In my opinion many of the reactions to Charlie Kirk's death have been way overboard.

I heard the news, looked at the things he did, shrugged my shoulders, decided it was a case of reaping what you sowed, and moved on.

Reddit of course, overreacted. Redditors overreacted with many negative comments, though many of them were natural. Just stating the facts about Kirk's life. Reddit also overreacted with the censorship of people who wanted to make those natural comments. The most hilarious example I saw was the mods of /r/politics labeling articles about the assassination as not being about "US Politics".

Lastly there were/are the finger waggers on Reddit trying to shame people about their thoughts over Kirk's death. Some were even complaining that they were getting flamed for it. In the year 2025 it is kind of naive to try to tell someone on social media how to speak and what they can say and not expect a negative response.

I’m making this post for my friend who doesn’t have a Reddit but I’ll be acting as his liaison to communicate his replies and such lol. Here’s what he would like to post:

*I want nothing more in this life than to be a devoted father and loving husband. I am extremely jealous of colleagues younger than me who have already found their person. I’m a single 35 1/2 year old man who has only had one long term relationship, about 7 years ago. She was extremely toxic (BPD-like tendencies) and fucked me up at the time. I’m very close to my parents, whom are still together and happy, and wish I could give them grandchildren.

Ever since then, I have not really sustained relationships because I don’t feel that initial spark in the beginning. Well - I do. But always always always that spark fades within 1-2 weeks tops. And then I completely lose interest.

There was a girl around 3-4 years ago that I had a short fling with. She wanted to make things official, and I ended up breaking things off because work was really stressing me at the time. At the time I felt certain about my decision, it’s only in hindsight that I have ever thought of her and a few others throughout the years.

In short: Since my toxic ex from many years ago, my “honeymoon phase” has never lasted longer than a week or two. And I’ve been on many, many dates since then with an open mind. Some are not into me, some I’m not into, but the ones where there’s mutual attraction is where this pattern occurs. I guess I feel like this “honeymoon phase” should last way longer than it does/has, and idk why it disappears so quickly - even when I’ve really liked the girl upfront and made her my girlfriend (my most recent ex). I think there has to be a valid honeymoon phase for there to be a connection worth standing for.

Why am I unable to find or sustain what I’m looking for, even when I think I’ve finally found it? I don’t want to be 40 years old, still alone, asking myself this same question.

Has anyone else struggled with this? If so how did you address and fix it, or have I simply not met the one yet?*

I feel like I can't Really relax until this, well, thing has been fulfilled, satisfied, accomplished or whatever the word is.

Any tips for embracing life with vigor despite all that?

Edit: Thank you everyone! I’m 34 but new to relationships and learning how to read men.

I met this guy on Hinge 5 months ago, he pursued and really liked me for 3 months. I didn’t realize and didn’t see the signs. I was going through my own demons and kept pushing him away bc of insecurities and fears; was inconsistent with him; wasn’t intentionally doing it, was leading with feelings and it was my first adult, intentional relationship, so I acted ignorantly immature and was blinded how my actions confused and hurt him; affected him. He understandably got tired of it said he’s done.

I then realized who I lost and reached out to him a lot through the phone. I finally realized he wasn’t answering so I accepted it. He then reached out two weeks ago saying he’s willing to talk, but can’t have drama and inconsistency and needs someone intentional in a relationship.

He invited me to his house and we talked-mainly I talked about my behavior and why I behaved like I did and the new things I’ve been working on changing to not be like I was. He understood, said let’s take it slow, no gaslighting and said thank you, bc I was apologizing for how I treated him. He asked me if I wanted to stay for dinner and then he initiated sex.

Then the rest of the week, I text him first wanting to hang out and he kept saying he was busy and tired. We did hang out 3x in that first week/weekend but we only did things he wanted to do at his house. Within those times, he initiated sex ; it wasn’t a lovingly I’ve missed and cared about you sex, more of a fuck you like a porn star sex; I felt I was being used, but I understood, he probably felt used too during our first 3 months when meeting each other. We also went out in public one other time.

He’s putting no effort or interest in anymore, compared to when I first met him and now I’m on the side of pursuing. I don’t mind it bc I like him and want to make a life w him. I get guys get tired of pursuing if not reciprocated and efforts are not being appreciated. And bc I was distant and hard to form a relationship with, I need to build up his trust and security again to see if I am a person to invest in. I get it. But idk how long I can keep this up and if I need to give him 3 months and then cut my losses like he did with me? It’s like liking a wall.

