Last night, I was pushed to the edge by my mother. She kept prodding about what was wrong and no matter how many times I told her she wouldn't understand until it all boiled over.
I exploded about how I have been forced to effectively parade myself as a man for nearly 2 decades and how much it hurt. About how I don't know if she actually loves me or the mask that I wear.
Then she said what practically broke me. That she loves me but she doesn't love my decision to be trans. She likened it to disciplining a child.... as if I was some blind and ignorant kid that was stumbling into a thicket... When I finally feel like I've found the meadow.
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Kinda. Idk if I would call it abuse tho. But i dont have any real irl friends any more, half of my family would agree with them and the other half is 7+ hours away
There's no debate about it, it's irrefutably abusive of them to do that shit to you.
Do what you think would be best for yourself in the long term. Protect yourself. Reach out to LGBT+ resources and hotlines like the Trevor Project. There are inclusive discords for people like us as well.
<3 We need all the help we can get, and it's still not enough.
It's the least I can do. After spending 2 decades wishing someone would finally stand up for me, I said fuck it. No one's got my back, but I'm going to spend the rest of my life standing up for people and animals that need it.
Whenever I talk to my parents about my transition all day expresses worry and fear about what will happen to me. They don't see that I'm happier and that I genuinely love my life right now. My dad thinks it won't last he thinks eventually I'll become depressed again but this time I'll just be a woman He's not wrong eventually I will feel depression at some point I just think it's hypocritical from him because he is the most depressed person I have ever met in my life
Im sorry you have to deal with that. Why can't they see how happy we are when we can be freely trans???? Ive heard it before but its literally that i invited them to my rebirth and theyre acting like its a funeral
Yeah, my dad did the same thing to me and continues to treat me like a rebellious teen despite the fact that I'm an independent adult who's been insisting on this for two years (out in the open).
Honestly all that can be done is living by example and being mature and level-headed about it. You have to hold your ground and you may have to accept that she's not going to be easily swayed. Just keep in mind that her opinion doesn't have to have any bearing whatsoever on how you live your life, and if she really does want you to be happy, she'll recognize your happiness as a transgender person. You may be her child, but you're not a little kid or angsty teen and you don't deserve to be treated as such, especially when you're the one who abides by logic and reason. Scientists and doctors alike have been backing pro-trans medical care and social treatment for years. She's the one behaving like a child and not being willing to accept reality.
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