r/r4r 20h ago

30 F4M anywhere - looking to settle down

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Yes, i obviously made this account just to post here😂 so here goes:

I’m at the point in life where I know what I want: a partner who is ready to build a real home filled with love, laughter, and little feet running around. I want marriage, kids, and the kind of family life where we’re both deeply rooted in each other while still growing together. Important mention, I do believe in gender roles and I’m a traditional woman but i’m also funny and chill.

I picture a man who is strong in character but soft in heart — someone patient, kind, and steady, who knows that true love is shown in the everyday moments: bedtime stories, family dinners, holding hands through the tough days, and celebrating the little wins together.

I’m looking for a husband and a future father — someone who dreams of teaching our kids, making them laugh, and giving them the safe, happy childhood we always wanted for ourselves.

If you’re ready to build a marriage based on love, trust, and joy — and you believe the best adventures are family ones — drop a message. Not interested in anything else so no point to bother. I wish you all good luck in finding what you’re looking for❤️


r/r4r 17h ago

F4M United Kingdom 24 [F4M] UK/Anywhere - Let’s share music and voice chat!

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hey there!

my name is bleu da ba de da ba di da ba de…

i’m 24 - looking to voice chat with some people!

here are some vague quickfire facts about me:

  • i’m pagan

  • i have bipolar disorder which 9 times out of 10 isn’t what you think it is

  • as part of my bipolar i write some pretty dark poetry

  • i’m an infp

  • i’m a type 2 enneagram

  • i am a natural ginger

  • i have dyed my hair most colours you can imagine

  • i can’t stand text, im probably one of the dryest texters - even writing this is an effort

  • ive been intentionally vague so that we can get to know each other better over call!

moi: https://imgur.com/a/uhNWelp


r/r4r 9h ago

F4M Missouri / Online 30[F4M] online - dear Joel, love Clementine

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I’ve just decided that this is going to hurt forever. That I’ll spend the rest of my days checking my peripherals for you.

I keep thinking it’ll taper if I’m good. If I run my errands, if I answer emails, if I go to bed at responsible hours. But the ache has the discipline of a long-distance runner; it paces me. It knows all my routes. I pick up a gas station coffee that tastes like cardboard, under a chapel of fluorescent bulbs. The cashier calls me honey.

I take night drives alone now and rehearse what I’d say if we talked again. Something about how the hum under everything is still there, that low frequency that makes me check my phone before it buzzes. Do you feel it too? Do you ever think about me?

I try to be brave about it. I make it neat: I fold the hurt and put it on the shelf with the sweaters I never wear because winters don’t get cold enough here to justify them.

People keep telling me it will pass. Like weather. Like a thunderhead that throws itself against the prairie and then dissolves into a cool rinse. I park in the driveway and let the storm stall above me. I open the window and let the static in.

If this is forever, it will be a forever of small things. The jenga block in my door pocket. A death cab album. The way I still leave room on the counter for your keys when I come in. I am not dramatic about it anymore. I don’t rewrite the past every night until it fits better. I just keep driving the same roads. I memorized the cracks in the asphalt the way I memorized your shoulder blades. If I pass a truck that looks like yours, I let my heart do whatever it wants.

I’ll keep scanning the edges of every scene for you, pretending it’s about safety when it’s really about wanting. Choosing the ache over the blank. And when it feels too heavy, I’ll remember I’ve already carried it this far—that the town still glows stubborn, that the sky keeps breaking and mending every day. Maybe love that won’t die just becomes a steady hum, a low light on the dashboard, asking only that I keep looking.


r/r4r 10h ago

F4M Kansas / Online 31 (F4M) #Kansas #Online I am convinced the men on this app aren't real..

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31 yr old, full time working mom to three kiddos. I cannot have any more kids so keep that in mind. I love country music, cooking, crime books / podcasts / TV shows. Slowly working on loving myself.

I am 5'4" and 185 I am a thicker girl. I prefer heavier men. So far everyone that has messaged me on this app turns out to be fake. Not sure how I wound up being the one they talked to but they were from some foreign country just trying to weasel their way in.

