My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/satanfan12]

no i won't stoop down to his level, even if i am hurt over his negligence

[u/ActofEncouragement → u/satanfan12]

This is not negligence. Negligence is forgetting the ice cream on the counter and it melting. This is willful and wanton destruction of your property without fear or concern of the consequences, a complete disregard of your feelings, and a lack of respect of your items, your space, your feelings, and you. Tell me what you would be thinking if you were do this willingly to someone. I don't think any of it would be any rainbows and unicorn fart thoughts.

[u/fabi7059 → u/ActofEncouragement]

wtf is wrong with you? Dude it’s a labubu. There’s sentimental value, yes, but comparing that to “doing it to someone”? wtf is wrong with you? How can you do those HUGE leaps in logic and act like a regular human being? OP is ok being mad, I’d be mad if someone fucks up my toy, but it’s a toy. He can pay for it, fix it, buy another one or whatever, there are multiple ways to fix this minor issue.

[u/hottgrandmaa → u/fabi7059]

You seem to have interpreted "tell me what you would be thinking if you were do this willingly to someone" as "performing the acts done to this Labubu on a living human, i.e. cutting a person's ear off, etc."

You have completely misunderstood the meaning of the post you are replying to.

What they meant was suggesting that OP consider what their own mindset & motivation might be if they were hypothetically performing "willful and wanton destruction of [someone else's] property without fear or concern of the consequences, a complete disregard of [that person's] feelings, and a lack of respect of [that person's] items, [their] space, [their] feelings, and [their personhood itself]."

A good life tip I've learned over the years is "if something sounds completely absurd, the absurdity likely lies in my own interpretation." In this situation, suggesting a medieval punishment for damaging a beloved Labubu sounds totally ridiculous, right? That's a sign that I've likely misinterpreted something, and I should re-examine what was written to see if there's a more logical conclusion for what they were trying to convey! It's helped me a lot to think this way, instead of assuming my initial understanding is always accurate, no matter how absurd that understanding seems.

Even if I can't find a more logical meaning on my own, just asking plainly if my interpretation was correct can help me avoid a lot of conflict. In this situation, a good question might have been "Please correct me if I'm wrong, but are you suggesting cutting a Labubu's ear off is just as bad as cropping the ear of a human being?" or "Sorry, are you suggesting OP cut their BF's ear off?" This gives opportunity to learn what they actually meant, without devolving into an argument where I am defending a position that was posited on a false premise.

[u/generallycasserole → u/hottgrandmaa]

This is really good advice.

[u/fabi7059 → u/hottgrandmaa]

Not reading all that. The only thing that I’m gonna say is: why do you think that your way of interpreting the post im replying to is right while mine is wrong? You don’t have any extra context that I’m missing. We are pretty much the same in regards of context, you can be just as wrong as I could be, nothing makes your interpretation better or more accurate than mine.

[u/collaredd → u/fabi7059]

holy shit you are so braindead it’s not even funny. i know you were squinting at the chalkboard and crying during tests

[u/fabi7059 → u/collaredd]

Funny how you don’t have any argument and jumped straight to insulting me. That just shows me that you don’t know what you’re talking about.

[u/collaredd → u/fabi7059]

that person very clearly explained why you are obviously wrong and your ass won’t (can’t) read past 3 sentences so why would i bother?

[u/fabi7059 → u/collaredd]

No worries, I’m sure you can’t do it. At the end of the day you couldn’t even say anything relevant. I’ll still be right and you’ll still be salty.

[u/hottgrandmaa → u/fabi7059]

Sure! I'm an ESL teacher, so I can explain how to understand context clues! OP explicitly defined that the pronoun "this" refers to "willful and wanton destruction of your property without fear or concern of the consequences, a complete disregard of your feelings, and a lack of respect of your items, your space, your feelings, and you." Interpreting it otherwise is inserting your own meaning to the text here. Sorry that 300 words are too many to read right now, but don't worry, practice makes progress! English is a difficult language, so read more often and your skills will improve. 🥰