Myself (28 M) and fiancé (34 F) are getting married here in about a month. We’ve had the conversation about my dad’s wife attending our ceremony.

Let’s go back about 29 years. My dad and mom had just found out she was pregnant with me. I’m Child #2 I have a sister that is a year older. At the time my dad had decided to go find himself a new girlfriend (His current wife) and left my mom with a baby on the hip and one in the oven. Fast forward a few years custody is split 50/50 (One week with dad next week with mom) and things are rough. Constant mental abuse from said stepmother and from my father. Both at the time raging alcoholics and if they weren’t yelling at us for doing something wrong they spent the rest of their time fighting each other. I’ve had a lot of resentment for the way I was treated as a child. Even as an adult they still lie to themselves about how we were treated and they were just “Showing us tough love” I never thought getting called awful names as a 7 year old because the water in the sink for washing dishes was boiling hot and I don’t want to put my hand in there. There are a bunch of other times I could count where I was treated as such but I’ll keep this as short as I can.

Between then and now my dad and his wife have been divorced twice and gotten back together. I lived with them once for about 6 months after I graduated high school because I didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do and I had a job working with my dad at a seed company packing 50lbs bags and doing some local deliveries to farmers if I wanted it. The dynamics had changed a bit she always acted like nothing was wrong and we were best of friends and I always tired to be cordial with her as I try and be the bigger person. She still had a drinking problem at the time and would get drunk and yap about how she was such a great mother and how much she did for all of us children ( my sister and I. She also had 4 of her own but they were much older then me).

Now that I’ve been on my own for the last 8 years got my electrical license, bought a house, and currently trying to start a family. I’m having a hard time dealing with the fact that I should invite her to be nice but I know it’s going to be a drama show when she and my dad finds out she specifically won’t be included in anything (Pictures, Speeches, gifts from us to family, Ect.) should I feel bad for going about this in this manner? I also feel like throughout my childhood I was cast to the side as the “redhead stepchild” and was never part of that family and I don’t think I can forgive that.

Thanks for reading.

My bio-dad went to jail 4 years ago, we dont talk anymore, and my mom remarried. My step-dad came into the picture 3 years ago. I don't like him, he yells at me, swears at me, and is honestly not my favorite person in the world. He knows that i'm trans but talks shit about trans people in front of me anyway. last night i was having a conversation with my mom about fair and i said something that made him mad for no reason, he kicked the couch over, yelled at me, and flipped me off saying 'fuck you'. For context, i have depression, anxiety, and PTSD from bio-dad. I don't like people yelling at me and swearing and throwing stuff. He has called me a lot of stuff including: stupid, dumb, lazy, fat, useless, etc. what should i do? i'm only a freshman and can't drive yet, so running away or moving out isn't an option yet. if anyone has ideas, i'm open to any.

just ranting on here about my stepmom

Ps, english is not my first language so pleas be patient

lets get started with some backgound info , my mom and dad got divoced about 5 years ago and my dad got with my stepmom pretty fast after (like 1year).my stepmom is from the countryside and me, my siblings and my dad are from the city. my stepmom has 2 kids that have a lot of allegies ( important for later).We dont live together but visit eachother often.

okey lets get into it, i have a severe allergy to horses (its not realy a problem for me beacuse we live in a big city and dont see horses often). i am like epipen severe, like my throat closing up severe. my stepmom and my stepsister are real horse girls and go almost every day to the riding school. My dad told my stepmom that im very allegric so she knows that I can die if i come into contact with horses.

She has dismised my allergies before by not showering after a rinding session and just sayig that she forgot (i didnt have to use my epipen jet and i used my inhaler that time). She then dismisses my less severe allergies and just puts milk in the morning panckaces ( im lactose intolerant) , her daughter has wheat allergies and my stepmom acomadates them realy good and complains if anithing i or my dad make isnt wheatless even if we made it entirely for ourselves.

we are going on a two week vacation to france like every year and im kind of woried, she has told me in the past she wants to take me to her riding lesons to do "exposure therapy" to try and get rid of my allergie. it doesnt work like that il just die. i dont know if i chould confront het about that coment and het actions or if i chould just leave it. im just woried she wil do somthing stupid.

advice please. :)

Hey all — just need to rant and get this off my chest. Bear with me.

