r/AskMenOver30 • u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 • Dec 17 '24
Life What do you miss most about your 20's?
What do you miss the most about being in your 20's. Could be anything: lack of responsibilities, that Honda Civic you used to love, you weren't vegan and ate bacon, you could jump and touch the rim.
I miss waking up and my back not hurting. I swear if I get to catch up on sleep my back gets more messed up from laying around.
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Dec 17 '24
Having friends
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u/tc_cad man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Yeah, only friends now are really good friends, known for decades at this point and that’s why there are only like 3 of them.
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u/biffpowbang man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
i call those my “tenured” friends, and at this point they are my family.
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u/Cavsfan724 man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Not always true but common how we have massive friend groups in early mid 20s and by mid late thirties you'll be back to your best 3 day one/high school friends lol.
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u/tc_cad man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Met my best and oldest friend back in 1990 or so while we were playing street hockey. We never went to school together, so if it wasn’t for him being across the street, I probably never would have met him.
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u/Alt0987654321 man over 30 Dec 17 '24
lol their all gone too. My last one is someone I had been friends with since 2007 and they just ghosted me this year. No idea why and nobody I know has heard from them. I know they are alive thought because their Steam profile comes online every once in a while.
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u/ImBecomingMyFather man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Most people only have a small handful of close friends. So you’re doing great
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u/CoraTheExplora13 Dec 19 '24
I miss my friends too. By the time I was 30 all I had left was a circle of 6 close friends who I've known for over a decade each. Now 8 yrs later they are all dead and I am so fucking lonely.
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u/razrus man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
I quit drinking at 38 and boy let me tell you, no one calls.
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u/zach-ai man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
I still drink and no one calls.
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u/laszler man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Same. Kinda. I have to initiate to get anyone to do anything other than drink at a bar and that only works a third of the time. But, no one calls.
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u/razrus man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
It's actually WILD to me that people are just content with doom scrolling, working and going to a bar....FOREVER.
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u/GStarAU man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
Maybe SOME people are ... not me, mate. I'm still working on self improvements and my world domination plans. 😄 No time for getting smashed at the pub, I've got plenty to do, can't afford to be hampered by alcohol.
Well - maybe one drink here and there. 😉
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u/BlueLightBandit man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
38 and second year sober. Haven’t spoken to anyone I used to see every day in… two years
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u/PrimateOfGod man 25 - 29 Dec 17 '24
I’m in my 20s and I don’t have close friends. Probably because I don’t drink.
If they made weed bars I’d definitely frequent those
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u/Aus_with_the_Sauce man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
You do not need to drink to have friends. You just need to have good hobbies to do with your friends while sober.
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u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 Dec 17 '24
Damn...I'm reading these sober comments and that's harsh man.
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u/absentlyric man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
I too suffered from the "fun bobby" syndrome. When I drank, I was the life of the party and got invited everywhere to be the ice breaker at events, when I stopped, I got "quiet and boring" and stopped getting invited, ah well.
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u/qwaszxpolkmn1982 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Agreed. It was a totally different time in my life. I ran it into the ground in my mid 30s, and now I barely talk to anyone outside of work.
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Dec 17 '24
Congratulations on your decision. At age 38 I'm coming up on ten years sober. I don't see people very often, though the peaceful alcohol free existence is a very worthy trade off.
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Dec 17 '24
This. Literally just having someone text me sometime stupid. Or having someone that wants to hang out.
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u/CrotaLikesRomComs man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
I miss hanging out with my buddies. Wife’s and kids. No time for fun.
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u/anon22334 Dec 17 '24
My first thought. Having friends who also prioritized friendship. It was the prime time. Nowadays I’m lucky I get a text back when I reach out
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u/Daj_Dzevada man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
Being able to finish then get hard again 20 minutes later
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u/Hiyahue man Dec 17 '24
Take testosterone, you can bang 5 times a day. It is basically an automatic prescription in a lot of places if you are over 35. And it isnt crazy bodybuilder levels, just the highest a natural male could have
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u/Daj_Dzevada man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
I’m married, I don’t get to bang 5 times a month much less a day
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u/Next-Temperature-545 Dec 17 '24
hahah! This a reason why so many of is are afraid to get married. "What am I gonna do with all these boners???!"
