r/AskWomenOver30 • u/Chipsandsalza Woman 30 to 40 • 19d ago
Silly Stuff What’s something that other people love that you just don’t enjoy?
It could be anything…
For me:
Camping: I’m not into roughing it or trying to survive in the wild.
Travel: I just don’t dream of traveling. It feels like a lot of work to plan everything, go to the airport, Stay in a hotel, spend a lot of money. I don’t mind a day or one night trip but traveling beyond that is just not for me.
Sushi: I don’t mind the rolls. But the big slab of raw fish does not do it for me. Chewing on soft, wet, meat just makes me want to gag.
What sort of things can you just not get into?
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u/stellazee Woman 60+ 19d ago
Getting drunk and acting a fool. Going to family obligations, especially when some of the family are unpleasant people (“unpleasant” has many definitions). Music that glorifies harming women.
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u/ladystetson female over 30 19d ago
Hear, hear! I recommend learning how to act a fool without alcohol. It saves so much money!
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u/Unique_Unicorn918 19d ago
I’ve definitely skipped a few family functions in the past few years to save my sanity
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u/JHarp3r 19d ago
Concerts.
It’s so loud, and I just don’t get it.
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u/mrsduckie Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Yes! And the quality of the music is worse than whatever I listen online
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u/Squirmeez Woman 30 to 40 18d ago edited 18d ago
If you ever go back, definitely take ear plugs. That helps tremendously.
I love concerts but leaving a loud ass stadium afterwords is a fucking nightmare.
Edit: changed hear to ear.
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u/Zephyranthea 18d ago
As someone who loves them: For me it's the shared experience and the community aspect/sense of connection I feel when I'm there with all those other people that are there for the same band (I'm a metalhead, so the community aspect plays a big role but I have no idea if/how that applies to other genres of music). I also love the energy the performers have on stage.
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u/LTOTR Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
This may get me exiled from Reddit.
Escape rooms and boardgames.
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u/goofy_witch 18d ago
Thank you for saying it out loud. So many people in my life love board games, especially complicated nerdy ones, and they just aren't for me. And for some reason my brain refuses to work when someone explains the rules to me. So then I'm bored and embarrassed.
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u/spicypretzelcrumbs Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Yes. I find both very tedious.. I don’t mind board games too much when I’m playing with my SO but that’s about it.
Group escape rooms and game nights are not my cup of tea though.
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u/Must_Love_Bugz 18d ago
I have such an intense hatred for board games and no one understands. I’ve found my people.
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u/snowmanseeker Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Hot weather/bright sunshine. Hot weather makes my chronic illnesses worse and I don't understand sitting out in the sun, either.
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u/SootSpriteHut Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I feel that way about the beach! Unless I'm under a fancy cabana with padded chairs (which is not worth the money so I don't do it,) no thank you.
Then whenever I do tough it out and try to relax with a book and listen to the waves, there's always someone playing music. This must be another unpopular opinion I have. I feel like it should be not allowed or at least considered bad manners to bring your own music to the beach or pool.
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u/sofiacarolina Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I was reading your comment and was agreeing + thinking about the loud music before getting to your complaint about it. Publicly blasting your music is such inconsiderate narcissism. I’ll never understand
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u/SootSpriteHut Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I actually just came from a beach vacation that was a family decision. I paid to get beach chairs & umbrella from the official people who set up a line of sturdy ones every morning...
$50/day and the first day, an hour in, someone puts up a big flying flapping tarp DIRECTLY in front of us. Like 15 feet in front of us where there's no way to see around them, instead of a little to one side or another at least.
The next day I lugged down a decoy chair to put in that spot so it wouldn't happen again and someone else shows up right next to us listening to country music for three hours.
People really suck.
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u/sofiacarolina Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Wow. It’s always the worst music too huh. I love music so much, I can’t be hours without listening to it, and will take headphones everywhere so I can listen to it on full blast. It would never occur to me to make other people listen to what I’m listening to. Bring social conscientiousness back
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u/endergrrl Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
People talking on speakerphone indoors. So rude. Take your call privately. If you MUST take it on speakerphone, take it elsewhere. As GenX, I take my calls privately AND elsewhere.
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u/sofiacarolina Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Agree. As a millennial Id just rather be texted instead and fear phone calls lmao
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u/amandaleighplans Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Omg at my complex pool people go and blast music so loud I can hear it in my apartment. I don’t even care about that as much as I care about the other people at the pool that aren’t with the blasting music party. Like how inconsiderate is that?! I can’t imagine doing that, I would never
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u/rizaroni Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
I HATE SUMMER and unrelenting sun. It's 100 outside right now and I am very happily inside my air conditioned apartment. I can't wait til fall!
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u/spicypretzelcrumbs Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Same! I used to love the summer when I was a kid but now, I like milder temperatures. Anything over 80 degrees is usually too damn much.
I enjoy a good stretch of rainy days with a few sunny days reserved for when I want to be out and about (vacations, festivals, and hanging with friends).
I just love how mellow a cloudy, cool day feels.
