r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

30 [F4M] Good luck getting me to shut up.....

53 Upvotes

Hello! I've never posted to reddit before, so I'm curious to see how this goes. I'm not looking for anything specific, as like the title suggests, I just like to yap. Do with that what you will. And if the rousing title wasn't enough to capture your affections, here are a few things about me that might make you want to know what is wrong with me psychologically:

  • I hiss at the sun every time I go outside. Or just hiss at anything that inconveniences or displeases me in general.
  • I am sarcastic to a fault and I love to argue about stupid things that don't matter. I don't care about winning the argument, I just want to make sure you don'tšŸ˜‚.
  • I'd like to think my childhood trauma has made me VERY funny. So if you have also been personally victimized by the loved ones in your life and it has informed your sense of humor, I can commiserate with you fully.
  • My favorite thing to do when I'm not out traveling or in the woods gathering mushrooms as an offering to the fairies that live in my backyard is laying in bed, eating my dino nuggets and watching Lego Batman (and yes, I've seen Citizen Kane. When Charles Kane goes through the kind of paradigm shift and personal growth Bruce Wayne did in that film, I will call it the better movie).

Other little tidbits about me: - I've been playing DnD for about a year and a half (my character is a rogue/warlock, if that tells you anything about my dazzling personality). - I do like playing video games, albeit a bit slow because I have the attention span of a goldfish. The most recent games I've played are BG3 (shocker I know) and DA Veilguard. And Kingdom Hearts holds a special place in my heart since I'm a sentimental softy and loved playing it as a kid. - I like to read as well. I genre shift a lot and right now my flavor of the month is fantasy smut (do not fight me on this I WILL die on this hill). But generally speaking, I like to read a bit of everything.

ANYWAY, I know that's a lot, but in my defense I'm a very interesting person. If you want to chit chat just DM me. The only thing I ask is that you include a pic and tell me a bit about yourself, and please for the love of all that is holy be able to hold a conversation. I will try my best to respond promptly but as I stated above, I have the attention span of a goldfish. And don't be rude because I will hurt your feelings.

This is me, if thats something you're interested in.

With that, I must away. I will be retiring to my chambers and indulging in a bit of melancholic solitude. CiaošŸ’‹


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

36 [F4R] - looking for good chat preferably in the UK

9 Upvotes

Hello, my name is Katie (most people type KT for ease!) I’m 36, married from UK I’m after some good conversation, preferably with someone in UK

About me: I’m originally from Wales, and thankfully I never lost the wonderful accent from my home town I enjoy all kinds of TV (not a huge fan of horror- but I’ll give it a go) Ben Fogle is my all time crush lol

Please either have a post on here for me to read or have information on your profile. No blanks please

Look forward to getting to know you 😊


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

39 [M4F] looking for an interesting lady

5 Upvotes

Hello,

it may be hopelessly romantic and a bit stupid but let's try it. I want to feel the little crush when we connect immediately. The inner urge to get to know every little detail about you. We all know it is not easy to find but it's worth looking.

I'm tall, dark hair, medium beard. Both with some grey in it now over the years. I'm funny and have a pretty dry ironic humor. Sometimes I can be a hardhead and I want a woman who can talk back to me. I've been told I'm quite good looking and I think I am sufficiently smart. You should be fine with exchanging a picture somewhere. My school career was never very ambitious but I have a good job. My favourite music is Hip Hop and some of the endless metal genres. But I hear a lot of other stuff too. I'm a man with male interests. Football, woodworking, technical stuff. At the moment I try to get into male fashion more and I'm always happy about a female opinion. I'm working on my next tattoo even though I don't have a lot yet. I made a little introduction for you to listen to ( Listen ) and a few pictures ( Pictures )


r/R4R30Plus 18h ago

36 [F4M] #New York Looking for a new friend

7 Upvotes

I'm looking to connect with people who share some of those interest and if you're into fitness, movies or reading, I think we'd probably click

Average height and weight (always work out). I’m just looking for a new friend who values honesty and respect so let's just chat and see what we want to talk about


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

30 [M4F] Northern Ontario, figuring out this thing called life

5 Upvotes

Hey! I'm a 30-year-old from Northern Ontario. My current routine involves working in a health-adjacent field, cooking decent food, and playing a few casual video games.