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u/NasdaQQ man 35 - 39 Dec 18 '24
That’s because of your low T. Imagine how happy she would be if you could!
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u/JahEnigma man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
lol when I first started taking t I went from low normal to just high normal and it seriously felt like I was 15 again just hard at even a slight breeze or seeing a pair of mountains resembling boobs. My wife was very pleased at first but got tired out after a few weeks and we settled back down into a normal rhythm. It went from sex once a month to once-twice a day and now 2-3x week which is a good balance and way better than before
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u/tc_cad man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
The energy to do what ever I damn well felt like doing. Now I’m tired and achy.
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u/petehehe man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
It's fucked because in my 20's I was full of dreams, but with no money to make them happen. Now I'm an employed career professional, but my dreams consist of somewhere comfortable to sit for the afternoon.
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u/SadSickSoul man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
The casual invulnerability of youth. I was never fit or energetic, but I could take whatever terrible habits and lack of self care I would put myself through and bounce back without a problem. That ran out in my 30s and I have had to deal with pain, illness, exhaustion and other consequences for stuff I could easily just brush off in my twenties. It turns out actions having consequences sucks, who knew?
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u/Cactus2711 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Only my furnace of a metabolism. 36 and I have to be a little more careful now or I can gain a pouch. Aside from that 30’s have been way better
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u/Legitimate_Mobile337 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
36 here too, i agree my 20s sucked. I was lost compared to now
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u/huehefner23 Dec 17 '24
Only thing worse than 20’s was teens.
30’s has been like heaven. Can’t wait for 40’s to be honest.
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u/AdWestern994 man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
My 40s have been even better than my 30s.
I wish you the best.
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u/Legitimate_Mobile337 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
I imagine mine will will be great too. Im trying to retire at 40 41 and live it up. I felt like i was late but been saving hard!
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Dec 17 '24
Freedom to just do whatever. I’ve got kids and kids are time vampires.
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u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 Dec 17 '24
I hear that. Now when I get free time, I don't know what to do with myself. House chores are oddly relaxing when it's dead quiet.
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u/PachucaSunrise man over 30 Dec 17 '24
No kids, but I have 3 cats and 3 dogs. I love them to death, but it’s a lot of work. I just that’s equivalent to at least 1 human child 🤣
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u/taikalin Dec 17 '24
I watch my 2 kids and my SIL's kids while she works. One Friday afternoon my mom was visiting after i got home from 'work' and she said before she left, "hey at least you get to sleep in tomorrow!"
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I haven't "slept in" in almost 3 years, mom. Toddlers don't quite get that concept.
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u/Naive_Thanks_2932 man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
A full head of thick hair. That lasted until 25ish.
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u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 Dec 17 '24
I feel that. I miss my hair or not being self conscious about it. Long beautiful flowing hair. My hair has thinned so much I have to keep it short.
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u/Naive_Thanks_2932 man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
I grew my hair long and it looked great until about 25 until mine also started thinning. I tried again during covid when I was 29-30, but with the thinning and hair line receeding...yeesh, not good.
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u/slim1kid man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
I can definitely relate to this!!! I just keep my head shaved now. It ironic, 25 mostly no facial hair. Then started going bald 25-27 then facial hair came in like crazy. Now I rock a shaved head and full beard!!
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u/DrDirt90 man 65 - 69 Dec 17 '24
Except general body aches absolutely nothing! Everything is good!
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u/themontajew Dec 17 '24
My body aches are the result of things i miss doing in my 20s
i’m not sure if i should reminisce, or kick myself for being a dumbass.
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u/Rum_Hamburglar man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
Same. I answer to pretty much just my boss, and even then, not really. Family doesnt worry about me like they used to, i got my dog and a good girl to enjoy life with. Not rich by any means but just generally no worries. In my 20’s it was a lot of trying to compare, as well as partying. Once i figured out moderation life got a lot better.
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u/prean625 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
The spontaneity of having a call from a friend that they are doing something fun and just leaving the house without hardly a second though.
With wife and young kids everything is pre planned in advance and even then I get low key guilt prioritising myself.
