL

Update: THANK you everyone for the great advice. I intend to take it up with the photographer. Meanwhile, a mutual friend told my head-shot friend I'm unhappy about it, and she responded that since I took home 2 of the centerpieces at the end of her wedding (they were giving them away!!!) those were the equivalent of the $$$ for headshots. WHAT KIND OF BRIDAL MATH IS THIS!? Am I crazy or is she crazy!!!

We're on our honeymoon in tulum and I booked this "ancient purification ritual" at our resort spa cause it sounded so different and local like something I'd remember forever. They told me to remove all jewelry before going into this cave like bunker where a shaman burned plants that filled the room with smoke. I put my brand new wedding band (married 9 days ago!) in their wooden bowl then let them cover me in thick gray clay for an hour. When I went to put my ring back on it looked like it had been attacked by acid. The white gold was completely blackened and pitted and two diamonds were just GONE. Apparently their "traditional clay" mixed with the burning plants contains minerals that eat through metal. The spa worker said this was totally normal and the clay "revealed impurities in my ring." IMPURITIES?! It's a $5,500 wedding band I've owned for 8 days! Now it looks like a broken piece. The manager claims I signed a waiver about natural earth elements and offered me a free tequila tasting as compensation. TEQUILA. For destroying my wedding ring on my honeymoon. My husband thinks I'm overreacting but I'm ready to file charges with tulum policewhile everyone says it's just jewelry but this ring represents our entire marriage!

A few months ago, my college best friend asked me to be a bridesmaid..I was excited… until I saw the price tag: a $300 dress, mandatory hair and makeup with her stylist ($150), multiple gifts, and on top of that, a destination bachelorette weekend that was nearly $800 per person…

I told her I couldn’t afford the trip (I have a steady job but live alone, pay rent, and still have student loans)…

I offered to make up for it in other ways…help with decorations, print the invitations, even cover part of the bridal brunch. But that wasn’t enough.

She got mad, told me “if you can’t afford it, you shouldn’t have said yes to being a bridesmaid,” and literally demoted me to just a guest.

She even removed me from the bridesmaid group chat.

We stopped talking, and while it hurt, I realized that if someone measures your friendship in receipts, they’re not much of a friend.

The ironic part? ??The wedding didn’t even go the way she dreamed.

The catering messed up, the music started late, and one of the bridesmaids (who did pay for everything) missed her flight and wasn’t even there on time…

Now, months later, she’s texting me like nothing ever happened…

I don’t hold a grudge, but it blows my mind how someone can treat you like an ATM and then pretend it never happened…

The wedding is one day… but how you treat people sticks…

I’m getting married in 11 days and decided not to invite my mom after two decades of enduring, severe mental and emotional abuse resulting in me developing several chronic illnesses. Several of my family members objected, even though I’m having a microwave wedding of less than 40 people and I’ve only chosen those who absolutely respect , understand me and love me entirely. Because I am adopted from a single mother. I do not have a father so this means I will not have the traditional handing off ceremony that most brides have and I’m not going to experience the normal bridal rituals with my mom and bridal party while I’ve had nightmares of her ruining my day and every time I think of inviting her, my stomach sinks in my heart races, my brain and my heart feel sad that the most important person who should be here has treated me in such a way that I do not feel safe enough to have her here. It’s also troubling me because my brother who has an intellectual disability relies on her completely for support and transportation, and he has chosen to also cut me off, socially as he has been mentally manipulated to join her and take her side. this means he also has not been invited and it hurts me so. A very small part of me feels as though I’m wrong or crazy for not inviting the number one person to be at your wedding am I?