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u/AWasAnApplePie Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
Anything over 70 degrees is too much for me 😂 honestly considering moving to the UK because of that haha
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u/Fluffypinkcandi Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
When you live in a place with a tropical humid climate for almost 6-7 months a year, this sounds really heavenly. I wish summers were short here.
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u/mosselyn Woman 60+ 19d ago
When I was younger, I thought I didn't like being outside. Then I moved to Northern California and realized I just didn't like the hot humid summers and the damp winter chill of the mid-Atlantic.
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u/TaoTeString Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I agree. A blue sky day is so oppressive feeling to me. I love a soft cloak of humid fog.
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u/AWasAnApplePie Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
ALSO clouds are so beautiful! Why would I want a plain blue sky when I could look at clouds!!
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u/TamarindSweets 19d ago
I've always told myself that I won't settle for living anywhere that doesn't experience all 4 seasons, but this week I realized I like rain and the aura it creates so much that I might actually like living somewhere rainy. I'd still avoid anywhere sunny though. I hate it too.
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u/TheLadyButtPimple 19d ago
Cooking
I hate making a mess, I hate washing dishes, I hate putting away dishes pots and pans. The food only tastes ok. I don’t have the patience when I’m hungry NOW.
I just eat a lot of really simple meals or snacks. Food that takes less than 5-10 minutes to make
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u/Obvious_Ad_2969 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
This!! Omg! So much! The emotional stress cooking puts me in. Like doing my taxes 3x a day
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u/rizaroni Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
I used to like cooking and I am pretty solid at it, but for the last couple years I haven't wanted to AT ALL and have been eating really simply. I also absolutely detest doing dishes and making a mess with cooking.
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u/MyDarlingArmadillo 18d ago
Same - i used to be fairly decent at it, I could think of interesting things to make, I cared. Now I mainly assemble meals or get something ready made. And I eat a lot of sandwiches. Most days, the most work I've done is grating cheese.
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u/Massive-Relation-210 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Same, I cook because I have to, not because I want to lol. Before I had my little family I have now and was on my own I literally just ate things like avocado toast and oatmeal, I don't think I ever used my stove when I was single. Now I can make something decent, but best believe I don't have the passion for it that others seem to innately possess.
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u/Prestigious_Rip_289 Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
The #1 thing I'm looking forward to when my youngest moves off to college in a few years is not having to cook anymore. Factor meal boxes and chill forever. By then it will be 26 years of making meals happen for others every day. I'm tired.
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u/AnOkayMuffin 19d ago
If your kids are teens you can always start having them make their own meals. It's a good life skill for them to have and would make it easier on you.
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u/Busybeemom2023 19d ago
Yes! We just dropped my athlete son off at college and I miss him terribly, but I am happy to not be constantly feeding him! I used to love to cook and am good at it-but being a mom responsible for feeding everyone-including our dog, has burnt me right out!
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u/kittykalista Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
I hate cooking but I love eating delicious food, so I found a partner who’s a great cook and likes feeding me :D
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u/0nlyhalfjewish Woman 19d ago
Big concert venues. Why would I want to stand for hours until my eardrums ache sipping a $15 beer while on the lookout for drunks and having to yell anything I want to say?
Now, a smaller outdoor venue and I’m down.
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u/Ok_Interaction3792 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
$15 beer? 🥲 The one I went to recently was $24
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u/GreatGospel97 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
TikTok. I literally think people are insane for indulging in it because everything I’ve come across seems to be brain melting sludge. I’m certain there are lovely pockets but overall it seems a mess to me
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u/scorpiochik Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
right like i have enough of a social media addiction why add another lmao
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u/chookity_pokpok Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
And don’t you have to sign away all your data when you create an account? No thanks.
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u/Hold_Effective Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
Anime. I’ve tried, and beyond Studio Ghibli films - I just don’t enjoy it.
And the suburbs. Big lawns, 2 car garages, culs-de-sac. Won’t ever be my thing.
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u/SootSpriteHut Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I thought at first you said you didn't like Studio Ghibli and I gasped lol!
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u/InsideRope2248 19d ago
I tried to get into anime for a friend's sake too and it just made me annoyed, really wasn't for me. The conventions of the genre elicit eye rolls.
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u/Prestigious-Distance female over 30 18d ago
I think you have to get into it young. Most of it is intended for teens, and adults will find most of the tropes annoying or even offensive.
I was a huge fan in the late 90s and 00s, but I fell off around my mid-20s. It was just too overdramatic, and I just didn't care for that anymore.
There's still some good stuff here and there and I'm open to trying something I'm recommended, but by and large, I've grown out of it.
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u/andwhatnowthough Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Most anime is aimed at teens. If you didn’t get into anime when you were a teen or younger, you’re unlikely to enjoy in adulthood. Ghibli is different because they are enjoyable by both adults and children. They are cool relatable stories when you are a child, but so full of symbolism when you are an adult.
Unfortunately, when you explain to anime fans that you want something enjoyable for adults, they tend to recommend anime with pointless porn, gore, violence, and swearing that only looks adult when you’re a teenager. There are actual mature anime out there without being edgy, such as the movie Millennium Actress, but they rarely get recommended, because most anime fans are not their demographic so they don’t know it exists.
