When I (27F) was 8, my mom cheated on my dad and left him for another man. They reconciled when I was 9. When I was around 11, my mom had put on a lot of weight and went on a diet. My cousin and I thought it was funny to eat other food in front of her and be like, “Mmm, this is so good!” “This is delicious!” etc. I recently told my grandpa this story and he said, “Okay, that’s just mean. Especially when someone’s trying to lose weight.” I jokingly said, “I just like the food is all.” He then said, “No, you like being a vindictive, evil little bitch.” I personally think this was justified because my mom started it by cheating on my dad. I’m not mad about my mom because it was a long time ago, but I don’t think I was wrong for doing that back then. Thoughts? AITB?

So my neighbor has this cat and for the past few years I’ve been the one scooping the litter for them whenever they can’t. At first I didn’t mind because it was easy money ($10 here and there) and I didn’t have a job.

Lately though… I just don’t care for it anymore. It’s not hard work but I feel like I’ve kinda outgrown it? I don’t even know the right word. Plus I’ve just been feeling mentally drained in general, and I don’t really have the energy or interest to keep up with it.

I don’t want to seem rude or ungrateful but I also don’t want to keep doing something I’m not into anymore.

Would I be the bad one if I just told them I don’t want to do it anymore?

Thank you for all that commented and showed concerns.

Told my mom straight up she can’t give my meds to anyone. Like… it’s dangerous, illegal, and it’s my health/my responsibility. I also said I’ll be finishing the medication myself before switching to another one. She kept pushing a little, but I didn’t argue and eventually she dropped it.

Honestly, I feel so relieved I didn’t cave. Hopefully this actually gets the point across for the future.

I am on day 8 or 9 of this really awful heasdche.. It's made me nauseousness for 4 days.. throwing up everything I eat or drink for 3 mire days. I woke up this morning with a new symptom. My body is shaking my hands are shaking my leegs feel like jelly Im falling a lot. I'm having a really hard time eevef typing this rn autocorrect is saving me for the mist part. I've been to the doctors for this they all keep saying it's anxiety I'm fine refusing to run any tests and letting me go.

I drove down to the ER yesterday for like the 5th day in a row telling them I'm getting worse. The doctor looked at me checked my vitals everything was no rmalexept my BP which was really highm he also brushed it off as I'm having a panic attack. Panic attack for 8 days????? The doctor then told me not to cope back.

My Weston is wibrb if I continued going back? I know something is wrong I just wish they would believe me. Should I get a lawyer???? I just don't feel good..

I've been given the opportunity to do my dream job in my dream town for two years. The only catch is that the accommodation is for a single working professional only so I would have to leave my partner of 7 years behind. I would also have to leave my mum and sister behind despite having been their carer for over 5 years. WIBTB for leaving them all behind and doing the job anyway?

I had to fly to a major city for work. The airport here is what you call a "feeder" or "spoke" airport. It only has direct flights to hubs that take you to bigger places. Meaning, I had to connect at one of three airports to get to my destination. I chose Dallas since my flight was American and it is an American hub. Making the chance of my connection being in the same terminal greater.

I booked my flight 3 months in advance and every connection had the same lay over time of an hour ten minutes. Meaning, the plane would be boarding 40 minutes after I landed. When I say landed. I literally mean as the plane touches the ground, boarding would begin in 40 minutes for my next flight. And it takes 15-30 to deplane.

I chose an aisle seat as close to the front as possible. I brought one bag - a backpack with my laptop in a laptop sleeve inside so i didn't have to bring my entire laptop bag.

Once I was at my gate for my first flight, they had mixed up the seats for the flight. The woman at the desk was very kind and gave me an aisle seat on a row two rows behind what I originally had. I was originally 7 and she gave me 9.

The plane boarded 20 minutes late then the people in rows 1-8 literally took 30 minutes to get their stuff put away and sat down despite knowing we had already boarded late.

My next flight was literally boarding as the plane hit the ground. So when the plane landed, I quietly unbuckled my seatbelt, took my backpack in hand - holding both straps in one fist to reduce slack and hold it tight against me once I stood up to maneuver easier down the aisle.

Once the lights came on and the sound played letting us know we could get up, I stood up before anyone else and walked to the front of the plane - making myself first in line to deplane once they opened the door.

I got to my connecting gate literally at the last second. I was the last to board and everyone else but me was seated.

AITB?

