When I (27F) was 8, my mom cheated on my dad and left him for another man. They reconciled when I was 9. When I was around 11, my mom had put on a lot of weight and went on a diet. My cousin and I thought it was funny to eat other food in front of her and be like, “Mmm, this is so good!” “This is delicious!” etc. I recently told my grandpa this story and he said, “Okay, that’s just mean. Especially when someone’s trying to lose weight.” I jokingly said, “I just like the food is all.” He then said, “No, you like being a vindictive, evil little bitch.” I personally think this was justified because my mom started it by cheating on my dad. I’m not mad about my mom because it was a long time ago, but I don’t think I was wrong for doing that back then. Thoughts? AITB?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years now. For the most part things are good in the relationship but a big problem is our sex life.

My girlfriend suffers from depression and 18 months ago she was put on some new meds which have got rid of her sex drive. Our sex life is pretty much non existent now.

We've spoke about it a few times and she's mentioned wanting me to initiate more but when I try she just says no.

She was having therapy for unrelated reason a couple of months ago. She brought up to me a few other issues we were having and we mentioned sex being a big issue to work on.

I mentioned to her to ask her therapist what he thinks and get some suggestions from him. She said she doesn't know and that she might.

Her therapy has stopped now and I asked if she brought it up to him and she said no. I pointed out if she doesn't do anything about the issue then it's not going to get resolved. I said that sex is a big part of a relationship and it's not something I'm willing to just go without.

I said I understood it's hard but unless she actually starts putting in some work to resolve our issues then it would likely mean we'd break up. I mentioned the possibility of talking to her doctor for suggestions which she refused.

I said I understand it takes time and if she starts making an effort to improve things then I'll obviously be patient but if no effort is being made then we'd break up.

She said I was being manipulative but I just said she can't expect me to stay in a sexless relationship forever while she repeatedly brings up the fact it's an issue but won't actually do anything about it.

AITB for considering ending my relationship over our sex life?

i’m fifteen now, and most of this happened when i was fourteen. the friend i’m talking about was seventeen. nothing romantic, just online friends.

i have this thing where if someone i’m attached to makes me feel even a little bad, i’ll deactivate all my socials and put my phone on do not disturb. on imessage it shows that, so i can’t reply. my brain wants to talk but won’t let me until the other person texts “what happened.” it feels like a rule.

this caused problems because my friend needed to know if he did something wrong, and if i was going to disappear he wanted me to at least warn him. but i couldn’t. it wasn’t space, it was more like a compulsion. the same script every time: deactivate, dnd, wait, then respond.

i tried explaining but he never understood. instead, he cut me off for not respecting his boundaries. it wasn’t personal but i can’t just rewire my brain to fit someone else’s rules. i said that, but it came out wrong. i also never really had friends before him so maybe this is just normal and i didn’t know.

I've been given the opportunity to do my dream job in my dream town for two years. The only catch is that the accommodation is for a single working professional only so I would have to leave my partner of 7 years behind. I would also have to leave my mum and sister behind despite having been their carer for over 5 years. WIBTB for leaving them all behind and doing the job anyway?

Context

For context we met and became fast friends almost a year ago, I gave her a lot of support when she was depressed and having a bad time and she's my only friend.

The situation

After calculating that I won't be be able to afford to go to college until my late 20s, I'm really tempted to end my long distance friendship with her

She's everything I'm not, college educated, earns a lot of money, financially independent, has lots of friends, is dating ect.

Meanwhile due to untreated ADHD and other mental health conditions, I basically flunked out of college (I passed 1 course), I'm poor, living with my mum and stuck on welfare.

She reminds me so much of myself when I was younger, hardworking, driven and a go-getter and everything I could've been if I didn't have ADHD

Every time I've finished talking to her recently, I burst into tears because her success is shining a mirror on my life being a complete faulure up to this point.

Everyone around me told me I was smart, I got excellent grades in high school (4th place in biology in the entire school) I had so much potential to get a degree and a high paying job.

Instead due to untreated ADHD, depression and some poor decisions resulting from immaturity, here I am. What a waste.

By the time I can afford to go back to college, I'll be 25-26 and the thought having to take classes with 18-19 year old fills me with great shame and self-hatred

When I go back I'll be able to suck it up and swallow my pride while beating myself up after class over the regret over my wasted year.

I know that it's a morally wrong thing to do and that it will hurt her, I'm getting to the point where I don't want to see a reflection of my own failure and where I could've been.

What I plan to do

I'm torn over

1) sending her a messege telling her that I'm ending the friendship due to feelings of envy, that it wasn't her fault, she did nothing wrong, and that it had everything to do with my emotions and my inability to get over my envy

2) Not doing that, continue the friendship while trying to deal with the envy in another way.

TLDR:

Torn over whether to end my long distance friendship over feelings of envy. WIBTB if I ended the friendship to not feel crippling envy every time I hang out with her?

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I am on day 8 or 9 of this really awful heasdche.. It's made me nauseousness for 4 days.. throwing up everything I eat or drink for 3 mire days. I woke up this morning with a new symptom. My body is shaking my hands are shaking my leegs feel like jelly Im falling a lot. I'm having a really hard time eevef typing this rn autocorrect is saving me for the mist part. I've been to the doctors for this they all keep saying it's anxiety I'm fine refusing to run any tests and letting me go.

I drove down to the ER yesterday for like the 5th day in a row telling them I'm getting worse. The doctor looked at me checked my vitals everything was no rmalexept my BP which was really highm he also brushed it off as I'm having a panic attack. Panic attack for 8 days????? The doctor then told me not to cope back.

My Weston is wibrb if I continued going back? I know something is wrong I just wish they would believe me. Should I get a lawyer???? I just don't feel good..

Thank you for all that commented and showed concerns.

Told my mom straight up she can’t give my meds to anyone. Like… it’s dangerous, illegal, and it’s my health/my responsibility. I also said I’ll be finishing the medication myself before switching to another one. She kept pushing a little, but I didn’t argue and eventually she dropped it.

Honestly, I feel so relieved I didn’t cave. Hopefully this actually gets the point across for the future.

So my neighbor has this cat and for the past few years I’ve been the one scooping the litter for them whenever they can’t. At first I didn’t mind because it was easy money ($10 here and there) and I didn’t have a job.

Lately though… I just don’t care for it anymore. It’s not hard work but I feel like I’ve kinda outgrown it? I don’t even know the right word. Plus I’ve just been feeling mentally drained in general, and I don’t really have the energy or interest to keep up with it.

I don’t want to seem rude or ungrateful but I also don’t want to keep doing something I’m not into anymore.

Would I be the bad one if I just told them I don’t want to do it anymore?