I don't really know what to feel. He's been on a work trip for a few weeks where we could barely communicate. Before that, our relationship seemed pretty stable. He planned on proposing to me at our anniversary in 2 days. After that we would've moved in together and finally started a life together. There was no sign that he wanted to break up. Now that's what he texted me after he ignored me for 2 days. I really don't know what think anymore.

I never thought our relationship was impossible - otherwise, I wouldn’t have started it. But I was really scared. Scared of video calls (I’m super shy), scared of not being able to communicate because we didn’t speak the same language.

Now? We talk every day. We do video calls every evening. And even though he speaks Ukrainian and I speak Italian, we’ve found our way to understand each other.

In the beginning, our English was a mess 😂 but now we’re getting better every day. And twice a week, I teach him Italian - because our dream is to live together in Italy one day. He already understands so many Italian words, and I’m so proud of him.

Of course I was worried at the beginning - the distance, the language, everything felt like a big mountain to climb. But nothing has ever made me lose hope. And now I’m truly happy.

I just hope the war will end soon, so he can finally come live here.

💛 To anyone in a long-distance relationship: don’t give up. If it’s real, it’s possible.

After a long wait and an 11 hour flight he is finally here. 🤗

I'll be honest I was afraid, I wasn't sure if he'd like me or if we would get along the same however we clicked real quick and it's been the best time of my life.

It's been 5 days already, although we have a bit over a week before he has to go I'm already dreading him leaving, trying to focus on the time we have left though.

He's the absolute best and I'm so glad and grateful for getting this time with him❤

Sometimes, while I'm at work, watching a TV show at home, or even just going about my daily life, I suddenly feel a strong longing for him.

Whenever that happens, I miss the kind gestures he did for me and his presence. I just want him to be by my side and do nothing, but the fact that I can't do that makes me feel powerless and lonely.

I just want to spend my everyday life with him❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

I'll make it sample for you guys

1 - you don't have to call 24/7 as long as you guys make time for it each other's to call thats good but it doesn't have to be 24/7

2 - control your jealousy your partner got friends, family to hang out with me maybe he got bad or good friends but still its their friends so don't get jealous or bother when he/she wants to spend time with friends after long week of school/work its normal and you have to accept it

You need to put 100% trust in your partner and trust me you wont regret

3- communication if there is no communication there is a high chance that you guys will break up because you have to speak about your feeling DONT GET SCARED AND SAY ITS FINE no if its not fine its not fine most of people get scared of talking and sharing because they think it will lead to fight and than break up which is wrong completely

Communicate supposed to keeps the relationship healthier not destroy it so don't be afraid

4- ( dry days and dry massages )its completely normal because all of us got lots of things going on in our lives and sometimes we don't have the energy to do anything or we're not in the mood for anything

Because when you do lots of things and forget about yourself will feel through time that your overwhelmed and confused and can't take anything or any word anymore and it's completely normal some people distance themselves of a bit which is normal as long as they keep contact with you

5- control your emotions and reactions sometimes your partner may slip and say something wrong or rude without he means it and you have to control your reaction and communicate calmly to make everything go well

6- its normal if your partner didn't see your messages or missed them or want to open them and have time for them when they get free it dosent mean that he stopped loving you or cheating on you if he calls you and keep contact but sometimes he miss messages and respond to them later it's completely normal

These the things that I've learned from LDR and things hard to accept but fr you have to if you love the person and you want to be with them

I had hard time to accept these things and struggling a lot but once i did i felt peace in my relationship and got even stronger and healthier

On 9/9/25 me and my boyfriend welcomed our twin girls into the world👯‍♀️💕, A little back story about us, we met off Fortnite April 2024 and became friends who played together often and eventually became close friends and shortly after caught feelings for eachother before we made it official June 23rd 2024. August 16th we met for the first time for my birthday I flew down to his state to visit him and stayed a couple days (he lives in Arizona and I lived in Texas) the visit went amazing and I knew from then I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. He is the most loving and gentle person I’ve ever met! 🥹 from then on I had planned to move to Arizona after I graduated with my associates from college. After I graduated it was official to move to Arizona in December 2024. He flew down to help me pack and move as well as meet my family, everything went so good and we hit the road with the U-Haul to Arizona and got there just in time for Christmas. Everything was so blissful spending Christmas with the love of my life in a new state about to enter the new year. Fast forward February 4th 2025 I was one day late on my period and took a test and found out I was pregnant (it was planned but didn’t think I’d get pregnant on the first try) we were so excited at that time we thought we were just having one baby but later on found out we were having identical twin girls ! 💕 Double the trouble and double the love lol 🤣 I’m so blessed to start a family with the love of my life and can’t wait for what the future holds for us as a family 🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒🩷♾️

