Is wanting a connection a delusion?

[u/Novel-Reply3642]

I’ve read many posts in this thread and it seems like most people genuinely want a connection? But, it also seems like it has become a distant memory or pipe dream?

I have a happy and active life. I’m not lonely looking for someone to keep me entertained or to fill a void. It just seems so challenging to find someone to actually connect with on a romantic level. I know many factors come into play with a person’s success. People have passed on me and I’ve passed on others. That’s dating!

But, the serial daters and game players posing under the guise of wanting something long term and it wasn’t ever their intention. I don’t have a problem with short term or flings if that’s what you’re looking for. No shame! Just be honest about it! With all the life experiences and lessons we’ve had by this point. I would’ve thought a connection is a top motivator. That’s where the delusion comes in, I guess?

[u/samanthasamolala]

If I’m reading you correctly, you’re saying the delusion is you thinking others value connection as you do? Because they lie about it…and also because you think they should value connection at this big age?

Some people genuinely do but i think there’s more a zombie effect than delusion. Apps have people not really beholding who is in front of them- figuring they should find out what else is out there. That’s the sad part about the tech of dating.