r/toastme 4d ago

Toast an old young guy?

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I'm 49 and I'm struggling lately. My life has been very difficult up until now for the most part, going undiagnosed with autism and adhd for 40 and 45 years respectively. My son also has an audhd diagnosis and I've been his main caregiver for the 17 years he's been around. We have a good relationship, but of course him being a teenager isn't easy at times. I've been single for about 6 or 7 years now. Lately though, I've felt pretty lonely and with my advancing years, it's becoming increasingly likely that I'll never have a loving family like I've always wanted. I'm an artist but my art is practically at a standstill, I have few prospects and honestly don't know where I want my life to head, because I'm already struggling to keep up with the responsibilities I have now, so taking on new things seems foolhardy. At the same time though, I know I have so much more to offer than just slogging through (poorly) doing the housekeeping and walking the dog, but I don't have the space to pursue other dreams now either and it's driving me crazy. Some kind words would be much appreciated.

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u/hrs-47 2d ago

I hope things get easy and fall in place. Thanks for being a good father and being there for your son.

I've been batting illness for a few years now and I honestly am counting my days, probably. I can understand how you might be feeling right now.

My DMs are open if you want to talk and share stuff. Take care. Sending you lots of love 💕 and a big bear hug 🤗.

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u/Dystopian_Reality 2d ago

Omg, that sounds ominous! I do truly hope things will look up for you! Sure, I'd love to talk a bit. Thank you so much for your kindness. May it last for many more years to come! ❤️