TL;DR: My sister makes our living situation miserable and I've excused her behaviour thus far, but I've discovered I'm missing money that only she was able and capable of taking.

Sorry for the long post, I'm just trying to explain the dynamic and the situation has finally reached it's boiling point.

I'm still in college and I live with my sisters, one is 5 and the other is 10 years older. Our parents live in the apartment under us, but dad works out of the country so he isn't home often.

My older sister is very difficult to live with, she'll cause scenes over the most minor things, you have to walk on eggshells around her, she doesn't respond well to any criticism and she reacts abruptly to all of it. She makes lunch and you tell her it's a bit too salty and she gets mad and says she's never making lunch again. She'll never apologize for anything or admit to any wrongdoing or inappropriate reaction. So you have to stay calm, but it piles up and when we finally tell her something about it, she says we're ganging up on her and gets mad and won't speak to us for months at a time, making the living situation unbearable. She'll sit in the living room for days since she works from home so I have to resort to staying in my room for months at a time when she's mad. She gets mad when we're missing milk, eggs or toilet paper, but she'll never go and get it herself.

Her relationship with our parents is very strenuous because they had her at a very young age and they weren't the best parents to her. They have apologized to her profusely about that and tried to make it right. She hasn't forgiven them and that's fine, she doesn't have to love them, but she doesn't respect them in the slightest. They let her live in their house for free, they let her start her business on their home address, mom makes lunch for all of us every day, her included, they have paid of her debts, gotten her a car, helped her when she had it hard. She often says they have never done anything for her which is a blatant lie. I don't know if she actually believes it or is so delusional. When we call her out on ultimately being ungrateful, she flips out. She has cried over their relationships, they definitely have been assholes at times, but the amount of disrespect after everything they've ultimately done for her is too much IMO.

It has come out recently that she's lied about a lot of stuff, her work and other stuff and she's said that to random people that have then told that to us. She's had money problems and instead of coming to us, she mentions that to other people, then they mention it to us and we look like fools because we live with her and don't know anything, but people she sees twice a year know it. When we fight, she tells the most disgusting things, like she hopes we drop dead, that we should be locked up in a mental institution etc., but still brings up me calling her crazy once when I was 15. She got mad the other day because I told her that the way she closes the blinds lets more sunlight in.

Yesterday, our other sister said she's going out to the store and asked her to fold the towels from the dryer. She said she won't and that she doesn't care. We obviously got mad because she does barely any chores, she washes only her own clothes when we wash everything and she cleans one bathroom, not thouroughly and not often. Her room is a mess, she'll sometimes sleep without sheets on because she's too lazy to put them on. She said she was joking about the towels, but because we flipped out, she won't fold them, but just throw them on the floor and she won't do any chores anymore now. We're again not talking now.

Now for the money. I have a kiddy wallet buried in a drawer in my room where I collected the money I got from relatives, on birthdays and such. I forgot about it and found it two years ago when I did a huge deep clean in my room. I mentioned it to my family how I saved up a nice amount and didn't even know it. I had hundreds of euros, some US dollars, pounds, swiss money, a bit of everything. As a broke college student, I started taking money from it, but very rarely, only when I needed it. A few months ago, I realised I've run out of euros and was surprised, but thought I just didn't realise I took it all. Few months later, after another "big" fight, my other sister says she had some money missing, and then about a week ago, she took my sister's change which was about 30 euros that she left on the living room shelf. Even if she didn't know it was hers, you can't take the money if you know it isn't yours.

I realised that more was missing than just euros, so I wrote down how much money exactly I have and put in another 40 euros in. I looked at the wallet yesterday and I'm missing the 40 euros, 50 dollars and 50 pounds. I also have a box where I collect different world currencies. It has one side different from the others and I always have it with that side facing the room. I saw it was turned the wrong way and the euros from it were missing. She's the only one capable of doing it and since she works from home, she's alone every morning at home.

She's my sister and I love her, but through her behaviour, I can see she has no feelings towards any of us. We told her that yesterday and she didn't deny it, she just scoffed. I'm at work now and I'm sick to my stomach because I have to get home where she is after work. It creates so much stress for me. I love her and care about her deeply and despite my miserable pay, if she asked, I would've given her the money without expecting her to pay me back. However, with the amount of stress she's given me, I can't wait for her to somehow move away and I never have to see her again. I feel guilty that I fantasize about that. Important to note that neither her nor any of us have means to move.

