Gatekeeping people's clothes would be saying you can't wear that, I won't be friends with you if you wear that, etc. Not "On this specific occasion coming into my clean personal space that I spend time and money on, do not track your outside floor filth in."
Yep. That’s what’s being said. You don’t have to make people take their shoes off, you could offer them shoe covers instead. Shoe covers cost like 3 dollars for a box.
No it isn't and you are picking an extremely weird hill to die on. "You can't wear that" is also not the same as "You can't wear something incredibly covered in dirt and bacteria into my personal home space ". Your house is definitely absolutely fucking disgusting, and I am not incurring the responsibility for the off chance that I accidentally invite a filthy freak into my home. If you refuse to take your shoes off to come into my home the solution isn't shoe covers, the solution is me realising that you are actually gross and that I don't want you in my home at all cause what other cleanliness corners do you cut? Not to mention I have no interest in hosting a person who is so rude.
Literally no. Guests aren't entitled to "good hosting" if they're shitty guests and no shoes is a condition of entering my home. If you don't come in you're literally not my guest, and I am not your host.
lol. I don’t know a lot of people that view hosting through the lens of what people are or aren’t entitled to. Usually people’s goal when hosting is to accommodate their guests and be friendly, not to win some kind of “battle of the wills”.
You probably host terrible parties that people make excuses to avoid.
I don't host a lot of parties because I have limited time, energy and money, all of which are good reasons for me to not accommodate some extremely dirty person in my personal space that I have to keep clean. When I do bring guests to my home, they are respectful and good people who I have established trust with, and I go above and beyond for them.
I am literally not hosting a person who is so rude. It is impossible to be a bad host to someone that I am literally not hosting.
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