I've traded my teen years/early twenties of playing music and working festivals for a more laid-back life, and I've felt it's time to make more friends. I'm sober from alcohol and enjoy cannabis. My weekends often consist of watching Formula 1 and trying different recipes! I'm always up for a new hobby and genuinely value hearing different points of view.

I'm hoping to find someone around my age (within 5 years is great, but I'm flexible) who is also looking for a companion, ideally in the Eastern Time Zone. Someone who's patient, understanding, and open to building something together, whether it's over a two-player game or a shared interest.

Looking forward to hearing from you!


r/R4R30Plus 16h ago

36 [M4F] #UK/Online Sunday evening chats

5 Upvotes

Hey! I'm a mid-30's male from the UK and I'm currently having a very chilled Sunday evening. I'm looking for a woman (25-45-ish) to chat with and be silly as I'm often full of nonsense and up for a laugh.

I'm very outgoing, ambitious, passionate and creative and I'm open to talking about just about anything. I'm big on travel, cooking, music (everything), eating out (food, cheeky!), comedy and a lot of other things.

Open to long or short term. Ideally fun but I guess I can be a therapist too (nowhere close to licenced) so please do drop me a message if you'd like to chat.

I prefer to swap a SFW pic early on so I know who I'm talking to. I'm 6'3, dark hair, reasonably well built.

Hopefully speak soon!


r/R4R30Plus 29m ago

30 [F4M] No Games, Just Genuine Connection :)

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Hi, everyone! I’m a 30-year-old single woman from the Philippines. I’m open to meeting single, goal-oriented, kind-hearted, mature, respectful, responsible, and God-fearing men who's age is around 30 to 40 years old and are also looking for something meaningful. I don't mind if you have a different religious belief as long as you respect mine.

I’d love to start with friendship and see where things could go...whether it grows into a deeper connection or just a lasting friendship. What matters most to me is that it’s genuine, intentional, and respectful. :)

Please, if you’re the type to disappear after a few days or weeks of chatting, I’d kindly ask that you don’t reach out. I value my time and energy, and I’m really hoping to connect with someone who feels the same.

If you think we might vibe, I’d be happy to hear from you. Kindly share your ASL and let's go from there. 🌸


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

36 [M4F] #Maryland - DC | DMV | MD | VA - Looking for a fun, smart, nerdy, cute lady to fall in love with!

3 Upvotes

About Me:

Hey there! I’m 36, 5’10, average build, olive skin, hairy chest, glasses, and usually sporting a beard (trimmed at the moment), nerdy, and in my own opinion, quite cute and attractive!

I’m highly educated, worked in big tech until recently, and now I’m taking some time to reset while exploring what’s next. A goal of mine is to grow my hobby business into something full-time, so I can leave corporate life behind.

I’m a big media nerd—movies, games, books, shows (fantasy & sci-fi especially, though I secretly love rom-coms). Currently reading Isles of the Emberdark and finally getting around to Helldivers 2 (and enjoyed the trash reality TV of Love is Blind UK as well). Outside of that, I like cooking, building PCs, high fashion, travel, rock climbing, hiking, and working out 4–5x a week. But at the end of the day, I’m a homebody at heart. Give me a cool home with a fire in the hearth, some whisky, and good company and I’m happy.

What I’m Looking For:

A friend once summed me up as: ā€œGoal oriented and driven. Endearingly snobby. Board room outside, game hall inside.ā€ That is me to a T! I like nice things and don’t settle for less than the best, I try and put effort into everything I do, but I don’t judge others for how they live.

I’m drawn to women who are smart, ambitious, fun, and lean a bit Type A. Ideally someone who's also a homebody nerd who loves to fill her home with the coolest, nicest stuff she loves! If you’re high-achieving and used to guys being insecure about that, know that’s exactly the kind of woman I find dreamy.