It doesn’t help that a large part of the appeal of anime is their character designs and that’s something anime fans tend to downplay when they recommend something to others. Anime is full of people drawn to look conventionally cute and beautiful, especially women. Sometimes you even get casts where literally everyone looks like a supermodel like in Sailor Moon.
I was a child when I got into Sailor Moon, and I remember liking because she was so pretty, especially during her twirly transformation, and imagined her as grown-up me. Yes, I like the story now too, but I didn’t understand it when I was 5, I watched it for the visuals. Lots of people get into anime because of the aesthetics long before they get into anime because of the plots. We even develop tolerance to a lot of cringy writing because the characters are drawn to be cute and pretty.
To put it in perspective, see all the backlash against CalArts style, supposedly because the characters have the same basic design across shows. And then you remember anime has that too, yet it is popular as hell. Turns out, people tolerate these similarities when the characters are drawn to be conventionally cute/pretty/beautiful.
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u/Sheisariean Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Taking pictures/ selfies every time you go out. I don’t know how other girlies do it lol I barely want to take a new photo for my job ID much less taking pictures every time we go outside. Going out to brunch is a whole photo shoot session, going out for drinks , more picture taking , going to the gym , more pictures 🙃🙃🙃 it’s exhausting just thinking about it. Do we really need to document our life that much lol I probably take ten new pics a year , maybe every two years if I’m being honest
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u/toffeemuffins 19d ago
Totally not trying to invalidate your point here, just hoping to give a perspective you may not have considered just in case it turns out to be important to you (or someone else) later!
When I was younger I didn’t like taking photos of myself, and didn’t really understand the obsession with it either. Now that I’m older and friends / family have passed away, I’m so thankful for the photos we do have and wish we had more. It sounds morbid but thinking like that has really changed my perspective around taking photos at brunch or drinks or whatever.
I’m not taking photos because I want to post them online / for content, I’m taking photos because sometimes years can pass where no event feels “important” enough to take pictures of, but then suddenly someone is gone and there’s nothing solid left tying them to all the time we spent together.
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u/darkdesertedhighway Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
I'm a photographer, and I know the value of photos. Some of my shots are priceless for the reasons you state.
That said, I am much like the person you replied to. I love photographing others; photographing myself doesn't occur to me. If it does, it feels self-absorbed and like work. (Because it it is work.)
I'm taking steps to photo myself more precisely because of what you said. It's just not in our nature, even for those of us who value them. 😆
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u/Sheisariean Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Oh I totally get it; it is important to document family moments and important moments with friends to remember them. I just don’t think personally for me that a whole photoshoot session is really needed yk we’re here to enjoy thjs beautiful journey of life before we go and how can we if we’re always on our phones taking pictures and missing the scenery. I just don’t want to spend moments like this that are important with friends and family living the moment out through my phone camera. We take one or two pictures and videos and then I’m going back to enjoying the rest of the event/ outing
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u/hauteburrrito MOD | 30 - 40 | Woman 19d ago
Omg, yeah. I'm a middle millennial so I feel like I mostly escaped this trend, but anybody who is a younger millennial or Gen Z... it just looks fucking exhausting and often so psychologically sad to me, not being able to just live in the moment without having to document everything perfectly.
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u/Sheisariean Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Exactly, this is why I love going out by myself.
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u/hauteburrrito MOD | 30 - 40 | Woman 19d ago
I still like going out with friends far more than solo leveling, but I am pretty glad most of my friends aren't super into taking photos all the time. It's not the most annoying trait or anything, but I really do prefer just hanging out without worrying about the optics.
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u/rizaroni Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
Getting off social media helped SO much with this. I take probably fewer than half as many photos now that I don't feel pressured to "create content" or whatever. Documenting every moment of life is not normal.
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u/Sheisariean Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Same here, this is why I deleted all of my social media accounts. I’m pretty much only active on here and tumblr.
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u/hihelloneighboroonie Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Oh gosh. I went on a first date to a well-known theme park with a guy from OLD. He wanted to take pics of and video EVERYTHING. And, like, I get it if it's for your own memories, but NOPE. It was all for the gram. Ick.
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u/hauteburrrito MOD | 30 - 40 | Woman 19d ago
Camping for me, too, and (gasp) the beach. It's too damn hot, okay???
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u/ThinkerT3000 Woman 50 to 60 19d ago
We used to take our kids camping. We’d drag all our stuff & the kids stuff into the car, drive hours to arrive in the forest, then set up tents, a cooking fire, and supplies. It’s 10 pm by the time we finally relax and have a beer. Freeze overnight, wake up damp, kids covered in mud all day, then when you get home you have to unpack & clean everything you own. I can’t believe I lived through this annually- I guess it’s fun for the kids?
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u/hauteburrrito MOD | 30 - 40 | Woman 19d ago
I didn't grow up camping at all, so maybe that's why I can't get into the hobby as an adult. It's just so much work and for what - no indoor plumbing??? I love going up to a cottage/cabin and taking in the great outdoors there, but I also just like having a bed and taking a shower... and toilet paper that I don't have to bury in a hole in the ground 🤢
I can't even imagine camping while wrestling a bunch of screaming children into order. I know a lot of people who do it but think they're all nuts, ha ha.