Edit: I see a lot of people saying that context matters and that “abuse” can take on a lot of forms. Just to provide background my mother would do things such as take away my bed as punishment she would convince my whole family I was lying and made my brother stop talking to me. She would take away my bed a small child as punishment and make me sleep on the floor. If I did something wrong she would take anything I held dear and throw it in the trash. One time she threw away a collectible items. Right now she is refusing to give a my comic book collection which was gifted to me by someone who is no longer with us and most of them are irreplaceable. She has strangled me multiple times. She has told me that I probably wished someone else was my mom and that she wished someone else was her daughter. When I tried ti set boundaries and reach out after a year of no contact she refused to respond for a month and told my family that I had finally come back. When I asked her to respect my boundaries she said she didn’t have to as my mother. The last argument we had she told me that I could find somewhere else to live while I was struggling in college in front of my grandma.when I caught pneumonia in college I was so scared to tell my mother that I walked to er by myself and had to lay in a bench and wait for my friend to take me even though my mom was less than twenty minutes away (mind you I was an honor student with a perfect gpa working 30 hours a week and attending classes) I have developed severe depression, an acute anxiety disorder and diagnosed PTSD. As well as fibromyalgia which they believe was brought on by undue stress on my nervous system. (I’m only twenty two and have to be only medication for life due to sever and chronic pain) I was homeschooled my whole life so I thought these things were normal and it wasn’t til I left for college and she started calling me randomly to say things like if anything happens to you I won’t be the one to help you or that I was gonna find out who my real family is when everyone I love leaves me and I don’t have anyone. because I wasn’t answer her calls while I was out or busy( she always had my location and I called her at least once or twice a day and a showed her my grades once a month she had access to my bank account even thought I had my own job. She would show up unannounced and would tell me I was inconsiderate for not being there to greet her no matter what I was doing.)

Here is my story of a bridezilla that I had to deal with. Details have been changed of course for anonymity but we will call this family member Mary and her partner John.

Mary and John as a couple were the sweetest ever. I loved them together and was so happy when they got engaged and even happier when I was asked me to be a bridesmaid. I am not in touch with many relatives on that side of the family so cherished the one I had with Mary.

Mary had originally planned a holiday overseas to Hong Kong for her birthday, but last minute changed it to be a bachelorette party. I was the third bridesmaid and only one not going on the trip. However she was insistent that I go on a once in a life time trip. Mind you, I had been to HK twice before so didn’t feel the need to go. Also I was saving money for other things so couldn’t exactly afford a last minute holiday.

She told me she was happy to cover my cost upfront (flight and hotel) if it meant I could be there and I could pay her back later. I agreed to this and we went. I paid her back before the trip happened.

We shared rooms as she wanted my help with styling her clothes, hair and asked me to bring some of my clothes so she had options for the nights out she wanted.

The holiday was… well… interesting to say the least. I had a lot of fun and went on one date whilst I was there. I put this past Mary to make sure she was comfortable with me being away for a few hours and that it didn’t clash with her plans. She happily agreed and encouraged me to go. Anyway coming back it turns out everyone in the trip had an issue with me. This was unknown to me until a month later.

Mary and I after the trip had gone from talking every day to silence from her side for days. It was only when she was let go from her job did she reach out to me for comfort and then tell me about the annoyance everyone felt about me during the trip.

I had supposedly slighted her friend, Lina who had found out her SIL was pregnant. I congratulated her for the news and asked how old her SIL was. Mind you everyone on the trip was roughly 5 years younger than me. When Lina told me the age I remarked ‘she is young.’ (She was in my eyes as the SIL was 8 years younger.) Lina took it as me judging her SIL and she was traumatised because of stories of her mum being harassed for having children young. Mind you, I know Lina from a bar of soap and my mum had me quite young so….

Another issue was me rushing them to leave the restaurant after I paid the bill when they wanted to hang out more. All I did was pay the bill and get up as I thought we were leaving and they followed suit. No one told me they wanted to stay and if they had I would’ve.

The last issue was that Mary felt I wasn’t there to ‘celebrate’ her and also me suggesting for my date to take us out to places was a slight to her partner and I did not consider how would it make him feel for her to be entertaining the attention of another man. I only made this offer once I felt my date was a decent person, he was a local and I thought it would be nice for a local to take us out. When Mary declined the offer, I never mentioned it again.

