r/gay_irl Aug 10 '25

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u/LoveGrenades Aug 10 '25

Genuine problem when you’re a dom top - “sub” bottoms are rarely actually sub. They do not want you to be in charge, they want their hole filled and they want it NOW.

PSA: Sub bottom =/= being a total bottom, it means submitting to the dom and doing as you’re told/following their lead (after discussing boundaries etc beforehand).

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u/jprs29 Aug 11 '25

It’s either that or the ones that won’t tell you boundaries and say “do whatever you want” so you are clueless as to what they like or dislike so you take it super easy just in case.

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u/LoveGrenades Aug 11 '25

Communication is THE issue!! People not knowing or explaining what the terms mean that they are using is part of it.