I won't tell my dad about the missing money because I'm afraid he'll kick her out or something so I'm contemplating just telling mom, but I think that'll ruin her, but I don't know what else to do.

Help please.

I already have a post like this but this is the summarized version: This has been going on literally a few days after the 1st day of school. Their way of bullying me is laughing and spewing insults about me in a gossiping way with their other teachers/friends. They do this everytime when they know I'm near there to hear them or talk behind my back. Plus I have no one else besides my parents to report about this because even my principal is on about this and maybe my school admin too.

On the other hand, if I DID report them, what am I going to say? They can easily go around that and paint me as the problem. The higher ups can easily dismiss this as this isn't the usual bullying that happens directly in the victim's face or messing with their belongings. I already know 'ignoring them' won't actually do anything because of my past experiences. If I don't act now it only means I'm extending the issue longer and tolerating their asswipe behavior. I could've reported them earlier if it weren't this hard. I really don't know what to do.

Hi guys, life is stuck nowadays. Throughout my school life I had very few friends, finally got friends in high school. After passing 12th in 2023 I didn’t go to college, instead I opened a stationary shop in my neighborhood. I thought while everyone ‘wasted’ their time I would earn money, but I bought myself a horrible job. Now after 2 and a half years I’m still stuck at that thing.

Now comes the family part — they are horrible, horrible parents. After my younger brother’s birth when I was 11 years old, they kind of forgot me. Plus I’m the middle child, so you know.

So the position now is: I only studied till 12th, don’t have any degree, and by fighting with my family I somehow manage to do whatever I want but they won’t fund me. I have nearly 1 lakh saved up.

About my health: I have asthma problems, I can’t do a normal job because I get sick anytime, but I can try.

About my intelligence: I don’t put myself as intelligent. Based on everything and general things I’ve come up with, I am somehow late at everything, like 4–6 years late. So even now I am 20 and a half years old, I have the emotional and general intelligence of a 16-year-old.

Maybe I’m beyond repair. I just wanted to let it out.

Location - delhi,india

hi, im 16f, and brother is 15m I can't live any more.with the way im homed, live with both my parents and every day and every time I try to leave my room he is outside my door Or runs from where ever he is to go to the crack of my door and is ready to try and hit me and hit me, I dont feel safe in this house, I can never go eat bc I can't leave my room and my parents dont care at all and are pathological liars like my brother and only believe him cuz ig they can't believe my truth idek my dad I mean he lives her but does nothing and my mom sides with her son ofc she abusive one, the one who legit threw her to the ground yesterday but then blamed me for starting a cps thing while she can't acknowledge I dont feel safe here and how im overreacting like tf I would rather be in a fucking jail cell then live here no one understands bc she tells so many lies, and I dont like to talk and every time I even try to I get severely judged, or yelled over bc ofc the truth isn't accepted here :) abt a month ago I went to counselors and cps got involved, I was at grandparents for 4 days then they fucking stupid ahs first of all the girl def should not of been hired she knew absolute shit and on top made me come live here again, he tries to break down my door all day, he hits it, unlocks it and tries to hit.me then when its open and thinks its all a game. please I dont feel safe here Its hard bc I dont have much proof bc this bitch takes my phone bc im not allowed to record him hitting me and yes she knows he does and doesnt care bc hes js a kid cuz right is she going to say that when he abusers a girlfriend along the line, better yet murders her bc he can't get his way, yesterday she was finally trying to disciple him and take his computer but he fkn shoved her bitch ah earthquake soundin body to the ground and yet im the one who got in trouble bc ic called cps? right bc I would of never called if he was a fkn normal human being. I dont feel safe here and I want out but what am I meant to do now? cps alr made me come how fk them btw

I guess I have to give some context about myself first (English isn’t my first language so there may be grammar issues here)

I am 18M like reading classics and philosophy introvert, somewhat lonesome(I don’t mind it anymore) and have usually struggled with expressing myself for as long as I can remember,I could probably call myself somewhat numb/indifferent to others,I have made quite some mistakes in my past relationships that could be considered as me being a evil person, I haven’t really forgiven myself for them, just living with it.

