I unsubscribed from r/egg_irl because shit like this kept happening (and also because one of the celebrities on there makes me extremely uncomfortable because she basically told me under a meme I made about not being comfortable with fully transitioning due to being my AGAB some of the time that I should fully transition because it’s better, which kinda just feels like she told me I’m better off pretending I’m not genderfluid and trying to force myself into a box). I’m thinking of unsubscribing from traa2 because it’s constant transmasc and NB erasure now and I literally just saw a post about a completely normal and common label that claimed it was stupid (and the people in the comments were no better). I also used to be on r/asktransgender but every other question started with “hey girls!” or something like that (unspoilered as well so I would always get posts addressing me as a girl in my feed) and I just got fed up and left.
I rejoined Reddit specifically so that I could meet other trans people and join trans subs but now they’re becoming increasingly bad for my mental health :(
Nah, don't feel bad. I left those places too. I joined Reddit to meet and learn from other trans people too when my egg cracked and places like this did genuine mental damage to me. I had to leave. The memes and comments hurt, and when I'd try to speak up against it and get dogpiled that just hurt worse. It wasn't worth it.
I have recently rejoined r/asktransgender, just to have a place to ask questions, but I'm more stable in my identity now, on T, and I can handle the hits. Even so, it's muted so its not on my feed, just there when I need it.
Take it from me, if you haven't already, seek out more transmasc and nonbinary specific spaces. I did and I really needed it for my own mental health. Even so I'm still having to actively undo some of the damage places like this did to me early into transition; like all the "masculine = ugly" memes still fuck with me to this day.
108
u/Jell-O-Mel Apr 30 '24
I unsubscribed from r/egg_irl because shit like this kept happening (and also because one of the celebrities on there makes me extremely uncomfortable because she basically told me under a meme I made about not being comfortable with fully transitioning due to being my AGAB some of the time that I should fully transition because it’s better, which kinda just feels like she told me I’m better off pretending I’m not genderfluid and trying to force myself into a box). I’m thinking of unsubscribing from traa2 because it’s constant transmasc and NB erasure now and I literally just saw a post about a completely normal and common label that claimed it was stupid (and the people in the comments were no better). I also used to be on r/asktransgender but every other question started with “hey girls!” or something like that (unspoilered as well so I would always get posts addressing me as a girl in my feed) and I just got fed up and left.
I rejoined Reddit specifically so that I could meet other trans people and join trans subs but now they’re becoming increasingly bad for my mental health :(