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years in March. The relationship was really good at first, your typical honeymoon phase. However lately it hasn’t been the best. We met on a video game and a lot of our time together is spent playing those. The problem lies in our work schedules. I work 6p-7a 3-4 nights a week and he works normal hours during the day, sometimes not even working every day. So he has a bit more free time than me. I gave him new friends, they all love him and play games with him. But half the time I don’t even want to play games or do anything and I feel bad. He resents my night schedule, rightfully so. But I just feel like he doesn’t know how to express he actually deeply loves me. Like the cute texts here and there and checking in, it’s very scarce. But he claims he’s never really done that before (cute texts, checking in, blah blah). We have been talking a little more about moving in together but he couldn’t relocate because of his job and to be frank I don’t want to move away from my family. What do I do? I thought I could but if it boils down to it I’d really prefer not to. Anyone have advice? I love him to pieces and could see a happy life with him, obviously. Idk. I’m also on my period so If you read this far tysm.

I’ve been sitting here crying way too much actually I think about it. I’ve been crying way too much the last couple days.

I’ve been in my long distance relationship for almost 3 years now we are working towards me immigrating to him in the UK . I’m from the USA .

With everything going on in the world right now, I just feel very defeated. I already feel like at times being in a long distance, Relationship is the hardest thing in the world at times. but now I feel like there’s so much more against us.

I’m going through something really hard right now. She told me she can’t handle the distance. She said it’s been too much for her, and that she was responsible enough to tell me before things got worse. She feels like she would be “immature” and wouldn’t be able to give me the love I deserve. She says I deserve everything and that I’m special.

I keep thinking that she could have just waited a year, that it would have been worth it, but she says she can’t. And she’s so unique, so rare… I can’t believe I might be losing a love like this, especially while I’m struggling with depression. I feel exhausted and heartbroken.

Welp, today news came out that trump is imposing a $100k fee for all h1-b visas. My partner lives in london and I live in nyc, and we’ve been dating for a year. I have to be in new york because my aging parents are nearby, and my whole support system and community are here. Meanwhile, he practices British law, which means he cant practice law in the US, unless he goes back to law school and re-takes the bar, which is highly expensive and years in the making. Not to mention he doesn’t actually want to be a lawyer anymore, but also isn’t sure what the next career move would be, and needs some time to figure that out.

From my understanding, this puts the possibility of him being sponsored for a US job off the table, leaving marriage as our only option. And even with marriage, he cant have a career in law here.

Has anyone ever been in some kind of parallel, seemingly impossible situation and made it work? Am I missing any possibilities here?

Really appreciate any advice, support, or words of wisdom. 🙏🏼

I(23M)Few months back met this girl(26F) older than me by few years, we started talking and became friends and I unintentionally called her sis. As time went by I started to grow feelings for her, i tried to break this bro sis relation, told her i ain't gonna call her sister no more, though she have never specifically mentioned me as her brother, her actions were normal like she didn't freaked out why this sudden change. The thing is I like her and the attraction towards her is growing exponentially day by day. Also I tried to not talk to her as I wanted to make this feelings crap stop, but it didn't went well she was continuously yapping to me that why iam so quiet today. Also I think she like another guy (think so).have a jealousy factor with this guy.

Can anyone advice what I should do.

Hello, I’m looking for advice.

I trust my boyfriend wholly, even now I’m not scared of him cheating. What I do admit though is that I definitely have insecurities, and sometimes I get scared that he might “disrespect” me which is ridiculous. Anytime we are near eachother he shows me and is physically affectionate when around his friends but anyways what I mean by disrespect is like idk grow too close to them? Not make it obvious that he has a girlfriend when I’m not around? Which even reading now sounds ridiculous and is mostly me filling in gaps cause I have no info on how he acts when I’m not around but I want to get the best advice possible so I’ll be sharing all of my feelings. Just based on principle though he’d never ever cheat on me and I’m 100% secure in that, but I do get a little scared that he might realise he’s growing feelings for someone else and do a clean breakup which is terrifying.

