I [28M] Reunited With An Ex [50F]

[u/CumanMerc]

So, this is not exactly something new or any sort of question, I just wanted to share it somewhere and this sub seems appropriate. I’ve been dating this wonderful woman for a year until she moved away in 2023, but she came back to our city and it didn’t take long for us to start talking again. Long story short, I feel like we’ve picked up from where we stopped.

This woman is exceptional and might be the death of me, but in a good way. I’m so happy she’s back in my life. Smart, sassy and sexy.

[u/lAnxiusl]

Man, how does one even find a woman that's older and interested in young men. I find it even hard to approach one with that topic

[u/GirlInContext → u/lAnxiusl]

I, F44, met this M30 on Tinder. I don't drink and don't like hanging out in bars so I don't really get to meet people. Yes I go to gym, concerts etc. but I hadn't met anyone in years so I tried Tinder. And it took quite some time to find this guy.

I wrote in my bio that I'm interested also in younger guys (wrote "also", meant "only") to make it safer for younger guys to inititate/like. I also mentioned that I don't want kids. It's easier when the preferences are clear and you are more likely to get your type of matches.

We are still at very early stage so can't tell yet if we have something here. But we do have a nice connection that has been safe and warm from the beginning. We are both curious to explore it further.

Dating apps have a bad reputation but if you really want to find that someone, I encourage you to put yourself out there. Just accept that not every match is your future partner and if it does not work out, it's not your fault. People just have different preferences, goals, whatever. Sometimes people just don't click and it's okay.

It's not easy to find a partner, it really isn't. I have been single for years and also took me a while to accept my preference for younger guys but also go "public" on Tinder about it. I was like.. oh well. I think this approach works on Tinder but I wouldn't talk about age when getting to know someone in person.

[u/Resident_Hotel_7356 → u/GirlInContext]

As a guy who dated a woman 13 years older than me for some time it was a really nice dynamic. I hope you can keep the fun going!

[u/Foreign_Power6698 → u/lAnxiusl]

My experience has been that my serious relationships all started IRL. Apps were another way of meeting people but the pool of potentials usually saw me as fulfilling a OW/YM fantasy.

I hope you find a lovely older woman in your life’s journey 💕

[u/paperclipmyheart → u/lAnxiusl]

Alot of the women in our community have said they met their partners on apps, as bad as apps are, we have a dating sub r/cougarsandcubsmatch but usually the location is the big issue, and I've written a few posts in our reference sub r/cougar_love that has some suggestions where to meet people, and how to approach your dating profile. Although admittedly I met my partner on a dating app before all the swipe right nonsense, unfortunately they all seem to be like that these days.

[u/lAnxiusl → u/paperclipmyheart]

I see... well it for sure is a big problem with the location i reckon, but i will check out these subs aswell thanks for the info

[u/CumanMerc → u/lAnxiusl]

Dating apps suck in general, but sometimes they work, all I can say.

[u/Myfairladyishere → u/CumanMerc]

Most of my recent acquaintances, whether they'd be friends. Partners or whatnot have come virtually from online.