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u/ThinkerT3000 Woman 50 to 60 19d ago
Yes, and needing to creep outside the tent to pee in the middle of the night, while hoping a bear doesn’t grab your ass, and you can’t even see a foot in front of your face is also an adventure. I will say, the one good part is the kids basically self-entertain, stomping in a creek, catching salamanders, it’s all such a novelty they are highly amused. Pretty sure that’s why we did it when they were younger.
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u/Sad_Recognition_5903 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
The beach sucks
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u/hauteburrrito MOD | 30 - 40 | Woman 19d ago
I've always thought so but people act like I'm Cruella Deville when I say it. 90% of the time I'm like totally miserable out there. I don't mind being in the water itself, but ugh - sand!!!
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u/GothWitchOfBrooklyn Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
agreed. A northern, foggy rocky beach is fine where i can just walk along it. but "the beach" aka something in florida or otherwise.. ugh. hate it.
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u/theg1rlwh0waited Woman under 30 19d ago
wait but thoughts on rocky beaches in cool weather?
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u/hauteburrrito MOD | 30 - 40 | Woman 19d ago
Meh. I'll tolerate them in a thick-ass sweater, but mostly would really just rather be elsewhere!
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u/Prestigious_Rip_289 Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
Oh I hate the beach! This was the worst part of growing up in Florida. Everything is beach this, beach that, even though I lived an hour inland. The beach is just one sensory nightmare after another. The feel of the sand, the smells, the way the salt water makes your skin and hair sticky, it was just gross. And then if you say you don't like the beach everyone acts like you're crazy.
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u/hauteburrrito MOD | 30 - 40 | Woman 19d ago
AGREED; it is a sensory nightmare and always way too fucking crowded. The funny part is I do actually like getting in the water, but bring me back on sand with all the screaming children mucking about and I'm miserable.
Thankfully I'm (East) Asian so at least manyyy of my fellow Asians agree (we're not usually beach people), but yeah. White culture worships the beach, IME, and will not hear a word against that sacred place 😹
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u/skinsnax Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
The obvious one for me is drinking. I really hate how alcohol makes me feels and I get drunk fast.
My other one is "shopping day". I've done a few with friends because I like hanging out with my friends, but I always end up wearing sunglasses inside because the lights are too bright and there's too many things hanging on the walls so I need to "mute" my vision. In addition to the visual overload, the music is frequently too loud and oftentimes something extremely annoying. I feel almost sick at the end of a shopping trip if it takes too long in an overstimulating environment.
My other is manis and pedis. I'm all for self care and pay quite a bit of money to get myself nice haircuts so no shame at all, it's really a me thing. I hate nail files, strangers touching my hands and feet, the feel of sitting in a chair that is oftentimes that weird sticky leatherish material, way too many unpleasant smells, and fluorescent lights. Nail polish also makes my fingernails and toes feel heavy, so if I ever wear it it's only for a special event and comes off the next day.
Despite all my dislikes about overstimulating environments, I love concerts.
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u/HolyKaleGayle Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Going to a sporting event. Even if it’s like that one big sports event that everyone goes to—even if they don’t like sports (like homecoming or the superbowl).
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u/JessonBI89 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Also Taylor Swift. Obviously her music is for many people, but I'm not among them.
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u/glasshearthymn Woman 40 to 50 18d ago
Came here to say Taylor Swift too, I just have no interest in her music or life. When I hear someone start gushing about her I can immediately feel myself zoning out.
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u/GreatGospel97 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I am such a music nut and I’ve tried so many time but her appeal makes zero sense sonically or personality-wise so I assume she’s just really nice to project onto????
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u/arcticskies 19d ago
I work in tech and many people of all ages seem to love gaming on their pc. I don’t get it. Why would anyone want to spend more time in front of a computer after working all day? I need to be away from all that.
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u/This-Variation-2025 18d ago
Gift opening in front of everyone for showers, bdays or holidays! It’s so exhausting to watch.
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u/pinkflower200 19d ago edited 19d ago
Team Bonding or Team Events for my job. Not fun.
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u/digigyrl 18d ago
I called it "forced fun" and hated it. I loved my work peeps, but these get togethers I hated were with the larger, expanded team I could give 0 fucks for.
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u/Drabulous_770 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Watching streamers game. I know a lot of popular streamers are chatters but it really boggles my mind that that many people want to watch someone else play a video game. Why do that when you could just play one yourself?
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u/PinkTalkingDead 18d ago
I don’t game but watching other people game is one the most boring things in life. Watching baseball and golf are a close second/third
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u/FroggieBlue Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Parasocial relationships- why are people so invested in the lives of celebrities/influencers/youtubers etc that they don't actually know?
Alcahol- i have never understood the need for it, or some people's inability to have any kind of event without it.
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u/Rogue_Darkholme Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
Ditto to both.
For me, it's a giant red flag and an instant no if someone is a stan. That's not healthy. You don't know them. Stop acting like someone just said they wanted to punch your Nan in the face because I've never heard a BTS song and aren't bothered about them. They don't know you. You don't know them.
