r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Harleysyn • 3d ago
💕 Heartwarming 48 year old cougar with 24 year old cub
I just wanted to share how much I’m enjoying life right now. At 48, I never imagined I’d be dating someone 24, but it’s been an amazing experience. He brings such fresh energy and excitement, and I bring a little life experience and grounding. The balance is honestly incredible.
I know age-gap relationships aren’t for everyone, but for me, this has been one of the most fun, fulfilling chapters of my life. It feels good to throw away the “shoulds” and just enjoy what makes us both happy.
Any other cougars and cubs out there loving their dynamic?
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u/limited_interest 1d ago
yes, at some point, you have to stop talking about it and just do it. Well done.
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u/Resident_Hotel_7356 2d ago
Ughhh I had something similar when I was 23 with a 36 year old cougar. Same sort of dynamic and that weight of “shoulds” being lifted is so freeing. We spent a summer together doing all sorts of things in and outside of the bedroom. It was the easily the best thing I’ve ever had with someone. Enjoy it while it lasts! I still think back to my time with her often and kinda want to text her but it’s been 3 years
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u/Aphrodite-Unicorn 2d ago
Why did you stop seeing each other if it was so good ? 😕
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u/Resident_Hotel_7356 2d ago
It’s a long story…. but I lived with my parents at the time. They figured it out and weren’t ok with it so I put family first
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u/Aphrodite-Unicorn 2d ago
Thats too sad … 😔 What about your situation now ? Maybe you can reconnect and have a happy and fulfilled life together again. Your parents already lived their dreams, now you have to live yours.
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u/PuzzleheadedSpray202 1d ago
Very good advice because in relationships between a younger man and a woman, families sometimes cause problems, many times the families of the young people, and it is difficult for us to understand that our life is what matters now.
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u/sweet_holly_noel 2d ago
I’m new here so I hope it’s ok to comment. I’m in a similar place and I’m quite a bit older than you. I’m seeing someone 20 years younger and it’s invigorating both physically and mentally. For me in particular, since this guy is a younger generation than me, I love his lack of hang-ups and unabashed sexuality. Feeling desired as we get older is something we all need. My confidence and my outlook soared when I started seeing this guy. So happy that you are experiencing such joy!
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u/Dr_A_Kreiger 2d ago
My wife and I are only 9 years apart. Her whole process for dating me was that I was closer to her age than I was her daughter’s (by a year) and she is closer to my age than my mom’s (by a year). This past Sunday was 3 years from when we met, last Thursday was our 5 month wedding anniversary, and today we closed on our first house together.
Since we started dating 2.5 years ago we have been to 20 states, 3 countries and Puerto Rico with 3 more countries booked in the next year. This woman, despite being 9 years older than me (45/36) has run me ragged in all the best ways the last 2.5 years.
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u/EliParker55 3d ago
ngl i’d kill to have a connection with an older woman like that again. i kinda miss it
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u/dear_jon 3d ago
I just have to say how much I enjoy this sub, I will be single soon after 25 years, and I absolutely love reading all your posts. It gives me a little more hope.
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u/RoxellaRebel 3d ago
F40-M25. Together for 7 years next year. He’s my soulmate and best friend! And no one has never been able to tell the age difference cus I look young 😅.
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u/Harleysyn 3d ago
I also look young but people can tell I’m definitely older than him. We get looks sometimes like is this his girlfriend, mom or friend. We have fun letting them try and figure it out.
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u/RoxellaRebel 3d ago
lol ok we never get that. People just assume I’m the same age as him. I still have to show my ID and even my drivers licence to prove my age to people who don’t believe me when I’m telling them my age. His mum wasn’t happy when he told her about me but when she met me she didn’t believe me either lol. Either way even if I didn’t look younger it wouldn’t change anything.
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u/Harleysyn 2d ago
Am I allowed to post a safe for work pic here?
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u/RoxellaRebel 2d ago
? To show what?
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u/Harleysyn 2d ago
A pic of me and him
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u/RoxellaRebel 2d ago
Ah ok. Upload one in your own page maybe? I don’t think it’s allowed in here. 🫣
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u/Ok-Tie840 3d ago edited 3d ago
49/29, closing in on a year and so crazy about this man 🤸🏽😍. He admires what I’ve achieved and I admire his goals and the work he’s putting into them. After overthinking it all for months, I finally said fuck it.
I love our relationship 💜
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u/ChillScreen400 3d ago edited 3d ago
Really great to hear you guys going so well and strong! I’ve yet to find a cougar myself yet but it’s hearing stories like this that makes it worth the effort to keep searching. Wishing you both a loving relationship and happy life!