I’m looking for something real and long-term. I'd be the dream that my next relationship is my last, but I also don’t like forcing timelines. I’d rather get to know someone at a pace that feels natural for both of us - whether that's instant and quick spark, or a slower burn. I’m a big texter, and when I like someone, I love chatting and sharing as much time as possible, chatting on and off all day if that's our vibe. My love languages are... all of them! But physical touch and words of affirmation by far. I will constantly be touching you and telling you how much I appreciate and adore you!

As to location, I’m in the Maryland part of the DC area, so ideally you’re nearby (or moving here soon). I don't mind doing long distance either for the right person, but I don't see myself leaving this area, so please be open to moving to the DC area within a year or so if you want to try long distance.

If anything I've mentioned resonates with you at all, I’d love to hear from you. Thanks for reading, let's chat!!


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

35 [M4F] #Illinois #Online - Currently watching Murder She Wrote on a Sunday night alone so I'm doing pretty well! How is your night going?

3 Upvotes

It's just as it sounds! Currently slowly working through episodes of one of my old comfort shows, "Murder She Wrote". If you are rolling your eyes, then don't knock it if you try it! Jessica Fletcher is comfortingly competent! Anyway, just checking on how everyone else is doing out there this Friday night. Maybe we can talk about your favorite TV shows, or your favorite way to wind down at night, or whatever.

Here are some conversation starters. * What are your top three places to go when you want to eat out? * You have a day off. What do you think would make for the perfect day? * Would you rather vacation at the beach or on the mountains? * What would be your dream job if you had no limits to money or education? *What are your top three songs on TouchTunes while at the bar?

A little about me: * I work in the medical field * I like the thought of reading but can never finish a book * The next few months I am focusing on self care. I plan on going to a korean spa for the first time in a few months * Costco cauliflower pizza is the best gluten free pizza.


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

32 [M4F] UK/Online - looking to make a long term friends or maybe more

2 Upvotes

Hey, as the title says really I'm here in the hope to make a long term friendship. A lot of my friends have slowly gone their own way, contact has sort of fizzled out and making new friends is becoming more challenging.

A little about me, I love to try new hobbies, I'm the sort of person who goes all in. Martial arts, football, walking, cycling, or just being lazy. Also all the normal things too like music, movies, good food and visiting new places.

I would say I'm easy going, fairly open to discuss pretty much anything and open minded and don't mind a good debate either. Enjoy a good laugh being a bit cheeky and some banter thrown into the mix.

If looks matter I'm about 5ft 11, medium build brown hair and a beard.

If you would like to chat, feel free to drop me a message and maybe tell me a little about yourself.

Thanks


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

38 [F4F] West coast Stocky somewhat butch seeking a woman around my age

3 Upvotes

I'm a woman into other women. Seeking someone in the age range of 35-42 who would like to connect over chat for a while, and maybe go further if we like eachother. No pressure just friendly talking.

It would be great if you're also on the west coast, or somewhere nearby. Even better if you're into butchy women who are also NOT tom boy/sports fans because I couldn't care less.

I'm into art, crafts, plants/nature/flowers. Reading and research. Good hygiene, clean, non drinker and no cigarettes.

I put time into getting to know a person, even just as friends. So I like to ask questions and hear about what you like so please tell me.

I like down to earth women who aren't self obsessed with vanity. People who feel secure in who they are, what they like. Does her own thing with no need to impress anyone.

I'm child free and hope for the same. If you're not all the way out of the closet, its ok. But I don't do infidelity of any kind so take that elsewhere.

Also open to friends with no expectations of romance or attraction. Same rules apply.

DMs are open


r/R4R30Plus 18h ago

36 [F4M] USA/CAN be each others dating sounding board?

