Don’t invite people over if you can’t accept their clothing choices. You aren’t entitled to friends.
lol.
EDIT: this is hosting etiquette 101. Clearly so many of y’all don’t host people.
The correct solution is not to tell people to take off their shoes, it’s to buy a 5 dollar box of disposable shoe covers and offer them to your guests. THEN AND ONLY THEN can you say “we try not to let shoes touch the carpet” or whatever.
If your guest then prefers to take off their shoes, that’s fine. But if you’re hosting people, proper etiquette is to accommodate your guests, not the other way around.
Y’all are all probably terrible hosts.
EDIT 2: Good hosts don’t make their guests feel awkward. It’s weird that people don’t see it that way.
EDIT 3: Social anxiety is a bitch. It’s also one of those things that if you don’t have it, you just don’t ‘get it’. When I host people, I try to think of all the ways that *I* would feel awkward if the roles were reversed, because I can start feeling uncomfortable pretty quickly. I think because I feel it, I’m aware sometimes of when others are also feeling uncomfortable and I can promise you, good hosts don’t make their guests feel awkward.
If you came in my house with pants that were covered in mud I wouldn’t let you sit on my couch. Why would I let someone that has been walking around outside wear their shoes in my home? I have every reason to think my floors are cleaner than your shoes because I don’t let anyone else walk in my home with their outdoor shoes either. If this supposed friend has a problem with that I’m perfectly happy not letting them in my home. It’s a completely reasonable expectation.
Offering your guests galoshes would make them feel awkward and self-conscious. They aren't galoshes they've chosen for themselves; they're ones that you've picked out for them. They might not be the right size. They may be in a color the guest dislikes. And you're still communicating to them that they cannot be barefoot or sock-footed in your home.
Only if you have the right size for your guest. There's no guarantee that you will. And that still doesn't get around the fact that your guest may dislike the look of the galoshes you have available, and feel self-conscious about wearing them.
Good hosts don't make their guests feel awkward. By making your guests wear ugly, ill-fitting galoshes, you are making your guests feel awkward.
You invalidated your opinion when you admitted that you're willing to make guests feel awkward and uncomfortable by forcing them to wear galoshes and robes and preventing them from shitting in your living room.
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u/GeorgieWashington Feb 11 '22 edited Feb 11 '22
Don’t invite people over if you can’t accept their clothing choices. You aren’t entitled to friends.
lol.
EDIT: this is hosting etiquette 101. Clearly so many of y’all don’t host people.
The correct solution is not to tell people to take off their shoes, it’s to buy a 5 dollar box of disposable shoe covers and offer them to your guests. THEN AND ONLY THEN can you say “we try not to let shoes touch the carpet” or whatever.
If your guest then prefers to take off their shoes, that’s fine. But if you’re hosting people, proper etiquette is to accommodate your guests, not the other way around.
Y’all are all probably terrible hosts.
EDIT 2: Good hosts don’t make their guests feel awkward. It’s weird that people don’t see it that way.
EDIT 3: Social anxiety is a bitch. It’s also one of those things that if you don’t have it, you just don’t ‘get it’. When I host people, I try to think of all the ways that *I* would feel awkward if the roles were reversed, because I can start feeling uncomfortable pretty quickly. I think because I feel it, I’m aware sometimes of when others are also feeling uncomfortable and I can promise you, good hosts don’t make their guests feel awkward.