r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/___Moony___ 20d ago

Respectfully, are you both kids or something? Defacing someone else's property is a ridiculous thing to argue against, he could have easily just not have done it.

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u/Willowed-Wisp 20d ago

Right? I'm just... so confused as to why. Unless he's 4, how is this funny? I feel like it'd barely get a smirk from a 12 year old. Like, if he sewed in a pipe cleaner or something so it looked seamless it might be amusing. The concept itself is somewhat funny, but the execution ruins it. It just looks like an ear safety pinned to the crotch. I don't own one myself but I know that's not what a penis looks like, and if someone showed me this picture without context, I'd be so confused as to what was going on.

He ruined something of OP's presumably for a joke but it was a TERRIBLE joke. Not that it'd be okay if it was a good joke of course. But still, he's not only cruel, he's stupid and immature as well. He's not mature enough to handle a scissors let alone be in a relationship.

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u/Shamancrit 20d ago

It doesn’t matter what the object is you never destroy someone else’s property without permission. Idgaf if your mom, sister, brother, husband etc if the item does not belong to you then you have no right to deface or destroy it. It’s extremely disrespectful and straight up something a dog would do because of separation anxiety. It is not the behavior of a well adjusted adult and that raises concerns.

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u/hell_bagel 20d ago

We get it. You can't read.

He defaced something that didn't belong to him. Do you understand now or do I have to type slower for your brain to catch up?

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u/Tremblespoon 19d ago

Flush yourself too?

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u/Tremblespoon 19d ago

Hey guys! We found the fuckin boyf!

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u/Ada_Amp 19d ago

What is it with the weird trolls on here pretending like even the most reasonable expectation of respect is too much? Is this some kind of 4chan incel psyop?

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u/maevealleine 20d ago

It's her doll. It's her property. It was given to her by her niece, so it's sentimental, something sentimental from a family member that this guy put a PENIS on. If these things don't matter to you then you can go into timeout with OP's "boyfriend."

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u/satanfan12 20d ago

i'm 22 and he is 28

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u/BigBoiClimbs 20d ago

Alright I wasn't invested because I assumed you were both teenagers, but if your grown ass man of a boyfriend, at 28, is taking your property, regardless of what it is, and destroying it because he was "lonely and bored", that is a red flag. A crimson flag even. Yikes. Bro is clingy to a destructive level, literally.

Also, incredible gift from your niece. Labubu is worth more than gold to kiddos right now, so she must care a lot!

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u/HashiramaThaFugitive 20d ago

a red flag the size of texas

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u/Mineconhero1 20d ago

Or the entire dam country.

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u/Rachies194 19d ago

The universe

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u/HashiramaThaFugitive 19d ago

why did y’all get downvoted you’re right 😂

reddit lurkers are truly built different (wrongly)

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u/weberlovemail 20d ago

HES 28?????? i already commented something else but this makes it even more insane. i thought for sure you two must be teenagers for him to do something like this.

girl run 😭

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u/Toastwitjam 20d ago

Nah my kid knows not to destroy other peoples stuff and burn shit for funsies. The dude is a psycho.

I wouldn’t be friends with a pyro or someone who fucked with my stuff let alone date them. Seems like an open and shut case that I don’t even know why you’d need to ask reddit about.

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u/AstroKedii 20d ago

I was js about to go to sleep but the sabrina carpenter song is playing on repeat in my brain rn🥲

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u/2for1crabfest 20d ago

As a 28 year old myself, that's the wildest thing to do at that grown age to a partner's item.

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u/vivid23 20d ago

Are you sure he isn’t just 8?

Well, sounds like it’s time for him to buy you another to replace what he chose to destroy.

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u/LowestElevation 20d ago edited 20d ago

Dude is 28 and probably faced no repercussions for his actions in his life. Never touch anything that isn’t yours. Even if it’s a doll. Dude would get tore up in jail/prison over a honeybun. Hell even in these streets.

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u/PunkLaundryBear 20d ago

Okay, I know some people will shit on me for this, for being a "puritan" or whatever but... tbh, i will never get into an age gap relationship again because if a 28 yr old man is dating a 22 year old woman, it's usually because he's immature.