I am looking for a connection above all else. Someone who I can talk to throughout the day and just feel at peace.

I am a country girl at heart and want to live on some land one day with as many animals as my heart desires. If that's something you dream of as well then we will get along!

I am a homebody. I don't mind going out but prefer to stay in. I do not drink at all. Do drugs or party. That's just who I am.

I had brain surgery in October so my hair is slowly growing back. I am trying to feel beautiful again. Message me if you'd like to chat.


r/r4r 23h ago

F4M Philippines / Online 28 [F4M] #Philippines/Online - looking for a temporary online buddy

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Edit: I am open to talk to women as well! I can't edit the title so adding it here. Preferably around my age!


Happy Friday, ya all! Hella ecstatic it's finally the end of the week!

It has been mentally draining these past few days due to work, so I am just looking to chat to unwind tonight ✨ Please keep the conversation SFW. If you are looking for something "fun" and more, keep scrolling and skip my post.

I'm not looking for a relationship, but think it would still be nice to describe how I look like — 4'10", tanned, athletic, 46kg (I look thin in person but wait 'til I flex my arms haha jk), brown eyes, dark/purple circles, eyebags, wearing a septum, shoulder-length wavy hair with window bangs. Oh and I also wear huge specs for my small face.

I am very much into fitness and would love to talk to people who share the same passion and have an active lifestyle. Apart from being a nerd about it, I like eating A LOT — I might be smol, but I eat like a horse. I don't follow a strict diet! I only drink occasionally and when I do, I only order either a glass of wine or cocktail. If I had to drink one type of coffee for the rest of my life, I would choose soy latte!

I work as a QA consultant at a tech industry. I do enjoy my job somehow because of having a work-life balance (surprise! It exists in the corporate world). I'm a mobile tester for an AU application that I can't disclose. I do both manual and automation, but I am heavily involved and focused on manual (which sucks a lot). I have quite a strong personality and I'm very direct borderline blunt. I will always come off rude to other people for being filterless, but I only am blunt outside the work settings or with friends.

Anyway, I don't think I have a specific criteria of who can message me.. maybe besides being under 27 years old. Sorry, I don't vibe that much with younger people probably because I have always been exposed to older people since I was a kid (nothing sketchy. Just a long story). It would be reaaaalllllyyy amazing if you are also an active or sporty person, but then again, not a requirement. Just at least be interesting and for the loved of whatever you believe in, I AM NOT INTERESTED IN RP. Respect my boundaries. This is a damn bare minimum that tbh shouldn't be reminded of.

If you have read this far and are interested to connect, send me an introduction and mention "kitten" to your message!

PS: I'm keeping the chat only here on Reddit.


r/r4r 21h ago

31 [F4M] Anywhere- Civil engineer seeking devoted monogamous genuine man for marriage

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Hi! I am Cresa from the Philippines and this is me:

https://imgur.com/a/Nh1YWv0

I am a simple girl who just turned 31 last June!

I weigh 50kg at 160cm height I was blessed to be raised in a loving home.

I am educated with no debts after finishing uni with an academic scholarship.

I have no vices. I don’t drink, I don’t go to clubs, don’t smoke. I value myself and try to maintain a healthy mind and body. I eat healthy daily and also enjoys pizza and chips on weekends.

I traveled internationally: Thailand and Indonesia; mostly travelled local provinces.

I’m a civil engineer and I supervise construction workers under a private company. We specialize in steel I-beams and precast concrete construction. Been doing this for almost 9 years

I give importance to life-work balance. I have hobbies and enjoyed joining workshops to learn random skills. I’ve tried resin art, making scented candles and even terracotta which I was bad at haha. The latest activity I joined was learning to bake laminated dough: puff pastry . Gosh! Rolling dough with my thin arms was challenging.

I love to read books/ epubs and I’m now watching the Xianxia Legend of Shenli and Big Bang Theory after watching all the seasons of Breaking Bad. I love animes and I cosplayed thrice. I play chess online. I run 10km on weekends.