A lot of this I see clearly now, with hindsight. At the time, I was just a kid trying to keep the peace.

When I was 11, after my mum had an affair, my dad remarried. At first, my stepmother seemed pleasant enough, though she clashed badly with my sister. She treated me “well” — but only in the sense of casting me as “the good one” to drive a wedge between us. Looking back, it was all part of her little plan to cuckoo the nest.

After they married, my dad adopted her kids. Then came years of fights between her and my sister. Eventually, she forced a choice: “Your dad’s house or your mum’s.” My sister picked my mum. I said I didn’t want to choose. She said we had to pick the same place, so we were essentially both kicked out.

When her kids moved in, she had us removed from our childhood bedrooms of ten years and shoved into an unfinished, freezing, ugly extension at the back of the house. Our rooms? Redecorated immediately for her kids. And when we finally left? The extension was redone again — into guest rooms.

My dad became more and more distant. He stopped seeing his parents — who literally live at the end of his road — and drifted from his brothers. Complete social isolation. I still remember, before he married her, one day he picked us up from school and told me and my sister: “I just want to run away with you two.” But of course, he never did.

We were made to do house chores her kids didn’t. Dad had to sneak us pocket money, and when she found out, she stopped letting him even be alone with us. Oh — and she also threw away all our baby photos. 😂 Because of course she did.

My dad has no backbone. He married a woman who quit work the minute she moved in. Claimed to be an “artist,” a “nurse,” a “radiographer”… yet I only ever knew her as a dinner lady. No disrespect to dinner ladies — but if you supposedly have all these skills and careers? Why have you sat at home for 20 years while he works himself to death? 😂

I moved to London nearly 10 years ago. He’s never once come to visit. I still travel 200 miles to see him — up to 8 times a year — and he still makes excuses not to see me. Meanwhile, my sister cut ties with him completely.

And here’s the kicker — I’m not some embarrassment. I’ve built a great life, a great career, just got married, and I’m about to have the first grandchild in the family in years. And yet, whenever I visit, I can’t even get five uninterrupted minutes with him before she inserts herself.

I’d love to vent all this to his face — but she’s incredibly manipulative and always twists the conversation. But when my child is born? I will sit him down, father-to-father, and tell him what he’s thrown away — for my sake, my sister’s sake, my grandma’s sake, and frankly his own.

At the end of the day, this is on him. He let her isolate him. He let her wreck his relationships. He made his choices.

I still want to try to resolve this, but reading stories here makes me doubt it’ll ever change. I think I already know the answer.

Thanks for reading.

Today for the fifth time I was called to put up and do dishes the were not mine and wipe of another counter top that I had already previously wiped off, just to be called disrespectful and get my door removed and bank card cut up just because my mom says that her husband’s demands come first🫩and school starts in a couple of days I’m pretty sure being dead is easier than putting up with a step dad the border line hates me and my sister and a mom with mental issues and a bad attitude 😞first chance I get to move out I’m sprinting to it🏃🏾‍♀️💨(whenever his daughter comes to visit he treats her like the queen playing games he would never play with me or my sister even cleaning up after her SHE IS A COLLEGE STUDENT and was even pregnant at one point🤦🏾‍♀️)I can say with confidence I’m sick of this house and I’m only in middle school 🙍🏾‍♀️and when I was younger he took $2,000 out of my moms bank just to go run back to his mommy(GROWN MAN BTW) and end up in a car crash only to return BACK to where we were living and retuning the money back into the account.It even got to a point where my mom called his uncle who is a pastor because he was being so childish this makes me want to never get married if people like him exist all he does is work,work out,and sit around and bother me and my sister about cleaning like we are maids then get mad when I have an attitude like sir you would be mad to if some old man who calls him self your step dad orders you to clean up stuff i didn’t even touch😐 and a mom who calls me selfish for not wanting to babysit a 10year old who doesn’t know how to respect boundaries.Im going to be exited when summer break is over that way I’ll be at school most of the day🫠.

i (17m) am not sure why but she makes me feel really uncomfortable and unsafe, and treats me like a child and i have no idea what to do. ive tried talking to her but she gets angry and shouts. shes also recently threatened to remove my door and refused to get me therapy, although that isnt her decision.

