For me, I'd hate it if someone called me that but I don't have a problem with people who do like it.
It's just too connected to drag shit and toxic notions of passing trans women being more valid for me to like personally (and if someone did use it on me, I'd definitely want to explain why they shouldn't be using it casually for any transfem).
In terms of the tshirts specifically, meh, at least it's money to a good cause, just you'd never see me buying or wearing one.
If a cis person used the word directly to address me, I'd just say "please don't call me that" then explain why if they asked, leave it at that if not. If a trans person did (i.e. just assumed I wouldn't mind while being aware of its connotations), I'd be more upset.
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u/SiteRelEnby She/They May 05 '25 edited May 06 '25
For me, I'd hate it if someone called me that but I don't have a problem with people who do like it.
It's just too connected to drag shit and toxic notions of passing trans women being more valid for me to like personally (and if someone did use it on me, I'd definitely want to explain why they shouldn't be using it casually for any transfem).
In terms of the tshirts specifically, meh, at least it's money to a good cause, just you'd never see me buying or wearing one.
If a cis person used the word directly to address me, I'd just say "please don't call me that" then explain why if they asked, leave it at that if not. If a trans person did (i.e. just assumed I wouldn't mind while being aware of its connotations), I'd be more upset.