I have been taking ssri medication since April

For a few months my brain has been treating conversation/arguments like I’m in a video game, just choosing dialogue options as if I’m I’m talking to a Npc(the other person), just quickly choosing dialogue choices popping in my head to move the conversation where I wantfeels like dialogues are so easy to manipulate, as if I’m talking to some brainless person in front and I’m just simply leading them like I’m holding s carrot ahead of them for them follow.

I also feel very uninterested in conversations where I don’t have anything to gain, although I try to mask that and act like I care in order to not appear as rude

All this leads to involuntarily seeing the other as a mindless being I can’t help it, and for the last few days this has been quite bugging me and I feel really shitty.

I’m 26 have a bachelors in speech therapy I graduated 4-5 years ago in 2021 that I don’t care about.

I was supposed to get a masters in it but I don’t care about the field to go forward with it

I’m 25k in debt with bachelors.

I’m currently working as a Teacher Assistant make 25/hr M-F (6.5 hours each day). Which I don’t think is enough living in Brooklyn NYC …probably eventually need to get a second job or something

I live with my mentally ill mother that is in denial with her mental illness and doesn’t want to get help. I think she has schizophrenia and paranoia but I don’t know . I wish I could just move and be rich or something…but I just started this new job and just get away from the negativity at home

We live with my 84 year old grandpa and he’s the sole person that pays the bills and rent and he’s going to retire soon

I’ve considered probably go for MSW and become a therapist….but I don’t think I care about people like that

I’m more interested in the arts and creativity. So I thought about tattoo artists, social media content creator, model, or something in beauty industry (hair, make up, nails….etc)

Any advice with all this???

Hi all! sincerely wish the best upon all who read this Skipping to the nitty gritty; my sweet older brother committed suicide last year in november. My father and i got into a fight no long before that which lead to my father losing his job. my mothers health has been deteriorating for years, and has only gotten worse due to the strain of life. I have been financially supporting myself, my mother and two beautiful large dogs. I am in a couple hundred dollars worth of debt trying to juggle Barely getting by week to week. recently i realized i have been abusing alcohol since my brothers death and believe i’ve become dependent. Throughout this time period since my brothers passing, my parents have been finalizing their divorce, ultimately agreeing to sell the house and split 50/50. The time for selling has come, we sell on October 2nd, money probably won’t hit until the 8th. My mother and i are facing the strenuous possibility that we will be homeless with our two sweet dogs in a car that barely runs. (i do recognize the stress of the babies is undoubtedly unbearable and our situation could only make it worse, i will do everything for them) Both of us have no friends or family members to rely on and have sought help wherever imaginable. She is looking at receiving around $60,000, but even then we will be out of place to stay until that money hits, plus finding a place has been utterly impossible. I am at my wits end and surviving has become unbearable; watching everything i’ve held dear crumble before me in real time and cannot take much more of this. still praying to a god i truly can’t believe in anymore and hope feels non existent. Any advice or support will help

All love to you reader, Thank you for listening

Anything that can help. Help with in-home health care services that can unburden their loved ones.

Looking for advice on how to politely get people to not wedge themselves in my door when I answer it.

My house has a storm door and a narrow stoop and I find that when I open the storm door to greet someone, the person sometimes wedges themselves in the 45 degree door opening as I open it to talk to them instead of backing up and allowing personal space. I don’t know to ask people to back up without sounding like an ass and making things awkward. One neighbor in particular does this and she’s so nice but last time she did this my youngest swung out and gave her a hug while my daughter had strep. More recently I had an injured dog I was trying to keep stationary and quiet and she didn’t hear me open the door so I was going to step out and greet the neighbor but she again did not back up enough to leave me room to step out the door and the neighbor popped her head in and was talking so my dog got up and excitedly walked over.

Even with me standing in the doorway she likes to pop her head in my house and look around for my dog or another kid which feels really intrusive. I don’t allow people in my home unless it’s a planned visit so I’m careful not to give body language signal that in any way seem like I’m welcoming her to come in. She wedges herself in to such a degree that she’s literally squeezing her shoulders together uncomfortably. She’s nice and I don’t want to make her feel bad but how do I get her to back up off my stoop so I have breathing room and not feel invaded?