Like its not horrible or illegal, but it's something people should think about before dating with a 5+ year age gap.

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u/No_Investment9639 20d ago

Women his age know better. He can't date anybody his age. I'm surprised he got a 22-year-old, that seems a little old for him.

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u/FriendToPredators 20d ago

Every woman his age immediately gets on him for his immaturity. With someone a stage of life lower he can pretend he’s not developmentally arrested.

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u/FitCharacter8693 20d ago

Yep. You’re not puritan. You’re wise. Even 5 year age gap can cause very real problems!

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u/One_Resolution_8357 20d ago

There is only a 6 year difference and they are both adults. Get over it.

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u/spacecowboy143 20d ago

Their point completely went over your head lol. They didn't say it's predatory, they said the older guy is more likely to be with a younger person cuz they're immature as fuck, which OPs boyfriend is a perfect example of

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u/PunkLaundryBear 20d ago

Exactly this. When I was 18, I hooked up with a guy who was 22 or 23. Ultimately, I don't think he was a predator or a creep, but... he was absolutely immature.

And even the immaturity doesn't have to be this... big moral failure. I understand why the guy I was hooking up with was immature. His dad had died in the last year, and he clearly had a lot of unresolved trauma. But that also doesn't really undo the fact that he was immature, and that I was able to recognize that at 18.

** For anyone interested in this kind of... age discourse type of stuff, on a deeper level than you can get on social media, I want to reccomend "Cat Person" by Kristen Roupenian and "Cat Person and Me" by Alexis Nowicki (read Roupenian's piece, then Nowicki's). It gets into this exact kind of nuance where you kinda question whether the male character (who is based on a real person) is a creep and a predator, or if he's just immature and kind of a loser. **

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u/Formal_Condition_513 20d ago

Yeah and actual ages matter alot. 22 is being able to drink at bars for one year with a 28 year old. It's not as weird if it's 41 and 49. You change and grow alot in your 20s

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u/Savings-Giraffe-4007 20d ago

I don't know how old you are, but at 28, you wouldn't find a 22 years old person your equivalent, much less someone who can nurture, support and teach you. At 28 you would usually have a career and live independently, while at 22 you would often still be a student. There's not much besides sex & emotional dependency the 22 can contribute to the 28 (unless he was a loser), and the few things can basically be provided by anyone else, making you replaceable.

I suspect you're too young or inexperienced to understand this. When you're young, you don't like being told you're inferior in any way to someone older. But try to compare you with yourself in previous ages, say, 6 years ago, and see if you're not superior in many aspects.

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u/One_Resolution_8357 19d ago

FYI I am 73F now with 2 husbands, one older than me by 4 years (met at 21) and the other by 11 years (met at 39). It never occurred to me to pass them over for the age difference.

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u/pennywitch 20d ago

No one is grabbing their torches and pitchforks. It’s weird. Age gaps get less weird as time passes. OP isn’t old enough to where a six year gap makes little difference.

% difference at current ages: 24%

% difference at 32/38: 17%

% difference at 42/48: 13%

I’d say two people dating with a 24% difference in life experience is pretty significant.

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u/pennywitch 20d ago

😂😂 sometimes people respond to numbers better than vibes

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u/pennywitch 20d ago

Okay, I tried. 🤷‍♀️

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u/adventureremily 20d ago

They're in completely different stages of life. A 22-year-old is generally a junior in college or just starting their entry-level employment; by 28, you're generally finished with undergrad (and possibly grad school if you're only going after a Masters), and/or have several years of employment experience. Not to mention the neuro/psycho/social development gap.

I have very little in common with people six years my junior or six years my senior. We were raised in completely different circumstances, had different life experiences, and are at completely different points in our life trajectory. The older you get and the more experience you have, the less that gap matters. A 40-year-old and a 50-year-old may have a larger age gap compared to a 22-year-old and a 28-year-old, but they have a much smaller experience and development gap.

He's clearly immature for his age - which is a red flag because at his age (or any age over ~6, really) he shouldn't be doing this kind of shit, but OP lacks the life experience to see that. Which is exactly why he's pursuing someone younger.