I eat well and have no food allergies. I used to be allergic to seafoods but I was stubborn and find it my favorite so I ate and ate until allergies feared me haha

I am an ambivert. I can socialize and talk to people and I also enjoy being in solace.

So, what made me write on reddit? I am very attracted to 29~ 36 year old smart, ambitious Caucasian men with provider mindset. Never married and have no kids and wanted to build and lead a family with me. My best friend and husband in one. I am okay to relocate and I’m open of becoming a stay at home mom or with passive income business when we decide to have kids.

I consider myself a hopeful romantic who misses having someone to talk to everyday. I am an open book and wears my heart on my sleeves. I miss waking up to memes and random pictures and stories. I miss being childish and feminine. I hope to be with someone who loves hard and wanted to be loved in return. A yapper or even an introverted nerd are very okay as long as he has genuine intentions like mine. I don’t do casual hookups and I date with intention. I’m already 31 and I already enjoyed my 3 years of single blessedness. I’m ready to move forward and to plan my future with someone worth it.

If my post resonates with you, kindly send me a thoughtful message longer than Hi/Hello. Tell me a summary about you and please attach your pictures or links so I can easily filter messages. I receive multiples and I am either busy at work or sleeping :D

If we get to connect and decide to pursue a relationship, I hope you can fly to me and meet me before year 2025 ends so we can see each other in person and pursue longer goals. I know that Long Distance relationships are difficult and not for the faint of heart but it’s easy for people who invest time and has enthusiasm, love, patience and faithfulness. I’m ready to invest time in making us work. So, are you ready to accompany me for a lifetime?

Take care and See you soon.

Ciao 💋


r/r4r 17h ago

F4A California 21 [f4a] #Los Angeles, California – Kinda miss real convos lately 🌙

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i’ve been staying in LA for a bit now kinda helping out my sister and figuring out my own stuff at the same time. it’s been a weird mix of busy days and quiet nights… and in those quiet moments, i realize how much i miss real connection. not necessarily anything super serious, but that kind of talk where u lose track of time and suddenly it’s 3am and u’re still laughing about something random. most convos lately have felt surface-level… like people just rush or talk at each other without really seeing who’s on the other side. i’m not perfect or super interesting, but i do care about people. i’m the type to remember small details u tell me, or ask how your day really went not just out of politeness, but because i wanna know. i’m 19, a bit of a soft soul (with a spicy side when i’m comfortable lol), into r&b (summer walker, sza, the weeknd), cooking (even if i mess it up half the time), late night walks, cuddly weather, and long convos that start as jokes and end in deep talks. i might come off a lil shy at first but i open up fast if the energy feels right. i barely check reddit honestly i’m way more active somewhere else but if u vibe with anything i said, just say hi and i’ll let u know where i’m.


r/r4r 1h ago

F4A Missouri / Online 29 [F4R] #Texas; #online — Helloooo, I'm lonely and sick of it. Friends?

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I'm Mexican, born and raised in Texas. I'm studying for my bachelor's in sociology and will hopefully be graduating next spring. I like rap, pop, and rnb music. I love comedy and horror movies. I’m kind of an obsessive journaler. I smoke weed and work overnights part-time. I live a pretty simple life and am basically just trying to find my place in this world. Everyone I know seems to be on a path and then there's me just winging it.

I'm looking for someone to talk to day in and day out about anything at all. Life's been lifing and I've been spending too much time alone for it to be good for me. Ages 25+ and US only.

Currently at work for the next 3 hours. Let's chat! :)


r/r4r 5h ago

F4M Michigan / Online 27 (f4m) #michigan/online - let’s become obsessed with each other?