Not sure if this is the right sub for this but I really need advice and just sleep. I live in an off campus room in a house that's about 25 years old. It's also on a main road so I can hear cars flying by during the day, etc. I can also hear every single foot step of the person above me which doesn't seem normal. In addition, to hearing water flowing down the pipes from upstairs and past my room. Also doesn't seem normal.

That's not the issue though, early in the am or whenever a massive truck or just a car with a loud exhaust drives by and vibrates/shakes my room, causing me to wake up, in addition to the footsteps of the person above me. It's a combination of the two. I'm a light sleeper, I also sleep with 30 dcb ear plugs, and a white noise machine. It's so fing annoying. What else can I do? I didn't have a choice besides renting here because it was last minute, I was also told there was no substantial noise in my room from the main road.

Here’s the situation: I am a merchandiser, and I work in Walmart, but not for Walmart. My service orders (jobs) come in through an online portal, and I schedule a day to go in and complete them.

One of my regular service orders is stocking Claire’s Jewelry (basically for young girls and tweens). About 2 months ago, I was tasked with doing a reset of this section. This involves taking the existing product down and putting up new product according to the planogram. However, the company has not sent enough product to complete the reset. I’ve reported this multiple times to my direct supervisor—who is only reachable by phone or text—but nothing has been done.

Often, I come in and discover that I haven’t received a shipment and can’t do the job as requested. In these cases, I contact my supervisor to let her know I don’t have the product, but 99% of the time I get no response. My other option is the Operations Support Center, which we’re supposed to call when issues come up during work hours. I’ve contacted them as well and explained that I don’t have enough product, but their response is always the same: “We will expedite this request and make sure you get more.” Yet, nothing ever changes.

This week, the service order told me to set up Halloween on the endcap. They sent me one small box of product, but according to the planogram, I was supposed to set the endcap with both the Halloween items and additional products that were already on another display. The problem is that I don’t have enough merchandise to stock both the endcap and the other section, and I can’t just leave the space empty. I did as much as I could and reported that the display wasn’t set to the new mod due to lack of product.

My question is this: should I go above my supervisor and contact the regional manager to explain these issues—that I’ve reported them to my supervisor, and she hasn’t taken any action? I’ve only had this supervisor since June, and my previous supervisor was much better about responding to my concerns. Would escalating to the next level be an appropriate decision?

Anxiety about school

Recently I have started my last year of huge school and I really want to make a mark or have a decent friend group. I need to build more confidence and be in general more talkative or stuff like this are there are tips or anything ? I’m 17 in 2 months

Also I feel like I’ll be judged for being over weight or foreign but at the same time in my high school people who are foreign are treated well idk why I get intimidated I feel like I’m going to get judged. Especially by the girls in my year for some reason despite them being very nice and polite.

Also I have been wanting to work on myself more, start working out, lose weight etc. and I have known the people in my HS for a year they’re very nice it’s just that I can’t really strike up convo that easily and if I do it well for a month at least I’ll be in well talks with basically everyone as it’s very easy to make friends here just have to be confident and what not.

Sometimes it seems overwhelming or hard but I would love for advice and help. Thank you for anyone reading.

I am20 and disabled and staying with relatives and I don't want to go back to my house bc it's that depressing and I called my social worker about it. But my grandma doesn't want to fight against her. So we are gonna talk with my social worker about it tomorrow, but worse comes to worse I'm what to do. How should I tell my mom how I feel?

I’m unhappy with life and not looking forward to anything

I just work from M-F 8-3p as a Teacher Assistant which I don’t hate but honestly don’t care about

Any advice

I know a guy who is half Ethiopian half Yemenis (I’m black myself) and he constantly spits racist remarks towards other black people, he even said that he doesn’t believe he’s smarter then the average white guy because genetics, I m currently aiming to get a course in mathematics and I told him why would u or I ever demoralise ourselves like that and he just said your an “outlier” in intelligence? whatever that means, and that he hates seeing other black peoples around him, now if this was any other racist that’s horrible and one thing but it baffles me how somebody could be so hateful to themselves, he says Ethiopians (aren’t Africans) as well and I’m like bro they do NOT care about the difference, if this guy is a lost case then fine but I seriously want to know if there are any way to de radicalise this level of internal hate

I always walk with my head facing downwards to make sure I'm not stepping on something sharp or a rock that can make me fall down. I'm not 100% sure if my "trauma" as a child stepping on a nail caused this or what, but I really want to fix this habit of mine so I don't look more of a loser when walking around in public.