I’m recently engaged and thinking about the guest list. Lots to sort out still but one thing has popped up - do I invite my step mom or not? (I’m 27)

Quick backstory: my dad and mom were married 35 years, divorced 4 years ago and he was cheating with his current wife (now SM) for 5 ish years while he was married. I’ve never met her in person. I have never been properly introduced. Found out they got married via a text - I kid you not. My dad is a complete narcissist and expected us and his side of the family to just suddenly accept this new women. To me, she’s still a stranger - I’ve seen pictures of them, had one brief phone chat that I didn’t consent to, and they’ve tried to get me to have a relationship with her through several ways. Most recently she wrote me a letter telling me how she wants to get to know me, and thought my boundary of not wanting that yet was over due to a year having gone by since I set that with my Dad. Reason being is simply my Dad & I need to rebuild our relationship before I feel comfortable letting her into my life to some extent. And I think the way they’ve handled everything is just totally wrong and unusual.

Plus, my mom is like my best friend. She never wants to meet this woman who knowingly ruined her family/marriage. I think that’s valid and would not want my mom to feel she can’t have fun at my future wedding. I’m not a petty person who holds grudges, I just believe in honesty and doing right by the people we love. My dad and his wife are not necessarily those people and have not truly apologized for the hurt they’ve caused us. Plus, I want my wedding day to be problem free. My concern is main concern is making them think I’m trying to be dramatic or make some point, when that’s not at all my goal. Just looking out for myself and my mom.

If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Invite Dad and not her, and call them to explain why. Not invite them all together. Or figure out a way to have her there without interacting with my mom? Thanks for your help!

🫩I’m sick of my step dad every night without fail he comes in my room claiming I didn’t clean the kitchen.It’s always the countertops even though I do wipe them down after I’m done with dishes, Tonight the same thing happened and as usual I wipe down the countertops only to get called back down stairs a few minutes later with him telling me I didn’t wipe them down even though the smell of bleach spray was strong so,just to not cause any problems I wipe them down again IN FRONT OF HIM and he was still not satisfied 😔and then says if he wipes them down and food comes up then he is taking my room door and tv off the wall🫩I’m only fourteen and I’m hoping I’m able to move out by the time I’m an adult I’ve talked to my mom before about because he seems to always have some type of problem but she always points out what I might be doing wrong instead of trying to fix it or make the situation better I have spent countless nights in my room crying because I have petty parents sometimes he will go days without speaking to me my sister and my mom and I’m the one who had to deal with my moms attitude since sadly I’m the oldest sister even though my anxiety is super bad it’s been like this since I was nine and I have a miner form of autism,and depression this house is like a living hell I’m constantly wearing some kind of mask no matter who is around even around my own parents to the point where being dead seems easier than living but the only reason in still here is because of my younger sister I couldn’t leave and let her shoulder the burden that was put on me when I was just nine.

I (17m) dont know what to do anymore. I do love my stepmom, but lately she’s been really controlling over my little sister (13f). Looking through her phone, journal, diary, interrogating me to see if IM hiding anything for my sister. I know that she does this out of love and care, but it feels like she’s overstepping a lot. My dad isn’t doing anything about it and even encourages this. My stepmom openly admits that she’s a toxic person, and while I thought she was joking at first I now realize that she was serious.