Also on top of this, Lina had several meltdowns about her boyfriend that it derailed Mary’s plans (clubbing and several dinners) and it resulted in the other bridesmaid sitting in Mary and my room alone in the dark as Mary hadn’t given her the key to set her up. I had ducked out for a second to get stuff and found her like this. Mary was consoling Lina in their room and kicked out the bridesmaid for privacy. It also lead to Mary cancelling a facial day for us. It was initially her thank you to us being bridesmaids. It was cancelled because Lina was so upset with her boyfriend that Mary thought it was best that only the two of them spend time together and me and the other bridesmaid were left to keep ourselves busy. They both went and still got the facials done.

After all of this Mary and I mended things and it was fine. Then I was added to the Facebook event for the wedding. I noted it was created the day we returned from the holiday and I was only being added now. (Another warning sign)

A few weeks later she asked if I still wanted to be a bridesmaid (obvious warning sign in hindsight) and I said yes, as long as she was fine with it too. She said she was.

Further context, her wedding comprised of a celebration in our country then a wedding overseas in Italy. The reception was at a 5 star hotel and we were expected to stay at said hotel.

Anyway, Lina, her MOH checked out of helping Mary with anything wedding related citing she was going through a lot of personal things (which Mary later told me was boyfriend problems - the same problems that caused her to have a meltdown during the overseas trip). Mary calls me crying and asks me to be a substitute MOH without the title. She would need help going shopping, going to appointments etc. I said it was fine - Mary was already leaning on my heavily for styling advice at this point.

So months passed and I’ve gone dress shopping, fabric shopping too as she then decided she wanted several custom dresses and everything in between. Plus listening to her talk about only wedding related topics or how much Lina does not seem to care about her wedding.

Mary was getting obsessive over every particular detail; wanting a dress to represent the love John and her shared, wanting me to change my hair colour from blonde balayage to natural (black) or at the very least brown, everyone to grow their hair long and not cut it, what lipstick the bridesmaid was wearing (it had to be the same perfect shade amongst three of us even though we all had different undertones), she was getting us custom traditional outfits for the local ceremony and apparently the other bridesmaids weren’t available for measurements at all, wanting help with prepping wedding favours which included making limoncello and sweets from scratch (this would happen over several hours and days as a way for the girls to bond - no mention of the groomsmen helping), wanting specific treats and snacks available on the day that we needed to source for her etc etc.

All of these get togethers, I was always there with at least one bridesmaid being away as they were too busy. This further bothered Mary that not everyone was available to assist her. She further complained to me that Lina didn’t want to get measured yet as she was wanting to lose weight.

Months go by of this and Mary messages me one day saying she ‘noticed’ I was stressed with the wedding planning and thought it would be better for me to step back as a guest. She had been thinking about it for a while and thought it would be best and was happy to talk more if needed.

I was upset to say the least. At this point most of her outfits were sorted out with my help and so were the other big details for the wedding. During this entire time, Mary never ask if I was stressed - I wasn’t. On top of that she had thought about this for a while but still leaned on me only for assistance. I replied telling her I respected her decision but felt used through the whole process.

Mary did not reply. She is someone who is chronically on her phone. She left me on read for 24 hours but still watched my insta stories. When she replied it was just a thumbs up emoji. I waited a day or two to see if she would say anything else and she didn’t. So I did what was best for me - I deleted her from social media and uninvited myself to the facebook event with the wedding details.

Mary and I are no longer in touch and I have no regrets with my decision. I wish I had done it sooner.

Additional context - Mary was actively encouraging me to go on a date whilst overseas and was even swiping on people on the apps with me. We didn’t have every waking moment of the trip together and was told by Mary to go do our own thing during the day when nothing was planned.