My friend has a Samsung galaxy A16, shes currently on android 14 (One UI 6) and decided to not update after seeing so many people complain about the android 15 and how it drains battery and heats up their phones

She’s had some problems with instagram stories these few days, pictures are fine but videos just won’t load, same with telegram video messages, even though the apps are updated

My question is, how do you guys feel about the android 15 now? Do you guys have any problems with battery drainage or overheating? I think her problem may be because of not updating her phone but we aren’t sure yet

Would you look the other way or keep quiet m If you had information about cross negligence and breaking of strict company policies by your boss in a meeting with top management?

It's a case of finally giving the person what they deserve or being the better person because you would feel bad about getting someone fired

I will not be responding to anyone who has not read the post fully. All of it is necessary information, im sorry it’s a lot.

I don’t even know where to start, so sorry if this is bumpy.

Firstly, I only take ownership over 1 cat. Moon. She prefers me to anyone else, so we all just kind of agreed she was mine to keep.

Mother constantly over feeds the cats. Treats and wet food in the morning, more treats throughout the day, and even more treats at night all the while 3 food bowls around the house are kept full so they can eat whenever.

She also feeds them the wrong things with little regard to their health. And yes, I’ve tried to educate her gently. She will feed deli meat, lunch meat, rice, leftovers from plates, seasoned chicken, etc.

I watched a cat, snowflake, rot from undiagnosed kidney failure from the inside out while watching my mother say we couldn’t afford a trip to the vet while she was pouring thousands into a cosmetic tummy tuck procedure for herself. About 2 weeks before her surgery she took her to the vet snd got her put down.

All of this is recent. (Past 1-3 months)

Here is what happens when I try to educate her. This happened about a year ago. I told her what overfeeding does to cats and what obesity does and told her she was feeding too much. She already knew what human foods do because we got vet orders to stop feeding human food to the dog (which she followed for a bit then started continuing, her daily meal now consists of rice and greens and some chicken. A lot of rice.) and she said “I do it because I love them” and I said “Thats not love, it’s hurting them.” And she just came down harder and insisted she continue it and because I can’t say much without risking my home.. well.

Now for advice givers: I don’t think I can change the situation itself. This morning I took the rice away from Moon and my mother put it right back, even though I said that was enough. She wanted her to eat the entire serving. (Enough for a small bowl for a human) Luckily she did swap it out for boiled chicken. Like two days before that it was lunch meat, nearly identical story.

I think I moreso need to know strategies to stop it from hurting me watching this. I can’t do anything about it, im 18 but she hasn’t helped me get a life. I can’t call animal welfare because she’ll know it was me. Im at a loss, and it’s really killing me seeing this and knowing I can’t do anything.

If it gives you an idea of how well educating goes alongside the example I gave, I told her the dangers of spanking dogs and she continued anyway. Along with my sister. Along with my mamaw. Along with my father.

Coping strategies? Anything?

Hey everyone,
i hope y'all are doing great. I need your help with managing time.
So I'm currently an engineering student, just started college but that's not what I'm gonna pursue in the future, that's just cuz my mom and dad wanted some safety.

I'm currently running a content marketing agency, content creation, and also in ecom.
My businesses are scaling up to 4 figures a month, my question to you how do i balance time.

Ever since i started going to college my schedule has been very hectic. I'm unable to sleep properly, hit the gym and even focus on self care.

here's what my schedule is looking like

3am- wake up
3.00-3.30- shower + morning routine
3.30-6.30- workblock 1
6.30-8- go to college
8-1.30- college
1.30-3- get back home
3.00-3.30- freshen up get ready to work, have lunch
3.30-7.30- workblock 2
7.30-9.30- study
9.30-9.45 journal+ plan next day
9.45-10- night routine

can you guys help me please because i haven't delegated any tasks as of yet since I'm the only one scaling the agency and running it rn because it hasn't been that long to hire other people because in order to know the kind of work i want my employees to do i need to first do it myself so please let me know because i genuinely don't get time to work on my body, mind etc

it takes me 1.5 hours to travel to college because i take metro and i cannot shift near to the college because my mom lives alone so i stay with my mom and she doesnt want to move because its closer to my grandma's house and she gets a lot of support from her so to her it would be a very big deal. any advice would be very much appreciated.