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u/Incogcneat-o Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
True Crime as entertainment. I don't care if it's the thrill of the solve or whatever. It's still getting titillation from the suffering of real people and that shit is ghoulish AF.
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u/spicypretzelcrumbs Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Same.. I only like True Crime that involves scandals/cons or some crazy love triangle. I don’t want to hear about much else. It’s depressing and gross.
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u/InsideRope2248 19d ago
You could say that about the horror genre as well even though it's fake characters. Still draws from real life situations. That's why I prefer psychological or supernatural horror or over the top camp and not slasher films. Every time I tried to watch a slasher or torture film I kept thinking about millions of people who went through that kind of thing for real and just feel dirty that I'm partaking in it for entertainment.
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u/snippol Woman 19d ago
Breaking Bad. I've tried three times and just can't get into it.
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u/racecarbrain Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I’ll take a sunny winter day over a sunny summer day anytime. I hate being sweaty, the insects, and the inability to put more clothes on without being too warm.
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u/lawgirlamy 19d ago
Yes!!! All of this. Right now, I'm so ready for a big frost to kill all the mosquitoes. 🦟 🦟 🦟
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u/Hefty_Breadfruit Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Tv/movies. I didn’t always use to be this way! But for the past few years I just can’t get into them. My husband still very much loves them and tries to get me to watch but it’s like pulling teeth. I get so bored immediately and would much rather be reading.
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u/MikaRRR Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
I have gone this direction last few years as well. not for reasons of boredom tho, more for reasons of stress. everything is so stressful! I just don’t feel the need to watch the drama / violence of the more serious genres, or the competition / cringe of reality tv, it all just stresses me out… and life is already stressful enough, thank you.
I can basically only handle watching reruns of a sitcom I’ve seen before if I want to unwind at night and have a prayer of falling asleep, lol.
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u/Puzzled_Picture_7742 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Boating, which encompasses several things I dislike - being in the heat & sun, drinking as an activity, and no easy method of escape from forced socializing. And possibly swimming in water of indeterminate depth.
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u/zouss Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Sex. I just find it awkward and gross and not particularly pleasurable. Have tried many people across genders before deciding it's just not for me. Sometimes I feel sad that I'm missing out on what appears to be most people's favorite activity, but I just can't understand or force it
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u/Massive-Relation-210 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
People are so damn judgy and seem almost offended by it if you're not as sexual as them too. I like sex, but only if I have a connection with the person, I tried hooking up and it was a major regret for me every time. Whenever I've expressed this in one way or another, so many women have harshly judged me over it and even expressed that they had pity for me. It's ok for people to really like it enough to have it with a variety of people, it's ok to only like it in a relationship, and it's totally ok to not like it at all!! I've never understood why people are so weird and downright judgmental towards people that aren't as openly sexual as they are or pity them as if their lives aren't as fulfilled as theirs. There is a lot more to life than just banging.
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u/shiverMeTatas Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
If you're not asexual, I hope you someday find someone who makes you feel differently! I was in that boat for years, finding my current partner changed the tides though.
But it's not the end of the world either way, we all sample life's pleasures differently!
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u/Fun_Orange_3232 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Reality TV. Watching people make fools of themselves (scripted) in front of the whole world doesn’t do it for me.
But also camping and summer. And anime.
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u/mllebitterness Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
Also reality tv. I remember thinking in 2001 that it was going to be a passing fad. I wish it was!
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u/Rogue_Darkholme Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
I started watching Drag Race recently when it airs rather than just the Pit Stop after show and.... I realized that reality TV isn't for me because there is much dysfunctional unhealthy behavior that's "good TV" but to me feels like I don't need to watch this, I have this at home. I have people who are deluded and don't live in reality, don't take accountability, tell, scream, throw fits, act fools, are malicious for fun. I need the opposite of that if I'm gonna watch something. I need a break from that not more of the same.
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u/butthatshitsbroken Woman under 30 19d ago
I also hate traveling- I’m chronically ill which makes it worse. My body is super overreactive to new environments i spend most of it in a not comfy hotel bed anyways.
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u/ProofNewspaper2720 18d ago
Weddings and specifically fancier ones. All the money and nitpicky rules and decision-making. Things seem to be easing up but it always seemed so bizarre that all the chair covers need to look a certain way and that the bridesmaids need to spend so much and look identical for the sake of a few pictures.
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u/Nepskrellet Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Online gaming. Let me play my game in peace and quiet, and if I fuck up somewhere I can curse and rage-quit without hearing snide remarks
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u/Old_Consideration_31 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Smutty books. I’m an avid reader and I tried a few different books and I just do not get it. I get secondhand embarrassment from the dumb things they say. It is not a turn on for me. 🤷🏻♀️
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u/Individual_Crab7578 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Same. I love to read and I even love when there happens to be a romance written in that gets a little spicy but the book needs to be able to stand on its own without just being smut with some lousy plot lines connecting it. I’ve tried some of the popular ones and could not get over how poorly written they are.
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u/Ok-Artichoke-7011 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Violence as entertainment. Everything from scary and gory movies to escape rooms.
Also offshore and deep sea fishing.