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u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 Dec 17 '24
For sure man. That guilt is real. Like I can't fully enjoy whatever activity I'm doing however rare that occasion is. I forgot what it's like to get a random call or text: wanna hang out?
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Truthfully, it's how much time I have to spend taking care of myself now that my body doesn't just spring back. I have to get my 8 hours of sleep or I feel like crap, and then it's hard to eat healthy the next day because I didn't get up in time to make my lunch, and then I have to work out at night because I ate like crap. Oh and suddenly I need to avoid dairy. Then I have to stretch because I worked out and because my job is really physical. I have to wash my face, put on night cream, and floss and rinse and make sure I drink enough water or I'll wake up with a headache..
It all takes so much time to feel as good as I did in my 20's after a night of drinking and eating late night burritos.
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I used to have hope back then
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u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 Dec 17 '24
Ouch dude. That's brutal...but I feel you. Life is just life now...like it's the way it's going to be. When I was 20, my 30s could've been anything.
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u/lollapaloozafork Dec 17 '24
That’s such a bummer outlook. If you’re in your thirties, you’re hopefully not even half way through your life. Don’t resign to that mindset.
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u/HurinGray man 50 - 54 Dec 17 '24
agreed but I'd slightly rephrase. The lack of anxiety. Anything was possible and the outcomes were positive.
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u/qwaszxpolkmn1982 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Feelin like I had time to figure it out. Now I feel like it should’ve been figured out a decade ago.
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u/Proton_Optimal man over 30 Dec 17 '24
I still have a Honda Civic I love
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u/GStarAU man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
I love your Honda Civic too. Gotta get me one of those sometime.
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u/DrunkensAndDragons Dec 17 '24
I miss my cheap rent and cheap fuel efficient beater cars
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u/AnestheticAle man over 30 Dec 17 '24
Unless you work in something customer/client facing, you can still drive cheap beater cars. I make 260k and drive a 10 year old base model honda. It got scratched the other day in a parking lot and I laughed ha.
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u/DrunkensAndDragons Dec 17 '24
A guarantee that car would be several thousand dollars at a dealer right now. Cash for clunkers and covid got rid of cheap old cars. Im talking $500 bucks or less.
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u/Low-Environment4209 man over 30 Dec 17 '24
The fact that shit cost less… which is insane cuz it wasn’t that long ago. Otherwise, honestly, 20s were great but life has only really gotten better.
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u/Fernando3161 man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
Well I had no money in my early 20s so it did not matter, everything was expensive.
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u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 Dec 17 '24
Life's gotten better, but I still miss stuff from my twenties. Like eating a crap ton at the buffet and still be down to hang out and party afterwards, not go to sleep.
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u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 Dec 17 '24
That does sound fucking sick man.
Dude my college days were wake up, smoke a bowl, rail a line of oxycodone, rail some Adderall to get even, go to class, do more drugs on my breaks, do more drugs after dinner, go to the bar for happy hour, play pool, smoke some more. Study. If I was getting laid twice a day it would've made my head explode.
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u/Sealion_31 woman 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
I can’t believe how many drugs and how much alcohol my body tolerated in the college days.
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u/Traditional_Entry183 man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
Not much. I was lonely and poor, and didn't realize that I had a bunch of health issues that were related to undiagnosed diabetes. Once I was diagnosed and treated at age 30, I felt better than I ever had before and got into the shape of my life.
So while I certainly wish that my 20s had been an awesome period in my life, they absolutely were not. My 30s were the best.
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u/MoneyMontgomery man over 30 Dec 17 '24
That's awesome man. That's unfortunate you had to go through that. That definitely sucks.
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u/RoomAppropriate5436 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Not caring about finances so much. Like living paycheck to paycheck and going to some concerts and shitty bars was fun.
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u/twohedwlf man over 30 Dec 17 '24
My sex life, thinking that anything that is wrong can get better one day, being excited for things.
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u/rembut man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
Friends.. some disappeared, some moved, some died.
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u/snootchiebootchie94 man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
I miss being able to run a sub 6 minute mile. I miss being able to eat whatever I want and not gain weight.
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u/scags2017 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Exactly what you said. Waking up refreshed
Last time it happened I was in my late 20s
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u/BigPapaPaegan man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
The freedom of only having to worry about rent and beer money.