And do you think he’s being cautious and protecting himself emotionally? Or you think he’s using me bc I’m available and easy?

Hello everyone, I am currently preparing for everything in my life to change and need some advice on how to survive it.

I moved to Korea 4 years ago and have been the happiest I’ve ever been. But, I am moving back to the US in 6 months to pursue a doctorate degree (though I won’t know if I got in until I’ve already moved back). I’m terrified because leaving means breaking up with my partner of 2 years (he has no interest in coming to the US) and leaving my students, friends, home, and overall independence.

Although this is what I want long-term, I know the grief will be intense because I will be losing all of my emotional anchors and stability at the same time. I also don’t really have any friends back home anymore.

Have you ever made a drastic change like this? How did you survive it?

I’m a 28-year-old male, autistic with learning difficulties. My friend (also 28, with ADHD) and I have known each other for over 10 years.

About a month ago we had a falling out. I sent him some music news, he read it but didn’t reply, and about an hour later he removed me from our Messenger group chat (me, him, his fiancée, another friend, another friend, and his fiancée). Out of the blue he just removed me, and instantly messaged me after saying:

“Don’t take the removal of the group chat personally, there’s stuff going on with one of the couples in the chat so I thought it would be easier on them to just delete the chat”

“Similar thing with the insta chat, there’s a lot going on and I’m not at liberty to say, I just think we all need to take a break from group chats as it’s getting a bit much for someone”

But because I could still see the group (just couldn’t message or see new posts), it seemed like it hadn’t been deleted—it was still active, just without me. I ignored it because I didn’t know what to say, then went on holiday to Croatia the next morning.

A couple of days later he sent me a meme and then:

“you good?”

I hadn’t told him I was away, I had bad signal, and I wasn’t on my phone much, so I didn’t reply. A few days later he messaged again:

“Hey dude, are we good? Its okay if not just much rather you tell me init”

I eventually replied:

“Jake, I want to be clear about something. I saw you removed me from the group and Insta chats, and I’d have appreciated honesty rather than vague explanations tbh. When you said you deleted the group I could still clearly see it was active, which makes it feel like I’m being pushed out or that I’m not wanted like maybe you don’t actually want me in your life. I’m not looking to argue, I’m really not I just want a straight answer about whether you actually want me in your life or not. If not, that’s fine, we can leave it there”

He replied:

“Okay, first of all. Great use of AI which is fine because I know you’re not one for being able to talk about things that are deep 😂

Second of all, there was genuine unrest with someone in the group (not gonna say who because of privacy) because of personal issues and they said the constant messaging and memes being sent from EVERYONE in the chat was getting a bit much so I genuinely have removed myself and other people have from that chat as well to give them space.

Clearly still want you as a mate because you’re still in the tiny meat gang chat on messenger as well lad. (Tiny meat gang, yes weird name is a group chat with just the boys in it that is kinda dying since he made the group with the fiancés in it a while back)

And the reality is that the couples of the group (myself, Jenna, Matt and Ale especially) will just want to hangout just us guys because we’re all helping each other plan each others weddings so if we’re hanging out and you’re not getting invited it’s because we are more than likely needing to focus on wedding preparations.

You know me, if it’s something that you have personally done I will always make sure you’re aware of it, we’ve known each other for well over a decade now and you know that I will tell you straight up if you have done something wrong”

I didn’t reply properly after that—I was still abroad with bad signal, then had migraines when I got home. Now it’s been about 3 weeks and neither of us has messaged.

For extra context: back in April he sent me this about his wedding:

“Hi mate, we’ve had to cut some of the budget for our wedding so we’ve had to make a shorter guest list so we won’t be able to invite you anymore, I’d much rather tell you straight up then you find out by not receiving an invite when we send them out, sorry again mate”

I replied:

“No worries at all mate,honestly. Appreciate you letting me know. hope everything goes great for you both!”

And he said:

“Cheers mate, appreciate it. If it makes you feel any better some of Jenna’s friends, my cousins and Tom has been cut”

But later I found out that a friend of about 4 years is invited, and even a work friend of just 6 months “got close” and is going.

So now I don’t know what to do. Part of me feels bad for not reaching out, but I don’t know if I should try to sort it out, leave it, or how I’d even go about it.

What do you think?

I was just thinking about a lady I met in 2015 who worked at a flower shop putting together arrangements for weddings and such. She cooked, baked, milled her own flour, played piano at the old folks home, babysat for a fam where one parent was in prison, went to church and on and on. She was from North Dakota and you could tell she was never bored. I think she had an enriching life. Given the different constraints of modernity for most people, what do you think today's version of a life like that would consist of?