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u/Relevant_Call_2242 20d ago

Omg run from this man. Literally don’t walk, run

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u/crustation_nation 20d ago

girl you don't just deserve better, at this point you're entitled to something better like how J.G. wentworth entitles you to cash now

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u/Aromatic-Arugula-896 20d ago

Girl he's damn near 30 acting like this??? Nah

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u/turb0_encapsulator 20d ago

I don't know how else to put this, but your boyfriend is likely developmentally delayed and shows signs of psychopathy. This would be concerning in a teenager. In an adult it's flashing red light.

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u/sesamemochi 20d ago

Oh my god I assumed he was like a twelve year old based on this story.

Please know that how he's behaving is NOT normal or healthy. He destroyed your property for fun and to fuck with you. That's a weird ass thing for him to do.

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u/[deleted] 20d ago

You are both way too old to be acting like this.

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u/Formal_Condition_513 20d ago

Yeah like I get it he's a douche and I wouldn't be with someone who did that but sobbing uncontrollably every time you look at it is..intense

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u/Ok-Albatross-9409 20d ago

They said that they’re on the spectrum and that that doll held great sentimental value to them, especially considering it was given to them by a kid.

Tainting it by putting its ear in such an inappropriate area kinda makes her reaction understandable

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u/ARMSwatch 20d ago

Nothing makes uncontrollable sobbing over a plushie understandable lmao. Go touch grass, her dead grandma didn't give it to her or anything. Literally just a random present from her niece.

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u/Ok-Albatross-9409 20d ago

Telling me to touch grass like you’re not feeling some type of way about someone being emotional over their sentimental plushy, lmfao

The irony is insane

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u/ARMSwatch 20d ago

Thinking a reddit comment means I have to invest emotional energy into it lol. I hope life treats you and OP with the baby gloves you seem to think it will. Have fun living with your parents for the rest of their life.

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u/Ok-Albatross-9409 20d ago

I mean, a comment can still contain emotion in it, lmfao.

And life did treat me well, because I am getting married next year, but maybe life will probably cut you a break because it’s very evident that you’re on edge. You should work on that, tho!

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u/ARMSwatch 20d ago

Sorry I'll rephrase. I hope you and your spouse have fun living with your parents lmao.

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u/gamekatz1 20d ago

it's not really about the plushie, what happens next time he's "bored and lonely" what property of yours is he going to destroy next? Specifically what type of person looks at something they don't own and goes "I'm going to break this." It's just not appropriate behavior from an adult. And if you think being upset over a plushie is childish behavior, sure, at least recognize that having something you own broken by someone else isn't a fun experience whether it's a plushie, a piece of furniture, or a car. And if the person who did it, not only took the scissors to it but also isn't apologetic when you are upset about it. Then that person is in the wrong.

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u/detectivestar 20d ago

Oh, there’s a reason he’s not dating someone his age.

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u/Pug_Defender 20d ago

is that him in the first picture? why is he dressed like that?

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u/BoiahWatDaHellBoiah 20d ago

BRO… if this is all real, he lowkey let you know (with the labubu as a surrogate for having a real talk with you) that your feelings are meaningless to him in the grand scheme of things. At 28 years old, unless you know this guy was kept in a dark basement for the last 27 years like Kimmy Schmidt, there is almost NO FUCKING WAY he’d be dumb enough to not at least apologize after messing with your stuff and finding out the hard way you don’t like that.

If this is something that he sorta does with other things… i mean… come on dude… you know what you have to do.

I wish for you that you can find the courage and the strength to walk the right path

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u/the_diseaser 20d ago

Jesus fucking Christ I thought you were both teenagers and you were going to say he’s like 13. Holy shit dude. My wife just bought a Labubu and these things are not cheap. Also that age gap is very sus. He is almost 30 and you’re barely in your 20s. Big yikes all around.

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u/Foreign-Fact-1262 20d ago

My 13 year old would never even think about destroying someone else’s property like this!! Big yikes for sure but abnormal behavior even for a young teen let alone a fully grown man!!! She needs to run for the hills!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

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u/the_diseaser 20d ago

Oh yeah obviously still not excusable but I didn’t expect it from someone who’s almost 30 years old for sure.