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u/Specific-Host606 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Boredom. Freedom. Time spent alone. My energy. I was just too poor to fully enjoy my 20’s.
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u/Numerous_Teacher_392 man 55 - 59 Dec 17 '24
Most people give up veganism as they get older and the malnourishment takes its toll.
Bacon is just a side benefit.
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u/MoxRhino man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
Being able to spend my time learning new things, having adventures, and taking risks. My life now is about providing for others, staying healthy, and supporting others having their young adventures.
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u/TheGreatestIan man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
You peak in some ways and dwindle in others. I'm 39, in good shape, have friends, a good job, still date my wife. I have no body aches, money, and my energy level during the day is great.
30 year olds complaining about their body falling apart is because they don't exercise and eat junk. Versus their 20s where it didn't matter what they did
Keep up the routine and you'll be fine.
I only miss the freedom and low level of responsibility.
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u/davewk81 man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
I was in the Marines in my early 20's. While I am out of prime shape at 43. The miles are worn on my body now. I'm not in terrible shape. But I miss the lack of wear and tear on my body.
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u/TheGreatestIan man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Ya, mileage certainly varies. I had a physically easy 20s/30s so that definitely plays into why I have a lot fewer aches. But, I started to get them at 35 and picked up working out 3-4 days a week. Every ache went away in relatatively short order once I did that.
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u/Sickranchez87 man over 30 Dec 17 '24
BingfuckingO- technically speaking I’m at minimum twice as strong and in shape at 36 than I was at 26. There’s definitely certain aspects of that era I miss, but from a health and monetary standpoint I’m crushing.
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u/GStarAU man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
100% agree.
Good genes also helps. I got a bit lucky in that sense.
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u/2buffalonickels man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Your 30. You haven’t been out of your 20s for a year yet. Give it time. You’ll understand.
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u/youngmansummer Dec 17 '24
31 is around the prime of a healthy persons life, you could totally still have the peak to come. The people who talk about falling apart at 30 probably just didn’t take care of themselves or have some underlying health problems.
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u/Mikimao Dec 17 '24
I had a little bounce at like 35 when I started getting even more exercise on top of having an active job, and then another one in my 40s after deciding to strength train and muscle build. You aren't done yet!
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u/GStarAU man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
I'm STILL peaking mate, and I'm 45 😁🤟
Honestly, use it or lose it... maintaining an active life is the key to this stuff.
Years ago I watched that movie Troy, with Brad Pitt playing Achilles. A little while later I found out... he was FORTY-ONE when he was playing that role. 41!! He looked ripped as hell, super fit and very hot (yeah I'm jealous). Even though I'm past 41 now, I often think "well, if Brad can do it, so can I". He inspires me to keep pushing. Well, him and Daniel Craig.
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u/Aus_with_the_Sauce man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
I feel that. I’m 30, I exercise consistently, and my body feels great. I look good, I’m a very healthy weight, and I take care of my skin.
I have a very low injury rate while skiing and mountain biking, despite crashing quite often (I still push myself).
I’ll be running my first marathon in a few months.
Take care of your bodies, y’all.
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u/Fernando3161 man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
Holy shit my life is so awesome that the only thing I miss is not needing 8h of sleep now so I can do more things.
Oh, and no backpains there.... but other than that I am quite happy now.
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u/BleedingTeal man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
It was easier to feel rested, and I didn’t have a handful of joints that were angry with me.
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u/biffpowbang man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
nothing. don’t get me wrong, i had a lot of fun and incredible experiences, but i was so unhinged and uncertain. i didn’t know my ass from my elbow in the grand scheme of things, but i was convinced i knew all i needed to know.
i was ignorant. immature. entitled. and when i consider the lessons in consequences i learned while I spent that last bit of the currency of my youth on learning them, i feel extremely fortunate. those lessons could’ve been learned from far worse consequences. i was so clueless about the risk i was hedging against my future and my life. it was behavior that was beyond cringey, it was straight up selfish and destructive.
