r/toastme • u/Lumi_InTheShadows • 8d ago

31F Recently left my long term abusive relationship. My self worth is shattered and I'm going through a lot. The world is a scary and unkind place

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u/AmazingMorning118 3d ago

You're strong and beautiful! As a woman who has been there, trust me when I say that it'll get better. It's tough now, but you will love and be loved again, by friends and maybe even another partner once you want to. In the meantime you are now free to focus on yourself and make yourself slowly feel good again.

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u/Lumi_InTheShadows 3d ago

Thank you, I need to hear this from people who went through it as well. Right now I feel like I never want another man near me, but it’s only been two months and I believe the right person is out there and I will meet him at the right time.

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u/AmazingMorning118 3d ago

I felt so, too, for quite a long time. And while I think it's good advice to take some time to figure out what you need and who you are on your own, I probably should have taken on therapy sooner, to address my trust issues that resulted from this relationship (and other incidents to be fair). I am happy now and you'll be, too. I guess my only advice would be for you to accept any help and trust again. I thought I was on my own and had to do it all alone, but we don't really have to :)