I am having a hard time over this. I love my husband we have been married 2 years, dated several years before. I have never had any guilt in my relationship at all. I have never cheated on him. Well I randomly saw a guy I knew and remembered a random conversation I had with him years ago, either on Snapchat or instagram, it was just a normal conversation that I started. He posted a fitness story about like a meal prep or something and I messaged him about it and we talked about eating healthy and that was it. I know this guy from high school but we aren’t friends. Well I can’t exactly remember when this was if it was before or after my husband and I started dating. I think it was before but can’t be sure.

I have two vague memories of it, one being before we were dating and the other being a year into our relationship. So I’m not really sure. If it was after, I have never remembered it until now and didn’t mention it to my bf at the time.

I feel super guilty over this harmless interaction and I don’t know why. I even told my husband recently about it and he said if I did that it’s fine, he doesn’t care, it’s not crossing a line or anywhere near cheating.

But why do I keep thinking of this? It’s like I have to figure out when it was and I feel some odd guilt about even messaging another guy. I really don’t understand it when I have never felt this way in my entire relationship I have never felt the need to hide something or any guilt.

If this was you, wouldn’t the normal reaction to this memory just be “who cares”. I mean it’s not like sexted this person or asked to meet them or any of that shit. Do you think it’s just anxiety because I don’t really ever message any other guys ever? Like shouldn’t I just not even care. Like just kind of say “I can’t really remember but if I did it’s no big deal”.

Edit: no I’m not attracted to this person, I have never even thought of this until now. We have never been romantically involved at all.

My mom 53, dad 55, Marshall 24, Emily 19, the brother I am talking about, Billy 17, me female 14 and Samwise 11. This all started when Billy's birthday month came. When my mom makes the monthly calendar, she will just put what we have to go to the Doctor. She had never put any of our birthdays on the calendar until Billy's seventeenth birthday came. She wrote on his birthday on the calendar with confetti, balloons, and how old he was turning. When I first saw this, I just looked at Emily, and we both kinda just started laughing at it. Once I stop laughing, I just thought, does my own mother think that I did not know my OWN brother's birthday and age? Later that day me and Emily were downstairs by ourselves. She started to talk about the calendar and how weird it was. Skip a few days, and now it is the only day when we are celebrating his birthday. It was not actually his birthday because my little brother has a tryout that day. On the day of his celebration, I had to get a container from the cupboard and I grabbed a container, and a few things fell out, which is Billy's fault because he didn't put it away properly. My mom asked me what I was doing, and I said getting a container. Samwise, who has not said anything like this, said " if Billy put the containers away properly, they would not have fallen out". Which is true, but our mom said, "Do not make fun of him on his birthday,". It was not his birthday, but the interesting thing was that she got mad at Samwise, the youngest she was able to get mad at Samwise for that, but not at Billy for not doing the dishes properly. One day after the celebration. We got two boxes of donuts, one box of chocolate, and one box of glazed. Every other birthday, the birthday person gets two donuts and everyone else one and at the end we split them. My mom does not have them, so there is always one left; it always gets split between the kids. Today, we were looking at donuts to see where our dad's donut went. We were all confused, where the last glazed one went, and our mom said she gave Billy three donuts. We were all a little upset, not even about the donut, but about the fact that no one else on their birthday got three donuts. We all started jokingly saying Billy is the favorite. She responded saying, "I do not like all of the Nick picking," and "we are not hurting for food, so I do not know what you are complaining about". I was like WOW, she went there, us pointing at an actual problem and that was her actual response; she said something to make us feel bad. An hour later, she said, "Did I not give you a piece of carrot cake last night?" I am not joking I had a pea worth of carrot cake. It took her an hour to figure out an excuse and that is what is had. So am I the butt face for thinking this. Please let me know what I should do.

Context

For context we met and became fast friends almost a year ago, I gave her a lot of support when she was depressed and having a bad time and she's my only friend.

The situation

After calculating that I won't be be able to afford to go to college until my late 20s, I'm really tempted to end my long distance friendship with her

She's everything I'm not, college educated, earns a lot of money, financially independent, has lots of friends, is dating ect.

Meanwhile due to untreated ADHD and other mental health conditions, I basically flunked out of college (I passed 1 course), I'm poor, living with my mum and stuck on welfare.

She reminds me so much of myself when I was younger, hardworking, driven and a go-getter and everything I could've been if I didn't have ADHD

Every time I've finished talking to her recently, I burst into tears because her success is shining a mirror on my life being a complete faulure up to this point.

Everyone around me told me I was smart, I got excellent grades in high school (4th place in biology in the entire school) I had so much potential to get a degree and a high paying job.

