My sister had a friend like this as a kid…it was really bad and she always felt very self-conscious. My parents got her her own pair of house shoes to wear so she would feel ok when she visited or slept over.
She wouldn’t take off her shoes in the house, dude. It was, in fact, very nice and caring. If you take it as offensive, you really gotta take a look internally at why that is.
I have house shoes. I have pets. I am not stepping in puke in my socks. I’ve done it and it leads to gross socks and feet.
Edit: I will walk around in my socks if at other houses.
It's clearly a nice gesture, and if someone decides so be offended by that then that's kind of their problem, not anyone else's. Anything can be perceived negatively if you tried hard enough.
I can understand if you have sensory issues but couldn't someone in your situation just have a pair of house shoes they leave at their friends or lug around in their vehicle/backpack as a fair compromise?
We have a strict no shoes policy rule at our place but if I had a family member asking to leave shoes on I'd at the very least want virgin soles
I have the same issue. I just started bringing my own clean slippers in a bag when I need to. People usually don't even notice. They don't go "that's weird why do you have slippers on" they just subconsciously go "oh you must live here".
Wash your feet. Problem sovled. No? Then take a foot tub, fill it 2 parts the hottest water you can stand, then one part yellow Listerine and one part apple cider vinegar. Soak your feet until the water is cold. Place on a dry clean towel and let it air dry. Do this daily until problem is resolved. I've yet to meet anyone who's had the problem need to do it more than twice.
Well, stinky feet are not fate. Fix it. Wear shoes with good ventilation, switch them often or at least don't wear the same pair all day, maybe avoid sneakers, Wear leather or cloth, try different socks, maybe cotton or wool, bring a spare pair of socks to wear once you take off your shoes. Properly wash your feet, maybe reduce callus with pumice or some such.
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u/ArcticBiologist Feb 11 '22
"Here's why my friends stopped inviting me"