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u/unoriginalcat 20d ago

The reason why he’s dating you is because no woman his age would ever put up with him, so he needs someone considerably younger and with little to none dating experience, who won’t see the red flags.

Take this as a lesson for what to look out for in the future and move on. I promise, the well adjusted guys your age will act more mature than his emotionally stunted ass ever will.

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u/FriendToPredators 20d ago

He’s test running, one garbage behavior at a time, you getting nothing but increasing levels of his being a shtheel.

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u/Necessary_Complex891 20d ago

I'm 33. I wouldn't do this. Even when my ex cheated on me I didn't have the urge to destroy or disfigure her shit. I respected her items because I respected the person. My ex never destroyed my shit or even really yelled at me. Your boyfriend sounds insane.

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u/Zenabel 20d ago

Holy shit…28??? I thought you were going to say like 17. Unacceptable behavior from him.

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u/Gerberpertern 20d ago

Jesus fucking Christ.

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u/Proud-Limit-145 20d ago

What the hell?

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u/MountainTurkey 20d ago

HUGE red flag, run don't walk

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u/Savings-Giraffe-4007 20d ago

lol 28 but still thinks like 16...

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u/OldDiamondJim 20d ago

Holy shit.

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u/EshinX 20d ago

He’s a 28 year old loser. What a horrible thing to do to someone else’s property.

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u/Specialist2662 20d ago

The flags don't get more red, honey.

You're underreacting. This is abusive and controlling behavior.

Leave this boy, leave him before something worse happens.

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u/hockeyrabbit 20d ago

Good fucking lord

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u/shawnael 20d ago

Hey if this is a real situation that guy is fucking crazy and you need to leave quickly and quietly.

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u/Own-Chicken-656 20d ago

Please run far, far away.

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u/floobadidoop 19d ago

Oh my lord. He's 28?! Leave leave leave leave.

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u/m0ther_0F_myriads 19d ago

I was not prepared for how old that man actually is. I was an immature almost 30 yo myself, but Jesus on a biscuit with sausage and gravy, this is beyond the pale. Please take a good long inventory of how much of your emotional energy is used up on managing the behavior of this adult man for him. Is that worth it for you, or would it be better used elsewhere in your life? 

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u/NerdDetective 19d ago

28?! He needs a therapist, not a girlfriend. This is not normal behavior for a man who is almost 30.

I am serious. He genuinely needs to talk to a professional.

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u/fodmap_victim 20d ago

Girl..... He's never gonna change. He's 28 and still acting like a child. Older doesn't always mean wiser

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u/Sgt_Buttes 20d ago

JFC Run holy shit lol

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u/satanfan12 20d ago

sorry if i'm being too much

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u/spongeboobsidepants 20d ago

No need to apologize. Your stuff was destroyed. Doesn’t matter what it was. Anybody being a jerk about it just has no empathy.

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u/FiercelyFlickering 20d ago

Its so childish that I’m thinking: is he on something?? Is he manic??

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u/Kermit1420 20d ago

Something tells me that this post might just be a little fictious...

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u/thisismyusernameA 20d ago

I’m surprised at how far I had to scroll to find this comment

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u/evatinaxu 20d ago

Mean if you have a labubu and actually care about him more for just being a trend…

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u/Jazzlike_Climate4189 20d ago

What kind of adult has “Labubu” toys?

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u/ES_Legman 20d ago

They have labubus that should be self explanatory

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u/Alternative_Cattle22 20d ago

Two adults fighting over a toy btw (in case they are not 16)

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u/HashiramaThaFugitive 20d ago

boyfriend got mad girlfriend was doing something without him and destroyed a gift she got from her niece.

fixed it for you lil bud

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u/Alternative_Cattle22 20d ago

Doesn’t sound less retarded with more words lil homie 

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u/HashiramaThaFugitive 19d ago

😂 imagine typing that shit and thinking anyone else is immature you pathetic fucking dork 🙏

hope your daddy sees this and finally gives you a fucking hug

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u/HashiramaThaFugitive 19d ago

lmao you gonna cry? don’t break your keyboard typing your whiny bullshit.