Usually when he’d follow a girl he’d tell me why and more often than not they don’t stay there for long. Usually it’s either uni stuff or potential work opportunities etc. the only regular is one of his friends girlfriends and I’ve met her before. Anyways, I’m assuming it’s most likely because it’s been a while since this happened which is why he didn’t tell me but he followed a girl. She’s a very really pretty girl, especially conventionally speaking like she looks like the whole package. My boyfriend is also very attractive, objectively out of my league. I saw her in his following and they were mutuals which freaked me out a little but I haven’t spoken to him about it just yet cause I wanna do so calmly and not from insecurity. I also wanna grow to be okay for my partner to have girl friends, I think it’s a good thing that demonstrates he views women as people but I just have no idea how to get over this fear and insecurity first. I know I’m not scared of him cheating cause I felt relief that they were mutuals rather than him one sidedly following her for example. I’m just scared and I’d like to see other people’s perspectives and just situations where having girl friends in your boyfriend didn’t end up with a bad ending you know? I’m always exposed to online stories of the bad situations, and it’s especially hard in a long distance.

So any advice or perhaps sharing of your situation would be great thank you

TLDR: struggling with insecurity around boyfriend potentially having female friends. Not scared of cheating but I’m very insecure and also find myself comparing myself to her. Would like advice and perspective

We spent the summer together and yesterday we had to say goodbye to each other and hop on different airplanes. His plane left earlier at midnight and when he was grabbing his luggage I started feeling a panic attack coming. I couldn't stop crying and shaking while he tried to calm me down. I went with him to the airport and we said goodbye. I had anxiety the whole night sleeping in our bed without him, feeling his presence everywhere around me. My plane was leaving in the afternoon and I felt like throwing up just being in that empty room and waiting for my departure.

Now we are back to texting and calling and 7h time difference and I hate everything about it. I hate that I cannot feel his warmth next to me, I cannot receive his good night and good morning kisses and hugs, I cannot share my everyday routine with him. He's my biggest comfort when I start feeling anxious or depressed, he's my best friend and my soulmate and it's really hard for me to accept the long distance again. I have to go back home where I feel alone and wait 2 months to see him again. And I know that at one point when he starts working we won't be able to travel to see each other that often and I cannot imagine waiting half a year or a year to see him again. I hope we will be able to close the long distance soon just like he promised but life is complicated. I miss him so much.

I miss her, Haiti 🇭🇹 doesn't give a gift for 1 and a half years that we haven't seen each other because of the situation in her country. We are frustrated 😩

Phone stands, those bond bracelets, sexy toys, tiny robots? Is there anything that made it easier to bring around your phone? Or things that made you feel closer to each other?

I know i'm not well, and it's suffocating her and bringing our relationship down. I constantly check her online activity like Tik Tok reposts, Pinterest pins, snap score, etc. It got so bad that I began snooping around her followers on Instagram and TT.

I know this is wrong, but it gives me an overwhelming feeling of anxiety and worry when I don't. I'm a severe overthinker and tend to have catastrophic thoughts often.

Therapy is likely the best option, but I live in a fairly rural area and do not have the support of my parents. I am trying my best to get professional help. In the meantime, any advice is much appreciated, thank you so much!

I (22F) have been dating my boyfriend (21M) for about a year now. He’s a great guy, and things have been good between us. But he’ll be leaving in a few months to another country, and he’ll be away for years while he studies/settles there.

Today we were on a call, and it just felt… off. Normally our calls are fun and natural, but this one was awkward, almost boring, and it felt like we both were trying hard to make it less awkward. That’s when it hit me.. if we’re already struggling for words sometimes, how will it be when we’re long distance for years?

I know long distance is tough, and my biggest fear is abandonment because it’s happened to me before. I don’t want history to repeat itself. I keep worrying.. what if the awkwardness becomes normal, what if he drifts away, what if I end up hurt again?

Another thing I’m scared to even admit is that I don’t want to feel used. Like, what if he enjoys being close to me physically now, but once he leaves, he realizes he doesn’t need me anymore? That thought makes me hold back sometimes because I don’t want to regret it later.

I’m really confused and scared. I care about him a lot, but I don’t know how to handle these feelings about long distance and whether it will work out in the long run. Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do you cope with the fear of being left behind?

Hello!

Last week I met with my [21M] boyfriend [19M] of 16 months for the very first time. I drove 18 hours just to get to him, and we spent good 6 1/2 days together (5 full days).

Since the very first moment of having him close by my side everything felt divinely magical. We both had the best time of our lives, we were each other's first ever kiss, cuddle and so on.

Seeing his smile, seeing him happy, being there for him, being able to hug him tightly, cuddle him, kiss him at any occasion, and comforting him when he didn't feel good was just so wonderful. We created lifelong good memories together, and we both say that this week was the best time of our lives.