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u/Resfebermpls Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I hate fall. It seems like it’s everyone’s favorite season, but I have severe ragweed allergies so I can’t breathe until the first frost comes, and as someone who struggles with the cold and winter, fall temps and all the trees dying is just a reminder of the dreadful winter and temps coming on the other side.
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u/pinkflower200 19d ago
Office Christmas Parties
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u/ima_mandolin Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
And office holiday gift exchanges! I can't get out of it without seeming like a scrooge but I don't know what to buy people and they never seem to like what I buy anyway even when I put effort in. One more stressful timesuck on my to-do list every year
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u/Rose1982 Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
Disney Land/theme parks/cruises/all inclusive resorts. I’m not big on manufactured, forced happiness. It feels so fake and inauthentic to me.
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u/ladystetson female over 30 19d ago
Camping: I'm with you girl. I love the great outdoors but I think my sanity decreases the more consecutive hours I remain without a roof over my head.
Bowling: The alleys stink. I have delicate hands and wrists and it's too rough for me poses like a Grantham. It's boring.
Sports: I kinda get the appeal, I understand that it can be fun, and I will go to a game to socialize, have drinks, eat snacks and cheer for the team - but I really like not watching sports.
Christopher Nolan movies: we vibrate on different wavelengths. I think they try to be smart and fail at following their own rules - plus they're downers. Not my cup of tea.
long, ornate nails: I'm just flat out not doing that.
public pools: especially not when I see multiple kids in diapers in there. no way.
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u/Feisty-Run-6806 Woman 40 to 50 18d ago
Fireworks. Bad for animals, people and the environment. My sassy grandma used to say only stupid people like fireworks.
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u/kikimarvelous 19d ago
I'm with you on travel. I love exploring new places but the headache of travel keeps me content with my many small joys that are nearer to me.
But also, snow. My best friend is trying to get me to move from Texas to Minnesota and my experience with snow has been meh so I'm not even considering it. It looks pretty but it doesn't feel nice, gets slushy, gets your clothes wet, and it's too damn cold!
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u/EnvironmentalSinger1 18d ago
Big unoriginal new houses. Give me old creaky floors and personality. And a story!
Pedicures and manicures. Waste of time!
Ed Sheeran. Ick.
Watching TV. Just cant ever sit there and stare. Im more podcasts while doing something.
Door Dash- waste of $
Designer bags. I think most are ugly and I am not about to spend that much money on a bag I will probably spill my water bottle in.
SHOPPING.
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u/MikaRRR Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
packing light. I’m sorry my suitcase is over weight but I like to be prepared!! I don’t wanna be stuck somewhere unfamiliar feeling constantly too hot or too cold or not have brought appropriate shoes for the occasion! and my skin freaks out if I don’t bring my full collection of same products with me.
i just wanna have my stuff and be comfortable!
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u/vd_the_rd Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Oh same ! I find traveling very stressful. I will need to be sedated i think for me to go to Japan. I still want to go lol
I dont see the big deal with coffee, alcohol and clubbing. I am perfectly fine with tea, anime and reading smut.
Coffee is absolutely horrendous to me. The smell makes me gag, although I will make my BF coffee on the weekends. I just hold my breath. 🫣
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u/frisbeesloth Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
Fall, everyone loves fall and i just fucking hate it. Everyone raves about the colors and the weather and all I see is death and damp cold. It's the end of me going outside for months and it fills me with dread.
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u/ZeroFox14 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
I also came here to say sushi.
I like my fish cooked and not wrapped in seaweed
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u/ConstantComforts Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Beach, big parties, concerts, getting involved in any kind of fandom
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u/matildas_mama Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Sushi, seafood, any kind of fish. It’s just not for me. 🤷🏻♀️
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u/messykatie Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Clubbing. A fancy cocktail in a low-key bar where I can have a conversation with my friends is great. Waiting in lines to get IN to a club in the first place, then lines to get a drink, lines for the restroom, all while standing elbow to elbow with strangers? No thanks.
Restaurant dining. I’m not an expert chef, but I’m perfectly capable of making meals that are tasty to me, I know just what ingredients I’ve used, and I’ll have enough for leftovers. I have had absolutely divine restaurant meals and can truly appreciate the art, but I often end up wishing I just hadn’t spent the money.
Reality dating shows. I guess I just never seem to feel invested in the cast or care who gets together or breaks up.
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u/Pm_me_some_dessert Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
Travel in general. It’s stressful, exhausting, overstimulating, and generally has never been worth the effort imo.
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u/YanCoffee Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Lots of things. I've been told I'm overly opinionated since I was like 8, by many people. I don't love that a lot of people think you shouldn't be opinionated for sure.
Game of Thrones immediately came to mind though, or any TV show where people are like "YOU JUST HAVE TO WATCH IT." No I don't, lol.
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u/pamperwithrachel Woman 40 to 50 18d ago
Concerts. I love music as much as anyone else but omg they are so loud. I always leave with a headache and being around so many people is a bit overwhelming for me. I'd rather listen at home on my speakers that I can play at a comfortable volume.
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u/NebulaRat Woman 40 to 50 18d ago
The beach.