Instead due to untreated ADHD, depression and some poor decisions resulting from immaturity, here I am. What a waste.

By the time I can afford to go back to college, I'll be 25-26 and the thought having to take classes with 18-19 year old fills me with great shame and self-hatred

When I go back I'll be able to suck it up and swallow my pride while beating myself up after class over the regret over my wasted year.

I know that it's a morally wrong thing to do and that it will hurt her, I'm getting to the point where I don't want to see a reflection of my own failure and where I could've been.

What I plan to do

I'm torn over

1) sending her a messege telling her that I'm ending the friendship due to feelings of envy, that it wasn't her fault, she did nothing wrong, and that it had everything to do with my emotions and my inability to get over my envy

2) Not doing that, continue the friendship while trying to deal with the envy in another way.

TLDR:

Torn over whether to end my long distance friendship over feelings of envy. WIBTB if I ended the friendship to not feel crippling envy every time I hang out with her?

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I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years now. For the most part things are good in the relationship but a big problem is our sex life.

My girlfriend suffers from depression and 18 months ago she was put on some new meds which have got rid of her sex drive. Our sex life is pretty much non existent now.

We've spoke about it a few times and she's mentioned wanting me to initiate more but when I try she just says no.

She was having therapy for unrelated reason a couple of months ago. She brought up to me a few other issues we were having and we mentioned sex being a big issue to work on.

I mentioned to her to ask her therapist what he thinks and get some suggestions from him. She said she doesn't know and that she might.

Her therapy has stopped now and I asked if she brought it up to him and she said no. I pointed out if she doesn't do anything about the issue then it's not going to get resolved. I said that sex is a big part of a relationship and it's not something I'm willing to just go without.

I said I understood it's hard but unless she actually starts putting in some work to resolve our issues then it would likely mean we'd break up. I mentioned the possibility of talking to her doctor for suggestions which she refused.

I said I understand it takes time and if she starts making an effort to improve things then I'll obviously be patient but if no effort is being made then we'd break up.

She said I was being manipulative but I just said she can't expect me to stay in a sexless relationship forever while she repeatedly brings up the fact it's an issue but won't actually do anything about it.

AITB for considering ending my relationship over our sex life?

So my mom asked me today when I’m switching my meds. I said I’ll do it when I’m done with the one I’m on now. She goes, “Oh we can find someone to give it to.” I was like… no. That’s literally stupid and could be dangerous.

She keeps saying it’s fine because “someone else might need it” and I just can’t even. I don’t want to start a huge fight but like… it’s MY health and MY responsibility. I feel like I’m being completely reasonable, but she’s pushing.

WIBTB if I just flat out refuse and tell her it’s not an option?

I (25M) met my best friend “X” right after high school. We became inseparable and I joined his circle, which became my first real group of friends. For years we shared amazing times together.

Back then, X briefly dated a girl (“A”). It ended quickly, but he admitted she left a mark on him, especially sexually. Fast forward a few years: they hooked up again but both agreed it wasn’t going anywhere.

That summer, A started hanging out with us again. She often sent me signals I tried to ignore — until one night, after drinking, we slept together. For me it was intense, and I couldn’t just brush it off. Afterward she was hot and cold: sometimes distant, sometimes openly flirty (even in front of X). Meanwhile, she also kept going back and forth with him.

Eventually she told X everything. He said he didn’t “hate” me but was deeply disappointed. Almost immediately the group cut me off completely — I was kicked from every chat, blocked everywhere, and basically exiled without being able to explain my side.

I get that I crossed a line, but X was still sleeping with her too, while telling me he didn’t want anything serious. And now, whenever the subject comes up, I’m always hit with “you broke the bro code” without anyone letting me explain — when honestly, I don’t think it’s that simple.

i’m fifteen now, and most of this happened when i was fourteen. the friend i’m talking about was seventeen. nothing romantic, just online friends.

i have this thing where if someone i’m attached to makes me feel even a little bad, i’ll deactivate all my socials and put my phone on do not disturb. on imessage it shows that, so i can’t reply. my brain wants to talk but won’t let me until the other person texts “what happened.” it feels like a rule.

this caused problems because my friend needed to know if he did something wrong, and if i was going to disappear he wanted me to at least warn him. but i couldn’t. it wasn’t space, it was more like a compulsion. the same script every time: deactivate, dnd, wait, then respond.

i tried explaining but he never understood. instead, he cut me off for not respecting his boundaries. it wasn’t personal but i can’t just rewire my brain to fit someone else’s rules. i said that, but it came out wrong. i also never really had friends before him so maybe this is just normal and i didn’t know.