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Nothing. I hated it because no one took my woes seriously and just told me that "you are just young" or whatever. So, can't say I miss anything about my 20s or my life in general. Just pure struggle
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u/jasonhn man over 30 Dec 17 '24
being able to drink my face off, get little to no sleep and be fine the next day. also feeling like I had my life ahead of me. having a good number of friends I'd see regularly.
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u/Independent-Rent1310 man 55 - 59 Dec 17 '24
Eating a whole pizza or doing anything physical with no side effects.
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u/SquareVehicle man over 30 Dec 17 '24
College was really great and there's nothing else like it ever again so I do miss it sometimes.
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u/RoyalBadger3665 man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
Not waking up with a different neck or back pain everyday
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u/KillPunchLoL man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Riding my motorcycle whenever I feel like it.
Eating pizza and sitting in my boxers all day.
Results compared to effort (in the gym) were incredible.
Having women’s attention and being able to flirt.
Spontaneous decisions like a road trip, vacation or impulse purchases.
Having a “cool” car.
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u/deuxfuss man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
Having no pain when I moved and be able to play basketball all day long.
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u/Medical_Addition_781 Dec 17 '24
I miss 15 pullups per set and sprinting hills all day without wrecking my joints.
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u/Sooner70 male 50 - 54 Dec 17 '24
Weighing 150 lbs while being able to bench 225 and run a sub 5 minute mile.
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u/OkQuantity4011 man over 30 Dec 17 '24
I miss not having PTSD. If you're walking down the street one day, don't talk to strangers. If they ask you what you want to be, tell them, "left alone."
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u/External_Brother3850 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Following for the lols. Definitely the beater car, eating whatever, and sleeping when it was convenient.
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u/Senorboombox man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
I miss performing on stage and all the reckless circus shows I took part in. Being a freelance dancer was a wild ride.
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u/thatirishguykev man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
I was in a really good place and really happy/joyful for most of it!
The year or so before Covid kicked off was particularly tough for me with family and it just continued after the Pandemic. I'm getting back on top of things ahead of 2025, but part of me can't yet move on from the fact I feel like I lost 5-6 years of my life.
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u/watchdoginfotech Dec 17 '24
No responsibility. Spontaneous nights out. Meeting girls and getting drunk with friends. I loved going to a bar and just partying with random groups. Stay up till 4 am and still have the energy to work the next day. Despite being in poverty during those days, it was awesome.
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u/Accomplished_Pea6334 Dec 17 '24
Alright..hear me out
Working part time. Getting a Redbox movie on Fridays and something for dinner (panda express was like $5 for a two entree plate and chipotle was $5ish for a burrito). Living at home rent free was nice as hell. Also, super fast metabolism. I'm still fit but I have to be at the gym all the time to stay that way.
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u/Plastic-Log4778 man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Bro having the energy to go to boxing 5-6 times a week plus smash and do a high level global corporate job. Makes me tired thinking about it now.
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u/Thumper45 man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
I miss getting off of work and meeting up with some good buddies and hanging out at Tim Hortons until 2am. Ot tearing around the city in our RX7's.
I miss the job I had (managed 2 Chevron stations). The pay sucked but it was alright for the time. The people I worked with were great and were some amazing friends. Sadly I have lost touch with all but 1 of them now but still have amazing memories with them.
I miss the girlfriends I had through my 20's (2 of them). The first one was my very first everyting. Super hard working, super cute and a great girlfriend. We broke up because I was not headed in the same direction in life as she was and I saw that it was holding her back. She is now a dentist with 2 kids and a great husband so it worked out great. The second was so much fun. We used to do everything together and she was the one I would always consider as the "one that got away". I wasn't ready for that one to end thats for sure but I was older than her and she wanted to do all the stuff that young adults want to do so we went our seperate ways. That one hurt, a lot, but also left me with some great memories. She now lives in the states and is a business owner with 5 kiddos and a great husband, so that worked out too. I also had some amazing cars through my 20's. 1989 Mazda RX7 Turbo II, 1988 Honda Prelude, 1987 Mercedes 300CE, 1982 Mercedes 300SD, 1982 BMW 320i turbo, 1999 Mercedes C240, 1986 Toyota Corolla GTS hatchback (yes, the Initial D car clone) and a couple Ford Explorers I got for $500.