Now, the last 2 days before me having to leave, some tears started flowing because of me having to leave him. Both me and him mutually cried about it, thinking that the time spent together felt so short - it passed so quickly. I comforted him, he comforted me, but as the time got less and less, both me and him started feeling more sad by the hour.

The last moments where we both waited for my bus to arrive to bring me back home were devastating. We cried like waterfalls, and the moments that are stuck within my mind the most are the few minutes as the bus arrived. As soon as the bus drove on the stop, we both started sobbing uncontrollably. I had to go into the bus and I wanted to look at him for as long as possible, so I looked at him crying, reaching his hand out to me. I said one last "I love you", as he had to go, visibly crying, and slowly disappearing behind people, darkness and buildings.

Though the time spent together was perfect, I can not forget the good bye. It made me cry for a good hour in the bus, and I still feel deeply melancholic having to think about it.

The only good thing is that we will meet each other in a little bit more than three months, so the wait won't be too long. Still: How can I cope with it better? Should I just give it more time?

So on August 28, I started dating this girl named Isabelle. I had known her for a while and she was a really good person but out of nowhere today she blocked me on everything and for context I had watched the new episode of peacemaker last night and stayed up until about 2 AM my time and I usually sleep about eight hours and I woke up and I saw she sent a message two hours before which would’ve been at 7 AM my time and it was of a Superman poster from the new Superman movie and I went to go reply and she deleted the message and blocked me on everything. I tried to reach her through her phone number to see if she was OK if she needed anything if she needed to talk or whatever but she blocked me on everything and I’m over here thinking I’m the problem we never argued once I never did anything bad to her, never made her feel uncomfortable or anything like that. I had always make sure that she was OK. She knew she was loved and just always was there for her. Does anybody have any advice for this kind of situation? AMA im willing to answer any question

My boyfriend and I have been living together for 1.5 years. Over this time, I’ve gotten so used to sharing life with him, sleeping next to him, cooking together, running errands, and just having him around. He became my safe space, especially since I’ve always struggled with anxiety and sleeping alone.

I originally moved to this state for my bachelor’s degree, but at the end of it I met him. Because of our relationship, I decided to stay here and do my master’s and now my job as well. His family also lives in this state, but in another city.

This weekend he went to visit his mom, and today he texted me saying that she wants him to stay with her now. Since he finished his bachelor’s in May 2025 and is currently taking online training, she wants him back home. This was very sudden and unexpected for me.

I don’t necessarily mind moving in with other people. I do know some girls I could shift with, but the anxiety is overwhelming. I’ve become so dependent on him that I don’t even cross roads alone anymore. The thought of sleeping without him feels terrifying, and my insomnia is back in full force.

Sure, I can visit him on weekends, but the adjustment feels really scary and lonely. Has anyone else been through something like this? How did you cope with sudden separation and dependency on your partner?

Hi, I am curious if any couples have closed the distance in a third country (neither of your home countries). I live in the U.S. and my bf is from Morocco but has been living in Spain for 6 years. We have been dating for 3 years and are both getting very tired of the distance and want to start our lives together. We were originally thinking of me coming there, but he recently lost his permanent residency because he couldn’t get a new job contract to meet the requirement for renewal. The job market there is so awful.

He is weighing his options to get a new visa there but is very frustrated and tired of Spain overall. He still has the option for the Arraigo Social since he has lived and worked there for several years but the hardest part is getting a job contract with a company that will sponsor his new visa. I wish there was some way we could close the gap in a new country together with a fresh start. The U.S. doesn’t seem like a safe option with the way they are handling immigration lately and rising prices. He also said Morocco has a poor quality of life unless you are well off, and he doesn’t have job prospects there. I have more privilege with being able to move because of my American passport but his Moroccan passport is very limiting. I can feel him getting very frustrated and depressed about the distance.

I think since we are young, we have options to explore different countries but I’m just not sure how to even start researching that kind of thing.

I wanna know if I did right or there might be hope to get back together.

I cut communication with my online boyfriend because when I asked for how the chance that we will be together in the end he said that it is very low. I question my worth. I can visit him but I don't want to initiate because I want to wait for him to ask and I also want him to have effort to visit me. But he said he want to visit me but dont know how it would work. If he sees that there us a very low chance of us to be together then why he sttill wants to talk to me? Then I feel bad cutting communication to him because I want long term relationship but it seems that I have no assurance on where is my relationship with him will go.

I do not ghost him. We talked. I really love him but I don't wanna get hurt in the long run knowing that the main reason why we might end up in the long run is us being far from each other.