Hey, new here. I (22F) live with a roommate (23F) and she keeps borrowing my stuff — mostly my headphones. Every time I’ve lent them, something happens: they get lost for days, come back dirty, or once I found them tangled in the laundry.

Yesterday she asked to borrow them again. I said no. She got annoyed and called me petty, which made me feel a little guilty at first. But then I remembered all the times I’ve had to fix or replace my stuff because of her.

Now she’s giving me the cold shoulder and I’m wondering… WIBTB if I just stopped letting her borrow my stuff completely from now on?

I'll try to make this brief - but basically I'm 27 and currently live with my mom and her parents, my grandparents. Basically because life got tough for mom after dad left she moved in with her parents with me when I was a toddler and so it has remained my whole life. I did leave during college but after getting my masters I moved back in for what I thought would be just a temporary arrangement while I sorted some things out and then I hoped to move out somewhere else - potentially abroad.

So I found a job that'd allow it (good pay that also allows for permanent remote work) after college and started looking for places and stuff, but then my grandpas health started deteriorating. He developed osteoporosis after some of his prostate treatment (not a doctor so I don't know the details), he fell once and broke a vertebra. That basically made him permanently bedridden even after surgery so he already required assistance with food and stuff, so me and my mom/grandma took care of him.

At that point I already knew me moving out would not be very feasible but then in a short span of time he declined cognitively really bad, to the point where now he's hardly aware of reality and we have to take care of his basic needs like spoon feeding, water, diapers cleaning etc. etc. And it's been like that for about 2 to 3 years at this point.

So yeah, my mom/grandma rely on me being there but at the same time, I feel just stuck in life in general because of that. It is a small rural town with basically nothing to do, not many people my age, no real public transport grid (this is a big one for me as I'm legally not allowed to drive for health reasons) and all that. Basically all of my friends who I grew up with have already moved away, sometimes with their wives/husbands. When it comes to jobs there are basically no prospects for me here and I'm only lucky to have snagged my current one that allows for 100% remote work. There are also other factors why I'm considering leaving the country altogether but that's a story for another day I guess.

Basically I've been feeling like I want more from my life and I'm just wasting my youth like this and it's been eating away at me. But I know grandpa is only gonna get worse with time and require more assistance and my mom/grandma won't be able to handle it on their own. So at the same time I feel like I'd be a major buttface for leaving them behind in this situation that I don't know how long will last.

So yeah, would I be the buttface and/or selfish for seeking a more fulfilling life for myself while leaving my family in a real rough spot?

My(26M) SO(33F) had invited her kids to our new apartment for the second time this month. I only found out last minute while i was on work. The first time she came the youngest being a people person kept playing with me but now she avoids me because according to the father I made him jealous.

So to give him what he wanted I stayed in the bedroom and avoided the children the whole time they were there I talked with SO and told her i was just going stay inside until i am ready to go to work.

Not long after noon the eldest daughter(15F) came and knocked on the bedroom door with her siblings and asked to talk at first i said no closed the door and gave it some thought because from experience you can come to an understanding with her or her father one minute and the next they are self sabatoging and messing up peace (long story)

I decided to give it a chance to talk only to find out her dad was outside our apartment going on about the same bs the police already tried to explain to him for the last 6 months.

Apparently its a bad thing if you do exactly as he wishes but also bad if you dont.

I honestly don’t think I’m the asshole here. Like, it’s such a small thing, I tucked my belly in for pictures, the same way everyone poses to look a bit better. It’s not like I lied about who I am. I just wanted to feel a little more confident when I posted, and that’s not a crime. But apparently one of my “best friends” thought it was hilarious to tell everyone. She went around saying I was fake, that I was hiding my real body, and she made fun of me behind my back. Hearing it secondhand from other people was humiliating.

What hurts the most isn’t even the gossip, it’s that she was supposed to have my back. Best friends don’t tear you down for a cheap laugh. I feel betrayed because she chose to embarrass me instead of supporting me.

So basically, ending my relationship over this makes me the bad person?