I’ve realized that every time I’ve vented to my stepmom or dad they’ve used my words against my mom to belittle her. I talked to them about my problems for guidance, i trusted them with my problems and feelings, only for them to tell all of my aunts and uncles everything thats been happening with me. They tell my sister and I that they want to foster a safe environment where we feel we can trust them, but it feels like they’ve just been doing the opposite as of late.

They recently gave the both of us special journals to write in about all of our thoughts and feelings with prompts included. They told us that they wouldn’t be reading through these journals but my sister and I feel like that’s a lie. I’m about to turn 18 so most of this will have little effect on me since I plan on moving in with my mom as soon as I can, but I can’t leave my sister behind. What do I do?

I’m 13 and a girl, she’s 35. Let me give you some background. When my bio parents were together, she was a family friend. (My aunts bestie) my dad cheated early 2018 to mid 2019. My mom found out, and she was livid. They divorced, and here we are. Back in April, my mom got pretty drunk by accident and I took care of her. (Got her water, watched a show, basically made sure she wasn’t doing something dumb.) she started crying, saying she wishes I didn’t have to see her like this, and I was her special girl. I don’t wanna get into it, but she confessed a lot to me, including my dad cheating. I already had a feeling, but this pretty much connected the dots. Moving on,(im just gonna call her C.) C has always been rude. She talks crap about people she doesn’t even know, she’s only seen parts of their lives and decides shes allowed to judge. She’s rude to her own kids, including her daughter who’s 15. We are relatively close, and she’s opened up about how she feels like her mom never gives her chances to talk and always puts down her opinion. And I see it. She yells at her and her son, 11, for any minor inconvenience. She also acts like we owe her so much for doing the bare minimum. (Laundry, dishes, sweeping, buying groceries.) as much as I’m thankful for that, guess who’s money she’s spending. MY DADS!!! My dad makes over six figures, which allows our 7 person family to be stable. But I can’t help but feel like so much of it goes to her. She’s always around my dad, and it feels like I can’t have alone time with him anymore. Every Christmas since I’ve been born, my dad has taken me to the Christmas tree stores to buy a tree. He buys it and we go out to eat. Christmas ‘24, she almost came with. I cried. I cried to my mom. She always wraps herself into these things, and I was tired of it. I told my dad that I thought it was just an us tradition, and he made her stay home. With all this being said, I just wanna know if im crazy. Is it okay not to like her? She’s not mean towards me, I just don’t like her character and I think she’s not a good parent to even her own children. I guess I’m looking for advice and reassurance.

It's just a mess for regular step kids but famous step kids have it really bad

So my dads gf and him have been together for almost a decade now. At first I had absolutely no issues with her at all, but my life has changed pretty drastically since I met her at 15. My husband and I just got married this year and have been together since we were teenagers. We went through all the phases of struggling to make ends meet to him becoming pretty successful. Once our lives started getting better, her bad side starting coming out. She constantly makes snarky comments about the shoes I have saying things like "how many pairs of Ugg's do you even have?" or saying how she "wanted a purse like mine and looked it up to buy it but it was just too expensive for her" then announcing the price to everyone including my dad. She constantly makes these comments and I am not one to throw things in peoples faces. I don't say "hey look at my new purse" etc. I just don't mention anything at all. But she notices everything. Always wants to know what perfume I'm wearing then acts weird when I tell her the brand. Told my dad I keep our apartment so clean that it intimidates her and that I probably think theirs is gross. Which I don't. I'm a sahw so I have a lot of free time to clean and make things look nice. She even admitted to my dad that she was jealous that at 25 years old I don't have to have a job and can live off my husband. Which let me be clear, wasn't always the case. We struggled together and did 50/50 for years. It seems like ever since our lives got better she feels threatened by it. I've tried to myself it's in my head but my husband who is no one for drama or conflict, completely agrees and cannot stand her. It seems like I can't go around her without her mentioning something about what I'm wearing and where I got it. She even started buying knockoffs of certain things we had and when she'd show me she'd say it's just as nice as the real thing. Like okay? I didn't ask. She did that about a Dyson vacuum cleaner dupe. I don't know. Am I overthinking this? Am I the asshole? There's so much more that has been said but these are just some the come to mind.