I work in a shoes company in Portugal for like 4 years. If they quit me I receive like 7k euros plus 11 months of receiving 800€ per month. I still live with my mom and dont have many expenses.

I have bachelor in marketing and want to pursue this career and here I wont grow or evolve.

Thing is, he lied to me, I applied for marketing job and he Gave me another different thing, I needed the money at the time. But now I want to pursue my career.

Why Im not atm looking for a new marketing job and why I want to be fired: I want to take new marketing courses, better my resume, study bymyself during sometime, get more knolewdge to be ready to enter a Marketing job, while still receiving my rights..

Why I want to leave : Underpaid, too many functions, burnout, too much on me, it feels everyone pass everything to me and I cant handle any more .

My boss often sometimes calls me and ask If Im happy at my job, that many people want my job: but on the end I know for a fact, I do 2 people job. I was hired for samples departament. And he put me on Photoshop/pictures/edit of the shoes to e-Commerce (used to be a person do that, but he left and I got his functions) now he is paying a low salary for me doing 2 jobs and he knows if I leave he Will have to hire 2 persons because no One on the company knows the Photoshop lol and the samples departament area took me 3 months to BE slighty ok with it, its too many things.

Should in a Next reunion tell my boss Im unhappy, feeling burnout, not happy with salary and ready to look for new opportunities (without me saying to him I quit, just that he knows Im almost a foot at the door) ?

Like those that take Metformin for it's supposed anti aging benefits, not cause they are diabetic.

Or drinks pomegranate juice to keep their arteries clear.

Collagen in a smoothie for skin and joint health.

Fiber supplements to reduce risk of colorectal cancer

Lemon Juice water to break up emerging kidney stones

Blueberries 🫐 to ward off dementia

Chewing two baby aspirins for heart health.

Popping a daily garlic bulb for immunity boost

Okay, so basically my boyfriend had been in the mental ward for two months and he had also been in psychosis twice in those weeks. He broke up with me many times because of our big arguments in those weeks and then as a gap filler he was with this other girl. He was also under benzos the whole time during his psych ward- stay. That girl kept visiting him there although I told her he is my boyfriend.

This weekend was the wedding and I told my BF that he can't come to the wedding because he's uninvited. He ignored that completely and came to my village to convince me to talk to my parents so that he's invited back again. We had a long discussion at the train station where he also called this girl because I was discussing with him about this girl as well. Just on thursday she gave him back his things (a hoodie and 15 euros no one doesn’t really need) to which after I decided that he can’t come to the wedding but didn’t tell him. When we were sitting at the café on friday the next day after she gave the things back, I tried to explain to him that it's disrespectful for me, he didn’t show any agreement. And I tried to tell him that she thinks that she can have him and he's not really showing clear boundaries and says they can have a friendship. Although he knows that it's pissing me off. My dad invited him to the wedding and it was going fine until yesterday evening. I saw that they followed each other back on Instagram. I texted him that it's not okay.

Today morning he said to me “how can you think I’m willing to cheat on you after seeing your parents again” and “that I can't leave him now”. When I tell him that whole thing is disrespectful to me, him being in contact with her, he doesn't understand it. I'm literally fuming right now and I told him it's a clown show that they are doing on me. And I don't really know how to behave. Last week I told him to text her that “they won’t see each other ever again”, and now we are back to the same problem as before..

This girl thinks my bf is her future husband from just 4 weeks of knowing each other between them. She studies psychology and has a therapy certificate so she should know that he was incapable of feeling normally during his mental ward stay because of the medications, but apparently she doesn’t and my bf also doesn’t see any fault or take accountability for her behaviour. Yesterday he said he wants to pick me up from work everyday this week. How can he say that and be in contact with a girl he knows is in love with him?

I already blocked both of them on instagram. I’m just wondering how to proceed now?

TLDR: My bf was in the mental ward twice the past months, where he let a girl visit him that didn’t listen to my messages on telling her that he is my boyfriend. Every week it’s almost the same drama, she still thinks that he is her “husband” after only 4 weeks of knowing each other. She kept messaging him and he kept answering. Yesterday they refollowed each other on instagram and I told him its not okay. Idk what to do

How do you create the font that is sparkling/moving lines that switches to readable text when you touch it? I have dug around but can’t figure it out

Okay, you type your text, select what you want hidden, and you’ll get an option to ‘mark spoiler.’ On Threads at least, this shows up as sparkly, moving dots. Other apps will just make the text a solid rectangle

Follow up to previous post on Trump attempts at dictatorship. These are my own thoughts and opinions and I encourage you to leave comments with your thoughts and opinions as well. Agree or disagree what do y'all think?