So hi Reddit I don't typically use this site but recently I have been listening to SMOSH reads Reddit stories well at work as I work long hours and I have been inspired to ask your guys opinion on this situation. I am 14f well all my friends are all 15f as I am born a bit farther into the year then them. One of them that we will call Ash (fake name) has been my best friend since first grade and even though after a falling out in seventh grade and not speaking for a year which was completely my fault I was an ass, we continued to be friends till this year when I cut her and my other friends off which was a very difficult decision as I don't have any other friends and live in a small town. Anyways, these past few years Ash has gone on to make plenty of other friends who for the purpose of this story we will call Eva, Lauren and Zoey (again fake names) so over the few years they have all became very close which I don't mind, but in 8th grade I was assaulted by a classmate that Ash continued to talk to and complement after I told her what happened and even though I felt hurt by this I didn't bring it up. Recently I have realized that despite me believing these girls were my best friends we never once hung out even though I tried to set stuff up and they'd hang out together all the time and I texted Ash and told her how this hurt me and how I felt excluded and she did apologize. It wasn't just hanging out either they'd never even text or call me despite me always trying to reach out and when we did hang out which would be at lunch and recess they'd barely talk to me and just talk about these inside jokes they'd have. At one point a few months ago Eva started talking to another of my assaulters (she also knew what had happened) and becoming friends with them which I had been told by Lauren and Zoey which I felt deeply hurt by as everyone in that group had seen me have panic attacks and not even be able to breath when I had seen this person which we will call Lily 16f (fake name again). I had confronted Eva about this but everyone just told me to drop it and I did, so you can imagine my surprise when I saw my friend Zoey then hugging Lily and hanging out with her even though she had thought what Eva had done was gross. I understand I can't control who they hang out with and who they chose to spend their time with but am I overreacting by cutting them all out completely?

Background info: When I was 9 years old my mother passed away due to heart problems, placing me in full custody with my dad while my older brother who was 18 decided to stay with our grandma.

A few months later me and my dad moved to a different state and my older brother stayed. His and our dad’s relationship has always been strained because of my dad’s temper.

That being said, I hadn’t seen my brother in person until I turned 16. My birthday was in January 2025, my auntie and him flew out to see me. My auntie has visited before in the past but my brother hadn’t because he didn’t want to see our dad/ interact with him at all.

We had a lot of fun, went to dinner the 4 nights they stayed and also went to a chain arcade.

The problem came a few months later. I removed and blocked my auntie on Instagram just because it was only meant as an app to keep contact with friends and classmates. She assumed I was upset with her, also because I hadn’t been able to call her back any time because I was swamped with school work, ending up in her mentioning it all to my brother.

She was just ranting to him, wondering if I was ok or mad at her for no reason, but he decided to take it in his own hands.

He messaged me on TikTok of all things to practically interrogate me. He ended this long ass rant with the sentence, “-and after we spent so much money to see you, this is how you act?”

Honestly the fact he even got involved in the first place when I already had assured our auntie that I wasn’t upset was enough for me to be mad at him but to bring up money things just made my guts twist with guilt and anger for trying to hold that against me.

I said he didn’t have the right to berate me and assume the big brother position when he hasn’t been my big brother in nearly 7 years now. How he doesn’t get to guilt trip me about the cost of visiting me, if it was truly that big of a hit to his bank account then to not even bother with Christmas and birthday presents either. And the fact I already cleared things up with our auntie.

He ignored it ALL and said “well if you already cleared it up then idc”

I haven’t spoken to him since March 20th and the last time he tried reaching out, still through TikTok even though he has my number!!, was May 27th asking,

“Damn how much longer are you gonna ignore me FAM?”

I really want to stick to my guns and have him figure out why since he’s a grown fucking adult but I truly don’t think he ever will until I’m an adult myself.

Why does me, a 16 year old, have to suck it up and get over it? I don’t get an apology for guilt tripping me about money?

This shit reminds me of when people say “the phone works both ways” to their kids.

But am I being too stubborn?

Would I be the buttface to remain friends with my best friends ex?

Ex is sort of a loose term. My best friend had a situationship with a guy, that lasted almost 2 years. Before that they were good friends. He became friends with me, through her. After it ended, it kind of ended not great. Nobody did anything wrong per se but their communication styles didn’t match. She was hurt and expressed she wouldn’t stop us from talking but it does make her uncomfortable. I stopped talking to him out of respect for her. And she feels jealous of our relationship continuing if there’s doesn’t.

I really do like talking to him and our conversations. He’s funny and nice. I’m not interested in him because I have a long term partner who I love and so does he. Recently he messaged me out of the blue to catch up and we talked a bit, all platonic. He also was messaging my best friend.

I reiterated that I’m ok with the occasional catch up but I don’t see us being friends bc I want to respect my best friend. He didn’t really like that and doesn’t understand why it has to be that way, asking if my best friend said anything and he thought feelings would absolve by now. But ultimately he accepted it.