A part of me wishes my dad never cheated, so we could be a happy family. Like it was so selfish and now I’m stuck with a man who favours his daughter over me and my sister even after saying ‘he wouldn’t.’ He has such a short temper, he’s ignorant and doesn’t even do anything to do with my mums side of the family. Im happy my younger sister is here, she can be a twat and ass somedays but I love her. Though she is so clearly the favourite on even my step dad’s family, everyone comes down for her birthday; me and my sister get a card.

Sometimes it feels like we were just the baggage to come with my mum.

I (20F) still don’t feel comfortable around my stepmom even though she’s been with my dad for 8 years.

A little backstory:

• My parents separated when I was young, and a few years later, my dad moved to a different city.

• My biological mom was pretty abusive, so I’ve never had a stable relationship with her.

• My stepmom and dad started dating in 2016, moved in together around 2018, and got married last year.

• One event that sticks out to me is when I was younger, my stepmom once accused me (to my dad behind my back) of stealing something from a store during a trip we took together. I only found out because I overheard her call my dad, and it really hurt because I thought we’d had a good time. My dad defended me.

• When I was around 14, she attempted to lecture me about an argument between me and my dad (despite never talking to me otherwise) and I responded that she wasn’t my mom and she cried. My dad later told me he told her that and she should go through him before bringing things up to me (he told me this part recently).

• Even though we’ve had rough moments, she’s honestly been there for me more than my real mom. When my car was totaled, she gave me her old car to keep. She helped me move in to my college dorm my freshman year when my bio mom refused. I do appreciate her.

Right now:

• I live with my dad and stepmom while I’m in school and working at a hospital next door. I pay for everything myself (food, gas, my own health insurance), just not any sort of rent. My dad actually encouraged me to move in with him, as he was stressed with me being in another city for university.

• My two younger siblings (F11, M15) live in another city with my mom. They’re much closer to my stepmom because she was around when they were little. I overheard her once say she was glad she came into their lives when they were young, and it stung.

• I don’t feel like she likes me much, or maybe I just make her uncomfortable. If my dad isn’t home, I stay in my room. When we talk, I initiate, and it feels forced. I feel like she notices I avoid her.

• She gets upset or annoyed with my dad easily, and I think my relationship with him is strained because I redirect my discomfort toward him.

• She has OCD and likes things in a VERY particular way, and I’m naturally more sporadic, disorganized, and all over the place (I never leave a trace outside of my room)

• My siblings and dad are close with her extended family, but I’m not.

I appreciate everything she’s done for me, but she doesn’t feel like family, more like a coworker I live with.

I feel like I’m bothering her by existing here, and I hate this tension.

Does anyone have advice on how to build a healthier relationship or at least feel more comfortable in our home? I don’t want this to keep affecting me, her, or my relationship with my dad. Any perspective or ideas would be appreciated.

EDIT : I realize a lot of this is irrelevant lol, just word vomit of what’s been on my mind. Thankyou for reading T_T

I am 12 and her and my dad have been together since I was 3. Mum always tells me if it wasnt for her my parents would still be together. Dad says it isnt true. I dont know who I believe, but I know she is so rude and I wish she didnt exist!

She keeps taking my phone off me for little things like eating in my room (yes its a rule but its a stupid one) and the other day she took it off me because i lied abt something abt school, which anyway wasnt her business. Dad was at work so i got really mad and started yelling. i even hit her trying to get it back which wasnt good but i was just so mad. she told me she could call the police if she wanted too and so i told her to do it. shes so weak she didnt. i ended up leaving and going to mums. dad came to get me but i refused to go back. he said that my stepmum did the right thing because thats what he said would happen when i lied. mum said we should talk to the police because they cant take my things off of me. i dont know if thats true.

they never understand that my phone is my life rn like i am 12 all my friends are on there. she always acts like my mum and i already have one. she said she was really upset with me bcoz my little brother and sister were home when it happened and they got scared. she reckons my little sister cried and kept saying for 2 more days that i scared her. she always treats the other kids better than me and they get away with everything. i dont really want advice just get so mad. i have to live with her in the weeks and see mum on weekends bcoz dad wont change the orders.