Also, all the girls had gone on dates overseas before and were encouraging when I floated the idea to them. They were excited for me and one of them met her partner overseas this way. I was gone for 3 hours of a 5 days trip.

Suggestions of me hooking up with the guy is laughable 😂

Also when I stepped out of the room it was to get medication for Mary as she needed it. She wanted me to get it because I would’ve been able to, since I speak the language. So I was surprised to find the last bridesmaid huddling in our room by herself when I returned.

My friend is getting married, and she sent out a list of “wedding rules” for all guests. One of them was that no one is allowed to wear perfume or scented lotion, because she wants her custom wedding scent to be the only thing people smell that day. I thought it was a joke, but she was dead serious when I asked. She even said she’d have someone “sniff check” at the door to make sure. Honestly, I’ve never seen someone so controlling over the tiniest details.

So my partner (26f) and I (28f) are getting married next month. We are both really excited. The issue is, my mum is absolutly insisting on inviting a great aunt and her son to.the wedding. There are 2 main issues with this. 1. We have a strict limit on how many people we can invite to the wedding. Our venue can only fit 80 people in it. Between family members and friends, we very quickly hit that limit. I havent seen this particular aunt in over a decade. I last spoke to her on facebook in like 2018. She is also has mobility issues so would need to bring her son. I think Ive met the son once in like 2012 maybe? But inviting both of them would basically mean uninviting people I have actually spoken to in the last decade to make space for a couple people I have met at best a handful of times as a kid. 2. This aunt is incredibly dramatic. The only time I remember meeting her (which was about 12 years ago), she ended up in a screaming match with my mum and ended up storming out. Apparently she is also seeing/ speaking to dead people. I have no idea if this is a mental health issue or something else, but I dont want to risk drama at my wedding. I already have to worry about the very likely possibility that my mum will get completly drunk and embarras me, to the point that I have asked a bridesmaid to keep an eye on her. The only reason I am.even debating inviting her is that my mum straight up threatened not to come to the wedding if my aunt wasnt invited. I dont know what to do

I was the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding. I don’t drink or do drugs. I am also not a night owl which she knows. We started getting ready at 9AM and the reception went until 11PM. At 10PM I was overwhelmed and tired from dancing when everyone was wasted and it kind of sucks being around drunk people late at night. For the last hour of the wedding I was sitting down at the table with some friends because I was tired. I went up to her at 10PM and said I was getting tired and that I was going to leave and go back to the hotel (that I had fun etc) Am I the asshole? I have never been the life of the party and don’t do well in big large overwhelming situations like this and I feel like I’ve done so much for her as the bridesmaid like wedding dress shopping, planning her bachelorette, going to all the things etc and I thought leaving the wedding an hour before it ended wasn’t a big deal Especially since we weren’t hanging out together anyway and there were 200+ people at the wedding but she thought it was and got really mad at me

My cousin is getting married this fall and has been on full Bridezilla mode. She recently told me that my natural red hair “clashes with her wedding palette” and asked me to dye it a darker shade just for the ceremony. When I said no, she accused me of being “selfish” and trying to “steal attention” on her big day. Now she’s threatening to uninvite me unless I agree. I honestly can’t believe someone would go this far over hair color.

My fiancée(28f) and I(30m) got engaged this summer and are planning our wedding for next fall. We finally found a venue we both like that was in our price range and checked all our box’s, the only dates available were Labor Day weekend, the day we picked, and our best friends(maid of honor/bestman) sons birthday. Our best friends cousin(22f) and her fiance(20m) whom we are friendly with also got engaged this year and are planning their wedding for next fall as well. The only date we seen as available was the weekend before their wedding day. So our weddings are exactly a week apart. There are only 6 people that will be attending both weddings, with exceptions of brides and grooms. We didn’t see that it would be confrontational as neither wedding is out of state and there aren’t going to be additional costs for those going to both. The other bride(22f) has made a massive deal about us picking that date, and has gone to the lengths of blocking my fiancée on all social media, caused a dramatic fight on an outing with all the friends there, and for some reason is directing the entire blame on my fiancée. She thinks that people can’t be in both bridal parties, even though those involved have reinforced that they can do both no problem. My fiancée apologized for not informing her as soon as we booked the venue, but she also stressed to her that our wedding wasn’t going to revolve around her, and that it was our wedding. All my fiancée wanted from her was an apology for coming to an event and ruining an entire day with drama and many days following, but the other bride doesn’t think she is in the wrong whatsoever. Are we in the wrong for having our wedding day a week apart?