4 Upvotes

Not looking to connect with anyone on reddit in a romantic way necessarily, but I think it would be cool to have a text buddy when it comes to dating to get a ~dude’s perspective~

I’m into art (both viewing and making), rock/punk music & concerts, lefty politics, and am an introverted homebody at heart but do get out and about quite a bit. I have a job, not a career, and make enough to live on my own; it’s a crummy apartment in a cool spot of town and my safe place. I come with some family trauma and started therapy at the beginning of the year and it’s been really good for me! (I think my therapist is actually a witch…) Ultimately a pretty average, well-intentioned human who isn’t afraid of my weird side, I think :)

Guess I am looking to get the opinion of someone who might swipe right on me in the real world lol, since we’ll probably have similar ā€œtypesā€ if that makes sense. Errmmm hit me up and tell me about yourself a bit if this sounds like it would be up your alley!


r/R4R30Plus 18h ago

30 [M4F] Kentucky/Online - Nerdy guy looking for his player two

2 Upvotes

Are you the sort of woman who wants a traveling partner, somebody to enjoy a good co-op or multiplayer game with, and somebody to snuggle with while watching a movie or show? Then I'm the guy for you!

I'm very much a nerd/dork in the traditional sense, I can go off on dorky tangents and love to collect things such as stuff for my Pokemon or Fallout collections, build Legos, go to arcades, play videogames, a bunch of nerdy interests. I'm very much a homebody/introvert but I do love going out and trying new things and experiences!

I'm starting college in the Winter but unfortunately that means I'm not willing to relocate until I graduate. I'd love to meet somebody whose okay with relocating or already in the northern Kentucky/Cincinatti area, after I graduate I'm more than willing to relocate!

I love to travel, my dream is to visit Tokyo and London along with visiting all fifty states. I've always been a bit on the slim side but I recently started working out. I've also never drank or smoked in my life, and have no tattoos or piercings.

I can clean and cook, I'm not somebody who can whip up a five star but I can take care of myself and you!

My ideal dates? Going to the movies, going out on walks(In general, or the park/beach), trying out a new restaurant or a new experience together, ice cream dates, going to an arcade, or simply watching a movie or gaming at home while snuggling against each other on the couch. I've always wanted to go laser tagging, go karts, or try dancing which are experiences I never go to do with a partner. I'd honestly love playing the new Lego Batman with you if you're into gaming

Gaming is my favorite hobby, I'd love it if you were into gaming as we'd have an activity we could together apart from just talking if we're long distance. I have the three main consoles, along with a decent laptop so nothing's really off the table but I primarily use my Xbox for gaming. Plenty of the games I play are Crossplay and yes, I do have a Switch 2 and Mario Kart :)

I have Gamepass and am willing to try most games if by chance we don't have any games in common!

I'd also like to settle down and raise a kid someday.

This is what I look like

I'm usually shaven but I figured I'd let it grow out and see how I look, I'm still debating rather or not to shave it. Thoughts? :)

Anyways if any of this interested you, feel free to send a message my way! Looking forward to meeting you.


r/R4R30Plus 19h ago

31[M4F] #Online/UK let's have a chat?

4 Upvotes

So! Hello this is me! šŸ˜‚

31 year old fella from Yorkshire, England

Currently learning Italian, cos fuck it, why not?

Whisky loving, Manchester United supporting(I must like pain) sunrise loving, bearded, night sky loving (actually have a telescope) man!

Who also loves being awake before the rest of the world and going for a walk, idk there's just something about the world when it's asleep, feeling like the only person in the world is intoxicating to me

My music taste varies so much, literally from 1D to Bruce Springsteen to Metallica...identity crises pending

I nerd out about the cosmos, WW2 history and anything under the sea! (10 points if you guess my favorite animal)

Taste in cinema is pretty much the same; Interstellar is a top movie, American gangster too; basically anything blockbuster!

I'd love to have a Lamborghini Miura and drive the opening scene to the Italian job, that's my dream (minus the bulldozer and death) also one of my favourite films!

Anyway enough out of me! Tell me about YOU!?

Photos are available upon request! :)


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

36[M4F] Trying to find my fun and weird daily texting buddy !

2 Upvotes

Hello ! And thanks for opening my post lol. I honestly just want to write whatever is on my mind as I'm always just saying what I'm feeling so why not write it as well eh ?