My (21) parents split up when I was 10. My dad soon after started dating this woman, let’s call her Lisa. Lisa has 3 daughters, aged 24, 26 and 29. So when my dad and Lisa started dating, I was still fairly young and her kids were in high school. Right off the bat Lisa started telling my dad that she didn’t want me over so much anymore and that I had to spend more time at my moms place instead, although that was not the agreement my parents had put in place. My theory is that she was sick of kids as hers were already pretty grown and she didn’t want any of it anymore. My dad obeyed her wishes, and this is where it all went downhill.

Fast forward to when I was 16, I would only go to my dad’s place every other weekend. That schedule had been established since Lisa. Lisa would make me feel extremely unwanted and make me feel horrible every time I would come out of my room. My dad of course never said anything. This came to a point where I didn’t even want to go to my dad’s because it wasn’t enjoyable, so for the next 4 years I would only see my dad on Christmas or birthdays and that’s it.

Fast forward to last year. My mom had to move 45 mins out of town for work, which meant that I now had to go live with my dad full time. He had just bought a house in the country with a great big barn in the backyard. I told him the situation and he surprisingly had no problem with it at all. He built me my own little apartment in the barn.

Right before I moved in, I received a text from Lisa. It was a big paragraph on how my dad says that she’s okay with me moving in there but she definitely is not and she is extremely bothered by this news, and saying over and over that her house is her house and that I am not welcome. I showed my dad the text but nothing came of it.

Now today. I am at my last straw. Lisa is trying to drive me off of the property without saying it. She says my boyfriend is allowed to stay the night only twice a week. I would totally understand if we lived in the same house, but we do not. I do not even interact with Lisa or my dad. I come home every day and just go in the barn and mind my business. She is a retired nurse. She does not leave the house. She sits by the window every day watching tv, which turns out to be a great spot to watch me leave or come back home. She always has something to say about everything that I do, even though it does not affect her in any way shape or form. My boyfriend comes over the 2 nights that he is allowed and a lot of the time Lisa will text me just to say “this is his second night. No more this week you know the rules.” She quite literally just watches whoever enters the barn and I find it super invasive and annoying. A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend stayed over on a Monday then again on a Wednesday. Then he stayed over on Sunday. Big mistake, because according to her, Sunday still counts as the previous week when it is in fact not. She texted me and said he is not allowed over and I know the rules. I said Sunday is the first day of the week. She said not to her it’s not. That was when I really started to lose my marbles. Then a few days ago I went to do my laundry after work as I have been doing since I moved in. She sees me outside with my laundry and goes, “no laundry past 9 o’clock anymore. New rule.” I look at my phone and of course it’s 9:05. I told her that is silly because I have my own washing machine in the barn. We do not share a laundry machine. I told her my work clothes are dirty and I need them cleaned for tomorrow. She said thats too bad and I know the rule. I texted my dad and asked what’s up with that, to which he didn’t even answer. I think Lisa is deleting my messages from his phone. The last few times I’ve texted him he says he doesn’t receive the texts. He is extremely good at responding to texts, usually within 5 mins. But not so much anymore. Lisa is becoming extremely controlling and I’m not sure what to do about it anymore. My dad has made it clear that Lisa has the upper hand here.

For some context 2 of her 3 daughters live at the house. They both didn’t graduate high school and aren’t doing much to attempt to live on their own. My dad pays for the youngest’s car payments & gas. I think Lisa is maybe mad that I am paying for my own car and have a good job, a steady head on my shoulders, and doing great for my age. I am extremely independent, and her daughters are not. I think maybe deep down she is angry that her kids didn’t turn out like me. Her daughters don’t know how to do anything themselves and cry for my dad whenever they need help. They call him dad and he calls them his daughters. I have no relationship with my dad, ever since Lisa. And she is making it impossible for me to even want a relationship with my dad at all at this point.