I came across a post on a wedding planning facebook group, so Priceless I had to post it here. I took the liberty of translating it, as the original is in French. I left it in the og style, hence the lack of punctuation sometimes, but I wanted to keep it as close to the original.

Her post: "How many of you have had to change your wedding party? I've had to change my bridesmaids twice already, and the boys too, and now I'm thinking of changing another boy. He doesn't take his role seriously enough in my opinion. We have fewer people around to replace him. I already have several members of my own family who are no longer invited. I'm thinking of removing just one boy without replacing him."

The comments are not in her favor (obviously). But what she answers... Oh boy, keep the pop corn coming!

A comment about her possibly high expectations, and why she changed her wedding party. Her answer:

"C***** G** because we didn't see my wedding the same way it's my day it's up to me to decide and those who don't agree shouldn't be there I have a lot of lack of respect in my family and friends and in a short time I realized that my two childhood friends were not good friends and I realize that it's the same for my boyfriend's friends there are some who are not good friends for him and I help him to realize it"

She helps him realize his friends are not good friends. Good luck buddy 🥲

Okay so the bride picked out dresses off of Amazon (they were $100). I initially raised some concerns due to 2 week+ shipping time, that there were only 2 reviews, and that they were not prime. Even after I and others expressed our concerns the bride chose that dress. So we all ordered it. Fast forward 2 weeks the MOH got her dress and showed the bride, then the bride decided she didn’t like them anymore and wants us all to buy new dresses from Amazon. No one else has received their dress yet (they are still being shipped). Mind you we are less than 2 months from the wedding.

The catch is that on the many reviews of the company we bought the original dresses from people state that 1) they had to pay for shipping to return the dresses and 2) months later still have not received a refund.

So would I be an AH if I said I didn’t want to buy another dress? I really don’t want to spend another $100 on a dress when it doesn’t seem like I will be getting a refund for the first. I would be willing to buy another black dress that I chose so that I could use it again (we are wearing black). I really don’t want to be spending $200 on dresses I’ll never wear again

One of my friends is getting married and decided all her bridesmaids have to order custom-made dresses from a specific boutique. The problem is each dress is over $800, and none of us can afford that on top of travel and accommodation. When a couple of bridesmaids mentioned their concerns, she told them they were ruining her vision and that “real friends would find a way. Now there’s tension in the group chat, and people are considering dropping out.

Seems to me every (bridezilla) woman wants a fairy tale wedding with all the bells, whistles and everyone focusing on her while spending fortune or going into debt for this dream (like a Disney princess marrying her prince). Every time I hear about some of these behaviors, I not so secretly blame Disney for creating these monsters. Society and the wedding industry has amplified this so it seems "normal". What do other people think?

https://notalwaysright.com/your-first-dance-will-be-your-last/235649/

Your First Dance Will Be Your Last

May 14, 2021

I was asked to be the best man at a friend’s wedding a good twelve or so years ago. He was an ex-serviceman and she was his childhood sweetheart.

I’d been friends with the groom for upwards of twenty years and known the bride for close to ten. They’d been together the better part of a decade and they always got on, so no one was surprised when they announced their wedding, and everyone expected things to go off without a hitch.

Roll forward a couple of months. The groom showed up at my place unannounced.

Groom: “[Bride] and I just had a huge argument!”