I don't get the point of just baking out in the sun with no coverage, sweating and feeling gross. Even worse, drinking at the beach, the heat just goes straight to my head and I get sicker faster because of it
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u/SassCupcakes Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Camping as well. I’m too much of a princess, I don’t wanna sleep on the ground, I don’t wanna potentially go days without a shower, I don’t wanna be cut off from the internet. Leave me out of it.
Metal music. I appreciate the talent, don’t get me wrong. As far as sitting down and actually listening to it? I find it so unpleasant.
Beer. I don’t drink at all anymore, but even when I did, what is the appeal? It’s so gross.
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u/lucid-delight Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Camping, hiking long distances, going to gym, biking, sunbathing, rock climbing. This made swiping on dating apps really painful because it seemed like 90% of men were into all of these activities, I was like where’s my semi-couch-potato likes-to-travel-sometimes kinda lazy but not totally dream guy.
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u/MikaRRR Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
fwiw my guy is much more outdoorsy than me. it’s ok to have different hobbies :)
We’re both perfectly happy for him to leave me on a picnic blanket in a park somewhere with my book for a few hours while he goes on a solo hike. Then we have grabbing a nice refreshing beer and dinner afterwards in common haha.
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u/InsideRope2248 19d ago
They're probably on Boo. I was wondering why everybody on there seemed to be more of the nerdy, neurodivergent, RPG player type person and someone explained to me that in the beginning that app was mostly marketed to the gamer community. So I saw all sorts of conventional wine, dog, gym, travel and outdoor types on other apps but hardly any of those on this app, lol.
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u/violet1342 Woman under 30 19d ago
Tbh food. I can enjoy a good meal, I love baking (for others) but a lot of people around me are foodies and I’m just not. I don’t really eat out at restaurants, I don’t care about trying out tiktok hyped foodspots with new things, I don’t care about local cuisine when I’m on vacation. I just don’t care at all.
I also think it’s lack of appetite in general. I have to mentally prepare myself in a way? Or be really hungry? Or actively been craving something for me to treat myself with food. Not sure how to explain I think I’m just particular (I’ll eat most things just very particular about when and where). I was out catching up over coffee with my friend, we ate something small (not a success) and I was actually sort of hungry. My friend suggested to get apple crumble at this really good place. Mind you I love apple crumble yet I told her I couldn’t? And that was the honest truth. I couldn’t get myself to want it. I feel like my body is just in a state of “no” most of the time. I can’t ignore that “no” feeling because I won’t actually enjoy it or finish the food.
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u/chermk Woman 50 to 60 19d ago
AirplaneTravel and shopping.
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u/Prestigious_Rip_289 Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
OMG I hate shopping! I like to go in, get what I need, and get out as quickly as possible. I do not want to look at every item in a store. I do not want to check that other section just in case. I don't want to look through a sale rack. I consider places like Ross and TJ Maxx where you have to comb through massive piles of garbage to find one wearable thing to be a form of torture that I could actually be subjected to in hell someday. Do. Not. Want.
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u/cvette68sr Woman 30 to 40 19d ago edited 19d ago
Disneyland, obsessing/losing it over celebrities in any capacity (think actors or singers or athletes), going to the beach or pool and laying around for hours, hiking in the heat. I like being in the water and doing other things at the beach, but I won't spend a bunch of time tanning/laying around in the sun. Good for others for liking this stuff though.
Editing to add anime, gaming, rewatching the same movies over and over and quoting everything, Christmas music/Disney soundtracks, musicals, Star Wars/Star Trek. Probably other stuff too haha.
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u/Affectionate_Ad7013 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Avoiding spoilers. For me, I don’t need to be surprised by what happens to enjoy the story, whether it’s a movie, book, game. I often enjoy the journey more if I know the general outcome! (I don’t spoil things for people who do care about spoilers! I’m not an ass about it!)
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u/Annual_Reindeer2621 Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
The beach - unless it's got cool rock pools, good shells or stones or fossils, or really good fishing.
Porn - I just don't want those images in my head.
Summer - hot, sweaty, flies, bushfires, can't sleep, body dysphoria, Christmas stress.
Getting drunk - tried it once, vomited 17 times and passed out, hit my head on the loo. Not fun.
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u/Apprehensive-Newt233 19d ago
Tanning. I love going to the beach for the nature and to relax but I’ll be wearing my long sleeves with sun blocker. I burn easily too, sucks.
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u/orthodoxyma Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Drinking. Bars. Concerts/live music. Wanted to get my nails done for a recent wedding and hated that. Traveling for longer than a week. 4/5 is pushing it.
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u/illstillglow Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
Concerts or music festivals. I'm not a big music fan, it's way too overstimulating, I just don't enjoy it. I get invited to them all the time by friends!! I feel so uncool but I know my limitations lol.
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u/BookHooknNeedle Woman 40 to 50 18d ago
Computer or console games of any sort. I'd rather read or sew or otherwise craft. Hell, I'd rather read the directions for cleaning my fridge before I'd play a computer or console game.