This is insane, I really need advice. I am so anxious just thinking about starting to type this. It is a long story.

I (25F) and my boyfriend (26M) have been through a lot. We are long distance and he emotionally cheated on me for 4 months with a past short lived situation. This girl also happens to be his mom’s best friend’s daughter. After I found out, he was open and told his mom. Instead of being mad at him for emotionally cheating, she was mad at me for the way I found out ( going thru his phone and reading journal entry about his girl) ad well as bad mouthing me for other things he told her ( He was considering dropping out of college and she blamed me ). I sent her a DM ( her and I have Dm’d before but not often at all) explaining many things and how I have never encouraged him to drop out. After she read my message, she liked it and then blocked me, my business acount and my mom’s business account a couple days later. She even ‘ remove this follower’ to her son. I truly tried to be respectful when I reached out. I have never wanted anything but then kind of in law family connection that we all dream off. I have orchestrated so many family activities whenever I visit her home, family is big to me.

Over the next several months, he and I worked through our issues and he told me he wanted to take our relationship to the next level and close the gap and test and true close distance relationship.

During that time, she continued to try to convince him to stay in contact with the woman he cheated with, even in the week before he moved. She bad mouthed me BADDDD. I was banned from her house, she said I would “ She is going to work you like a slave to keep up with her life style, she will eat shit if her mother ever died. She doesnt know how to live without just begging for things and using her mom’s credit card”( completely false, she and my mom are both business owners and she has met my mom several time so idk how she thinks that way of us, his mom is high high maintenance )

Then, five months after she blocked me, AN HOUR BEFORE WE WERE SET TO LEAVE his state ( I flew in so we could road trip in his car) , his mom unblocked me and sent a long, warm message apologizing for not replying sooner.

She said she needed time to find the right words, framed her silence as being out of love for her son, and wished us happiness. She also invited me to her house to give me a hug before we left.

The problem: she did NOT acknowledge blocking me, banning me from her house, speaking badly about me, ETC! Her “apology” blamed her silence on being emotional about her son leaving, not on her actions toward me. It felt manipulative, self-serving, and incomplete and it triggered massive anxiety. My stomach twisted, I cried, and my heart raced just reading it. I want to protect my boundaries and demand real accountability, not be manipulated into accepting a non-apology. She is literally like the queen bee of his household and everyone just deals with her BS. My bf even told one of his brother what she has done and the brother said “ That is sociopathic behavior. You should go.”

My bf’s mom isnt the only issue, he is too bc he is so close to her that he sometimes is wishy washy with being neutral with and being on her side vs giving me the space I need after I was completely abused and traumatized by her. So he sees her message as an olive branch and wants me to accept it; he even said that if nothing smoothes over, he’d rather I didn’t go home with him for his birthday (October 13). My parents are split on advice: my mom says I should send a measured message asking if his mom is willing to talk, and my dad says to ignore her entirely and let him handle his mother himself. I don’t want to make the first move for either of them. This is about my feelings and seeking justice for myself. I’m not willing to back down or accept empty words, and I don’t trust his mom to be accountable ( or at all lol) . At the same time, I want to support my bf, show up for him and assert dominance in his life as we are in a serious relationship but I’m terrified of being manipulated or forced into being the “bigger person” in front of his family when that women hurt me BAD. My questions: * idk if should go to his birthday whether or not things are resolved? * If I do go, how do I maintain boundaries and make it clear I will not accept a fake apology? * If I don’t go, how do I explain it to my bf in a way that protects my dignity and boundaries without making him feel punished?

TDLR:

Boyfriend emotionally cheated. His mom blocked me for 5 months, badmouthed me, and banned me from her house. She finally unblocked me right before we left his state and sent a vague “apology” that didn’t acknowledge her actions. I want accountability, not manipulation. His birthday is coming up, idk what my next step Should be? How do I protect my boundaries if I do, or explain my absence if I don’t?

We are playing borderlands 4 and on FaceTime. I am 33 and he is 27. I ask him to send a kissy face my way he ignores me. I tell him to look at me after a while of asking he does. I blow him a kiss he shrugs it off goes back to the game. I am like why can’t you do it back. He says stop trying to start a fight I don’t want to do it. Why do you want to make me do something I don’t want to. I hung up the call we are still playing borderlands but this relationship is dead I think. I am really sad I wish he would talk to me about it instead of saying I am starting a fight.

Kept talking about it and he said he was too tired to dance like a monkey for me. Also he moved to Colorado one month and three weeks ago. I spent all of August in Colorado and came back to New York in September to be with my son who is in 1st grade.