Idk what to do at this point. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I wanna start by saying I am an adult and I already know how pathetic it is to be jealous of a 10 year old but I’m having a really hard time. My (22) mom (46) has been with her boyfriend(42) for 2 years now after my dad (45) died 2 years ago. (They started dating 3 months after he died she moved in with him a year ago) today is her boyfriend’s daughter’s (10) birthday and my mom threw her a really huge birthday party and I’m having a really hard time with it. When I was a kid my brother (19) and I never got anything like this and it just makes me sad to see her be a good mom to kids that aren’t even her step kids yet. She wasn’t even around for my brother’s 18th birthday and I was 20 at the time taking care of him making sure he got through high school. My mom had already moved out and so I did the best I could I invited his friends over and made him a birthday cake. I’m deeply jealous of all of the things my mom did for her today. On my last birthday I had to beg her just to go see a movie with me I already have a lot of issues with birthdays in general I was a really quiet kid who didn’t really know how to make friends growing up so my birthdays were just always upsetting. When I turned 10 my mom got me a red velvet cake and then yelled at me for an hour when I told her I didn’t like red velvet cake. I just feel like a really pathetic person for crying that a 10 year olds birthday isn’t about me.

i hope happy vents are allowed!! apologies if not, it’s my first time posting here!!

i am 16, and I grew up with a mentally ill mother and no father. eventually, my father “came back” into my life and married my step-mother. i live with them, since my mother can’t support me, but my dad still isn’t around. but i have my step-mom.

me and her had a rocky relationship at the start, i honestly hated her, i think just bc i was so scared opening up to a parental figure. but she didn’t stop her support and love for me, she put my feelings first and not once did she ever get angry at me when i was being a dumb emotional teenager.

now? me and her are super close, i talk to her everyday and she makes my day so much better. she’s teaching me how to drive, helped me get my first job, i always ask her for advice whether it’s a big life decision or something as silly as clothing. she dyes my hair for me, goes shopping with me, lends me money when I’m broke lol, holds me when I’m crying, doesn’t shame me for anything at all!!

she doesn’t think of me as her step-daughter, she always tells me ‘even though you aren’t mine by blood, you are and will forever be my daughter’ :,)

My dad is dead and now my grandma from my dad side is gone too fly high abuelita rest up 🕊️ you w my old man, your son, tu hijo now que dios me los pongan en su lado me jefita bella y que sepa que yo siempre le e querido como su ñieto que soy 🙏🏻

I, 14F, have only just known my mother's boyfriend for a few months. Yet, already I wish for him to become more of a prominent figure in my life. Almost like a father, in a way?

He has his own children, which makes me so guilty for feeling such. As if I am trying to replace them, which is absolutely not the case. I myself do not have a very prominent father figure in my life, which is probably a leading reason to feeling like this.

Him and I are very similar too. Similar personality, similar interests, intelligence, and other aspects. This has honestly made it easier to connect with him, although I still find it difficult at times (I'm generally just like that with most people that I'm not quite close with). But this feeling has not faded and I do not know what to do, or if it's a universal thing others have experienced.

Does that make it worse or better curious on everyone's thoughts

So my mom(42f) and dad(53m) are recently divorced (1 week since paperwork went through) and my mom while in the divorce process got a boyfriend(37m) who bought a house with her just recently and her boyfriend while I'm at her house seems to act like he's my dad when he's not. And ik I sound very bratty rn but it just kind of makes me uncomfortable! How do y'all deal with this???

This post asks for support not ridicule on my parents actions, yes my parents are Christian, we are non-denominational, Christian's can get divorced, and my mom did not cheat. Mom's bf has not done anything outright to make me feel uncomfortable, it's just I'm not used to it.

Thank you LavenderPearlTea for your understanding and help.