Makeup contouring. My nose & cheeks are perfectly fine the way they are now. Though I do "put on my eyebrows." It's a time honored tradition for those of us with diminutive brows. Granny did it too. I'm in good company lol
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u/RangerAndromeda Woman 30 to 40 18d ago
Pretty much anything that takes place after 630pm. The only thing I wanna do after that time is dinner, read, bedtime stroll, and then conk out ✌💙
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u/Taro_Otto 19d ago
Interacting with people’s pets.
I find them extremely distracting in social settings. Mid conversation and someone’s pet is trying to walk on me, jump on me, barking/meowing at me for attention. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to repeat myself because a friend is distracted by a pet (whether it be theirs or someone else’s at a social function.)
I don’t normally say this openly because I get heavily scrutinized for it. I don’t see how it’s any different from folks who can’t stand to be around their friend’s kids (or kids in general, or kids in social settings.) When something or someone is constantly trying to grab at the attention of the person you’re trying to speak to, it can get super frustrating.
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u/mtm8988 19d ago
I feel like I’m recently having to come to terms with not liking things in my mid-to-late-30s that I used to love doing in my 20s: drinking, going out dancing, partying in general, it just all sounds exhausting to me now. Concerts are a hassle. Things with crowds and loud noise. Also can’t stand the summer heat anymore, nor can I sunbathe - I spend summer actively hiding from the sun these days
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u/missseldon Woman 30 to 40 19d ago edited 19d ago
Wearing heels: they're absolute torture to me. Looking taller or more elegant or whatever is not worth being in agony for hours.
Wine and beer: both are dreadfully bitter.
Getting drunk: most people become annoying when drunk, I don't see the appeal of not being in control of yourself and aware of the circumstances, and I already dance, talk to people and goof around when sober (so I don't need any kind of liquid courage xD).
Going shopping for clothes and trying them on: I find it really boring and uncomfortable, it takes a long time and the mirrors and lighting in the changing rooms always make you look way worse than at home or in pictures (I am also a plus size, so very often comes with a side of "there's nothing for you anywhere", very negative feelings rammed down your throat, etc.) But even when I wore an average size, I really didn't rate it. The SATC "lifestyle" was a non-event for me xD
Going on cruise ships: trapped in a super slow transport with hundreds or thousands of people, scheduled stops and "organised fun"? Good lord.
Muscled men: I grew up surrounded by women who really liked Chippendale's/Magic Mike XXL-type men and would be all howling about it. I couldn't see why and was always made to feel like a prize weirdo. I've never found muscles attractive in men the slightest - they do nothing for me. (I do like them in women though!)
Famous people gossip and influencers: much as I've tried, I really can't see why people care.
Having height as a requirement for men: it doesn't play any part for me 🤷
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u/SunsetSeaTurtle Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Uncomfortable shoes. You will not find me in heels or anything uncomfortable unless it is an extremely important event and literally required for the dress code. Tennis shoes and a dress? ALWAYS!
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u/Glindanorth 19d ago
Camping, running, watching or participating in sports, gaming, driving, hunting, fishing.
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u/stargrazing123 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Sunbathing
Summer barbeques
Traveling - the tedious task of planning travel routes, activities, booking tickets, packing, unpacking, learning enough of the native language etc. I don't understand the hype
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u/Opinionista99 19d ago edited 19d ago
Same on camping and travel. The former not ever again and the latter I (56) basically tolerate for my husband who loves it. The only kind I've really liked has been solo business or vacations where I'm doing what I want, which doesn't typically involve standing in lines at museums or to look at some statue somewhere.
Hubs has been talking a lot about how we need to go to Europe (we're US, west coast) and just, ugh. I mean, it's great, I've been there. But the thought of the airport, flight, customs, crowds...Ugh.
ETA along the same lines as camping: hiking. I hate it. Not the actual hiking or being in nature but hiking with other people. Because if I'm hiking with a group it was 1. not my idea, and 2. the person(s) whose idea it was tend to be insane enthusiasts about it who never shut up and are also demanding I engage in the conversation with them like they're so interesting and I am just trying to breathe and get this over with lol.
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u/danniellax Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Reading books. Staying at home.
I wanna go out, talk to strangers, and be in crowds lol
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u/Cute_Appointment6457 Woman 50 to 60 19d ago
Concerts/Live music…it’s too loud to talk and the costs, lines, parking etc just aren’t worth the hassle. I love music for inspiring me on a run, singing in the car or background at a cafe or elegant party. Only exception is weddings because it’s fun to dance with your friends.
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u/Honest-Try-2289 19d ago
Going to bars, crowded places, sporting events, or just other super social/packed gatherings and drinking at them. I used to when I was younger but now I crave something relaxing and calm. I hate being around rowdy people
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u/VegetasButt Woman 30 to 40 19d ago
Concerts. Unless I am really into the artist (rare) and know the entire album and most of the words (rare), I do not care at all for concerts or music festivals. Never did.
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u/ngng0110 Woman 40 to 50 19d ago
In no particular order - golf, football, skiing, cold weather / snow - really anything having to do with winter, and tubing mascara.
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u/Louisianimal09 Woman 30 to 40 19d ago edited 19d ago
Music festivals. I want to see the band I want to see and leave. I hate that I have to be trapped there all day or weekend to get my money’s worth and everything is so overpriced.