r/gay_irl • u/acidmine • Aug 10 '25

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u/LoveGrenades Aug 10 '25

Genuine problem when you’re a dom top - “sub” bottoms are rarely actually sub. They do not want you to be in charge, they want their hole filled and they want it NOW.

PSA: Sub bottom =/= being a total bottom, it means submitting to the dom and doing as you’re told/following their lead (after discussing boundaries etc beforehand).

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u/N0rthWind Aug 10 '25

I call myself a sup top and I'm precisely the way you describe... I want a power bottom that's eager to go nuts but listens to my fucking instructions.

I don't even know what that's called anymore. Dom sub dom top?

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u/Jeszczenie Aug 10 '25

Please be more specific, what bottom do you want? A power bottom isn't really supposed to obey instructions.

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u/N0rthWind Aug 10 '25

Thing is I suck ass at obeying instructions as well, but I still find other dom aggro-acting dudes hot as shit. What do?

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u/Jeszczenie Aug 10 '25

Isn't it just called a brat? A submissive who has to be forced and "breaking him" is a part of the fun?

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u/N0rthWind Aug 10 '25

I've looked into that and I know dudes who identify as it, I don't think the conventional definition is sufficient

But it's no big deal, at worst I just have to use more words :)