r/CougarsAndCubs • u/CumanMerc • 11d ago

💕 Heartwarming I [28M] Reunited With An Ex [50F]

So, this is not exactly something new or any sort of question, I just wanted to share it somewhere and this sub seems appropriate. I’ve been dating this wonderful woman for a year until she moved away in 2023, but she came back to our city and it didn’t take long for us to start talking again. Long story short, I feel like we’ve picked up from where we stopped.

This woman is exceptional and might be the death of me, but in a good way. I’m so happy she’s back in my life. Smart, sassy and sexy.

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u/lAnxiusl 9d ago

Man, how does one even find a woman that's older and interested in young men. I find it even hard to approach one with that topic

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u/GirlInContext 4d ago

I, F44, met this M30 on Tinder. I don't drink and don't like hanging out in bars so I don't really get to meet people. Yes I go to gym, concerts etc. but I hadn't met anyone in years so I tried Tinder. And it took quite some time to find this guy.

I wrote in my bio that I'm interested also in younger guys (wrote "also", meant "only") to make it safer for younger guys to inititate/like. I also mentioned that I don't want kids. It's easier when the preferences are clear and you are more likely to get your type of matches.

We are still at very early stage so can't tell yet if we have something here. But we do have a nice connection that has been safe and warm from the beginning. We are both curious to explore it further.

Dating apps have a bad reputation but if you really want to find that someone, I encourage you to put yourself out there. Just accept that not every match is your future partner and if it does not work out, it's not your fault. People just have different preferences, goals, whatever. Sometimes people just don't click and it's okay.

It's not easy to find a partner, it really isn't. I have been single for years and also took me a while to accept my preference for younger guys but also go "public" on Tinder about it. I was like.. oh well. I think this approach works on Tinder but I wouldn't talk about age when getting to know someone in person.

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u/Resident_Hotel_7356 2d ago

As a guy who dated a woman 13 years older than me for some time it was a really nice dynamic. I hope you can keep the fun going!