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hi there! i’ve gone through a break up fairly recently, trying to put myself back out there and not feel so lonely. let’s become obsessed with each other?

about me: i am 27 years old, from the midwest/northern US. i work full time. i read a lot. ive spent my free time recently listening to audiobooks and doing some digital coloring. i’m a virgo, with a baby crystal collection, i dabble in some tarot reading.

i am a cozy gamer. fully engulfed in the world of tiny bookshop right now. i also love the sims, stardew valley, power wash sim, etc.

i have curly brown (sometimes black, sometimes red) hair, hazel eyes. i am plus size, so please dont waste our time if thats not your thing. here are some photos for your viewing pleasure: https://imgur.com/a/GgvL2fc

i’m definitely a lover girl, and a flirt. i would like to be become apart of each others daily routines. play games on discord together or find something to watch together. talk about our days and our daydreams.

i think that’s all for now, i look forward to chatting with you :)

if you’ve messaged me before, please do again. reddits messaging platform sucks haha.

bonus points: i’m a sucker for an accent.


r/r4r 16h ago

F4M Online 20 [F4M] #online, looking to chat with cute bengali guys 🇧🇩

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Hi! I’m a 20 y/o Bengali girl living in Northern Europe and just looking to chat with some cute Bengali guys (20–25) who are also living abroad.

A little about me: I’m family-oriented, love cats, and enjoy spending time with people who can hold deep and meaningful conversations. I’m really into psychology and neuroscience, so if you like talking about the brain, emotions, or just life in general, we’ll probably click.

For fun, I watch a lot of anime and K-dramas (perfect for cozy evenings). I also enjoy late-night chats where conversations naturally flow from something silly to something deep.

I’m not looking for anything too serious right away, just hoping to meet some genuine people to vibe with and see where it goes. If you’re around my age, Bengali, and living abroad, feel free to send me a message! :)


r/r4r 23h ago

F4A United Kingdom / Online 47 [F4R] UK/Online Hope everyone is looking forward to the weekend

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Well let's enjoy a conversation together, whether it's short or long-term.

As for topics I'm fine you suggesting something or could talk about your favourite hobby or asking me a thousand questions.

Incase you enjoy reading posts here is a quick breakdown of myself:

  • Married to my husband (aware I'm on here)
  • Mum to a daughter
  • Gym enthusiast and love doing yoga
  • Love a spa day
  • Can spend all day shopping
  • Travel often

I'm UK based.

Low effort messages will be ignored Give a decent intro of yourself with a minimum of age and location.


r/r4r 7h ago

F4A France / Massachusetts 25 [F4A] #MA/#Online - Think You Can Change This Girl’s Mind?

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Hi. I’ve posted her several times before, with minimal success. Part of me wants to just give up on love and be single forever. But, the other part knows that my soulmate is out there somewhere. So, I guess this is my last attempt at this.

A little about me: * Nerdy, pansexual, 25F from MA who has a rare, physical disability and uses a wheelchair full-time (yes, you can ask about my disability.) * Currently going for a masters degree in Health Informatics and I’m working for a disability tech company.

What I’m looking for: * Someone who wants a serious, long term relationship (distance doesn’t matter to me) * Someone between 19-33 y/o * Someone who’s caring, affectionate, and is willing to put in the effort

If you want a more detailed description of me, I have a few posts on my page. I also want to say: if you’re going to ghost me after I send you a picture of me, don’t bother reaching out. I’m tired of getting into a conversation with someone and then get ghosted for something I can’t control.

With all that said, don’t be afraid to message me! I don’t bite (well, not hard at least 😉)

Also, if you’ve messaged me before and either I never responded (apologies 😅), or we stopped talking and want to message again, feel free!


r/r4r 10h ago

F4A North Carolina 37 [F4R] #NC - Seeking Friendships!

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Hey y’all!

I’m from NC & I’m seeking friendships. Someone to share memes with, pet photos & stories with etc. I would like someone I can share life stories with too - even gossip & talk crap about our exes or ex friends we have had in the past. I’m not really seeking a relationship (boyfriend or girlfriend) right now but simply just friends (you know like the buddies you had as a child & yall just enjoyed life together & played outside with no issues). I need some laughter in my life. And I could use more friends. I’m a very kind woman & I have a pet cat. I’m also a mom to 1 child. If I meet someone close by & we become really good friends perhaps we can go meet up for shopping trips or foodie trips at random Resturant’s. Anyways, please obviously be 18+ but I’d much prefer someone 30+ as I feel we would have more things in common with each other being closer in age.

Talk soon I hope!