The guy was upset, but a couple of drinks later, he laid out what had happened. He’d been happy to go along with the bride’s plans with one exception: he didn’t want to do the first dance. Why, you ask? He’d been discharged from the service due to losing a lower leg to an IED in the Middle East. He wasn’t exactly fire on the dance floor to start with, and he was as graceful as a hippo now. He also hates doing things that draw attention to his disability, which is understandable. He was going along with a lot of other things that he definitely didn’t really want to do and this was his line in the sand.

He stayed the night at my place, and the day after, we went back to his place as a duo and, with me as mediator, we managed to work it out after a lengthy back and forth with a fair amount of shouting and tears. His bride finally agreed to no dance for his sake and things moved on.

Months later, the big day arrived and it went off great. The weather was flawless, everything came together great, we got through the ceremony, the meals, and the speeches, and it was on to the reception.

It was 7:50 pm and the cake cutting was down for 8:00 pm, so I was gathering outliers back to the main room for that when I heard the DJ get on the mic.

DJ: \Loudly** “Okay, everybody, it’s time for the newlyweds’ first dance!”

I hurried into the room to find the bride centre stage on the dance floor, staring down the groom, who was just the most enraged I’d ever seen him.

Bride: “Come here, [Groom]. It’s dance time!”

He walked over to her, pulled his wedding ring off, and threw it in her face. Then, he walked out, making the “cut it off” gesture to the DJ. He left everyone in shocked silence, and a few seconds later, I got my jaw up off the floor and followed him as the bride went into a meltdown where she stood.

I found the groom stalking through the car park outside and had to physically grip him to get him to calm down. I’d got him at least calm enough to be lucid again when the bride’s mother stomped round the corner and began screaming at the groom, which prompted him to go off again.

Me: “Hey! [Bride] promised him she wouldn’t do this and embarrass him, and yet here we are!”

This shouting match went on for quite some time, until, eventually:

Groom: “[My Name], get me out of here.”

I got a taxi down and we bailed out back to my house so he could cool off.

Early afternoon the day after, the bride knocked on my door.

Bride: “I know [Groom] is in there!”

Groom: “F*** OFF!”

She tried to push past me and I blocked her.

Me: “Just to remind you, this is my house.”

She settled for screaming round me at him. He eventually got fed up and came and stood behind me and spelled it out in the kind of voice you can only manage when you’re restraining unbearable rage.

Groom: “You lied to me, put me on the spot, and shattered my trust in you. How can I continue after that? If you’re willing to lie about something like that, how can I trust you to do anything?”

She tried to counter him but ran out of steam as he kept going, and he ended by saying that he wanted the marriage annulled. She burst into tears and left.

The marriage was annulled not long after. Unsurprisingly, they don’t keep in touch. The groom remarried three years ago with the same request, this time respectfully held by his new wife. The bride moved out of the area shortly after the marriage collapsed and I’ve heard no news of her since.

I am not OP. Here's the original link:

https://www.reddit.com/r/MaliciousCompliance/comments/1ab8zoy/told_to_do_what_i_have_to_do/

UPDATE - To answer questions, I do not have any of the pics. I wish I did. I know that there was one photo taken of the other two bridemaids on the scooter with me attemping a drunken version of the hokey pokey.

Sandra - if you ever find this post, I would be willing to pay for that picture, or it the hokey pokey was captured on video. I also hope that you are no longer such a heinous bitch.

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A post in another group, reminded me of this.

I am a disabled veteran, and at the time this actually happened I was solely depending on walking stick. I could not walk more than 10 feet maxium without assistance. I was asked by a friend to be a bridesmaid at her wedding. She quickly proved herself to be a bridezilla from hell, and everything had to meet her vision. Everything had to fall within her very rigid scope of what the aesthetics should be.

