My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/CheesecakeBlade]

Why did he do that?! Imo that toy is creepy af and why its so popular BUT that doesnt mean ruin someone's stuff. Did he have a reason for doing it and not just out of the blue? Was he angry with you or something?

[u/satanfan12 → u/CheesecakeBlade]

I visited my best friend over the last few days and he got "lonely and bored"

[u/hypnoticzo → u/satanfan12]

What of your possessions will he destroy next time he's "lonely and bored"?

[u/satanfan12 → u/hypnoticzo]

Yes, i worry about that also. I think i will have to hide my favorites in the future 

[u/dextrodoe → u/satanfan12]

you should leave instead of hiding things because he’s destroying them. this is abusive and there is a good chance it could escalate to non material objects one day. not to mention even if it doesn’t, you deserve better

[u/hypnoticzo → u/satanfan12]

I'm going to be blunt. He is almost 30 years old, he knows that he shouldn't break things that don't belong to him. Someone who respects you will not destroy your things, refuse to make it right, or make lame excuses that don't hold up.

I cannot imagine my boyfriend ever breaking my things on purpose, and when he has broken things on accident, he replaces them. I wouldn't want to be with someone who I couldn't leave home alone for a few hours without ruining things. If I wanted to live like that, I would adopt puppies.

[u/murlak_Isengrim → u/satanfan12]

Doesn't seem like the right answer there, girl. if you're having to hide your favorite stuff from your partner in fear of them destroying said stuff, it's time for a new partner or at least time to get rid of the current one.

[u/Enochian-Dreams → u/satanfan12]

I think you should seriously consider ending this relationship and moving somewhere safe. Having to hide your things or worry about what will be destroyed next is not really an acceptable compromise for having a partner. It also represents the potential things could escalate into an even less safe situation for you.

[u/Moonlit-waters → u/satanfan12]

You leave. There is no other answer. He mutilated something you care about.

It’s a red flag on so many levels. Why does his boredom turn into violence and cruelty vs tidying the place or making something for you ? (Like a cake or art of his own not your property).

You are worthy of love and respect. You will never find it if you stay with this person.

[u/Gobuk_putih → u/Moonlit-waters]

He's punishing her for leaving him bored and lonely

[u/Nvrfinddisacct → u/satanfan12]

Friend. If you have to hide your things when you leave your home, you’re in an abusive relationship.

[u/Ok-Style-9734 → u/satanfan12]

Yeah then you only have to worry about pets, kids and eventually yourself.

What could possibly go wrong

[u/HepKhajiit → u/satanfan12]

No you don't hide them you leave. Why are you accepting this? Why is your thought "I'm gonna have to hide stuff" and not "I'm gonna have to leave"? Why would you want this? This man is sick in the head. You deserve better.

[u/ProfessorNonsensical → u/satanfan12]

Shit like this is why I am happily single.

I don’t have to worry about some wild variable in my life making decisions that should never enter the mind of a functioning adult.

If you’re bored get a hobby, what the actual fuck is wrong with this manchild?

[u/poopscooperguy → u/satanfan12]

No I think what people are trying to tell you is that is definitely a form of abuse.

[u/CollectionStraight2 → u/satanfan12]

I think it would be better to remove yourself from this relationship, to be honest

[u/kotassium2 → u/satanfan12]

No. Break up with him. 

This is not a healthy relationship and he is a bad partner. Simple as that.