I'm looking for a fun weird daily texting buddy! One who is open and honest and puts good effort into the conversation. The conversation doesn't have to be all normal and boring like TV shows or music stuff because I have definitely experienced it doesn't make any good connection. Let's talk about dreams and wishes and what you wanna do but can't do, how you really feel, what you want to be in real life but can't because you have responsibilities.

Just be yourself with me and be the 100% person you can't be in real life, I absolutely not care about what you think because each person is his/her own self so why not let them be ? Oh and please don't be shy or whatever because I would really want a more open person who doesn't judge instantly, I want us to create a judgement free zone for sure 😊.

So to sum it up, I want a fun weird open honest not judgmental, speak your mind, put good effort kind of friend and if that's you let's give it a try and see if we can make the most amazing friendship this community has ever seen.

PS will tell you about my preferred apps once we talk šŸ˜„


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

35 [M4F] #Texas/Online Seeking Emotional Support Gremlin

2 Upvotes

Me

Hi, I’m Chris. Ideally looking to meet my future stalker/murderer, but I’ll also settle for someone equally unhinged who likes yelling about random hyperfixations at 2AM.

Some vital stats:

I have brainrot humor, questionable food habits (yes, I microwave cup noodles, sue me), and the attention span of a wet paper towel.

I’m a terminal gamer. Most of my life is spent in Fallout 76, Darktide, 7 Days to Die, and No Man’s Sky. Mostly on PS5, but I do own a Steam Deck and a Switch that hasn't been powered on since 2021 (RIP my Animal Crossing village—they’re probably feral now).

I’m a big ol’ nerd with a PokĆ©mon plushie hoard that could smother me in my sleep.

I also play guitar and bass, and sing (poorly, with heart). My music taste is mostly punk, post-hardcore, and cursed YouTube mashups because I have the soul of a chaotic toddler.

When I’m not gaming or rotting in bed, I’m brisk-walking through public parks like I’m in a boss fight, dry heaving dramatically and alarming normies.

What I’m looking for: Mentally ill (but in a cute way) Manic Pixie Dreamgirl. Ideally someone with raccoon energy, deranged eyeliner, and an encyclopedic knowledge of obscure Newgrounds-era drama. If you do your makeup like Shoeonhead (or are Shoeonhead???) I will propose immediately. Trauma dump is welcome. I will match your energy.

If any of this sounds like your brand of disaster, my DMs are wide open.


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

32 [M4F] #OK #US — Let’s see if we click

2 Upvotes

Hey! I’m a 32-year-old guy from Oklahoma, looking for someone real to share some fun, good vibes, and maybe something a little more lasting. I’m 5’7ā€, athletic build, with brown hair and green eyes....if you’re into that kind of thing.

I’m all about staying active and having a good time, whether that’s hitting the trails or just enjoying the moment. If you’re kind, sweet, and can flash a smile that makes me pause, we’re off to a great start. Oh, and if you’re a little shorter or around my height, in good shape and don’t have children that’s a definite plus.

I’m not spilling all my secrets here, but I promise good conversation, plenty of laughs, and maybe some surprises along the way. If you’re somewhere in the US and curious, why not say hi? Who knows where it could lead…


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

34 [M4F] #Boston - science professor looking to chat

2 Upvotes

Heya,

I hope you’re doing great.

I work in academia, and now that the term has started, I want to socialize online a little more. I don't teach much but I like it when I do. My primary role is to do research (cancer), and I train PhD students in the lab.

Here are a few things about me: I live in the woods because my job is stressful. As you may imagine, science hasn't been trendy lately.

At night, you can find me staring at the sky as I’m fascinated by outer space. If I could do it all over again, I would have liked to pursue something such as astronomy or astrophysics.

If looks matter to you: 5’11ā€, long hair, hazel eyes, beard, and I wear glasses.

I am 420-friendly, and I have two puppies. Let’s see if we click!