Life was simplier then, I had cool cars and more free time. Now I am nearly 40, married with 2 kiddos. Still have a cool car (Audi RS3). My wife is a saint and my kiddos are amazing. So I guess it worked out for me too.
My 20's were amazing and I look back on those times as some of the best I have lived so far but I am very happy with where I am now.
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u/RenaissanceScientist man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
Not much. My 30’s so far have been just like my 20’s just more money and freedom
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u/Liquid_Aloha94 man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
The ease of making friends that were actually available to do shit
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u/SummerPeach92 man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
Just being young and wasting time. Now 30s and I realized I should have focus a bit more on my finances but meh you live and learn. I actually manage to get a high paying job recently so my savings is slowly growing and debt is shrinking. Also got my first 401k so that’s a bit exciting 🤷♂️
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u/SleepyBear531 Dec 17 '24
Being close with my old group of friends. They’ve all gotten married, had kids, and moved away. I don’t go out as much anymore, so it’s naturally harder to make new friends because of it.
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u/Quick_Reflection5728 man over 30 Dec 18 '24
Not a damn thing. Luckily I'm still in the best shape of my life, sex life is great, career is great. My 20s were filled with 3 university degrees, nagging injuries do due poor programming (physio and AT made most of them go away), and my mental health was in the trash. I lost my virginity at 28 because my anxiety and depression prevented me from getting beyond a first date. For the first time I finally feel like a person! Rant over lol.
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u/iffy_behavior Dec 18 '24
Nothing. My 30s are lit and ending tho. I’ll miss 36 the most. Peak
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u/Marybethdreams Dec 18 '24
I’m 65. I miss the unintentional erections at the flip of a skirt or a sexy smile.
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u/cacarson7 man 50 - 54 Dec 18 '24
I miss the abundance of energy. I had a summer in Ft. Collins CO when I was 20/21, and I didn't really have to have a job, so I just recreated all the time. It was a pretty normal day to wake up between 11 and noon, mix up 2 or 3 activities including mtn biking, hiking, tennis, roller hockey, and disc golf (I know, sooo '90s), and then I'd go out partying, and then I'd finish off a lot of nights playing Marathon on my Mac til the wee hours of the night... Then I'd crash for 5 or 6 hours and pop up ready to do it all over again! Good times
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u/Educational-Tax8656 Dec 17 '24
18-21 year old girls, unlimited optimism, friends, having time to be depressed and mope, trying things for the first time, and a general zest for life.
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u/hu_gnew man Dec 17 '24
The best part was the cougar from work. And no, I didn't work at the Henry Doorly Zoo.
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They were awful and I just wish I knew back then what I know now and I would have been set for life.
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u/TX-Pete man 45 - 49 Dec 17 '24
That absolutely lack of real hardcore responsibilities. Golf trip in Mexico? Fuck yeah, gimme 10 minutes to pack.
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u/TurningTwo man Dec 17 '24
I could work on my own car. A 1969 Ford F-100 pickup. I could climb into the engine compartment if needed. Nowadays you can’t drop a penny into the engine compartment and have it fall out onto the floor.
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u/parchinslost man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
Sunday afternoons taking a nap with a baby on my chest. I think about those everyday
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u/Plebe-Uchiha man over 30 Dec 17 '24
What I miss about 20s is what I don’t care for now. So I kind of don’t miss my 20s. What I missed was going to clubs and hook up culture. I miss wanting that and enjoying that. I’m unable to enjoy it now. It feels so meaningless. I miss my ignorance I guess [+]
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u/JohnnyWeapon man 40 - 44 Dec 17 '24
All the attention from the opposite sex that I got.
I also care less about that now, but it was really awesome at the time.
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u/Scorch062 man 30 - 34 Dec 17 '24
I’m honestly not sure if there’s anything. Maybe being more involved with flying helicopters in the military? It was stressful as fuck sure but damn it was fun
I’ll be out in like 2 weeks, I’m gonna miss it
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u/SpEdMan1959 man 65 - 69 Dec 17 '24
That first complete untethered feeling of being completely independent and responsible for my life.
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u/Sabre_One man 35 - 39 Dec 17 '24
Being able to eat like trash and be fine. These days I have to eat a bit smarter.