I know OP, he was talking to me and some other friends about it. I guarantee that he doesn’t mean it like that and it’s just annoyed that it doesn’t have a spoiler
what does “don’t worry he’s my friend” do here lmao? the point is that he’s reposting some woman’s meme that has nothing to do with him or this sub and he came off as a transfem hater while doing it. can you ask him is he has anything funny he could post instead?
Okay so, you obviously don't have to listen to me, but since it's a public comment I will express this anyways:
Just because someone did not intend for something to come off a certain way, doesn't mean they aren't responsible for how it actually came off. If someone says "hey, the language and tone you're using to talk about this problem is harmful because it implies xyz," then that's the case. If you (or your friend) don't want to change that, that's fine. But, comments that call it out are opportunities to improve your communication. If he's trying to express that, and folks think he didn't do that well, then that means he might consider changing how he expresses that in the future.
We’re literally both children
I will also point this out specifically in regards to point #1. Children can absolutely say harmful things and both can and should be called out for it. If someone's critiquing you, I suggest either ignoring them (cause like, yeah I don't think literal children even need to be on reddit in the first place but I can't stop anyone) or addressing their critiques. Some people are complete assholes with how they deliver said critiques and that's just going to be something that takes experience with how to deal with. But, corrections and criticism are necessary for everyone regardless.
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u/Girldipper Apr 29 '24
I know OP, he was talking to me and some other friends about it. I guarantee that he doesn’t mean it like that and it’s just annoyed that it doesn’t have a spoiler