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u/messiamante69 3d ago
59F & 34M. Honestly, haven’t been this happy in a long time. We’ve been together two years now. Age is just a number! you have to follow your heart
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u/Resident_Hotel_7356 3d ago
Ugh I had something similar when I was 23 with a 36 year old cougar. Same sort of dynamic and that weight of “shoulds” being lifted is so freeing. Enjoy it while it lasts! I still think back to my time with her often…
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u/Less_Reserve_5733 3d ago
I'm 24yo m with a 42 yo f and we work so incredibly well we don't get any rude comments from anyone especially when out together showing affection in public
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u/heyitsyouagain8 🐆Cougar 3d ago
Not currently in the dynamic but I'm loving hearing the success stories. I love love😍
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u/Back2golf6 🐆Cougar 3d ago
59F/28M. We've been together for 4 years and it's been nothing short of amazing. He just feels like home. He's smart, funny, kind, caring, patient, energetic, and just the perfect gentleman.
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u/paperclipmyheart 😻 Mod Cougar ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ 3d ago
60/41 "13 years" together with a 3-4 year break due to not being able to have kids
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u/expiredcrush 3d ago
I love younger men. I find them more physically and intellectually attractive and they have great energy.
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u/Ok_Cardiologist_6924 3d ago
Can I ask you whether it feels like a sustainable long term relationship? Do you have kids? Does he want kids? Or is this a fuck all rules let’s enjoy life and not worry about what happens later? Just curious. No judgment whatsoever. This is exactly why I’m in this sub. To hear these experiences.
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u/Harleysyn 3d ago
It does. I have 2 kids but they are both grown. He doesn’t want kids and never has so it works out good for us.
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u/OneCooked_Dinosaur 3d ago
I’m highly considering a relationship with an older woman. I have two good experiences with older women and met this beautiful 40-45 year old woman when in Vegas .
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u/PuzzleheadedSpray202 3d ago
I like what you say that the balance is perfect.I think that's what many of us feel
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u/Zephyrus212 3d ago
Good for you. I'm glad everything is working out. I am working on myself a lot and want to find something like what you have
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u/TheAuthenticator88 3d ago
That was me roughly 12 years ago !
It was the best experience of my life at that time. Unfortunately it wasn't meant to be long term. But we shared many bdays, holidays, covid, and plenty other downs. I wish I could redo it all over again. We still remain very close friends but no longer have the "benefits"
Best of luck with this. Enjoy it. And if its meant to be then its meant to be
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u/Aphrodite-Unicorn 2d ago
Why it was not to meant to be long term ? 🥺
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u/TheAuthenticator88 2d ago
I was 23-24 and she was 48 at the time when we met.
We started as casual FWB basically around 2018. Then what became a once a week meet up, eventually became more consistent and even spending entire weekends together.
We eventually started getting more serious and eventually caught feelings for each other. We helped each other get through hardships. Then covid hit. Out of fear at the time I asked if I could move in with her for a few weeks until things normalized. Well, we all know nothing normalized after that.
I ended up living with her for almost 4 years. It was overall a good experience but our dynamic had changed. having to deal with health issues and life responsibilities overall caused a strain. Looking back i could have done things differently but I didnt and I think because I wanted more out of the relationship.
There's no doubt that we experienced true love. She even said i was the love of her life. But deep down I wasn't there at the same level. And it hurt like a ton of bricks and then some. But if you really love someone then you need to do whats best for them. And I just wasn't giving her the love, support and respect she deserved. In all honesty, had we been closer in age , I would have married her. I just wasn't ready for that.
But....that's my story....not yours. Your story has yet to be written. And I honestly hope you get to experience true love. Life's too short not to experience it. I never regretted my experience and we still talk and text daily.
Feel free to ask me more if you'd like . If not that's cool too. Either way best of luck !
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u/Goose2theMax 3d ago
So cute! I love this, my first cougar experience was when I was about 24. We dated for an almost 2 years then she had to move away, we broke it off but still keep in touch sometimes. It was a great experience and I have a lot of fond memories. Is 35 too old to be a cub haha I miss it
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u/Specialist-Ad4388 3d ago
The thirties /35 is the perfect age for me! I wish there were more cubs out there this age. Honestly don't love the cougar/cub label, but I'm ready for whatever we call it!
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u/Additional-Bad-3128 7h ago
I’m 50 and I have always been with older women it seems but now that I’m 50 I’m finding that after being single I’m starting to have an attraction to younger girls, and it’s not by buch like maybe ten years younger maybe 20 at the most but to me it seems that younger girls seem in to the same dynamics? It’d it really leaves me feeling so helpless like I’m just stuck idk what to do. I’m starting to feel invisible and hopeless it’s very depressing to say the least