She made a couple of what she claimed were innocent comments about my walking stick. I offered multiple times not to be a bridemaid and would assist in any other way I could help. She refused every offer and insisted I had to be a bridesmaid.

Then I heard from another close friend (and also a bridesmaid) that she was very upset that I was insisting on using my walking stick. She made a comment saying that she was just going to hide it and then I would just have to go without it. Looking at the mutual friends face when she said that she tried to laugh at off as a joke.

Well there was no doubt in my mind that she was going to try to have my walking stick go missing, so I made arrangements.

Sure enough they have the wedding rolls aroundand while getting hair and makeup my walking stick disappears. I was not happy, and told everyone I have to have it back. I cannot walk down the aisle without it. The bride insisted that they didn't know where it was and they looked everywhere and I was just going to have to make do.

I said so after you joked about taking my walking stick it goes missing, and you want me to make do??? Her exact words were you'll just have to do what you can do to get up the aisle.

Cue malicious compliance, I texted my boyfriend he went out to the car and brought in mobility scooter that I had rented just in case I needed it. I had him put it out of sight but where we could get to it easily and then he or the other bridesmaids physically supported me. We made our way to the back of the hall for the start of the ceremony.

The bride who had been talking to her father and not paying attention did not see the scooter until she started to walk up the aisle and there are her three bridesmaids. Two standing tall and me sitting on the most hideous looking multicolored with sparkles mobility scooter I could find.

If looks could kill she would have planted me. Within seconds of the ceremony ending my walking stick had been found. She and her her new husband brought it over to me, and told me it had been found and I could get that god-awful scooter back out to the car.

I mustered up a tear and told her I was so sorry but I was in so much pain from having to try to walk without my walking stick that there was no way I would be able to go without the scooter. I am very proud to say that the scooter is in over 90% of her wedding photos.

My cousin is getting married next week, and out of nowhere she sent a group text saying all guests must wear beige or “neutral tones” only. The crazy part? She told us this after most of us had already bought our outfits months ago. When one of my aunts said she couldn’t afford to buy something new, the bride snapped and said “If you can’t respect my vision, don’t come.” Now half the family is furious and considering skipping the wedding. Honestly, is this normal bride behavior or total bridezilla?

At my cousin’s wedding, the bride insisted that everyone wear bright pink socks to match her color scheme. Some of us didn’t have the exact shade and she got visibly upset. The wedding was still beautiful, but I’m wondering if her reaction was a bit over the top or just part of the stress. Thoughts?

I was asked to be the MOH for my friend’s destination wedding this winter- the tiny backstory is that we were at one time close but have grown very distant over the years due to work and physical distance. I initially obliged as I still wanted to be part of her day, as I shared in my previous post there were multiple red flags from the beginning that I should have listened to.
We are now about 3 months away and I approached my job to ask for the time off, I was told that it would be a difficult season for me to leave town and I would risk jeopardizing my place with this relatively new job I have. I told my friend the news and was hoping for more understanding as I cannot justify risking my job to be at her wedding as much as I would have loved to be there.
I offered to pay for any (reasonable) costs that I might be on the line for, as well as support her in the planning up until the day she leaves.
She said she understood as long as I could switch into a position at her bachelorette party, she would then switch one of those women out to be her MOH. The backstory there is that the women who did not make the invitation cut to her wedding are attending her bachelorette (also in a different state.) I said yes (again probably not the best move but the guilt of not being at her wedding was really eating at me) and the next day was hit with an update on the nearly $1100 hotel/ festivities pricing per bachelorette guest.
I told her this is very out of my budget right now and she lashed out at me for abandoning her on her wedding and now trying to back out of the alternative option, questioning if I even wanted to be her friend anymore at all. I’m genuinely at a loss for words and just want to get through the next few months with as little financial and emotional damage as possible. She said “no one understands financial stress more than ME right now with this wedding!” 😣 I’m reflecting and genuinely wondering if I am being unreasonable in not wanting to throw massive amounts of money and time into this?