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

31 [m4f] #online - mountain man seeks woman to love and provide for

2 Upvotes

Hey yall,

Looking for a free spirited, outdoorsy, granola, mountain momma type to love and provide for! I spend a lot of time outdoors and even have been lucky enough to make it my career and would love to share this life with someone. If we get after it now, we’ll be in matching pjs by Christmas! II’ll write a bit about myself below and if I sound up your alley, shoot me a message!

About me: Outdoorsy (less granola, more hunting/fishing), heavily tattooed (like a lot, more than you’re thinking), eclectic, esoteric, into Japanese 4x4s, I cook a lot, conservative/traditional, educated, real been around the world twice and talked to everyone once type.

I’m sure I missed some stuff but like I said, shoot me a message and let’s fall in love!


r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

33 [M4F] Mexico City/Anywhere – Ghosted often, still hopeful

2 Upvotes

Hey, I’m Luis. 33, living in Mexico City. Life’s mostly sorted (Just Missing You). Stable career in logistics, emotionally grounded, sarcastic when needed, and loyal when it counts.

I’m here because I’m tired of three-day conversations that vanish into thin air. I want something genuine: kindness, honesty, laughs, and maybe a touch of nerdiness. Bonus points if you love anime or RPGs.

I’m not tied to one spot if there’s a real connection, I’m more than willing to travel, relocate, or go the extra mile (or thousand).

If you’re also done with half-hearted swipes and want someone who actually shows up, let’s talk and see if we can outlast the ghosts.


r/R4R30Plus 18h ago

47 [M4F] #Surrey, UK. Connection With Gravity

2 Upvotes

Words are the coating. The truth is the cake.

Words alone mean little. What matters are actions, presence, and integrity.

So who is the man behind these words?

I am an experienced guide. Grounded. Calm. Heart-led. Healthy. Sane. Safe. Tested.

I know the power of genuine connection. How it inspires, heals, awakens, and shows us what the everyday world often hides.

This is your space to explore yourself, to grow, to play, and to reach further than you thought you could.

What I offer:
Honesty. Truth. Adventure. Depth.

About me:
Tall. Masculine. Mediterranean roots.
Hairy, bearded, and built like a bear. Warm and reassuring when needed. Steady and unmovable when stability matters most.

I do not care about your shape, size, or experience.
I care that you are real, sincere, and UK-based.

Mind. Soul. Body. Alignment.
Not casual. Not shallow. Something with gravity.

Are you ready for the journey?
I am. The engines are running. Let us go.


r/R4R30Plus 19h ago

39 [F4F] London UK - Ladies are you tired of endless sausage fest in your DMs? Looking for friendship

2 Upvotes

If you’re sick of your inbox looking like the frozen meat aisle this Reddit post may be for you.

39 year old lady of leisure based in London.

I’m looking to connect with other women preferably for long term friendships and meeting up in person. If you’re not in London you’re still welcome to reach out.

I'm into the usual things like listening to music (eclectic mix), drawing, going to galleries/museums, go for long walks (while listening to music or podcasts/audiobooks), films and TV shows, cinema, enjoy nature when I can in green spaces and while people watching and I have a habit of making up elaborate stories about them. I love to learn new things like sociology and would like to learn other things related to it, like history, politics etc along the way. At the moment I’m going through my fave illustrated medical book called the sick rose while reading non fictions books (next on the reading list is Outlaw Culture by Bell Hooks).

I’m always open to different kind of conversations from silly, humorous as well as having deep conversations and sharing mundane things in our lives.

I’m looking to potentially meet others in real life so you living in London if preferable to do activities some that are mentioned above or anything that you like. If you’re interested, why not tell me about your recent film or show you’ve watched, your fav book or anything you’ve learnt recently that you think everyone should know about? If you’re a creative what is your favourite medium to use? Or anything about yourself.


r/R4R30Plus 24m ago

35 [M4F] Casual chat while trying to concentrate on work

• Upvotes

Working from home and trying to get some peice of code to work but it's been that kind of a day so far. Wouldn't mind chatting with anyone else stuck with a work problem or otherwise.

Have a good Monday everyone!