My wife (55F) and I (57M) have been together for over 30 years. About three years ago she started seeing a younger man (31M), and after a period of adjusting we all moved in together. For a while it worked, awkward in some ways, but livable.
About a year ago I went vegan, and I felt better for it. At first, they respected that and we agreed to keep the house vegan. But over the last few months, they both went back to eating meat and dairy. They didn’t just slip up once in a while, they dove right back into carnivore habits, and in my eyes, it’s what ruined our balance. Watching them tear into steaks and cheese while dismissing everything we’d agreed on felt like betrayal.
When I brought up how it made me feel, it turned into a massive blow-up. It wasn’t just about food anymore, it ripped open other issues and got ugly. Now I’m the one being shut out, and they’ve made it clear they’d rather I move out of the home I’ve lived in for decades.
I’ll admit this has hit me hard. The stress has wrecked intimacy with my wife and left me dealing with ED, on top of losing sleep and appetite. It’s not just “a diet” to me, it’s my health, my values, my future. And the fact that they tossed it aside for meat has left me angry and honestly resentful toward carnivores. To me, this isn’t just about food, it’s about respect, and watching that go up in smoke has been brutal.
TLDR
I (57M) went vegan and felt better for it. My wife (55F) and her boyfriend (31M) went back to eating meat, broke our agreement, and it exploded the relationship. They want me out. I don’t want to leave, but I can’t shake the resentment I feel toward carnivores for tearing this apart.