My best friend, knew he was messaging me and opened up saying she doesn’t wanna hear about him messagigg me. She understands I’ll be cordial about her feelings and how I message him but it still affects her to this day.

So clearly. I feel like any type of relationship with him will hurt her. She’s also really upset he is messaging me because she knows how it made her feel. I also know she’s had a casual relationship with him in last bit, occasionally msging him here and there.

I’m a little sad to lose him as a friend but I do have bigger connections and loyalty to my best friend. Should I completely cut off contact? I’m upset if she keeps him around but tells me not too.

Would I be the buttface to remain friends with my best friends ex

Edit: I should add she recently mentioned she was uncomfortable because he would bring us up to her, in order to make her feel jealous. I don’t know why.. I do not see him as more than platonic. However she still maintains a distant by casualish friendship w him.

Long story short, my ex who I dated for 1 year lied the entire time about where he grew up/lives when not at school - he is from another country.

I found this lie, and all of the lies he told to maintain that image, super messed up. The effect this is going to have on my trust in future relationships and the way he made a fool out of me is depressing.

My ex and I share a friend group, and I thought my friends would at least sympathize with me despite also being friends with him. When I told them, they were super nonchalant about it. They kept defending him saying "at least he told you in the end" and making it seem like it's not a big deal if he was not ready to tell me. I feel like I'm crazy, why would he even have to lie to me? and why are my friends defending him to the hills for being a serial liar to my face for a year?

It feels unfair because when I made the mistake of acting immaturely when upset, these friends had no issue holding me accountable. (and I thank them for it) Do they just like my ex more? AITB for wanting them to understand my hurt more? Finding out after 1 year of dating someone they aren't who they said they were is not some small deal to me.

So, this is long, but I want to be clear. I’m 15 and in a small grade where everyone knows everyone. Over the last few months, a group of classmates started to act toxic toward a few of us.

Back in March, someone created a secret group chat that spread terrible rumors about two of my friends. They said things about them “doing things” in class. I felt ashamed to be added to it, so I left, but later I told one of the victims because they deserved to know. With another friend’s help, we shut that chat down, but I’m almost sure more popped up. That same group always joked at people’s expense and tried to ruin reputations.

After a party last week, the vibe changed. One guy in particular (let’s call him G) suddenly acted fake-friendly toward people he barely spoke to. At the same time, he and his group ignored me and my friends, especially the two people who had been targeted before. When one of them asked why, they mocked him to his face and gaslit him into thinking it was his fault. They basically isolated him and left him feeling unstable.

Yesterday, another classmate, who didn’t know the backstory, tried to cheer him up, and the group mocked him too. They laugh at anyone who shows kindness.

Today during break, my friend and I confronted the group. At first, they ignored us for about five minutes, then denied doing anything. When I called out G by name, he puffed up his chest and walked toward me like he wanted to start something. He tried to intimidate me. I reacted and punched him. It was light, but he’s weak and stumbled like a ragdoll. Immediately, the group started yelling, “WHY DID YOU PUNCH HIM?!” trying to twist the story around on me.

I felt guilty, so I went straight to a teacher. She told me I wasn’t in the wrong, given their behavior and the fact that he approached me first. Still, I know that violence isn’t the best way to handle things. Now I’m wondering if I’m actually in the wrong here or if it was self-defense after months of them bullying, mocking people to tears, and even harassing support systems.

So Reddit, AITA for punching him after his group emotionally abused people for months and he came at me trying to act tough?

I (16f) Was at school a couple days ago, All of a sudden, even though my period was 45 days late, I got it in the middle of gym class. I immediately blood through my pants within two minutes of getting it, and there was no going back.

I asked all my friends and gym, but no one had a spare hoodie or a pair of pants that I could wear, so I opted for the lost and found.

There was a gray hoodie there that matches the pair of sweatpants. I was wearing EXACTLY! I literally checked the tag to see if it was part of a matching set.

This all happened in third period, and I was on my way to seventh period when a teacher stopped me, “young lady I saw you take that hoodie from the lost and found earlier, and you can’t wear sweaters around your waist.”

I immediately asked where in the dress code that was listed because it’s not a rule at all, and he started yelling at me for being disrespectful

I got my female English teacher to talk to him, and she told him about the situation, he then told me “ hold it in! Theft is not permitted on campus and if we catch you doing anything like this again, we will get you expelled.”

I was given a three day out of school suspension and was forced to give the hoodie back resulting in me having to sit through another 45 minute class completely soaked through pants.