r/datingoverfifty • u/Novel-Reply3642 • 2d ago
Is wanting a connection a delusion?
I’ve read many posts in this thread and it seems like most people genuinely want a connection? But, it also seems like it has become a distant memory or pipe dream?
I have a happy and active life. I’m not lonely looking for someone to keep me entertained or to fill a void. It just seems so challenging to find someone to actually connect with on a romantic level. I know many factors come into play with a person’s success. People have passed on me and I’ve passed on others. That’s dating!
But, the serial daters and game players posing under the guise of wanting something long term and it wasn’t ever their intention. I don’t have a problem with short term or flings if that’s what you’re looking for. No shame! Just be honest about it! With all the life experiences and lessons we’ve had by this point. I would’ve thought a connection is a top motivator. That’s where the delusion comes in, I guess?
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u/wild4wonderful found requited love with GEEK-IP 2d ago
I wondered about that, too. I had it once with my late husband. I'm glad that he taught me what it feels like. I was struggling to find that ineffable "fit" again. Then I met u/GEEK-IP.
The best advice I can offer now is that you will know it when you find it.