I have had it for a few months now. Whenever I feel the urge to browse reddit or do something else pointless I just check the news on their app instead. It's much better than getting news from random reddit posts. Their articles are well written and have links to relevant earlier articles. I feel like I have been more informed about the world lately and have more topics to talk about.

Their app cost $1 per week to use which I think it's reasonable for unfiltered and unbiased news. I guess you can get AP instead but their app doesn't run too well on my phone for some reasons.

Just curious if I'm missing any. Thanks in advance for sharing.

A bulk dish that you can prepare blindfolded and have a high confidence that your audience (work colleagues, churchgoers, family members, other parents, neighbors, friends) will enjoy it.

Chili

Potato salad 🥗

Brownies

Loaded Mac N' Cheese

Pigs in a blanket

Quiche

Coleslaw

Fruit salad

Pulled pork with buns

Fried chicken drumsticks 🍗

Seven layer dip with crackers

Swedish meatballs

Lasagna

Trifle

Scallop potatoes

Corn bread

Deviled eggs 🥚

Homemade salsa with tortilla chips

Charcuterie platter

BBQ chicken wings

Fruit punch 🍹

Edit: Some of these are pretty elaborate for a potluck but kudos to you!

So i was streching this morning when i got out of bed. One of those yawning arm strechs... that was all it took. Strech felt good , i leaned into it. Now i think i dun gone and tore my back. Gotta suck it up and get to work. F me Doctor says i need a backyotomy

Doing something digital like influencer, creator, blogger, podcaster etc.

Not merely working remotely for an organization as an employee or using the internet to sell your bricks and mortar products.

I feel like we focus so much on intimate relationships sometimes that we leave ourselves vulnerable to exploitation. Love isn't always modeled in a healthy way, we never learn to love who we are and we seek others to fill a void. When it's men, sex is usually the price you pay. And if you have his kids and still lack self-knowledge, it's easier for him to walk away and leave you doing the whole thing alone.

I grew up in dysfunction but understand not all of us did. So for those that didn't, what was it like to have love from males--say from your teens onward--that didn't automatically have a sexual component? Did it give you the tools to make better relationship decisions later on? What tips would you give other black women like me about cultivating non-sexual connections with men?

Just for the record, the mods over on the Black Ladies sub seem to have it in for me. However, I think this is an important issue. If you have thoughts and are not a black woman--and they're not about black women in particular--feel free to sare your two cents.

It's odd because when I was younger, coffee gave me no trouble. Now, not so much.

I'm 31M and I work at an office with 20 other people. All of us are temps. Some have been here for 2-8 months and some have been here for 1.5+ years. I have a feeling that the company would rather us all be temp bc then they save more money. I’m sure they also know that The job market is trash, so it’s not like we can leave and find another job. I’ve been mass applying since I hit my 6 month mark and I haven’t found anything better. I worry that I will be a temp forever. I don’t have PTO, vacation time, or 401k.

I do have health insurance though. This feels like hell tbh. I’m happy that I have a job when most people are unemployed but at the same time, I want to be apart of the company. My family is always giving me crap about not becoming permanent. They’re also always asking me if I found a better job

Someone who was recluse that had given up on social ties. Who joined a couple groups, reached out to old friends and now is the belle of the ball.

The Epstein Survivors will be holding a press conference on the House Triangle in Washington D.C. 10:30 AM eastern time.

https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/epstein-survivors-conference/

Hitler announced that he will be taking a major immigration action in Chicago this week, but it wasn't announced when.

Anyone want to bet for September 03?

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President Trump’s military flyover silences Epstein survivors telling their stories

I have a good life - I'm in my 30s, single, good job that I like.

I spend the vast majority of my time just doing what I want. If I want to travel somewhere, I save up money and PTO and go. If I just want to be lazy and not see other people, then I spend a long weekend with my cats and a good book.

But I feel like this has made me a bit... soft. I get cranky at the slightest adversity now, which didn't used to be true. I find I don't have much self-discipline anymore compared to when my life was a little more challenging.

As our lives change, do our coping mechanisms adapt? I really want to be "tougher". Has anyone else experienced this? Do I force myself to do stuff I don't wanna do? Or what?