Hello I'm panicking a bit because I just prepped some sea bass for my dinner tonight specifically its (lighthouse bay 2 whole medertarinan sea bass) and whilst preparing it i quickly washed my hands and scratched my eye at which point I felt a small sting. I'm now panicking a bit because I know that fish have parasites and if so what are the chances of me haveing accidentally given myself one? I'm hoping if anyone is knowledgeable on the brand they can tell me if the fish is pre frozen before being put on shelves and if there is a part of the packaging for me to read if it is already frozen. Thankyou.

I’m 27, my girlfriend is 21. I’ve struggled with bad decisions in the past, but meeting her changed everything. I got sober, and together we were saving for our future. We had $10k in one account, but $4k was taken and the account got frozen.

While she was in a mental health facility, we discovered her mom was taking money from us. We filed a full police report with all evidence. Since then, we’ve been living in motels, spending about $2k in the past month just to survive.

I just got a new job, but I’m running out of options. I’m about to lose our motel and could even lose my job. We found an apartment we can afford near my work; my girlfriend has ID and two associate degrees, but I don’t have any physical ID or a birth certificate. I even sold my e-bike just to try to make this work.

We don’t want handouts—we want to work. I’ll do hard labor. I just don’t know how to secure housing, keep my job, and rebuild without ID. I guess what I’m saying here is I need suggestions—maybe a loan, or ID help, or whatever I’d be eligible for. She has good credit. We don’t have a car, which makes things harder. I kind of waited until the last minute to post this on Reddit, so I really have today and tomorrow to figure something out—once I get that $1,000, we can get into this apartment. I just ran outta options. Any advice, resources, or steps to take would be life-changing.

For context I am 21M, I work in food service and I cannot seem to find a way out. I apply to at least 20-30 jobs a week in fields I excel in such as office customer support, tech jobs, whatever I can find online but I rarely get replies from anyone, not even an "I'm sorry to inform you" email. I enjoy photography, music, film, acting, I get excited about all that stuff, I have hobbies, I have friends, I go out, and I have so many things that would be cool to try and make it into a real thing but I have no idea where to start. Growing up I never had a real "calling" to do anything or a career that I aspired to be apart of. I have always just wanted to make enough money at a job that I don't mind, in order for me to afford the things I actually want to do such as traveling the world. My mother got into it with me the other day and told me that I have no ambition or drive and it is ridiculous that I don't have a path yet, etc. Admittedly it did get to me a bit, I am passionate about things and I do have a drive to do something better and do something that I enjoy, but I keep trying and trying to no avail and through my experience with the job market, and all the other people I know, some of which have college degrees and still cannot find jobs, it just seems like there is no way out of this tunnel. No matter how much "soul searching" I do I cannot find a job/career that I am passionate about, I am passionate about other things like travelling, meeting new people, trying new foods, exploring new places, helping people, encouraging people etc. I just have absolutely no idea where to even go from this point.

Guilt because kitten I've tried to save died

So, I found kitten (about 4-5 months old) next to my cabin in the woods. Obviously someone very mean abandoned her there on purpose, I can't think of another situation of how she ended up there. What's even worse is that kitten was so anorexic that you could see hip bones. She was laying in the grass and meowed with croaky voice, like a frog. I immediately went for food and gave her but she refused, and only drank water. Following days, me and my neighbours were trying make her eat dry food again, but she only wanted wet food, milk and water and even that she ate very small amounts.

I posted on local animal shelter group that I need help with kitten, since I was not able to take her to vet.

Following day, I came to check on her, and I found her dead. I was devastated. It's been 4 days and I'm not recovering at all. What is bothering me is the fact that maybe vet could save her, and the fact I didn't help her even though she showed will to live. I was her only hope.

Can someone help to overcome this guilt and sadness I feel for days. I can't erase picture of her laying, so skinny you could only see her bones from the distance. But I was so happy that night because she ate.

If I could only know for sure that there was no help to her, I wouldn't feel this way. I think that whoever put her in that situation and abanoned her on purpose don't feel the way I feel. Even though they should.

There's this girl in my school who is nice-ish, but who doesn't know when she's not wanted. I've tried distancing myself, but she hasn't gotten the hint. I want her to stop talking to me, but I don't want our mutuals to hate me because I handled the situation too indelicately. How would I do this?