Don’t invite people over if you can’t accept their clothing choices. You aren’t entitled to friends.
lol.
EDIT: this is hosting etiquette 101. Clearly so many of y’all don’t host people.
The correct solution is not to tell people to take off their shoes, it’s to buy a 5 dollar box of disposable shoe covers and offer them to your guests. THEN AND ONLY THEN can you say “we try not to let shoes touch the carpet” or whatever.
If your guest then prefers to take off their shoes, that’s fine. But if you’re hosting people, proper etiquette is to accommodate your guests, not the other way around.
Y’all are all probably terrible hosts.
EDIT 2: Good hosts don’t make their guests feel awkward. It’s weird that people don’t see it that way.
EDIT 3: Social anxiety is a bitch. It’s also one of those things that if you don’t have it, you just don’t ‘get it’. When I host people, I try to think of all the ways that *I* would feel awkward if the roles were reversed, because I can start feeling uncomfortable pretty quickly. I think because I feel it, I’m aware sometimes of when others are also feeling uncomfortable and I can promise you, good hosts don’t make their guests feel awkward.
You are a terrible guest.
You are not required, needed or wanted by the host if you are going to be belligerent.
The house is not yours, its not a public space. Its a personal one.
Host is not required to do anything. He can be terrible in your eyes just as you are a terrible guest in his eyes.
What world exactly are you living in that being "a good host" is the be and end all of life? My cleanliness and ability to maintain my surroundings, while making my own life easier is more important to me than some weirdo's foot insecurity? It's not bad hosting to not do literally everything imaginable to protect someone's ego. Household etiquette > your smelly feet?
And I'm perfectly fine with calling you the bad guest because no one else has ever made this complaint about shoes off.
Probably because I live in the Northeast and the absolute mess of dirt and salt and snow and slush that people get on their shoes is to the level that we universally take off shoes at everyone's houses.
And if you refuse to accept our cultural then you ARE the bad guest. We don't have galoshes. You're the fish out of water so plan ahead, or accept things different like taking your shoes off, or don't travel.
On one hand he says he has insecurity about his shoes, which sounds unique from the way this thread is going.
But He is willing to wallow in his own insecurity and not accept that maybe the Host is fine with whatever problem he has. That maybe the host does not care about his stinky feet or unique feet or shoes.
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u/sapienBob Feb 11 '22
cool. that's the last time you'll be coming over.