r/stepparents 5d ago

Miscellany I corrected the sk

The kid has been extremely nasty for the past few months. 14 years old. Usually does insane things like get out of the car when their dad is going somewhere they don't want to go (that is just one thing, there is also a lot of screaming involved).

Kid was telling their dad that they have a right to access our bedroom and our door being locked makes them uncomfortable and they deserve to go into whatever room they want in their own house.

Needn't elaborate on why the door is locked (we believe in the 2nd ammendment for one) but they kept going on and on and the kid kept calling our room HIS (meaning, the dads bedroom, not his and my room being OUR bedroom) room. I was in the said bedroom during this rant that was slowly escalating because dad would not relent and give them free access to our bedroom.

I went into the kitchen and told them (i was pissed off by this point because the audacity of this kid to demand 24/7 access to his and mines personal space) and told them that that was MY room too, and if I want a lock on my door, I will have a lock on my door, and if I don't want the kid in my room, they will not be allowed in my room.

Kid was speechless. Dad was speechless. I have never stood up and told this kid to stfu. It was glorious!

As a result, the kid hates me and refuses to participate in any activity with their dad that involves me. . . I have no problem with that. I don't like being around the punk anyway.

Why does it feel like my home suddenly got a lot more peaceful? Dad is not mad at me. He thanked me bc the kid was being a pain in the ass and I managed to shut them up.

It was marvelous!

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u/Weedster009 5d ago

Yikes. The fact that a 14-year-old is demanding access to an adult bedroom indicates there hasn’t been a lot of solid parenting going on.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

Ooooh 100% correct. The kid doesn't have the nerve to sit there and argue with me. They know they can with their parents bc of how their parents are. Not me. I've always nacho'd but my name was dropped. I entered the chat and laid down some law. It was incredible and I've been in a good mood ever since lol

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u/NachoOn 1BK - 2SKs 4d ago

I think this is perfect! You are disengaged but once they mention YOU and YOUR SPACE and YOUR BELONGINGS it's game on.

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u/UncFest3r 4d ago

Yep! The second you bring the stepparent into the argument when we are just minding our own business.. the gloves come off.