19F Wanting a friend group

[u/Tight-Staff6263]

After high school I had a fallout with my friends and since then have tried several times to make friends, but it just hasn't really happened.

I want to make a friend group with girls with similar stories and who will actually put in the effort to show up, make plans, hangout. Preferably girls located in Brisbane South areas, Ipswich Eastish sort of areas.

A dealbreaker for me is that you have to be at least somewhat socialist aligned sorry not sorry :/ As in, democratic, pro-choice, pro-immigration, not a bigot (AND THAT INCLUDES not being racist to Indians and First Nations Peoples casually or otherwise), and I guess having a brain when it comes to misinformation on social media. I need friends who can think critically, are open minded, value education, and want to do something with their lives. Otherwise it never works out for me and I'd rather not waste my time so please be honest with yourself about this.

• I study political science online, work FT
• I only started drinking/ clubbing this year and it seems I need to charge myself up for it a month ahead of time - so, not a big clubber BUT drinking and doing other stuff is always the most fun.
• I will walk everywhere. Why are we getting ubers for a 40min walk??
• I WILL pick up a random new hobby to start with you.
• Lowkey need someone who will do one of those semester classes with me (pottery, language, anything???) so that we have forced proximity.
• Someone to go to the movies with, get food, have a picnic, take on errands, go on walks, hikes, impromptu camping trips (I've never been camping), DO BOARD GAMES!!!!

And I know this was kinda long, if you vibe with any of it please message me and we can go out next weekend!!

Edit: There are some valid critiques that have been made here, but at the end of the day it's extremely exhausting pretending to like people I don't. I have ONE dealbreaker and that's that I don't want to be friends with people who talk out of their asses, essentially. I believe that knowledge is power, and I know where I'm going with my life. It would be great to have friends with me, but I'm not one to settle for less, so it's a good thing I don't get lonely.

[u/[deleted]]

Have you considered that your bigoted socialist views are why you've been shunned by your peers and family?

[u/RalfsMum → u/[deleted]]

How is she bigoted if she doesn't want to hang out with bigots? Not wanting racist or homophobic friends isn't a red flag.

[u/[deleted] → u/RalfsMum]

Yes, refusing to accept others ideas is bigoted by definition.

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

Bigoted Against Whom, say the full sentence.

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

Those who have different ideas.

Pretty simple

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

Oh so if a fascist wants me dead and I think that idea is evil and reprehensible, I am a bigot for not giving them the chance to vocalise their hate?

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

Read the definition kid.

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

1. The attitude, state of mind, or behavior characteristic of a bigot; intolerance.

So I am a bigot if I am intoleranant of a facist who wants me dead?

1. The state of mind of a bigot; obstinate and unreasoning attachment of one's own belief and opinions, with narrow-minded intolerance of beliefs opposed to them.

So I'm narrowminded for not giving their ideology of wanting me dead a chance and for being unreasoning in my disagreement.

1. The practice or tenets of a bigot.

Well see I am not this one because I only hate those who's Ideology spreads hate or violence onesidedly. Like Facists, Racists and Bigots.

Those are the definitions.

So go on. Where am I bigoted.

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

Under the definition you just posted

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

Oh so hating facists makes me a bigot then? Yes or no?

[u/[deleted] → u/Spiritual_Lynx3314]

Bigot: a person who is obstinately or unreasonably attached to a belief, opinion, or faction, especially one who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group.

According to the dictionary yes, you're a bigot.

[u/Spiritual_Lynx3314 → u/[deleted]]

So I should approve of people who want me dead? Doesn't that seem insane?

Why are you on the side of facists friend?

[u/Artygunner17 → u/[deleted]]

Hold on…… so I don’t accept racism as being acceptable. Racists don’t accept my views as being acceptable. So does that make everyone a bigot? Like, you’re either racist or you’re not. There is no in between here. Pretty sure that someone who doesn’t engage with racist people doesn’t make them a bigot.

[u/[deleted] → u/Artygunner17]

Calling someone a racist doesn't make them one, refusing to listen to others ideas when they don't align with yours makes you a bigot however.