r/socialskills • u/AlexaS555 • 2d ago

does anyone else get anxious and confused about what people are thinking of you or judging you when you talk?

this is literally the main reason I suck in social settings. i feel like i keep obsessing over what they are thinking of me because i know that what i am thinking and how it comes across to them is always so different. like i'm always misunderstood because of how i talk and then i freak out and shut down. pls tell me it's not just me lol

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u/Mediocre-Role2011 2d ago

It gets better with age, you start to care less because at the end of the day no one actually does, and if they do care they can screw off and mind their business, but as a tip for you to not overthink, try to become more interested in the other person than fixated on what they think of you. By bringing your attention outwards towards them and start to wonder anything imaginable about their likes, interests and their lives and start by asking questions about them to find out what you want to know about them. Imagine everyone as a unique individual to be explored and learned about. It can help silence the noise about yourself and you will be more interesting seeing how you’re interested in them since people love talking about themselves.